What is it like to feel uncomfortable with the subtle care of your admirer and not want to accept it

The subject should be a little beauty, and her charm is not small.

In addition to the normal problem of "psychological defects", many girls have encountered such troubles, and I also specifically asked my other female friends, and they all said that they have more or less such a psychology, so the first thing I want to tell you is that this kind of psychology is normal.

Secondly, in everyone's youth, in everyone's dreams, there is a fairy tale, there will be a prince charming, not necessarily a hero, not necessarily stepping on colorful clouds, but he must be gentle and sunny, gentle and elegant, even if it is just to think about it, even if it is not real, she can accept it. Even thinking that even if it's a knight, I can't accept too many people who are inferior to Prince Charming.

Why do people who like me look so short, why do people who like me look so stumbling, on the one hand, they are doubting life and feeling the injustice of the world, just like the current Internet buzzword, the one who rides a white horse is not necessarily a prince, it may be Tang Seng, uh, this sentence doesn't seem right here, Tang Seng is also a rare beautiful man. But that's what it means.

I have a female friend who will have another kind of psychology, as soon as I see someone who likes me, I feel disgusted, and this disgust is the gap between the image of the other party and her expectations, she feels disrespectful to herself, am I so bad, is it?

Can I only be liked by these people? It's sad.

Many people will think that I am not such a good person, and then look at the friends around me, they are not as good as me, why are other people's boyfriends and girlfriends so different, they are all high-matched.

The purpose of saying this is not to say that people who like you, they are all guilty, maybe the sin is too dish, and the dish is so bad that you can't accept it. Since you don't like them, it's better to refuse them at the beginning, at least you can have a lot of fun, and you won't waste your time because you hate them.

In addition, at this time, you can reflect on yourself, whether there are some places that can better improve yourself, of course, it is not that you are not connotative enough, but that you are temporary, maybe not enough to shine enough for the type you like to pay attention to you and like you.

Or rather, fate has not arrived.

If the flowers are in full bloom, the butterflies will come. In layman's terms, that's the truth. Of course, keep your good image at all times, maybe you can meet your mr right or the one you like the next moment.

When you feel uncomfortable because of the subtle concern of your admirer. In most cases, it may indicate that you don't like him. That's why you resent him for being overly concerned about you, and that feeling does make you feel uncomfortable.

Actually, this is a very normal thing. First of all, you have to get your current thinking right. Then be clear about what you have in mind.

I usually choose to run away from this kind of thing when I experience it. Maybe my heart isn't strong enough. So try not to show up when he doesn't appear.

If it's a classmate, I try not to pay attention to some of the things he does, or even stay away from places where he is. I can't tell if that's right or wrong. But I am just as disgusted by his behavior as you are.

When the other party didn't find it clear, and it was difficult for me to accept it, I could only tell him that I was not interested in him by running away and staying away, and ask him not to cross the line again. <>

This kind of psychology, although it is generally a psychology that clearly dislikes him in the heart. But the solution needs to be studied. Although I solve things by escaping, there is also a certain amount of criticism for this.

Do you know what extreme situations I am in? If he had behaved like this in his freshman year of high school, I probably wouldn't have paid attention to him in my junior year of high school. Anyway, I'm not optimistic about this solution.

The second thing I want to tell you is that many girls have the same psychology as you. So you don't have to worry too much or feel too alien to this psychology. You just have to be indifferent.

Because that person is not someone you like, we will think that his actions are causing us a problem in our current lives.

When I was in high school, I was very ignorant about emotional things. At that time, we often watched **, so there will also be some expectations for future boyfriends. At that time, I had just entered high school, and we had to do some military training before we officially started school.

At noon, I was eating in the restaurant with my roommates, and at this time, a boy gave me a cup of milk tea, and at first I didn't have any dislike for this boy, but I returned the milk tea he gave me. <>

Later, I learned that the two of us were in the same class, and he started chasing me, and from that time on, I inexplicably had a feeling of dislike for him, and I think it was because I didn't have the idea of being a boyfriend for this boy, so I felt this way. There is also the fact that at that time, we didn't understand the world, and we always showed obvious to people who didn't like us. I remember one day, he bought me a handful of Alpine lollipops and gave them to my seat, and I didn't hesitate to return them to him in public.

During self-study, my table mate asked for leave, and he sat next to me, and I said to him, can you please not sit next to me, because the classroom was very quiet, so everyone heard what I said. Some people thought I was going too far and criticized me. At that time, I really couldn't understand that it was wrong to treat someone I didn't like and not accept his things.

But now I have a new perspective on this issue, when we treat the admirer we don't like, we should directly refuse, but when refusing, we have to consider whether our way to save some face for the other party, and secondly, when we don't want to accept the other party's gift, we can find a place where no one is there to return to him.

Since you feel uncomfortable with your admirer's subtle concern and don't want to accept it, then I think you probably don't have any feelings for him, so if you don't want to accept it, you can clearly tell him that I am a little uncomfortable with you doing this, and don't do it in the future. It's just that you don't feel a little disgusted with him, after all, he is not the person you like, or the person you like, you will be happy.

It shows that you don't like this person and feel ashamed of some of his overtures.

This shows that you don't like that admirer very much, and you would never do that if you were to change to someone you like.

The answer upstairs is not what you asked.

The information that my friend on the first floor is looking for makes sense. In fact, a psychiatrist is a general term for practitioners engaged in psychological counseling and **. It is true that there is no exact word "psychiatrist" in English.

In Western countries, they are replaced by clinical psychologists, who are the best psychologists in various psychological disorders. In Western countries, the qualifications of clinical psychologists are very demanding. Generally, you must have graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology and practiced for one year.

Psychologists have a close connection with psychiatrists, but there are also differences. From the perspective of compulsory courses, psychologists (clinical psychologists) are more focused on various psychology**, clinical practice, neuropsychology, etc.; Psychiatrists, on the other hand, focus more on pharmacology and the most important aspects of severe psychosis. Of course, the two are common in many disciplines.

From a clinical practice point of view, psychologists are more inclined to psychology**, although psychologists in Western countries are knowledgeable about drugs**. In clinical practice, various psychological goals are used to achieve the goal, which is usually a long-term process. It is somewhat similar to the psychological counselor in China, but it is much higher than the qualifications of the counselor in China, and it usually takes more than 8 years of professional study.

It's almost all about answering people's questions.

Psychiatrists pay more attention to verbal descriptions, while hospital psychiatrists pay more attention to the best means of combining drugs, and the psychiatric department of the hospital should be more trustworthy in comparison

You can't take it for granted, let alone talk nonsense. At the same time, I know the difference between a psychological counselor and a psychologist, and I can share it with the landlord and you can see if it will help.

Psychologist and counselor are two different concepts.

The former is a medical model, mainly based on medication, supplemented by psychological counseling, most of them are in the "psychology department" or "psychiatric department" of the hospital, with the right to prescribe, the certification department is the "Ministry of Health", and the qualification certificate issued is the "psychologist", which is what we often call the "psychologist". The scope of services is moderate and severe neurotic mental illness, as well as mental illness.

The latter is a social and professional model, which is the use of psychological techniques and principles to provide psychological services for counselors through face-to-face counseling to achieve the purpose of solving psychological problems, without the right to prescribe, the certification department is the "Ministry of Labor", and the qualification certificate is "psychological counselor", whose service scope includes health counseling, sub-health counseling and symptomatic counseling.

Health counseling refers to the psychological counseling of normal people, including the cultivation of ability, the improvement of personality, career design, etc.

Sub-health counseling refers to some problems we encounter in our daily life and ask for assistance from a psychological counselor, such as marital emotion, children's education, interpersonal relationships, psychological recovery from accidental trauma, and handling of bad emotions.

Symptomatic counseling refers to the counseling of mild and moderate neurotic problems, such as obsessive-compulsive, phobia, delusions, depression, etc.

From the perspective of the psychological nature of the patient, the patient of the psychiatrist also has the ability to guide and regulate his own self-psychology and spirit, as well as the potential of self-psychology and spiritual education, and has the logical ability of psychological and spiritual self-recovery and healing. In essence, the psychologist provides the external conditions for the patient's self-education and self-counseling, and the process of the patient's recovery is essentially the logical process of self-psychological and spiritual recovery and healing, and is the result of his own logical ability.

Psychiatrist patients generally have no logical ability of psychological and spiritual self-guidance and self-education, and the improvement of the patient's condition is essentially the process of the patient's passive improvement under the touch of external forces, not the self-effect of his own psychological, spiritual and logical ability. Therefore, psychiatrists do not provide the conditions for the patient's self-recovery, but the conditions for the recovery of health through forced indoctrination (including drugs, other measures, etc.).

That is, the psychiatrist's patient is essentially self-healing, and the psychiatrist's patient is essentially passively forced to recover.

Psychologists are to solve people's psychological problems: such as depression, low self-esteem, unrequited love and other problems, through a certain method, so that people can get out of the shadows and cheer up their lives.

Psychiatrists** have more serious conditions than psychiatrists**. Psychologists focus on guidance and guidance. And the psychiatrist is going to be the first patient, and the patients of the psychiatrist are mostly patients whose body organs have been diseased.

Self-awareness is an important indicator in judging a patient's symptom awareness. To put it simply, people who know that they are sick and admit that they have illness have mild symptoms, and seek a psychiatrist**. And if you're really crazy, you don't know what you're going to do, and you're hallucinating if you need a psychiatrist.

Psychologists are mainly aimed at people who have suffered from mental illness for the first time or whose mental illness has not affected their lives and has not evolved into mental illness. It mainly takes several methods such as counseling, suggestion, guidance, and hypnosis.

Psychiatrists are for people with extreme mental abnormalities, or mental illnesses that seriously affect their lives. It is mainly controlled by medications

So the two are still very different.

Simple, a psychiatrist is to help people with mental disorders.

Psychiatrists are there to help people who are mentally abnormal or in a trance!

It makes no difference.

It can be said that it is one of a kind.

Psychiatrists are prone to mental diseases.

Provincial doctors are prone to mental illness.

To distinguish between the two, we must first understand the difference between "psychosis" and "neurosis"!