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You want to get married sooner now, but marriage is a major life event after all, and you need to discuss it with your parents, and your parents don't quite agree with the idea that you want to get married early
The first point, you can talk to your parents about the benefits of getting married early, first of all, although you are young, you are an adult, you can deal with your own emotional problems alone, you know who you like, you know how to love someone, you are very confident in the relationship between you and your lover, so there is nothing wrong with you getting married now, the emotional foundation between you and your lover is already very solid, although you are not old, but you love each other very much, After getting married, you and your husband will be able to deal with the problems of life, and you will already have the necessary conditions to get married.
The second point is that you can tell your parents that you can start a family first if you get married early, and starting a family first and then starting a business is actually a very good choice, because starting a family first can stabilize the rear, at this time the husband can take on a family's sense of responsibility and work harder, after all, there is pressure to have motivation, a large family is waiting for the husband to earn money to support, and the husband at this time is not as decadent as he was back then, he will become more motivated, and he will naturally be able to do more smoothly in his career.
The third point, of course, there is an important advantage of getting married early is that you can have children early, children are the continuation of a family's life, the advent of a new life will bring a lot of joy to the family, and your parents must also like children very much, the elders can be said to be really loving for children, and you say to your parents that you get married early and have children soon after marriage, so that your parents will be very supportive of your early marriage.
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In this era of late marriage and late childbearing, it is really rare to want to get married early, except for some rural areas, there are still the traditions of the older generation, basically just adults and the legal age of marriage are already parents. The generation of the post-80s grandfathers seems to get married quite early, but when it comes to the parents' generation, it is generally not so early, which also includes the influence of the general environment and the life of the parents. If it were today, I think there will be a large number of people who will marry later and have children later, and they will not get married too early, of course, there will definitely be early, and everyone has a different understanding of life.
I don't know how old you are, but since you said you want to get married early, you must be at the age when you just graduated from college or even before you graduated. There are pros and cons to getting married sooner or later, there are no absolutes, and from my current standpoint, it is either to get married early, just after reaching the legal age, or even later (I am talking about this late is about 30 years old and before the age of 35).
Let's talk about late marriage, young people nowadays generally mature late, even if they are old, the whole person's psychology and thoughts have not yet arrived, and they are still a child, and they can't think of paying for a family or even having another child, and there is no concept of responsibility. Getting married late can allow you to fully enjoy the free single life, improve the quality of life, and experience the urge to get married again.
It seems that there is nothing wrong with getting married early, after all, when I was single, I fed the whole family and did not feel hungry, and I couldn't feel that sense of responsibility, as the saying goes, marriage makes men grow, especially if they have children, it can be said that they have changed from a boy to a man overnight. Early marriage can also have a qualitative early, the whole person is not becoming impetuous, but becoming practical, becoming mature, the ancient saying is self-cultivation, family, governing the country, and leveling the world, it can be seen that early marriage is to do big things, do good things to prepare. Therefore, you can talk to your parents about the benefits of early marriage, on the premise that you have already thought about it.
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If you want to convince your parents, just tell him that I have found the right person now, and then she can give me a home, and she can make me happy, and then I can stop worrying about you, after all, you are both so old, and then he can now. Taking on our future, so we both wanted to get married sooner. Getting married earlier can also make your parents less burdened.
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You can tell your parents that you want to start a family first, then start a business, and want to get married as soon as possible, and when the family is stable, you will have more motivation and responsibility to do a good job in your career.
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If you want to get married early, you must also comply with the marriage law, at least the marriage law stipulates that men must be at least 22 years old, and women can only get married at least 20 years old.
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You can tell your parents that you want to start a family first and then start a business, and if you have a family, you will have the motivation to continue to work hard.
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I think you can make it clear to your parents that you want to get married, because if you have already thought about it, you have to take on the responsibility of being a husband and being a man.
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How do you convince your parents that you want to get married early? If you are of legal age to marry and you have a friend you like, you can talk to your parents about telling them what you have to say.
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I think you can tell your parents that you also want to get married, and you also hope to have someone who can love me, and you also hope that you can spend your life with the person you like, which is very warm.
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You can tell your parents directly that you want to hold the child earlier, and your parents will definitely agree.
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If you get married earlier, it's actually a good thing, and the children you give birth to will be very healthy.
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I think I just tell my parents that you want to get married early, because after getting married early, you will be stable, so that you can start a business after stability.
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Convince parents that they want to get married early, so that they can say that they want to get married early, and the child will recover well in the morning.
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I think if your parents agree, you don't have to convince them, and if your parents don't agree, it's useless if you want to convince them, because parents are people who have come from the past, they have their opinions, well, it's hard to convince.
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Do you yourself want to get married early? , then you go to find an object first, and then talk about other things, and the object doesn't have anything for you to talk about.
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In fact, if you want to get married early, there is no big problem, but after all, you still have to listen to your parents' opinions on these things when you get married, after all, your parents have experienced more than yourself.
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If you find someone to marry and you're old enough, your parents won't stop you.
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If he can still convince his parents to get married early, this is also acceptable, because this is also an era of marriage madness.
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Talk to them directly and they should be able to understand you.
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This is easy to say, the female college always wants to get married, and it is impossible for the parents to arrange it: if you see it yourself, the parents will say it.
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1. Be kind to them.
You must have a very good attitude towards your parents, keeping in mind that they may be angry with you, anxious, or even slap the table and shed tears at you, and you need to be fully prepared and maintain a good attitude.
Second, keep acknowledging their views first.
It's like "playing", you have to let them "hit" first, and then you "hit" back, you can't always "attack". So the first thing you have to do is to recognize and understand their love for you and their concern for you: "Mom, if I were you, my children would not get married, and I would be very worried.
I understand you very well, you must be under a lot of pressure. "Mom will feel warm.
3. Analyze the needs.
The biggest reason why your parents are urging you to get married is that you didn't solve the matter at the right time. Your need is that I want to find someone I like to marry. In fact, the biggest disagreement between us and our parents is at the point in time.
Fourth, think about what you want to say and the reasons for it.
On why he hasn't gotten married yet, and even some about "life". You have to let your parents understand that you have a plan and consideration for your life, and that you are treating your life with an adult and mature attitude. If you live like a child, you have to ask your parents for advice on what friends you make and what clothes you wear, and they will never listen to you when you discuss marriage with your parents.
You need to be very well prepared, not only in words but also in deeds. The behavioral preparation is that you have to be very mature in everything from now on, and not only in the matter of communicating with them about whether to get married, but suddenly mature, which your parents can't accept. We live in a different era than theirs, which has become very fast, so we are facing a lot of uncertainty, so we are moving much slower.
You see who and who, and who and who, they have been married for a year and then divorced. You don't want me to divorce in the future, you want me to be happy. If you want me to be happy, let me find my happiness slowly, and I believe I can find the happiness I want.
In fact, in the eyes of parents, their children are very good, so they will trust you. )
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First, we must first correct our attitude and recognize their views.
Parents urging marriage must be anxious for you and for your sake, so first of all, your attitude is not to show impatience, don't get angry or lose your temper or something, which will break your parents' hearts. You must have the right attitude, secondly, you must agree with your parents' views, first agree with the views, and then slowly refute the views, and second, analyze the problem.
Parents are generally only anxious about whether you are married or have children, and do not take into account the long-term What you can do is to analyze your life planning and considerations, such as why you are not married, some things you consider, and some attitudes towards life. For example, what you eat and wear in your daily life is decided by your parents, but once you get married, will you be a person without opinions, and people without opinions will not be able to bear the responsibilities of the family.
3. Give some negative teaching materials.
You can first cite some negative teaching materials, compared to your late marriage, I believe that your parents should be more difficult to accept is the end of divorce after you get married, so you can tell your parents, who is the first friend to travel who got married because they have known each other for just a few months, but they divorced less than a year after marriage, who knows each other because of a blind date, not enough to understand marriage, who knows that divorce in such a short time, after all, there are not many such things now, let parents know your concerns, do not want you to end up in the future is also divorced.
Fourth, talk about the recent situation of the anti-general army.
If your parents say that they pay to buy a house and a car, then you will be a general, and whether you will always rely on the second elder to live after marriage, indicating that you do not want to be a gnawing old man after marriage, and want to let your parents enjoy happiness, I believe that in the end they will understand you.
5. Consider the blind date arranged by your parents.
During the Chinese New Year, most parents will prepare some blind date activities for their unmarried children, in fact, don't be too sensitive to these activities, if there is a suitable one, you may wish to meet, selectively go on a blind date, maybe you will meet a destined person.
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If you want to get married early, it is normal, after all, you have a child in the family, so I hope you get married early and spend money early, so if you can get married early, it is actually good, and the elderly can also help you take care of your children.
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1. Don't resist blind dates too much.
Most single people who are not married are resistant to blind dates, feeling that blind dates are very cheap and embarrassing, and think that only people who can't marry or can't find a partner need to go on a blind date. In fact, blind date is just a way to get to know each other, if the people around you arrange for you to go on a blind date, don't be too resistant and resistant. You can think of it as just getting to know a friend, and when you have the right idea, you will find that there is nothing wrong with blind dates.
2. Anti-general army.
Some people are forced to marry by their parents, they will say that marriage is their own business, and who to marry should be decided by themselves, if their parents are urgent, they will find a random person to marry, but in case it is not suitable for divorce, parents have to take responsibility. However, if the person you choose to get married, then even if you get divorced later, you will not blame your parents. Threatening parents with divorce is a trick that works, because no parent wants their children to be unhappy.
3. Explain the current situation.
In today's society, parents do not have the right to decide on our marriage, only the right to participate, unlike in ancient times, when the marriage was completely decided by the parents. If you refuse to communicate with your parents about marriage, so that your parents have no hope, your parents will inevitably feel uncomfortable and worried. Therefore, we should communicate more with our parents according to our actual feelings and psychological thoughts, and let them know that you have been paying attention and working hard.
4. Tell your parents what you think.
If you encounter your parents urging you to get married, but you don't want to get married in a short time, then you should take the time to have a good talk with your parents about the rent grade, so that your parents know your actual thoughts and plans, and I believe that your parents will support you in the future, so that your parents will not urge you to get married again. Be sure to tell your parents about your thoughts and plans, and don't let your parents worry and worry about themselves.
5. Obey your parents' arrangements to meet each other.
Parents urge themselves to marry for their own good, if you reach the age of marriage, there are no friends of the opposite sex, you may wish to follow the arrangement of your parents to meet the blind date, the parents must be introduced to themselves after many investigations to find it appropriate, and seeing it does not mean that you must get married, just know one more friend, and let your parents rest assured, no longer worry about themselves. And if the blind date is exactly the kind you like, it is possible for both parties to be together.
Parents' forced marriage is actually the love of their children, hoping that their children can be cared for and loved by one more person, we should accept the shape and understand the parents' intentions.
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