Why does my mom care so much about me when I m in college?

In fact, no matter what time it is, as a parent, you will always love your child very much. I don't think it's an overly concerned thing, it's a genuine affection for your parents. You may feel that you can be independent after you have gone to university.

But is that really the case? I wonder if you will be able to support yourself on your own when you go to college?

For me, it wasn't until I went to college that I really felt like being away from home for the first time. Even when I was in high school, I started boarding life, but at that time, it was relatively close to home, and I was able to go home on weekends. It's not the same after college, not to mention the winter and summer vacations, I will definitely go home.

It's unlikely that you'll be able to go home on a normal weekend, and even on holidays. Just imagine, your parents can contact you every day, chat with you, meet you, etc., but after college, they gradually move away from you, because there is a certain distance in life, so it is natural that parents want to care more about you.

What's more, how can you care too much? Even if it's a ** every day, I think it's quite normal. Even though I'm usually at school, I usually go home about once or twice a week.

But in fact, in an era with such advanced technology as now, even if I contact you every day and care about you, is it not a problem?

On the contrary, I think you should be relieved that your parents still care. In my opinion, it is a very happy thing to be able to have the care of my parents. If they ignore you for a long time, do you feel like you're missing something?

I think people always regret it when they grow up, why they didn't cherish their parents' care in the first place. And instead of having such regrets, why didn't you cherish them in the first place? Sometimes we cry after we lose and then realize that it's too late.

If you've ever faced the death of a loved one, I'm sure you're well aware of that painful feeling. The departure of others means that you will never have the opportunity to contact them again. At that time, you even thought that it would be nice if I could see him in my dreams.

And when they woke up, they had no way to repay them except for feeling a little wet under their eyes. So, cherish the time you spend with your parents.

I believe that many people have been nagged by their parents since childhood, and they feel very annoyed and disgusted. Many people want to grow up as soon as possible, so that they can get rid of the nagging of their parents. But some parents still care about all aspects of their children until their children go to college.

In the eyes of children, these are "superfluous concerns", very annoying, and they don't know what to do.

First of all, we must understand that these "superfluous cares" are still care, and although they are superfluous, they cannot change the essence of care. In the eyes of our parents, we are their children, even if we are adults, but in their eyes we are still their children who will never grow up. Since it is a child, it naturally needs more love and care.

The care for us is like going to my grandmother's house for dinner when I was a child, my grandmother was afraid of us and always told us to eat more; It's like in winter, my mother always told us to wear more. It's their way of being nice to us, they think it's right, it's good for the kids, that's why they're doing it. They don't want their precious children to suffer a little, so they take care of it.

And they have long been accustomed to taking care of us, they have sacrificed a lot of time, energy and youth to spend on taking care of us, and now let them suddenly let go, it is inevitable that there will be some unaccustomed and uncomfortable.

Although we are grateful for the love of our parents, as college students, we really deserve to have our own independent lives. First of all, we should have a good talk with our parents so that they know that they have grown up and do not need to protect us in every detail. It's best to be able to do something that parents are proud of, so that they know from the bottom of their hearts:

It turns out that my child is so old that he can stand alone. "And then staying in touch with our parents on a regular basis, it's not just that parents care about us, it's a sign that we care about our parents. Finally, if the conditions at home allow, you can have a pet to attract the attention and care of some parents.

The mother of the child is worried. It is precisely because I didn't go to college before that my son and daughter are dangling in front of me every day, so I don't care much about you. Because you are well fed and clothed, and your living conditions are exposed to your mother's eyes, there is no need to worry too much about you.

But because you went to college, your life is hidden at this time. Mother doesn't know if you are well fed and warm, whether you take medicine on time, or whether you sleep on time. There is also the question of whether you wear autumn pants on time.

You are far away from home, and your mother doesn't know about all the problems and living conditions. So what she can do is to play a few more ** with you and see more of your circle of friends. Once there is something, I will make ** porridge with you.

It seems to care a lot, but it's actually a kind of mother's love.

A change of mindset, a change of mindset. Change your starting point.

Your parents didn't overarrange your life, they just let you go home on time.

You're still free. Freedom is not freedom if no one cares. Think about it.

I get you! My parents always take care of me, I have to fight every week regardless of whether there is anything to do, and I always have to react to them when they remember to have me, otherwise they don't care about my parents, and I'm tired now, they have to take care of everything, treat me as a child every day, and nag every day when I go home on vacation.

You'll understand. Because no matter how old we are, we are all children in the eyes of our parents.

Hehe, I guess it's good if you're a little older, and you'll always be a child in the eyes of your parents. Cherish the time your parents take care of you.

Nope! I think it's good to be a kid, but sometimes it's more depressing. You just have to try to get used to it, after all, they are really good to you1

I'm not a parent, but my sister has the same problem as you, because we haven't spoken for a year, and now we're reconciled.

To tell the truth, my mother is really a bit redundant, now we are all more cunning than the fox, who can take advantage of whom, the old man is always afraid that his girl will be taken advantage of by others, in fact, it is really redundant, I don't know who is taking advantage. (Pity the hearts of parents all over the world...)

You should do what you want, as long as you like it and have fun, but as for sex, the main principles, and the protective measures, remember to remember this,。。 I don't know my heart, I don't know my heart, in case I 、、、 it.

Marriage is too Ultraman... Exaggeration... I guess you haven't graduated yet, let alone enter the society, you don't know how many boyfriends you will have in the future, so the premise must be to pay attention to your feelings, be happy, just be happy...

As a big brother, the two get along happily the best, but sexual tendencies are indispensable, and I think the most important thing is to leave it to someone who can be entrusted for life, oh le...

Finally, I wish you a happy life, and my mother will be reconciled as soon as possible, if it weren't for your mother, who cares about your bear business, who really worries about you... Right...

You just tell your mom that you're going to split up with him.

Talking about it secretly, your mother annoys you like this, and she talks non-stop every day.

How to say it, I used to be in a similar situation to you when I was in high school (of course, that was a puppy love). But I would sleep with my mom and talk to her until late and tell her what had happened to me today and what I thought about my world. My mom was pretty good, she listened to me patiently and enlightened me.

In the midst of this, I subtly told her that some people in my world were really good and good. In the end, my mom may have been explained by me, that is, not to affect her studies, and then she didn't care much. In general, it is still necessary to communicate more with parents and communicate more.

Male, 22 don't know if the concept is the same? Your mother cares about you and loves you. I'm worried that something will happen to you. If you feel that falling in love requires practice, what are you dating for? Is this purpose pure?

You should communicate with your mother face-to-face, and be sure to be pleasant.

Your mom is so exaggerated, you go and enlighten her, or prove to him how good your boyfriend is.

Love has been tested and difficulties have been eliminated.

Then you can continue to be with him without your mother knowing!

1. Falling in love should indeed be premised on marriage, a girl's youth is even more precious than chastity, if the other party does not want to marry herself at all, then there is no need to waste time on this person. Although it takes time to determine whether the other party is suitable for you, the purpose of the relationship between the two parties must be to get married.

2. Although your mother is also for your own good, her behavior has violated the law and is an invasion of personal privacy, and you need to be very serious and clear to your mother in this regard.

3. Love is not a game, if you treat it with a playful attitude, then you must be the one who will be hurt in the end.

If it doesn't work on the surface, it's done secretly.

And why does your mother even know about him.

You can't compromise on looking at things.

Love that is not aimed at marriage is a hooligan.

Secretly continued behind my mother's back.

If you just want to have fun, you can do it, everyone has a different concept of love, and there is no need to come here to find common ground.

Your mom gives you too little private space.

Daughter, love that is not premised on marriage is not pure ......

What else can you do, you can only try to adapt little by little, because your mom also needs private space. If you manage too much, you will lose your independence, which is very cruel to you. Your mother must be a sensible person, and everything she is doing now should have been planned.

Parents will never leave you, but you may have made your mother feel that you don't want to interfere with you too much, and your mother's love for you will not be reduced at all, but will be more worried about you, want to contact you, and afraid that you will be annoyed, and you are very worried if you don't contact, you should call your mother more**, chat, how can there be a mother in the world who doesn't love her children,

You should be independent, if you encounter any difficulties, your parents will always be your strong followers.

You always have to adapt, because you've grown up and can handle a lot of things yourself, and when you're so old, they don't interfere too much. You can contact them more and care for them. Everyone has to learn to grow.

Well, it's time for you to learn to be independent and stop being so dependent on your parents. You'll get used to it slowly.

You can already be independent, and you can take the initiative to contact your mother and care more about your mother.

You must learn to get used to it, be independent, and you will not suffer when you enter the society in the future, and it is not good for your family to manage too much.

This is a matter of growing up, and your family should let you learn to adapt to life on your own, and it will be fine slowly.

I'm like this too, I didn't get used to it at first, but gradually I got friends and had a lot of fun going to college, so I got used to it.

Talk to your mom that you should be independent when you go to college.

Contact your mother more and report your safety.

I've had the rebellious psychology of adolescence before, but it's not as severe as you. Thinking about the future, your family, your own children, what kind of attitude would you have towards yourself if you did this, imagine that you had a child, what would you do to him? It's good to be a little more mature after being young, don't resist!

Youth inevitably can't stand the pressure.

Sometimes we always turn our parents' love for us into invisible harm, but in the end, as you said, it is for our good, try to control our emotions, and our mother communicates more.

Excessive concern will indeed cause a lot of pressure and burden on the other party, this part can try to communicate well with the mother, tell her, you know that she cares about you very much, so she will keep nagging, but you are like a serial love nagging, will make me have a lot of psychological pressure, and then give some examples to tell my mother, when there is a similar situation in the future, you can try to calmly tell your mother: Mom, I know you are good for me, but I have my own considerations, I'm not going to do anything that hurts me very deeply! Can you give me some room to change? 』

I'm similar to you, and I don't feel that you are unfilial. My mom has been blocking me from socializing since middle school, afraid that I will be taken badly, and every night when I go to college, she will call ** to the dormitory to check what happened to me in the day, and supervise whether I have a boyfriend. When I stepped into the society, I was anxious to start a family, and I constantly arranged blind dates and transitional interference!

All her attention was on me, and she was very depressed. It's a pathology, and you can't break free!

It's good for your parents to feel like this, it's your parents' love for you, but your parents haven't realized that you are an adult now, you are an only child, you can see that you have been suppressed for many years, your parents are still doing this to you, because you are not mature enough in your parents' hearts, not sensible enough, and can live independently, you can't refuse your parents now, so you will break their hearts, when you live with them, you have to show yourself, let your parents feel, see that you are now able to live independentlyFor example, in life, it is said that it is okay to cook for them. Wash your own clothes, and so ,,,on, slowly, I believe your parents will be at ease with you, adding: there is a saying that makes sense, raising children to prevent old age, old and young, you have always grown up in the care of your parents, your mother has cared for you together for more than 20 years, he is meticulous about you, protect you, in your mother's dictionary has been accustomed to this kind of life, you have communicated with your mother many times on this issue, your mother did not accept it, because of the elderly, now the most concerned is still their relatives, The hearts of the elderly are the most fragile, they are now like children, they need someone to protect, to care, to comfort, there is a saying I believe you have heard: "The mother of the child travels thousands of miles is worried, and the mother travels thousands of miles without worrying."

I can also understand your current mood, work, society, and reality together, so that you are tired of such love, brother, I hope you take your time, you must communicate well with your mother, and you will do wrong in the future, regret it, this is irreparable, you are an adult, you should adapt to your own situation more, you have to take on the responsibility of a family now, because your parents are very tired, it's time for you to take on all this, think about it yourself.