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If you can't bear it. That's with them. Why eccentricity?
Am I inferior? I'm not good enough?
If you're sane enough.
Then you can ignore it. They don't care about anything, and their partiality is nothing more than their preference.
But if you can't bear it and don't say it, it will become a bomb in the future, and one day with a bang**, blow up your sanity and lead you astray.
Wishing the letter a speedy escape from this pestering trouble.
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Hu Yong 06, you are nonsense, you say these words everywhere, and you don't really help people think about problems!
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I have some suggestions for dealing with family relationships:
1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.
2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.
3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.
4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.
5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.
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I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but I'll tell you my example, I hope you will be enlightened. I'm a girl, my brother is five years older than me, the family is spoiled, don't let him suffer a little, the bath water is good, the meal is good, but my parents are not too bad for me, although there is no treatment, think about them are also hard to pull me so hard, sometimes I quarrel with my brother my mother will always say me, sometimes I am really wronged, crying alone in the room, hating them in my heart, and then because my brother is not self-motivated, my parents work hard for him, hard work for him, I am really distressed to see them like that, I also often use my little salary to buy some clothes and daily necessities for them, without complaint, because they are my relatives, if I feel unbalanced, I can be kind to myself.
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Then use your heart to influence him.
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It's not eccentricity, you have to find out for yourself.
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Family eccentric sentences to talk about feelings:
1. People are mostly selfish animals, they will only be wholeheartedly for one person, because they only have one heart; Maybe it's a little bit like another person, but most of it is for others to see, or even for yourself. Just like parents of two children, they will always favor one person.
3. Since I was a child, I have never experienced what it feels like to be biased by my parents, but now I feel that no matter what you do or how you do it, she thinks that others are good, the things others buy are good, the way others take care of their children is good, and even being called by others is good.
4. Eccentric parents, patriarchal parents, from the moment they are eccentric, don't expect justice! It is still eccentric until death.
5. How can parents who have given birth to several children be fair to every child, that is just a lie of parents deceiving themselves. My parents are just eccentric and boundless, and they tell me about fairness.
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The heart does not grow in the middle, and eccentricity is normal. Parents have the responsibility to support you, but they have no responsibility to love you, and who to love is their choice, and it has nothing to do with you. Just like the world doesn't revolve around you, you don't have the right to ask anyone to love you.
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1. Talk to the elderly at home, if the old people are eccentric, you should find an opportunity to talk to the old people at home, tell the depression in your heart, if the old filial piety at home can hear the voice of the child, there are changes, and your situation will be better.
2. Make yourself better, if the old man happens to ruin his heart and makes himself very unhappy, he must make himself better, better, more promising than his brothers, and the old man in the family will always compare and find his own advantages.
3. Be kind to yourself, if the old man is eccentric, don't complain too much about the old people in the family, as long as he is not an only child, the old people in the family are also partial, rather than waiting for others to hurt themselves, it is better to treat themselves well and make themselves happy.
4. If the old people in the family can't get through, they must recognize the reality, the interests of the family are paramount, the old people in the family will sacrifice the interests of other children for the sake of eccentricity, happiness and even life, no matter how the other children please, the old people in the family will not change, so give up the illusion, don't try to beg for the love of the old people in the family through their own efforts.
5. Finally, if you can, leave the location of the original family as much as possible, the distance produces beauty, and living in a different place may still maintain surface harmony. Most importantly, try to reduce the chances of the elderly in the family disturbing their lives and well-being as much as possible.
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Respect your family's ideas, but express your opinions and try to avoid arguments.
2.Try to understand your family's thoughts, and try to communicate with your family members so that they can understand your thoughts.
3.If the family is too biased, you can communicate with other family members to find a common solution.
4.If possible, seek outside advice, such as a home therapist or counsellor.
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I think there will definitely be some small conflicts and disagreements between family members, and in my family, maybe my parents will be better for my younger brother, so I don't have much opinion to understand this situation.
If there is an uneven bowl of water in the family, how to solve it?
1. Ask your parents for an explanation, or just say what is in your heart and tell them that you are hurt.
In the face of your parents' partiality, you can say it directly to your parents, and maybe you can change your parents' practices. Let them pay more attention to your business.
However, sometimes speaking up doesn't necessarily change the situation, it just lets your parents know that what they're doing has hurt you severely. It's the same parent, why are they in two situations?
2. You can be a silent person, not to compete with others, and silently bear this unfair treatment.
In the face of their parents' partiality, they bear it silently without resistance, which may greatly hurt their hearts, and they are even unwilling to pay attention to their parents. Slowly drifting farther and farther away from your family, the loneliness in your heart can only be soothed by your partner. Or turn this unfairness into motivation and make a career of your own.
3. Divert your attention, turn your anger into unbridled strength, strive to make a career, and become independent as soon as possible.
In the face of the status quo that you can't change, you can only divert your attention, have the ability, leave home as soon as possible, and be filial to your parents. Try not to mix things at home, so as not to enter a state of cutting and messing. Distract yourself.
4. Family and everything is prosperous, repay grievances with virtue, and impress parents with their sincerity.
If you have a softer temperament, you always hope that the family can be harmonious, and it will be good to do your own thing, and one day your parents will crack and show your goodness.
People are always in the midst of blessings and do not know blessings, and only when they are about to lose do they understand who is the person who is truly good to themselves.
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The family has a bowl of water that is uneven, and there will be eccentricity, which is indeed an uncomfortable experience.
Therefore, as parents, we must educate our children in the right way, and we must be fair and just to our children, so that they can feel more love and warmth in life, and will also make their lives better
1.Learn to be more considerate and understanding of each other.
When you communicate with others, it is best to learn to understand others, if the other party's personality is more sunny and cheerful, then we don't have to be too serious, and if the other party is a more serious character, then when we communicate with others, we must fully understand and respect them, to communicate carefully and carefully, if the other party is a friend who doesn't know much, it is best to maintain respect and appropriate communication on daily topics.
2.Maintain a respectful style of communication.
When we encounter problems that we don't understand, we should ask others for advice, respect others when communicating, don't talk endlessly, but learn to remain silent, let the other party express their opinions more, and when we encounter things we don't understand, don't rush to express them, we should learn to listen carefully, and give people a humble and serious attitude.
3.Communicate topics that everyone enjoys.
When communicating with people, everyone likes to communicate their own topics of interest and like to express their good knowledge to others, so we must first learn to understand and listen to others' opinions, so that the other party can feel your sincerity and feel that communicating with you is a very pleasant process, because everyone hopes that they can be understood and respected by others, and the exchange of each other's expertise and knowledge is precisely to understand each other and have a common language with each other.
4.Learn to listen politely and carefully.
When communicating with others, it is necessary to learn to listen carefully and carefully, do not interrupt others, and listen more patiently, so as to understand and respect others, and only in this way can we reflect our sincerity and modesty and courtesy, so as to gain true friendship. 5.When communicating with others, if we can properly express praise for the opinions expressed by others, this is undoubtedly to give the other party a feeling of respect and recognition, and the other party will also agree with our understanding and respect, and the other party will also have a new understanding of us, which effectively promotes the happiness and smoothness of communication.
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Hello dear, I have experienced such an experience myself, let me tell you how I feel.
At first, I might feel very angry, but when the anger is gone, I think it's my biological parents after all, so everything can be forgiven.
A bowl of water is uneven. Those who say this are usually the children of the elderly, who accuse the old man of favoring one child but not that one. It should be said that in rural areas, the phenomenon of mountain dismantling is very common.
The main reasons are the following three points. The first reason is that absolute fairness does not exist, not only the elderly in rural areas, but also ourselves, cannot achieve absolute justice. Some people are leftists and like equality; Some people are right and like to be free.
But no one is an absolute centrist, you have to be partial.
The second reason is that the elderly in rural areas generally have several children, and the personalities of these children are different. In the past, there was a saying like "the boss is stupid, the second is sharp, and the naughty and mischievous is the third". For the old man, he may like one personality and not the other.
Correspondingly, he will like children with this kind of personality.
The third reason is that when the children of the elderly reach adulthood, they always have to "separate". And in the process of separation, it is inevitable that there will be unfairness of one kind or another. In the past, when we were working collectively, when everyone shared the grain, some people would complain that they looked relatively small, let alone divide the family?
Rural people do not hide their affairs and have to express any complaints, which can easily cause discord between brothers and sisters.
The above three reasons can be said to summarize several possibilities for the phenomenon of "uneven end of a bowl of water". But I still think that you just need to do your own thing, and there is no need to compare between brothers and sisters. Because in any case, a harmonious family is the backing of a person's career, and the so-called family and everything is prosperous, right?
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For families with multiple children, parents may be more or less biased, and the so-called bowl of water is difficult to level, so it is normal. However, if the heart is uncomfortable due to the partiality of the parents, some methods can be used to alleviate it, such as strengthening communication, diverting attention, etc., and psychological intervention can be carried out to alleviate the uncomfortable state when it cannot be relieved.
1. Strengthen communication: If your parents' partiality causes you to feel uncomfortable, you can directly express your feelings to your parents, let them pay more attention to their own ideas, and maybe change their parents' attitudes. On the other hand, if you bear it alone and know each other's thoughts, it may affect the relationship with your parents and the harmony of the family.
2. Divert attention: When the status quo cannot be changed
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