What should I do if I am always haunted by the absurdity of the past?

Updated on psychology 2024-06-26
20 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    I don't think the boss has integrity in what he says, and you don't need to be angry, so you can only sulk by yourself, which is not good for your health. The boss regards 100 yuan as more important than integrity, so that he will gradually lose many friends, and even have an impact on his career, and slowly no one will deal with him. But you have to have the magnanimity of a man, regardless of the small details, in order to become a great tool.

    You have to think about it, and always thinking about small things will have an impact on your future, so no matter what unhappy things you encounter in the future, as long as you have past, you don't have to think about it again. You remember the little things, and if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Let the past pass in advance, turn a new page and you will feel that the front is good, and you are always entangled in the past, and the past is gone. What's the point of dwelling on it? Have the courage to face the future, and everything in the future is beautiful.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    You are obsessed with the past, which means that you are not really greedy, but just confused for a while, the matter has passed, you don't have to worry about it anymore, as long as you are honest in the future, down-to-earth, and a person with a clear conscience.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Let him pass the past, after all, we live in the present, and you will only make yourself unhappy if you dwell on it like this. Just don't make that mistake again in the future!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Always dwelling on the past is comparing with yourself This situation is really not worth suggesting that the past is in the past You have to learn to let go of it It is also a fulfillment for yourself.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It shows that he has not yet stepped out of the shadow of absurdity, and those who have left a shadow in their hearts must come out of this shadow.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    What should I do if I am always haunted by the past?

    Then you have to learn to forget, let the past pass, no matter how much you linger, it will not have any effect, because it is the past after all, you have to look forward to your future, hope that the future will be better is what you should do now.

    Usually at home, you can listen more**, read more books, chat more with friends, and exercise your body! Keep yourself busy and have no spare time to think about the past.

    The most important point is that if you are still dwelling on the past, you should always remind yourself, because after all, it is the past, and it is useless for you to take it to heart, it is better to learn to let go. Let go of some things that don't need to be put in your heart, as long as your heart is full of sunshine, there is nothing that you can't pass, let go of your heart and relax, then your body is also better, so why not?

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    In fact, many people say it is light, but in their hearts they are still haunted by the past things, and they can never forget it. Especially for things like feelings, it is said that emotional wounds are difficult to heal. It is true that anyone who has given their hearts will see that everything they have paid has no results.

    It's sure to be hard to forget. It's not that a person is there to love the old love, but the really profound thing is engraved in his bones, and it is not easy to erase it.

    First of all, learn to let go of those past stories. Give yourself a certain amount of time, about two or three days, not too long. If you tell yourself that I will forget those things for about ten years or something, such a promise is too meaningless, so give yourself a shorter time, and then in these few days, you can remember those things that you can't forget, and then you have to make up your mind to choose to forget, don't hesitate at this time, otherwise you will always fall into it.

    You definitely don't want to see such a result, and it's really painful to forget each other but not forget.

    Second, I think it's about diverting your attention from your feelings and looking at other things in the world. I think traveling is a great way to forget a lot of things on the road. You will understand that people are not just stuck in the past, but also learn to look to the future, release their minds, and feel the world's touch on your soul with your heart.

    You'll feel like you're wasting time on something you didn't know about the past, so why not take your own steps and appreciate the emotion of something else.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    - People who dwell on the past and worry about the future often squander the present.

    I don't know if you have ever had such an experience, accidentally got into trouble, and the result is still on the occasion where many people are there. Or in front of a leader, a teacher, or someone who has always wanted to make a good impression.

    If you react smartly, you can save the scene and make embarrassment a humorous self-deprecation appreciated by everyone.

    But not everyone is diligent in thinking and quick to react. I can't save the scene, but it's hard to put down.

    The same goes for it. I made a mistake and made the wrong choice. Lost what was supposed to be gained. Or it is the fault of others that causes you to be hurt, but you think it is your own fault, and you can't let go of yourself and can't forgive yourself.

    So it became a moldy seed, buried deep in the heart. Depression.

    It doesn't have to be that way. One older leader said that young people just care too much about what others think of themselves, and they don't know that no one is going to spend more than 10 minutes paying attention to others.

    Sometimes we think that the wrong things are bigger than the sky, and after others laugh at them, they have already forgotten about it. Only we are still haunted.

    It's better to put it down and let it go with the wind. Don't be too harsh on yourself, and don't punish yourself for the mistakes of others.

    I have a friend who is beyond my reach, and it is also the attitude of life that I have always wanted to learn.

    She is naturally the kind of person who is good at controlling her emotions, no matter how big the matter is, she will only stay in her heart for a while, since she is not ready to die, she must learn to accept herself, and only after admitting that she is a ghost thing, can she live comfortably.

    you can not suffer the future or the past because they do not exist. what you are suffering is your memory and your imagination.

    You can't hold back because of a future or past that doesn't exist. What you suffer is your memory and your imagination.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If you will be haunted by the past, then what you can do is to make yourself busy, and if you are busy with more things, you will slowly become less concerned about the past, and you must understand that you will not change anything, and the things you should be responsible for will always exist, and you can't give the pot to others.

    In the six months since I failed to start a business, I have been regretting my choice, what would have been the result if I hadn't chosen it this way. After thinking about it, I felt unbalanced and annoyed, so I started drinking, smoking, and then another day of inaction. I often ask myself, if I had listened to the persuasion at the beginning, if I didn't take out a loan when I didn't have enough money, would it be a different result?

    But this is just a complaint of oneself and does not help things in the slightest.

    In such days, I have passed more than half a year, the loan has not been resolved, but I owe a lot of money to many trusted friends, although there are still many friends behind me who are supporting me, although I can't share it with me, but at least I can ensure that I have enough to eat, and I am also in their care, slowly coming out. Also, all the debts are slowly decreasing, and I think I will be able to pay them off completely by the time I turn 40.

    After you figure it out, do anything, as long as it is not an obvious violation, after contacting the Internet, the channels are wider than before, which can keep you busy and make yourself really busy as a dog. At the same time of work, receive new knowledge and new things as much as possible, so that your promotion has material and your efforts are valuable.

    As long as you get busy, all the worries will become motivation at work, so that you can solve things and slowly give yourself a better life.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It's not worth it to always dwell on the past because of the past. It is to punish the present self with the mistakes of the past, we should look forward, and let the past pass.

    Things from the past have happened and cannot be changed. Both good and bad are history. All that should be left in our memories is happiness and happiness.

    And those unpleasant experiences can be selectively forgotten. This is not an escape, but we should face life more positively, rather than always staying in the shadow of the past.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Hello. A word for you. To let go of others is to let go of yourself!

    Compassion, sympathy, mercy, the average person can do it. Forgiveness is indeed difficult for many people to do.

    I believe that you must have been deeply hurt, maybe others have forgotten, or others don't know and don't realize it, or at that time, you are very embarrassed, sad and sad. I deeply understand your feelings. However, for the sake of your health, I still want to advise you to let go of others and forgive others, in fact, you are letting yourself go!

    Forgive yourself! Let yourself go through this hurdle in your heart!

    You must know that many people who are seriously ill, and even commit suicide, do not let themselves go! Forgiveness and forgiveness are harder than giving than giving! However, it is also more rare!!

    Also, I hope you try to put yourself in your shoes and see where you stand on the other side's side. angle, can you do a little better. Try to understand someone and you won't feel so bad.

    It is fate that people meet each other, and the life of each of us is a particularly rare life journey. I hope that each of us can form a good relationship with the people around us. Life is short, try to do some things in the present, try to settle the cause and effect, and live happily every day!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    In the same way, we are haunted by what we have done wrong. This is due to our self-esteem. The wrong things you did when you were a child will be discovered when you grow up.

    I'm really sorry for the others. Just like me, when I was a child, I used to take the family's money privately. For me when I grew up, every time I think of something, my heart is always tight.

    Maybe that's what it's called dwelling on one thing.

    For the things you like, the people you like. The nostalgia in our hearts. Maybe it's also a feeling of nostalgia.

    In short, this is our nostalgia for the past, and it is not bad to miss the past?

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It can only mean that you are narrow-minded, you must be open-minded, don't worry about everything, and naturally you won't think about the past.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I think it's going to take some time to digest slowly. When you think about it after a while, it's not really a very important thing.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You have to tell yourself the past to let it pass, it's no big deal, enjoy the present, otherwise the present is the future past.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    You should forget the things of the past, don't always think about those things, and let the things of the past pass well.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    There is a saying that let the past pass and let the future pass. You can't always be obsessed with the past, or dwell on the past, because when you dwell on the past, you actually lose the good experience of the present. If you spend a lot of time and effort, you can't change the past.

    Life is always left with helplessness and regret. The past may have influenced you a lot. But still try your best to live the days ahead.

    So try to let yourself go, don't always be your current self and still pay for everything in the past, you've wasted too much time, haven't you!

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Cherish today and look forward to tomorrow. The past is gone, and I believe that the sun will come out tomorrow.

    Always keeping the past in memory is a negative performance, and only looking forward to the future is positive.

    May your life be more exciting!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Just like overcoming a difficult problem, working hard, sometimes it is not possible to go back to the past, and it is necessary to work hard in the present to dilute and make up for the previous mistakes.

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