How to get along with a confidant, what is a confidant, and how to get along?

The biggest obstacle between people is not knowing what the other person is thinking, as long as you communicate with people often, communicate with people sincerely, don't be too restrained in personality, everyone likes to deal with straightforward people. You'll have a lot of good friends. Be proactive and talk to people so you know what you want and what you want to do.

In fact, the most important thing is, of course, to treat each other with sincerity.

I'm sure there is. But my husband didn't believe it.

I think it's all about the mentality of each individual. You think she's a friend, she's a friend!

A confidant is a person who knows each other and has a deep friendship.

Confidants are often used to describe those friends who are really close to each other, no need to beat around the bush, no greetings, no superficial politeness, and no inner vigilance.

A confidant is to talk to you all day when I need you, and when you think of me, you come to live with me for a while; You are in a good mood to share happy things with me, and when I am unhappy, I will complain to you about the current situation, and we will not hold back each other's mouths; If you need your help, just say it, and you don't have to make excuses if you think I'm in the way; There is no politeness that seems to float on the surface, and there is no inner vigilance.

Confidants get along

If the same sex wants to become a confidant, it is all in the word "sincerity". We should treat each other with sincerity, get along with each other, be consistent with what we say and do. As for whether the interests and hobbies are similar, whether the cultural level and personality characteristics are consistent, it is secondary, and if you want to become confidants between the same sex, the premise is that you don't need to guard against each other at all times, and you don't want the other party to guard against yourself at all times.

If you have the heart to guard against the other party and be guarded by the other party, you will never become a confidant.

If the opposite sex wants to become a confidant, it is in a "degree" word. It is impossible for a person to live in the world without one or several confidants of the opposite sex. In a sense, a confidant of the opposite sex can fill some vacancies in the emotional gap between husband and wife or lovers, for example, husband and wife quarrels, conflicts between lovers, can confide in the opposite sex, and a few words of enlightenment, persuasion and even blame from the opposite sex confidant will play a very important role.

A confidant is someone who knows himself very well, and he must be calm when getting along with him, and there can be no deception.

1.Be informed.

That is, to understand some of the other person's experiences and life situations. In socializing, people have different ways of thinking, he has his life wishes, you have your life views, and whether the conversation can be harmonious depends on your choice of topic. If you don't know about his life's difficulties, and he is there to brag about the fun of golfing or traveling around the world, he will not be interested in talking to you, but if you tell him a way to get rich quick, he will mention it without you going on, because that's what he cares about.

2.Gain experience.

In conversation, experience is important. For the topic and scene of entertainment, you should have a certain experience, otherwise you will be in a disadvantageous situation; You have to have a lot of knowledge about the topic you are talking about, and when you talk to the other person, you have to know it, otherwise it will not be attractive, you will not be able to interest the other person, and you will not be able to talk about it with the other person. In interpersonal communication, there are many things that are not changed even if they are done differently, and this eternal truth must always be kept in mind.

Cultivate your endurance and don't be stingy.

How to know yourself and your opponent.

Experience has proven that "stinginess" often makes a person suffer. Always be neutral and objective. As a rule of thumb, a neutral person can often win more friends.

Even your "sworn friend", you don't have to keep saying it to him, as long as it is in fact a "sworn friend". There should be a yardstick to measure the value of things, and don't insist too much on a certain view; If it is necessary to keep things a secret (one person cannot keep a secret and there will be many mistakes in any matter), don't talk too much and find a way to get others to say more. If you ignore the other person's psychological changes and blindly bring out all your thoughts during the conversation, then you will not be recognized by others.

Wishful thinking often turns the other person off. If you say it when you shouldn't speak, you're making a mistake of being impatient; If you don't speak when you should speak, you lose the opportunity to speak. If you don't look at the other party's rough attitude and speak rashly, you are talking nonsense with your eyes closed.

In the process of conversation, the psychological activities of both parties are in a state of gradual change, which requires us to take into account the psychological activities of the other party when talking with others, so that the content of the conversation and the changes in the mood of the listener are adapted and synchronized, so that the intention of the conversation can be clarified and resonate.

3.Make chalk of one and cheese of the other.

Be clear about the identity and personality traits of the other party. Extroverts tend to be "happy with the form" and can talk to him; Introverts are often "taciturn", but they should be tactful and persuasive. If you don't put yourself in the shoes of others, you just blindly talk about it, and the result will inevitably be that you lose a batch of people to talk to.

Therefore, treating the interpersonal opponent differently in conversation is the key to success in interpersonal communication.