Which customs in the countryside have been vulgarized , but they can t be avoided or avoided?

For example, money with molecules, as well as marriage on happy occasions, these are some bad habits in the countryside, which cannot be avoided, and many people have caused psychological shadows because of these. It even led to terrible consequences.

In the countryside, no matter where it is, the bride price is inevitable for the daughter to marry, and the bride price is not as important as it is now, an electric sewing machine, a bicycle, and a little wedding money will be solved. But now, with the improvement of people's living standards, people's comparison psychology and the existence of bad habits, the bride price has gradually increased. In some areas, the bride price even reached 200,000.

The goal of this is to show that you are stronger than others and have face based on the bride price. But I didn't know that the high bride price caused by this comparison psychology brought a lot of confusion to the man's family, and many lovers were also separated. Even if the two parties fall in love again, no matter how suitable they are, because the man's family can't afford the high bride price, the relationship between the two parties will also end.

When it comes to getting married, it's a happy thing. But in recent years, marriage troubles have also followed, and some vulgar personal behaviors have been posted on the Internet, causing everyone to cry and laugh, and they have no choice but to sigh, what's wrong with this kind of young people? Although it is customary to have a marriage, it should also be appropriate.

Marriage was a happy thing, but it caused misfortune due to marriage troubles.

Money. You must know that when relatives or friends have something to do, everyone will wrap a red envelope, whether it is a good relationship or an occasional person will follow the molecule to express their blessings.

After receiving an invitation, they also attend a banquet, which strengthens the relationship between the host and the guest.

In fact, there is no need to ask whether these customs can be abolished, with the development of society, many cumbersome customs and customs that young people do not like have slowly disappeared. Let me give you a few examples.

1. Some localities have begun to prohibit the use of fireworks and firecrackers during the Chinese New Year in rural areas, saying that it is for the sake of environmental protection. Where even the cannon is not allowed to be put by rural people, there will be a New Year's flavor.

Second, in the past, in the countryside, they liked to do happy events and wine in their own homes, and it took at least two days to be lively, but many places began to make it convenient, and only ordered a Chinese meal in the restaurant, and left after eating, obviously there was no lively atmosphere before.

3. In the past, the Lantern Festival was made before the Lantern Festival in our village, when the lion dance team in the village would go to every household to make trouble, and celebrate it, the main family only needed to prepare tea, snacks and snacks. But now young people are past the beginning of the year.

In the seventh and eighth days, a large number of people went out to work, and the older generation of lion dance teams had no successors, and now they can't get together at all, and even if they do, many of them can't play, so they can only watch these local customs disappear (the old ones can't play, and the few don't want to learn).

Fourth, in the past, August 15 was also a time for the whole family to reunite, and the whole family sat together to taste fruits, eat moon cakes and admire the moon. What now? Can there be a few young people who work outside the home who will give up their jobs and go back to spend the Mid-Autumn Festival with the elderly and children, and the main labor force in the family will not go home (everyone has a hard time, there are too many scoundrels), is it still a reunion?

In short, now the society is developing, but many of our old traditions are slowly disappearing, in the past, the rural New Year was a bunch of people chatting around the bonfire, now everyone has a mobile phone to entertain themselves。According to the society, many local characteristics and customs can only be slowly submerged in the torrent of social development, and the atmosphere of traditional festivals is less and less felt. In fact, in today's rural areas, most people are greedy for convenience, including ourselves, so the customs are slowly disappearing.

No. Because some customs do not affect people's daily biochemistry, forcibly canceling them will cancel the bad effect.

Personally, I think that some of these customs can be canceled, but for some customs with teaching significance, they should not be canceled, after all, they are left by their ancestors.

It is not advisable to cancel some cumbersome customs in the rural areas, and it is precisely because of the existence of those customs that we can experience the long history and some customs of the Chinese nation.

You can't get a haircut, you can't take a bath, you can't wash your hair. To visit a sick person, you should go in the morning, not in the evening. As well as small children can not use their fingers to the moon. These customs are unacceptable and disgusting.

There is a custom in our place that a married daughter cannot spend Chinese New Year's Eve in her mother's house, which is the most difficult thing for me to accept, and divorced people have to go outside to rent a house for Chinese New Year's Eve, which is pitiful when you think about it.

Marriage troubles are unacceptable and somewhat disgusting, and they often do some unkind actions to the woman, such as pulling the woman and saying some impolite things to the woman.

Feudal superstitions in the countryside. Because of backward thinking, many people have caused serious consequences because of feudal superstition, causing harm and bad influence to themselves and their families.

In recent years, with the rapid development of the country, people's lives are getting better and better. However, there are also some people who have formed some comparisons and some bad customs because their lives are getting better and better. In recent years, the country has also cracked down on the bad habits of comparison and rural areas, let's take a look at some of the bad habits!

1.Banquet. I don't know very well in other places, but let's talk about the situation in a mountain village in my hometown of Chongqing: in our place, you don't do anything a year, and you have to spend more than 10,000 yuan of "share money" (more than 20,000 yuan if you go wider)! A production team, the team next door, etc., as long as it is a little bit of relatives and relatives, they have to go, trace the ancestors for several generations, every "ten years old" must do, today is not this sprinkle banquet, tomorrow is that family, the molecular money is the least 100 yuan; In the past, it was the old man who was 60 years old before he began to hold banquets, and there were white things and marriages (regardless of marriage).

Now it's good to start doing it when you are old, and even if you have children over 10 years old, you can do it when you are 10 years old, full moon, 1 year old, etc., as long as you seize the opportunity, you won't let it go! Just because I once wanted to resist such a bad habit, there were a few times when I didn't go to people's drinking banquets, guess what? If you touch it, you won't be able to look at it well!

Sweat! Now ** is suppressing this vice, but the effect is not obvious.

2.Compare the wind.

Nowadays, the trend of comparison in the countryside is very serious, and basically every household is going to compare for the sake of face. For example, many people who work outside the home like to rent luxury cars to go home for the New Year to save face. All kinds of comparisons, endlessly.

3.Bride price. My piece is fine. But some customs in other places can't be understood, the bride price is tens of thousands of thousands, whether you are married or buy or sell! The funniest thing is:

The man borrowed tens of thousands of dollars in order to get married, and the woman repaid the debt together after marrying! Shouldn't marriage be based on feelings?

4.Succession.

I found that many people were born to "perpetuate the incense"! I have never seen the size of the mountains and rivers, the strength of the snow-capped mountains, the breadth of the sea, the breadth of the desert......I don't have any family business, and I'm still a parent (I have a female classmate, we were learning computers at the beginning, and when we met again ten years later, I found that she couldn't even shop online at TB)! Children grow up in such an environment and think about it, they know the result, for example, we were born in the countryside, and the starting line is not one or two!

5.Patriarchal.

This problem is not limited to rural areas! However, the disparity in education is even more severe in rural areas. "My family business is very big, our family's genes are very good, how can it be feasible to inherit without a descendant (referring to boys)?

Besides, I have to rely on him to support my old age when I am old", but the reality is ......You can't even give you a good growth environment, and you still expect to provide for your old age!

Do such bad habits still exist in your hometown, friends? Do you think this bad habit is still necessary?

For example, the phenomenon of preference for sons over women, as well as the phenomenon of holding banquets, is considered a bad habit, because the current society advocates equality for all, and the status of women should be improved.

Strange customs include: first, if there is a newlywed or a boy in the family last year, they will worship the "master" during the Lantern Festival;

Second, during the Mid-Autumn Festival, you should also worship the "Moon Niang", mainly fruits and moon cakes;

3. If an elderly person dies in the family, he will beat gongs and drums to send the old man to the earth for peace.

I think it's a bad habit to worship the "master" when you give birth to a boy, and I feel a bit patriarchal.

I think gossip needs to be eliminated urgently, and it's really bad to gossip about others, maybe this kind of people can be found everywhere, but there are more in the countrysideAnd it's the kind of people who get together and discuss others together, may be passable on the surface, but behind the scenes, they will say some whispers, and it is like the kind of person who has a good relationship with many people, and will discuss it in private, not the kind of good friend who digs out his heart and lungs, and discusses those people with these two people today, and tomorrow with those people to discuss these people today, it is too common.

I think watching jokes needs to be eliminated urgently, and today let's see who his family quarreled with for what, what happened to his daughter, who did he have a partner, whose daughter wore that way in the words of the older generation, it was too unstable, and whose daughter's hairstyle was too old, like an old woman, too mature, whose husband was too lazy to do anything, whose family had so much grass in the field, and it was not good to deal with it, their family is like this, not capable people.

I think love to take advantage of small advantages is urgently eliminated, and some things really don't goFor the sake of such a little money, my brother and good friend can go to court,On the way home today, I saw that their leeks were good, and I also cut a little, and he also cut a little, and you said that you didn't cut much, and the water dripped through the stones, and this was a crop that people wanted to sell for money, There are also some characters who say that he will cut a little bit of this dish when he gets old if he doesn't eat it, and if he says to eat, let me go to the field to get it, you go to two ends in three days, and people don't let you finish eating!

Finally, I would like to say that this is probably some of the bad behaviors I see and is not representative of all rural areasSome people are still very good, simple and kind, conscientious, and these bad habits are not only found in rural areas, but also in many peopleSo I didn't target anyone, I just talked about some of the things I knew, and I wanted each of us to reflect ourselves first when we talked about others, starting with me, of course.

I think the most important place to replace in the countryside is the mahjong parlor, many unemployed homeless people often get together to gamble, endangering the social atmosphere, this is definitely a bad habit in the countryside.

Messy banquets, this is quite a hateful thing, it is simply to collect other people's money at will, it is best not to allow wine, there is nothing to eat as a family, there is no need to extravagant and waste the banquet.

Nowadays, many rural people are still more patriarchal, and they still want a high bride price, this bad habit should be eliminated, and then a new beginning.

It's a middle-aged woman in the countryside who especially likes to gather together and say bad things about some people behind her back. I think the impact is particularly bad.

I think the bad habit of marriage trouble should be eliminated, I really don't understand what the benefits of this custom are, and it's not fun at all.