Is it really stupid to reason with a child?

Updated on parenting 2024-06-03
21 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I don't think it's a stupid behavior, children are at the age when they start learning, and if you don't reason with them well, they will gradually feel that they are doing the right thing and develop bad habits.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    It's not stupid behavior, children also have their own thinking, and they also know that things are good and bad, and they need your guidance. Not only should you reason with your child, but also let him learn from him and set an example by himself.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    How can this be stupid? Children can understand reason, and if you use force to solve problems between children, it may be counterproductive.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I don't think it's stupid, but I think it's an act of respecting children, and I think it's okay to reason with children.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Of course not, but you need to communicate with them in a way that they can understand, and that is the most effective way.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    No, reasoning with a child, although he may not understand it for the time being, but you have to tell him the rules and principles of doing things, and when he grows up, he will be a reasonable person.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think it's really stupid to reason with children, because their minds are still immature, and even if they do, they won't understand it.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Not really! Reasoning with children is a rewarding thing. Children have to know right from an early age. If you don't teach him, how will he know what to do and what not to do.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Not stupid behavior. Because children's world view and ideological outlook are not clear, and there is still a lack of judgment of correct behavior, so when children do wrong, we must guide them correctly, so that children know what is right and what is wrong.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    How can it be, children also have their own thoughts and need to be treated fairly, reasoning with children is actually a very good way to educate, so that they can distinguish between right and wrong, violence cannot solve the problem.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I don't think it's stupid, on the contrary, if you educate children, then you must start from the time of the baby and reason with them.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    When parents communicate with their children, most of them are reasonable, but for children, they can't listen to these truths at all. Just like although we usually understand the truth, but we have no way to do things according to these principles, so some people think that it is very stupid to reason with children.

    When reasoning with children, she actually understands in her heart, just like when we were children, our parents reasoned with us, and we actually knew it, but we just didn't want to believe it, and we didn't even want to think that this truth was true. So it's the same for children, even if they know it, they don't do it. Reasoning with children is actually not a stupid thing, because for educating children, in addition to educating them with reason, it is nothing more than practical things or other education methods, but we are all based on these principles to communicate with children pretend.

    Because of the truth itself, it has a certain persuasive power, but for the child, he is not willing to believe it yet. When a person is sad and angry, he is very reluctant to listen to these great truths, and in the case of adults, in fact, the same. But some parents think that because the child doesn't understand, he doesn't want to listen to these or the truth, so they think it's a very stupid thing.

    But for the child, he needs to know these truths, because in the process of growing up, he will understand that these words are true and correct.

    Many parents use reason to persuade their children, but children will not listen to them at all, basically the left ear goes in and the right ear goes out, and this is the pattern. But we can think about how we can educate our children if we don't reason with them. And these truths themselves need to be understood slowly, so reasoning in the process of educating children is also a part, and it is also necessary to communicate with other education methods.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I don't think it's stupid, children are actually very smart, you can't reason with him very officially, you have to use the language and examples that are acceptable to him, he will be easy to accept!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It's not a very stupid act at all, but it makes the child think very actively, and it will also make the child have a certain language ability.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    No. This is because children should be reasonable in ordinary times, so that children can have a good three views, which is not a stupid behavior.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It's not a stupid act at all, but it can exercise the baby's thinking ability, and it can make the baby better.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    In the past, family education was often a one-word hall for parents, and what parents say, children need to listen to what they say, and there is no room for children to refute it.

    However, modern educational concepts basically pay great attention to the factor of respecting children. Therefore, when many parents are educating their children at home, they often like to constantly reason with their children, rather than forceful control.

    At first glance, reasoning with children seems to be so open-minded and a good way to educate your family.

    However, many parents find that there is no effect after implementing such a reasonable education method for their children, and their children do not listen to it at all, and even have a tendency to become more and more rebellious.

    Why is that? Could it be that "it is not good to give good", and to educate children, it is necessary to deprive children of their dignity and forcibly carry out oppressive education for children?

    Parents love to talk about big truths, but they don't implement it and lack practical operation.

    When many parents reason with their children, they are talking about some big truths, that is, the kind of truth that "everyone understands the truth, but they don't know how to do it".

    Parents only throw beautiful goals to their children, but do not give their children specific steps to implement, which is equivalent to throwing a century-old problem to children.

    Parents think that it is a kind of knowing education for their children, but in fact, this is simply an act that increases the psychological burden of children.

    In addition, some parents also like to talk about empty but meaningless truths.

    Presumably, many people have heard their parents preach such a sermon to themselves, and the feeling at that time was simply hairy and angry.

    It can be seen from this that after hearing the parents' truth, what the children get is not the right guidance, but psychological pressure, and the child's psychological environment gradually has problems, and it will naturally resist the parents' truth, which is manifested as the more reasonable, the more disobedient.

    If the child does not do well, the parents will keep warning and emphasizing the child's mistakes.

    This situation is actually very common in life, and it is also hated by many people. Note that it's not just kids here, almost everyone hates to be affected by this behavior.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    In reality, people often find that reasoning is useless for many children. As parents, we want to use a reasonable way to let children understand what to do and what not to do.

    Why is it that the more you "reason" with your child, the more disobedient your child becomes! The reason may be because of these:

    First, the language is not concise and clear.

    The parents' explanations are too complex and lengthy, and the child is difficult to understand and accept, leading to impatience and resentment. The reasons should be explained clearly and concisely so that the child can easily understand.

    Second, the preaching tone is too heavy.

    Parents habitually preach and nag, making children feel unhappy and bored. It is necessary to reduce the didactic tone and cultivate a peaceful way of communication.

    Third, the reasons are insufficient.

    The parents' explanations are not enough for the child to convince or accept, and it is difficult for the child to agree. Let the child also participate in the discussion, express his or her opinions, and find reasons that are acceptable to both parties.

    Fourth, emotional seizures are out of control.

    Parents lose control of their emotions when explaining their reasons, and resort to criticism, scolding, scolding, etc., which is counterproductive. You should control your emotions and communicate with your child rationally and peacefully.

    Fifth, it is too tough and unreasonable.

    The demands and positions of parents are too tough and do not take into account the feelings and wishes of the child. Reasonable delegation of authority should be given according to the child's age and maturity, so that the child can gradually learn to choose and make decisions independently.

    Sixth, lack of example.

    Parents say one thing and do another, and the attitude when explaining the reason is not in line with the usual way of life. Teach by example, lead by example, and demonstrate the concept through practical actions.

    7. Communication problems.

    Parents lack effective communication with their children and do not know how to listen to their children and express their demands. You should cultivate the habit of communicating with your child to understand each other and be sensitive to each other's feelings.

    Conclusion: If you want your child to understand the reason, parents should be less reasonable verbally and behave in line with the reason, so that the child can understand the reason. That's what education is all about!

    All we can do is to be by our children's side, to see the world through their eyes, to guide them in a way that they can understand, to grow up with them, and to become better parents in teaching and learning.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    <> this problem is not easy to solve simply, because it is not the problem itself, but the way parents and children communicate with each other.

    Children's brains have limited ability to process information, and they struggle to understand overly complex logical relationships. Therefore, when parents list some rules with their children, children sometimes cannot understand them, and naturally they cannot remember them.

    For children, the world is full of mysteries that Mom and Dad have not explored, and they are energetic and always want to try everything in this world. Contrary to what parents think, children can sometimes be "unreasonable" because their brains crave novelty.

    The world of children is very simple, and the emotions they show are full of joy, anger and sorrow. When parents reason with their children, children not only do not listen, but also are suppressed by their parents to their innocent nature.

    Adults often treat children as children, ignore children's feelings and experiences, disrespect children, and fail to understand and trust children from the heart.

    If parents want to communicate better with their children, here are a few things you can try:

    When children have emotions, parents should learn to empathize, listen patiently to their children's needs and feelings, and respect their children's rights and choices.

    Children's brain information processing ability is limited, and parents should give clear and clear instructions so that children can understand and implement them.

    When children show good behavior, parents should give affirmation and encouragement in time, so that children can feel that their efforts and efforts are highly rewarded.

    Parents should lead by example and educate their children with their own words and deeds. What you ask your child to do, you must do it yourself first, so that your child can be convinced and follow the rules.

    In short, parents should learn to understand their children's world and way of thinking, and communicate with their children in an appropriate way, so as to better educate their children and establish a harmonious parent-child relationship.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Reasoning is only one way to communicate, and it doesn't necessarily solve all problems. There are several reasons why a child may be reluctant to be heard:

    1.Age: When children grow up, they are often unable to think and judge things as rationally as adults, and their cognitive and logical abilities are not perfect enough to understand complex concepts or abstract thinking models, so they may not be able to understand the logic behind the truth.

    2.Psychological state: Children sometimes experience anxiety, frustration, anger, and other emotions for a variety of reasons, which may interfere with their thinking and behavior, causing them to be reluctant to listen to reason.

    3.Communication: Every child is a unique individual with different communication styles and preferences. If a parent uses a method that doesn't match the way the stupid child communicates, the child may feel uncomfortable or disgusted.

    4.Trust: A child's trust in their parents or other key people will directly affect whether they are willing to listen to reasoning. If children feel that they are not being respected, understood, and supported, they may perceive their parents' reasoning as criticism or accusation.

    Therefore, when the child is reluctant to listen to the truth, parents need to listen patiently to the child's thoughts and reactions, consider the problem from the child's point of view, and try to use a more attentive and flexible communication style to the child, and establish a good relationship of trust with the child.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    As a parent, you may find that the more reasonable your child is, the more disobedient your child becomes. This situation tends to appear in several ways:

    1.The age of the child: Especially for younger children, they have not yet fully developed the ability to handle complex logic and reasoning. Therefore, trying to communicate with them in a reasonable way can leave them feeling frustrated, incapacitated, and incomprehensible.

    2.Your child's state of mind: If your child is in a state of mood swings, such as being angry, sad, or frustrated, they may become so focused on those emotions that they may not be able to understand what you are explaining.

    In this case, the key to solving the problem is to help the child calm down before trying to reason.

    3.Communication: Parents are reasoning so that their children understand the wrong and correct ways to behave.

    However, sometimes the way of reasoning can be one-way, with parents telling their point of view and ignoring the child's thoughts. This can lead to a feeling of disrespect that can lead to resistance. Trying to involve children in the process of reasoning and fully expressing their opinions is also a way to improve effective communication.

    4.Too much reasoning: Sometimes, the reason why children are disobedient is not because they don't understand reason, but because they don't like to be limited or have too much control over their behavior. In this case, constantly reasoning may make the child more resistant.

    Parents can choose to let go appropriately and let their children face some challenges on their own to enhance their autonomy.

    By adjusting your communication style and methods, as well as paying attention to your child's age, developmental level, and emotional state, you can communicate with your child more effectively and make them more willing to listen to what you have to say.

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