What are the requirements for being able to live for a long time in marriage?

There are two cornerstones of a long-lasting marriage, the first is stable material conditions, and the second is peace of mind.

Everyone knows the importance of material poor couples, rich are ghosts, don't pour hero money, a person stands in the world without money to support the waist pole can not stand up, marriage is no exception, after all, people always have to eat, drink Lazar, these are inseparable from material support, here is mentioned the relationship between love and bread, in fact, love and bread have never really separated, just like one or two people dancing a confusing dance, no love bread is tasteless, no bread love and no support, So the two are indispensable, with love, of course, there must be a sufficient amount of bread to support a marriage to go long, make an assumption, if a marriage is poor and even eat rice is a problem, is there still a need for such a marriage to exist? Marrying a man and marrying a man to dress and eat, can't even afford to eat, so naturally there is no such thing as marriage.

The importance of mentalityMarriage should also have a peaceful state of mind, have a correct value to treat, everyone wants their married life to be like described in a fairy tale, the princess and the prince live in a happy castle for the rest of their lives, but in marriage such a mentality seems to be not good, because the higher your expectations, the greater your disappointment, which is like when we watch a movie, we are attracted by the poster of the movie, so we buy a **movie ticket, but really** When I learned about this movie, I was sorry for the movie tickets that I spent money on, so our expectations can't be too high, when you think of marriage as a magnificent castle, after you go in, you will find that this is just a siege, when you treat marriage as a siege, after you go in, you will find that there is a cave.

To sum up, there are at least two requirements for a marriage to live for a long time, the first is the material requirements, and the second is the mental requirements.

Keeping the couple's life fresh, which is the most important thing, can send two flowers from time to time and go out to play together.

Two people should tolerate and run in with each other, and accommodate each other. Communicate in time about what you can't tolerate to avoid causing more trouble in the future. Also leave a certain amount of space for each other, each with their own social circle.

Don't expect too much from your partner, tolerate each other's shortcomings, leave enough space for both of you, and spend more time on self-improvement.

We must be tolerant, trust each other, preferably have similar views, have a common language, and be willing to compromise with each other.

First, a long-term marriage must be based on love.

Yu Hua said: Love is not how rich I am, how much wisdom and achievements I have, but how much I give you everything. At critical moments, protect you from the wind and rain.

Love in marriage, may seem so insignificant, but when the wind and rain come, it is definitely the strongest reliance, love, always the strongest relationship in the world, but sometimes we regard money as too important, so it seems that love is so worthless.

Second, the real longevity is the spiritual resonance.

Marriage, the right person is really important, and the so-called family pair actually refers to the three views, which is a kind of spiritual resonance.

The most typical characteristics of the three views are incompatible: you can't talk together, you can't play together, and you can't live together. Often quarrels for some principled reasons, and arguing and arguing, the two people are further apart, and it is more difficult to communicate.

It's not difficult to meet a person you like, how much love starts with liking and ends with understanding, the first didn't understand later, the so-called right person, there is no conclusion, probably the three views are similar, the interests can be different, but never interfere with each other, there is something to talk about, getting along is as natural as being alone. This way, you are you, I am me, it's not that you can't do it, but it's better to have you.

Third, a long-lasting marriage depends on tolerance.

There are no two identical people in this world, just as there is no perfect person who can carry two identical leaves, and there is no unworthy source, a five-cent match can light a cigarette for 10,000 yuan.

You let me be a little bit, and I'll be a little tolerant.

1.Have a common purpose in life.

Usually in the process of falling in love, two people will understand each other, understand what both parties need, understand each other's pursuits, and a series of problems, without a common pursuit of life, even if two people can come together, it is only temporary, and it will not last long.

2.Marriage needs to be managed and nurtured.

In fact, it is not the rough praise in married life that some couples can be happy, because after all, everyone is an independent individual, and will have their own logical thinking and principles, so sometimes in married life, they need to slowly adapt to each other's common lifestyle, learn to tolerate, tolerate and care for each other.

3.Learn to empathize.

I believe that everyone will encounter some troubles in marriage, so in life there may be some disagreements between two people about the same thing, in fact, it is not terrible to have disagreements between husband and wife, it is important to learn to empathize and put yourself in the other party's shoes to think about the problem.

4.Be responsible and responsible.

When a person faces difficulties, then the difficulty is still a difficulty, when two people face difficulties together, it is half of a person's difficulties, this is called sharing, for the life between husband and wife, both husband and wife must have a sense of responsibility and responsibility, to be able to feel each other's joys, sorrows and sorrows from each other's words and deeds, and learn to share.

5.Take things as they come.

In the life of husband and wife, we should be dull about some things that are not conducive to each other, don't figure everything out, some things are actually very simple, just mediocre people disturb themselves and find their own troubles, so everyone must have the idea of "what comes is safe".

6.It is necessary to have a correct attitude and a sober understanding.

Marriage is a topic that each of us must figure out first, especially for men and women who have just come of age, marriage is not only the physical requirements of adult men and women, but more importantly, the psychological needs, so before entering the palace of a marriage, we must be clear about what is important, first of all, we must correct the attitude of life, and a clear understanding.

If you want to live a long married life, you need two people to work hard to operate and maintain each other, understand each other, respect each other, love each other, and think about problems from each other's angles, even if they will sacrifice their own interests, they have no regrets!

Endure it all the time in married life, or don't continue anymore, this is the middle and bottom strategy, and the shirt slips the best policy, let me tell you.

The marriage of two people depends on one party to endure and let go, this is the middle policy, no one can endure the unprincipled life of the clan, and there will be a time when they can't bear it, then a family tragedy will happen.

If you think of separation, it's the next policy, if it's not worth it, you will separate, and if it's not worth it, you will divorce, what is marriage? Can that be so casual? What would you do if you met another person like this after you left? Is it still away? Moreover, this is just a way to escape, and it is not advisable.

Come and listen to my best policy, use your ability to forbear, to conquer your other half, to change yourself to adapt to the other party, to change the other party, this is the ability, divorce at every turn, not the ability, to change the other party, to conquer the other half, this is the best policy.

Two people came together and got married, this is the fate of several generations of cultivation, to be cherished.

Recently prepared friend, had to divorce her 21-year-old husband. Some people mentioned that they were "husbands". In fact, we will not be happy to tolerate our other friends, but you can't resist your people.

Just like this little color and her husband, I didn't delay the marriage, and the little one was only three years old, so because of her children, Xiaoling quit her original good job. After starting a full-time child, Little Color found that there were more and more conflicts between her and her husband. I can't say a few words for these two days.

Either it will quarrel once. The original little color, which interests the husband the most, will contain all kinds of small seasons, and now I have become a problem for my husband to accept her, to say that she is very common, and even to say that she is unreasonable. In addition to the small color cases, there are many "old husbands and wives" of families, and even in the TV series, there are many cases in the TV series, which can be the owners of the story, and the feelings between them are very good.

Most of them are similar, that is, couples between them often struggle to last.

Older wives" said that the biggest problem between the two may be the "age difference". This is because people who are not in the age group, which leads to the "ditch" between them is difficult to avoid. It is precisely because of the existence of the ditch that the two people are more and more contradictory behind them.

Little Color said that she and her husband were because of the "ditch" problem. She wanted to tell her husband. After her husband listens, she will discuss her from another perspective, leading to the end of each conversation.

Scattered, there are more problems between two people. The marriage of the "old husband and wife" is a long time, and there is a factor that the two "differences in appearance" may just be married, the woman is 20 years old, the man is 40 years old, the two people stand up to each other the same, it is not too big, but over time, the difference between the two people will become more and more.

The psychological difference between men and women will be greater and greater, and that man may think that his wife is too young, and this age is getting older, and he is not optimistic about himself, and even wants to make some special moves. That woman will think, but her husband is not only at an age, but can also love more and more to doubt it, I don't believe in my marriage, what's going on? Due to the difference in appearance, there are more and more problems between husbands and wives, for a long time.

When the contradiction accumulates to a certain extent, it may not go on for a few days.

After all, the "old husband and wife" is a few years, and it is precisely because of this age that it is also large. When you talk about love, you may not feel it, but after your family, these two people get along the eve, especially if there are children, and when it comes to educating children, there are more and more problems. It's like those similar couples who have a conflict between the children and their plants.

After all, the context of growth is different, as well as different cultural differences. When considering the problem, the starting point and the location are different. In this way, it is not surprising that after marriage there are more and more contradictions.

Both of them are not good at managing marriage and feelings, and after getting married, they think that everything is fine, and there is no need to manage marriage anymore.

It's because the two people don't solve some conflicts in time, but are evading responsibility, so they will get more and more conflicted.

I think it's all caused by the husband and wife not tolerating and trusting each other, and at the same time there is no emotion, which is quite regrettable.

I think it's usually due to the incompatibility of two personalities. No matter what they do, they dislike each other.

I think the main problem is that there is a communication problem. If there is no topic of conversation with each other, or there is a lack of communication, the relationship will have a dislike, and over time they will part ways.

Sometimes I have been tolerating in my marriage, and then I have to change to adapt to the other party, which often does not win the understanding of the other party, and even makes the other party worse. In fact, since this step of marriage can be found, both parties should still have their own places that can be recognized by each other. But often after entering married life, it may be very different from falling in love, after all, you have to take into account your respective families, as well as some work and life habits and treat people.

There are even times when the two sides will compare, is it more in the man's family, or is there more in the woman's family? Which side is more popular, and this side may be less popular, and there will also be some small run-in. In addition, there are some things like housework, such as key leakage, etc., at this point in this draft, the woman after marriage may be more entangled in who is right and who is wrong.

For men, they may have more energy, and they are generally not likely to entangle with women about such small things, and sometimes they laugh or keep silent, or just endure it, and they can live together. But often this does not exchange for the woman's understanding, sometimes I often think that the man is too good, and when he speaks, he does not get much happiness by following him, and even chatters.

So in married life, sometimes what the play strives for is also to fight for it, at least let the other party know some of the issues they are considering, be able to take into account the overall situation, consider from the families of both parties and their future lives, and don't dwell on the small details in front of you, which is right and which is wrong, after all, being able to live together, at least it shows that there are still places that can be accepted and affirmed by each other, and try to think about the good places as much as possible. In fact, I still remembered Yang Jiang's words: The years are quiet for a moment, and chicken feathers are daily.

Life after marriage will always be affected by such and such things, but even if it is occasionally cold, it must be full of flowers in the heart, everyone only says that they are warm and think more about each other, and maybe their married life can last for a long time.