In your early twenties, you have to face your mother s urging to get married?

Updated on society 2024-06-05
31 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    It is also normal for a mother to urge marriage, and the mother is most concerned about the marriage of her children, although she is just in her early 20s, it is understandable that her mother is urging marriage. Communicate more with your mother, communicate more.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    In their early twenties, they have to face their mother's urging to marry, which is not uncommon, because many parents have the concept that a girl's life is incomplete if she does not marry, and that girls are not qualified to pursue career and freedom, and that only marriage is the ultimate goal, what we have to do is to insist on ourselves, not to give in to feudal thinking and distorted social environment, to do what we want to do, and to become the person we want to be.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Since you can be financially independent, then live on your own. Not only do you have your own independent space, but you can also avoid the conflicts that often arise when you are with your parents. It's normal for parents to not understand what you're thinking.

    You don't need to change your parents' minds, after all, he has been holding on to them for decades. Some parents have a stronger desire to control and love face. He wants the child to live his way, and he sees the child as his own possession and not as an independent personality.

    Only when you are financially independent and not dependent on your parents can you have a say and live your life the way you want.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    In her early twenties, your mother urged marriage, indicating that your mother is relatively level, no matter how much you talk to your mother, it is impossible not to urge marriage, and the best way to make your mother not urge marriage is that you have a girlfriend first, so that your mother does not need to urge marriage, and there are people who accompany you, killing two birds with one stone.

    If you don't have a girlfriend, your mother should urge you to get married. No matter how hard you go back, you still have to urge.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think it's only in my early 20s, and it should be the best time to start a business, so why should I get married? Besides, girls don't see that they have to get married at the age of 20, in fact, they have ideals, start a business and do their own business, I think it's good, as for getting married? Fate will naturally come to an end.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Young people now. They have their own understanding of early marriage. But realistically. Get married early, live early. Maybe you don't understand it now, but when you reach the age of 50, you will know that you are married now. It's a perfect fit.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Your family doesn't respect you as an individual, but treats you as a child, and they have to decide everything for you, and what they think is right is right.

    I raise my hands in favor of you moving out, and if you are not resolute enough, they will become even more aggressive. But at the same time, you also have to understand them, generally speaking, people with a low level of culture and cultivation, you can't expect them to be very open-minded, this is unrealistic, you can only do your best, and they belong to the external environment, it is difficult to change.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I see that you are a girl with ideas, and you are ambitious, in this case, you have to communicate with your parents, your parents think differently from you, you must at least let your parents know your thoughts, show your attitude, you are an independent person, you have your own ideas about your life, you don't have to rely on men to live.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You can find a time to have a good talk with your family, chat, and be tactful when you speak, after all, their starting point is for your good, and I am afraid that you will not meet good people in the future, and your ideas are very good.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    In a word: your life is your own, only you have the final say. Let those who flaunt the banner of "for your good" all day long flash aside.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Hey, my parents are in a hurry and can't help it.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    When young people nowadays face the urging of their elders to get married, they should play Tai Chi, hide if they can, and try not to confront them head-on. Because the current elders are really terrible, if you say something that makes them unhappy, then there may be a lot of things that will scare you. And because they are your elders, you can't say too heavy words, it's really a belly of anger, so many people choose to hide if they can, can't be provoked, and can afford to hide.

    In fact, to be honest, there are many old people who really like to interfere in other people's affairs. In this life, I think it's enough to be able to take care of your own affairs, and there is no need to worry about other people's affairs, because it has nothing to do with you at all. Everyone doesn't get married, naturally there are their own reasons, maybe it's because they haven't met the right one, or it may be because they want to play for a few more years.

    But in the eyes of some elders, it may be a heinous thing.

    If you reach the right age and don't choose to get married, they will think that you can't get married, or they can't find a suitable match. I like gossip, and what I say is very ugly. There are some people who may genuinely care about you, but there may be some people who are really just there to see the jokes.

    Under normal circumstances, I directly avoid those people in the house. Don't give them any chance to attack me, and don't give them a chance to speak, because that's the only way they won't break in my ears.

    Some people may really care about me, but I really don't have the idea of getting married now, I think it's good to be alone, why do I have to care about other people's thoughts? Maybe when I'm older, I naturally want to find someone to marry, but it's really not the right time, so I'm very disgusted that someone is urging me. I can't offend them, and I can't say anything serious to them, so the only thing I can do is stay away from them.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    First, the attitude is better.

    As the saying goes: pity the parents of the world. Remember, they may be angry with you, and you can't be tough at this time, and you can't argue with your parents, it will make them sad. Either way, they are all for your future to have a good home.

    You should be prepared to always have a good attitude and not let your parents worry about you. Don't rush to get married just because your parents are urging you to get married. Because of the source of the stool for them, they hope that you will have a happy family as soon as possible.

    Don't choose an unsatisfactory marriage in order to satisfy your parents' wishes. So you have to respect your inner feelings and choose your partner well.

    Second, empathy.

    Trilingual communication.

    We should know how to communicate with our parents and express our inner thoughts. Many times, in the face of our parents' urge to get married, we will choose to run away, so that our parents don't know what we think. So, when parents talk about this topic, we should tell them what they think and why we are not married yet.

    You need to let your parents know what you think and what you plan for the future, and you need to take a positive approach to your life. If you live like a child, how do parents listen to you when they discuss marriage?

    Fourth, seek foreign aid.

    If the parents are more stubborn, they insist on getting married first and then starting a career. Communication with them is ineffective, we can't convince our parents ourselves, we can find our relatives and ask them to help us convince our parents. Let them communicate with their parents.

    Don't rush to get married. We have our own plans. We will also think about our own marital problems, and let our parents give themselves a period of time to build a foundation, and don't worry too much about ourselves.

    We know what parents think, and we want them to know what we think. With the help of relatives, I am sure that the parents will understand and will not rush to get married.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    After all, many people are getting married at a very late age compared to their parents, and it is normal for parents to urge marriage, so it is good to look at it rationally.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    No way, this one can indeed be hidden, but can you hide for the rest of your life? It can also be said that there is no silver surplus enough to feel like it can be rolled forward, but this can't be used as a reason all the time, and it really makes people feel helpless in the face of their family's Bi Dan urging marriage.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    In this case, you can discuss the situation with your family.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Urging marriage has now become a common thing in the 90s, I have also had such an experience, when I go home for the New Year, there will always be relatives and friends who ask me about my emotional problems, at this time I am always very resistant, because in my opinion, this is not a thing that can be anxious, and they will be very anxious as soon as they urge me. As for why young people are urged to get married, I think there are the following reasons: first, the problem of social interaction, most young people nowadays are busy with work, and there are fewer opportunities to really meet new people, and there is less time; The second point is that young people are generally reluctant to get married, and marriage is also a relatively stressful thing in the eyes of young people.

    What would you do if you were urged to get married?

    First of all, you can talk to your parents and talk about your inner thoughts about marriage, the thinking of the parents' generation is actually different from the thinking of the young generation, and the pursuit is also different. If you have been urged to marry many times, you can talk to your parents and say that you don't want to marry someone hastily, but want to really meet the person who willingly wants to get married. It's not because you want to get married and you go to someone, but because you meet someone who wants to get married.

    Such a marriage is a happy one.

    It is reasonable for parents to be worried, and they should also be concerned about marriage, and some children have some small rebellions even when they reach the age of marriage, and the more parents urge, the more they do not look for them, in fact, this is not right. There is some truth in the words of parents, and they hope that their children will get married and that they will reap happiness as soon as possible, and they can take care of each other, which is also a kind of reassurance for parents for their children. 25 years old is also the age to consider marriage, if you don't have a suitable marriage partner at the age of 30, then you may panic.

    So listen to your parents and consider your life's events, not a blind date, but take the initiative to find it, and what you strive for is the best.

    Marriage is actually not terrible, what is terrible is not marrying the right person.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Take the initiative to express your views on marriage to your parents. Explain your plans for marriage to your parents and give them peace of mind.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Personally, I think that the best way to deal with your parents' urging you to marry is to find a partner as soon as possible.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I have also encountered urging marriage, you told your family that you have not found someone to marry with you, and if you meet someone who will get married, don't enter the marriage because of the family's urging.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    I just want to understand more, and my parents are for my own good, so that's it. You just have to be good, you can just wait slowly.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    How can you say it, the road is your own du, and there is no way for others to control you how you want to go. The most important problem is your version.

    Can you withstand the pressure. It is really distressing to be urged to marry, and I have no direction at all, and I am about to get married inexplicably. It feels ridiculous. So your best bet is to have a stable job. Then do Tai Chi with your family.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Your mother is also for your good, understand her intentions.

    For women, this age is indeed wonderful.

    The only way now is that you should go out to work and leave your parents, that is, for a while, and not be around them every day.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Afraid of being blind date, your mother is afraid that you will go out, it should be afraid that you will be deceived by bad people outside, you can go to your relatives first, which should give your mother a sense of security.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    I see that there is a good boy and I will contact it!

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Live according to your ideal lifestyle and communicate well with your family.

    It's normal to urge marriage at this age.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    At the age of 21, when you are still the best of your youth, you should work hard for your career and make yourself better.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Either find a job, or find a better man to marry.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Marriage is a lifelong event. It's better to go with the flow.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    How old is it to be my girlfriend.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    In the concept of the elderly, children to the age of marriage leave then have to get married, if you do not get married, will urge you to get married, this is the general mother's psychology, so we have to learn to understand the mother's painstaking work, so that our family will become harmonious, in the process of mother's urging marriage, you can choose to communicate with your mother, from the root of the problem to the problem. One: learn to communicate in the family relationship, the most important thing is communication, when you communicate, the relationship between each other will be promoted, but also go to the root to solve the problem.

    Many young people will feel that there is a generation gap with their mother, and they will choose to escape, in fact, this approach is not right, because you don't communicate, it will lead to the anxiety of your parents, so you have to communicate with your parents, let them know your inner thoughts, so that your mother will understand youWhen you understand, you will not urge marriage, and this kind of life will become more comfortable.

    Two: learn to borrow a lot of times, when you can't face your mother's urging to marry, you can choose to talk to your dad about your emotions, let dad persuade mom, dad's words will be much better than your words, when you talk to dad, you must tell your true thoughts, so that dad will understand you, will help you to intercede with mom, if you choose not to say, then dad will not understand you, which will lead to both parties urging marriage, you will become more troubled,So you can ask your dad to mediate between you and your mom.

    Three: learn to understand that many parents are for the good of their children, only when their children become a family, their burden will be put down, which requires you to be able to understand your mother's approach, only understand, you will not be so troubled, the mood will become particularly comfortable, between people, the most important thing is to understand, understanding can resolve many contradictions, so that the family will become more harmonious,When you understand your mother, your mother will also understand you, so that both parties will come to an agreement and make the family more harmonious.

    Everyone will encounter various conflicts in the family, which requires us to be able to deal with them calmly, so that our family will become more happy.

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