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If you love him and can't let go of him, you can take him as one of your goals, try to slowly change his unmotivated behavior, of course, the process may be much more difficult than you think, he may misunderstand that you are deliberately finding fault with him, and even attack or hurt you, so if you really want to change him, then you have to plan for the worst, and you need to have perseverance and determination to influence him, let him know that you are helping him, for his own good, otherwise it's better to break up, Because he will definitely not be able to give you happiness and a future if he continues like this, even if you are not responsible for him, at least you must be responsible for yourself and your own future

There are two paths to take.

1.Break up Gradually, I only care about his shortcomings, slowly start to hate him, and then forget him.

2.Help him become more motivated.

As for which path to choose, it depends on your feelings for him......

Remember: you are going to live with him in the future. One can fail, but not without an enterprising spirit. Play, you will play and get into trouble.

If you want to marry him, do you think he can take on the responsibilities of a husband?

If you are just a young man now, then play fearlessly, it is good that Founder can make you happy! 1

It's not just for your own sake

Unmotivated people can't make it, and fun can't be eaten.

Then you have to ask yourself, how do you want to develop with him in the future?

It depends on whether you feel that you can't see hope in him, it's normal for a guy to have nothing at first, but if it's really a long time later, if he is not motivated at all, I really have nothing to say. At this time, you should consider giving up, because you do not see your future, you do not see hope, and you only feel endless darkness in him. It's really not a good thing for you that your boyfriend doesn't do his job, you don't dislike him for being poor, you can put up with everything about him, but if he doesn't do his job for a long time, and even a big man has to rely on you to support him, I really think you can consider breaking up, this kind of man, what do you want him to do, do you still have to support him?

Looking for a boyfriend, isn't it just to find someone who can take care of himself, who will feel sorry for himself, and who can fight together for the future of the two of you? If there is really nothing, then what are you looking for him, it is better to live alone and live a chic life. And your youth is limited, you can't waste all your time on someone who is not worth your waste, time is very precious, especially your youth is more precious, because after so many years, you really don't have any capital.

It's better to think about it, you don't have to be like this now, he is not the only one in this world, you can find a better one, so you should think about it, at least for the sake of your future, you have to think about your future.

The girl's family should think about it for herself, after all, it has been a year since she graduated, and you should know your boyfriend well, so think about your future by yourself.

1. Don't rush to do multiple-choice questions in advance, choose or give up. Think about what your heart really wants.

Do you want a house, or a warm home? Do you want a boyfriend with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, or do you want a self-motivated boyfriend?

Partner? You need to touch the essentials, instead of quantifying success, self-motivation, and being good to yourself as having a car and a house, a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, and sending Gucci.

If, after picking out these qualities, you find that none of them can be matched, then ask yourself why you still like them.

Your boyfriend is very nice, very honest, and obedient to you.

If you tell yourself this, then I will tell you that there are many people in this world who are nice, honest, and obedient to you, and if you give up on him, you may meet even better.

So if you don't match, you break up, the values are very difficult to change, and it's better to break up now than to divorce later.

But if you're worried that you'll never meet such a man again, then you need to think about whether there are other qualities in him that attract you, or if you are too insecure.

3. Since you can improve your material life through your own efforts, then you can also make yourself more confident through your own efforts, and a sense of security men will give you, but it is more important to have a strong heart to be able to have enough security for yourself.

4. Communicate well with your boyfriend, after all, your boyfriend is obedient to you, loves you in every way, and with your loving efforts, allow him to improve you little by little, and he will definitely do better than before.

For example, study with him, encourage him when he is tired, and say that after watching for a while, I will give you a small gift tomorrow.

Wow, if you are promoted, then I will fulfill your wish and so on, and use encouragement and praise to let him grow in love.

If you're right on your boyfriend right now. If you have an opinion that he is not self-motivated, then you should talk to him, because you continue to associate if you are with each other. If the grievance accumulates over a long period of time, it will affect the relationship between you.

Maybe after you said it, he will change himself and fight for your future. If you don't say with the accumulation of your discontent. Your feelings will also be hurt.

It's better to solve it.

Definitely going to talk to him. You are boyfriend and girlfriend, mutual understanding and mutual help should be, if he forms this kind of unmotivated behavior, after a long time, it will be difficult to correct, while you are young, change it, it is the beginning of your happy life.

Of course, you should say it to your boyfriend and urge him to stay motivated with a positive attitude, since the two of you are already a couple who are already in a relationship, then it is normal and appropriate to put forward to him what you expect from him.

The most important thing between boyfriend and girlfriend is to communicate with each other, if you feel that your boyfriend is not motivated, you should communicate with him well.

No matter how strong the wind is and how wild the rain is, you can't stay in bed! No matter how tired you are, no matter how busy your heart is, don't lose your dreams! No matter how high the mountain is, no matter how long the road is, we must move forward!

To work hard, don't forget the days when there is no umbrella in the heavy rain, a person is drenched in the rain, running and growing, and swaying the sweat of youth. A bird standing on a tree is never afraid of a branch breaking, because it does not believe in branches. So don't give up the struggle, no one will help you for a lifetime, relying on yourself is the most secure.

People really have to work hard and fight for themselves, because only if you have enough strength, your principles and bottom line will be respected, and once you make achievements, the whole world will be kind to you. There are no grievances in vain in this world, everything is cause and effect. You must have the ability to self-correct and repair, self-redeem and restart, in order to be your own ferryman silently.

Remember: when no one is there to help you, stand up straight, and when no one is to help you, work on your own. Believe in yourself, as long as you are brave enough, there is no hardship that you can't get through.

Difficult. Use your youth to fight for the future, high-rise buildings from the bottom, you have to rely on yourself for glory, learn to rely on yourself, you will live a beautiful life. If you break out of your own world, you will smile beautifully, learn to rely on yourself, and rely less on others, and you will be more strong.

You're going to see this at the beginning. People who are not self-motivated and get by, even if you tell him, you are indifferent.

You can be tactful and motivate, not too direct, otherwise it will hurt each other's feelings.

If you can't say anything, then what level of relationship are you?

You can try to talk to him about the future. See how he reacts.

It's good to communicate. What kind of life do you want from each other and finding your common goals will give you the motivation to live. The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratory.

The question is, do you think he can change?

Either accept him or leave him.

Keep up with the lack of self-motivation.

's boys are together, in fact, it's not so scary, of course, the premise is that there is a high probability that you need to endure poverty. Although self-motivation makes life hopeful, it also has sequelae.

When you're tired, you're in a bad mood. You can't hold bricks when you carry them, and you can't move bricks when you hold them. That's life.

Actually, it's pretty scary. But as long as you are responsible and loving, you can be very happy.

Two people together, if one person is running and the other is climbing, the person who climbs will ask you to wait for him, why are you running so fast? Waiting to be reincarnated? So you slow down, and over time you get used to crawling with him, and after climbing for a long time, you suddenly find that your friends around you are already flying, and you will be psychologically unbalanced, thinking about how you were still running back then.

But what about the person who climbed, not only did he climb happily and slow down your pace, but he also complained that you didn't know how to run at that time, why are you still crawling now that everyone else can fly? You are indignant in your heart, didn't you ask me to wait for you in the first place? He's starting to hate you for being unproductive.

So the key question is not whether he can climb or not, whether you want to climb with him in the future, or whether you want to fly higher and higher.

The ex-boyfriend is not particularly self-motivated, how to say it, the two of them will always stand still together. I am a person who needs to be pushed forward by others, so I am with him to get by and have no pressure and no motivation, but problems will slowly appear, for example, when we face the problem of being in a different place, he still chooses to stand still, no plan and no action, the two of us can't reach a consensus, from no pressure to huge pressure, and then break up and ......

At first I would think "Oh my God, I'll never be able to catch up with him, I'm so tired", but now I'm still under pressure, but I think I must work hard, I want to catch up with him, and I can't hold back. Two people moving forward together, even if it is hard, it is better than standing still together and regretting it.

Guys are not self-motivated, if you are with such a boy, you will become irritable or confused, so when your boyfriend is not self-motivated, as a girlfriend, you have to encourage him and make him positive!

With such a boy, you will not see any hope, and it feels like the whole world has no color.

With such a guy, you will feel very tired, and you will also feel that life is particularly tight, so I suggest that you should break up immediately and find a more suitable person. A good love should be excellent for both parties.

I think it's a very devastating thing to be with an unmotivated man, he doesn't want to go to work or make a lot of money, he's lazy every day and just wants to play, this kind of man is not suitable for marriage.

I think it's going to be very tiring, and if you don't have a good life after getting married, these guys are generally lazy and won't share the housework with you after they get married.

Being with such an unmotivated man will be very tiring, and you will also have a lot of pressure, which will make you not only care about your own life, but also worry about him, which is particularly tiring and stressful.

It's insecure to be with such a man, and you need to do everything in life yourself, and you also have to take on the responsibility of providing for your family.

I think you will be very happy with such a man. Never seek to improve, and his material life will not be guaranteed. Affect the feelings of two people.

I think you feel tired with guys like this and feel like there's no hope in life.

It's a man, and not being self-motivated is the biggest disadvantage. Raw sex. The scale of the nail.

It's not the other thing at all.

It can only be said that it looks good.

This is not in a hurry, when he encounters real responsibility, he will naturally have self-motivation and a sense of responsibility, and a man will only show his manhood when he encounters difficulties, I wish you happiness.

If my boyfriend is not motivated, he will break up if he wins, after all, if a man is not motivated, it will have a great impact on the future life of a family. And for a man, if he is not self-motivated, then it means that there will be no change in the future work, and even the man's income is like this, but for young people who have pursuits, there may be some people who compromise, but for people who like to work hard, it should be unacceptable to such a man.

When choosing a boyfriend, in fact, they will choose each other after considering many aspects, and they will also be attracted to each other because of some characteristics of the other party. But when you fall in love, you may not pursue that the other party must be self-motivated, but if you want to marry the other party, then if the other party is not self-motivated, this should be more difficult for a family.

And for many girls, especially those who work very hard at work, if they have an unmotivated boyfriend, then when the two are together, it is actually easy to cause conflicts. Especially for unmotivated men, once others say that their girlfriend is better than themselves, then the boy will have no face.

If the bill can't, unmotivated boys will like it, but they just like it. And marriage for a girl, not only love, marriage is life, and it needs to live in reality. So if you meet a boy who is not self-motivated, then it is better to give up as soon as possible.

However, the reason why some boys are not self-motivated is actually because of family or personal relationships, if a girl can make an unmotivated boy work hard, then this is also where girls are great。For people who originally wanted to live a dull life and had no pursuit of life, they may think that the current life is very good, but such people do not match their own values, even if they are reluctantly together, they will eventually part ways.