How to get a confidant? How can I make a confidant?

Knowing each other is a true friend.

If we want to gain knowledge, we need to exchange one heart for another.

If someone else is kind to me, I will give me everything I can be good to her, and if she is not good to me, I will also be kind to her, maybe at some point we will really have a heart-to-heart relationship. Friends who share hardships are also known to them. Don't be stingy with what you give and what you get.

If you want to gain yourself, then you must first have a strong psychology, you can read more books and watch more movies in ordinary times, and cultivate your own interests and hobbies Only if your own ability is improved, will you attract the attention of others, so that you have a greater chance of gaining a confidant.

If you want to get a soulmate, I recommend you to travel more and talk to the people you are traveling, so that you may find your own soulmate among the people who travel, I think this method is relatively easy to find, after all, it is not often to talk to others.

A lifelong confidant is particularly difficult to find, as the saying goes, a confidant is hard to find. If a mother wants to gain a confidant, she must contact people in many ways, and contact people in different circles and at different levels. Maybe one of them will join you and become your confidant.

I have always felt that a confidant is unattainable, and it is attracted, only if you are strong and wonderful, will you attract people of the same frequency, this kind of sympathetic encounter is a confidant, and the confidant wants a tacit understanding, it is a coincidence, it is tacit, and it pays more attention to the inner feelings, this kind of cognition, not just casually, must be attracted.

It's not difficult to find a confidant, in life, you treat people well, others will really be friends with you, be generous, can't be too careful about everything, compare your heart to your heart, do your best, let others appreciate it, isn't it good? Friends and confidants are honest, and such friends will be cherished in your life.

If you want to get a confidant, you must first communicate with each other, be able to listen to each other's hearts, and be able to confide in each other when you are in trouble.

Secondly, appreciate each other's strengths, share common values, have the same views on certain issues, and be able to empathize when communicating.

In this way, you can gain a confidant.

A confidant is a person who knows each other and has a deep friendship.

Confidants are often used to describe those friends who are really close to each other, no need to beat around the bush, no greetings, no superficial politeness, and no inner vigilance.

A confidant is to talk to you all day when I need you, and when you think of me, you come to live with me for a while; You are in a good mood to share happy things with me, and when I am unhappy, I will complain to you about the current situation, and we will not hold back each other's mouths; If you need your help, just say it, and you don't have to make excuses if you think I'm in the way; There is no superficial politeness, and there is no inner vigilance.

Confidants get along

If the same sex wants to become a confidant, it is all in the word "sincerity". We should treat each other with sincerity, get along with each other, be consistent with what we say and do. As for whether the interests and hobbies are similar, whether the cultural level and personality characteristics are consistent, it is secondary, and if you want to become confidants between the same sex, the premise is that you don't need to guard against each other at all times, and you don't want the other party to guard against yourself at all times.

If you have the heart to guard against the other party and be guarded by the other party, you will never become a confidant.

If the opposite sex wants to become a confidant, it is in a "degree" word. It is impossible for a person to live in the world without one or several confidants of the opposite sex. In a sense, confidants of the opposite sex can fill some gaps in the feelings of couples or lovers, for example, quarrels between husband and wife, conflicts between lovers, and confidants of the opposite sex can confide in them.

1.Be informed.

That is, to understand some of the other person's experiences and life situations. In socializing, people have different ways of thinking, he has his life wishes, you have your life views, and whether the conversation can be harmonious depends on your choice of topic. If you don't know about his life's difficulties, and he is there to brag about the fun of golfing or traveling around the world, he will not be interested in talking to you, but if you tell him a way to get rich quick, he will mention it without you going on, because that's what he cares about.

2.Gain experience.

In conversation, experience is important. For the topic and scene of entertainment, you should have a certain experience, otherwise you will be in a disadvantageous situation; You have to have a lot of knowledge about the topic you are talking about, and when you talk to the other person, you have to know it, otherwise it will not be attractive, you will not be able to interest the other person, and you will not be able to talk about it with the other person. In interpersonal communication, there are many things that are not changed even if they are done differently, and this eternal truth must always be kept in mind.

Cultivate your endurance and don't be stingy.

How to know yourself and your opponent.

Experience has proven that "stinginess" often makes a person suffer. Always be neutral and objective. As a rule of thumb, a neutral person can often win more friends.

Even your "sworn friend", you don't have to keep saying it to him, as long as it is in fact a "sworn friend". There should be a yardstick to measure the value of things, and don't insist too much on a certain view; If it is necessary to keep things a secret (one person cannot keep a secret and there will be many mistakes in any matter), don't talk too much and find a way to get others to say more. If you ignore the other person's psychological changes and blindly bring out all your thoughts during the conversation, then you will not be recognized by others.

Wishful thinking often turns the other person off. If you say it when you shouldn't speak, you're making a mistake of being impatient; If you don't speak when you should speak, you lose the opportunity to speak. If you don't look at the other party's rough attitude and speak rashly, you are talking nonsense with your eyes closed.

In the process of conversation, the psychological activities of both parties are in a state of gradual change, which requires us to take into account the psychological activities of the other party when talking with others, so that the content of the conversation and the changes in the mood of the listener are adapted and synchronized, so that the intention of the conversation can be clarified and resonate.

3.Make chalk of one and cheese of the other.

Be clear about the identity and personality traits of the other party. Extroverts tend to be "happy with the form" and can talk to him; Introverts are often "taciturn", but they should be tactful and persuasive. If you don't put yourself in the shoes of others, you just blindly talk about it, and the result will inevitably be that you lose a batch of people to talk to.

Therefore, treating the interpersonal opponent differently in conversation is the key to success in interpersonal communication.

In our daily life, we often feel that "it is difficult to find a confidant", and we feel that it is too difficult to make a close friend......This is so for several reasons:

1. Two like-minded people can become good friends.

Becoming friends is actually quite simple......As long as two people have common interests and hobbies and can talk to each other, they can become friends.

However, to become good friends, it is much more difficult......Only two like-minded people can become good friends and fall in love with each other.

2. Friendship needs to be tested by time.

Friendship is something that needs to be tested by time.

It is not very difficult or meaningful to maintain a friendship for a short period of time. ......Only by maintaining a long-term friendship can you truly make friends for life.

The above two conditions are very difficult to achieve in order to achieve the destruction of the trapped brothers. ......Because of this, confidants and friends are so scarce, so that we will sigh that "one confidant is enough in life" ......

In addition to the above-mentioned factors, the qualities of a person also directly affect the perception of others, which in turn determines whether they can develop a true friendship with each other.

Specifically, people who have the following characteristics are worthy of lifelong friends:

1. An honest and kind person is worth making friends for life.

Even if we are friends, we must first look at each other's character. ......Honest and kind people, bright and open, worthy of fellowship. ......Such a person is worth a lifetime of friendship as long as he is like-minded with him.

2. A wise and wise person is worth a lifetime of fellowship.

One of the most important purposes of making friends is to learn from each other's strengths and strengths, so that we can progress and improve.

Therefore, a wise and wise person is a person who deserves our fellowship. ......Making friends with them is very beneficial for us.

3. Loyal and responsible, such a person deserves to be self-respecting and self-centered.

Friends need to be loyal and help each other.

The above factors are worthy of making friends on their own and can maintain friendships for a long time. ......If you can really meet such a person, you must not miss ......This is worth making a lifelong confidant and friend, and you must cherish it!

As the name suggests, it is a person who knows, understands, and appreciates himself, such as knowing himself and knowing his opponent, and will not be defeated in a hundred battles. More often refers to your own best friend or close friend, it is a friend that is hard to find in a lifetime, the highest level of friendship. That's what a confidant is.

Confidants must be considerate of each other when getting along, care for each other, the fellowship of a pair of confidants lies in mutual appreciation, not to make fun of each other, to use each other, to treat each other sincerely, do not have fraud, deception.

In addition, to become a pair of confidants, it is necessary to have the same interests, so that they have the same topics between them, and if they do not have the same interests, there will naturally not be many topics to talk about when they get along. No matter how accommodating each other, it will also feel boring and boring, so it will be difficult to become a confidant. That's what counts as a confidant.

Confidant classification: 1. Blue face confidant.

The society has not yet formed a unified opinion on the confidant, and different individuals and different scholars have different views and evaluations. Psychologists believe that the fourth type of emotion allows both parties to achieve spiritual complementarity and maintain psychological balance, so it is a positive emotion.

Medical scientists believe that communication with a confidant is conducive to regulating endocrine, which in turn can promote physical health, so it is also worth advocating. Sociologists believe that confidants are easy to cause marriage changes, destroy family harmony, and ultimately be detrimental to social stability and development, so more sociologists have a critical attitude towards them.

2. Confidant.

A confidante can be a listener who wanders in his heart, and he is also a reader of his heart. "But it has to be a purely spiritual communication, and once love or sex happens, the relationship breaks down. Baby Anne said. Therefore, many men want to have confidantes.

It's a pity that it's hard to find a confidante who admires each other, and even if you're lucky enough to find it, you may not be able to grasp the "degree" between each other in the process of dating, and turn the "confidant" into a "confidant", which makes the chickens and dogs restless and the wives separate.

1.Some people see each other every day, but they don't intersect. Some people meet for 10 minutes and become friends in life. This is tacit understanding, and people with the same frequency will resonate with each other. This tacit understanding is a kind of confidant.

2.Some of them are just run-in, and some people have been in touch with such a friend from elementary school to work. Naturally, a lot of your stuff is clear.

So you can guess what is on your mind. In this way, there is no need to foreshadow too much when communicating, a look, a movement, they all understand. This acquaintance is also a kind of acquaintance.

3.There are special circumstances, such as major accidents, major changes, or scarcity of the same kind. For example, in the same car accident, there has been a experience of death to life together, there has been verbal encouragement, and watching the whole process of the other party being rescued, so that two people will form empathy in specific situations and have the resonance of friends in distress.

There are also foreign countries, only two people are Chinese, which will make the two people quickly become good friends, because the language barrier with other people will make the two people closer. This is a case of scarcity of the same kind.

4.Summary:1A confidant is a tacit understanding, getting along with each other very comfortably, and understanding each other's preferences and ideas. 2.Some confidants are formed by specific factors.

In this life, you will meet different people and make a lot of friends, but there are almost no true confidants. No matter how many people you know, they are either acquaintances or passers-by, only real confidants are your companions on the road of life, accompanying you forward and sharing everything you have. The so-called confidant, not every day contact, but each other, not every day to meet, but in case of trouble, when you are in difficulty, on call, quiet help, when you do something wrong, tell the truth, timely correction, confidant is to understand you, love you, help your people, confidant is to accompany you, cherish you, support your people, they will not tout, will not be sweet, they will only use practical actions to prove that the good to you is true.

A true confidant is a companion in the depths of the soul, accompanying us through the lonely years, a true confidant is a noble person on the road of life, helping us guide us in the right direction, like a brotherhood, like a family, never abandoned, no need for a thousand words, a look, a hug, you can know each other's hearts, as long as a care, a cherish, you can go on for a long time, when you are sad and sad, someone comforts, when you are wronged, someone is distressed, when you are full of heart and have nowhere to complain, With a patient attention, he can give us encouragement when the pressure is too great to bear. All need a confidant, just like a relative, pay silently, just like a lover, never give up, pay for us, no complaints, solve problems for us, and do not ask for anything in return. I am a lucky confidant who can not be found, it is the biggest reward in this life, it is rare to have a confidant in life, if you have a confidant, I hope to cherish it.