How does it feel to find out that a friend who was not as good as you is now better than you?

I will definitely be a little disappointed if I find this situation, but I will be more motivated to work hard and strive to become better.

People of the same age, not to mention those who get rich, most of the current situation is basically at least to drive a small car to and from work, and the children have a reassuring grandmother, a decent job, and a salary. No matter how bad it is, they all have a monthly salary of 5000-7000. And his greatest achievement is still taking care of children.

I am very weak-hearted. I used to be a college graduate and work in a coastal city, and I was as free and easy as my peers who I envy now. Now he is staying in a small eighteenth-tier city, guarding his children, planning for his children, and looking forward to finding a job when he is older and sent to kindergarten.

It is also fixed in the small county town of the 18th parallel. Very weak-hearted, very weak-hearted, seeing the achievements of peers, it is basically very embarrassing, but no matter how embarrassed you are, you can only silently comfort yourself, and when the child is older, then slowly develop, slowly develop.

It's a bit of a dog's eye to look down on people, and all of a sudden others are better than themselves.

Friends have achievements, naturally sincerely happy and blessed, someone to share with you on the way to achieve the bits and pieces, is a great joy of life. On the other hand, if your life is ordinary and uneventful, you will feel a little depressed and unwilling, and you will always want to change something.

Regarding this issue, I personally think that most people will not be very happy if they suddenly find that the so-and-so around them is much better than they imagined. Because the heart of comparison between people will cause people's jealousy to rise unconsciously from their hearts. In fact, the comparison between people has never been interrupted since ancient times, especially when comparing with the people around them, intentionally or unintentionally, perhaps the reason why this is also one of the nature of human beings.

When you are young, you will inevitably compare the accomplished friends around you with yourself, and you will often have a sense of loss that you have not met with talents, especially if you think that some friends are not as good as you, but they are better than yourself, and you will even be depressed and resentful.

When you find that your friends around you are more accomplished than you, you should know how to appreciate others and find out your own shortcomings. Things in the world are constantly changing, and while appreciating others, we also give ourselves encouragement and spur to make ourselves grow.

I think your heart will definitely be very uncomfortable at this time, you will feel very uncomfortable with this gap between you, after all, he was inferior to you before, but now he is better than you. At this time, your heart will definitely be very unbalanced.

It's getting older and it's here.

At the age of fifty or sixty, they look down on it and look away, and they don't want to compare it anymore, feeling that it doesn't matter who is strong or weak, it's all a passing thing. It is important to have a good body, live your own life, and be happy.

I was very lost in my heart, and even had some inferiority complex, feeling that I was useless, and then worked hard.

The feeling is, everyone is better than me now, why am I not angry like this? No, I have to work hard to stop messing around like this.

Everything has a reason, and achievements have to be paid, but the content, form, and time of the payment are different, for example, some families have a background, which is often the contribution of other people's previous lives. When you understand and adapt to society, you can calm down.

If I do have this situation, I will feel a little inferior, and then I will get angry and try hard to surpass him.

Finally, they have something to eat, and they don't have to come here to cook for them.

If it's a very good friend, it doesn't feel ordinarily good, and it's a proud thing to have a friend who is better than yourself, and if you don't understand something, you can also ask nearby, learn, and even rely on it. If the relationship is average, or in his eyes, I am not a good friend, then I will not feel too good, and I will even become his foil. ‍‍

To be honest, the feelings are very complicated, sometimes I feel very proud, I have such a powerful friend, sometimes I can't control myself from being jealous. I have such excellent friends around me, and when I hear others praise my friends, I feel proud, proud, and feel that I am so good, and I will work hard and upward, and I will also infect and motivate myself. But I am also jealous sometimes, why should I be jealous?

Because the excellent friends around me are the so-called "other people's children", other people's children will inevitably be compared with me, parents said: Look at who you are not playing well with him, why haven't you learned the advantages of others. The teacher will say:

You have to learn from whoever you want, and play so well with him. There are also some unfamiliar people who will compare with us, and no matter how hard I try, I can't surpass it, and when I can't catch up, I will be jealous and unhappy, but I can control my emotions, and these bad emotions are only temporary. ‍‍

Personally, I can do everything in life, and I am fast at work, but I know that I have a problem, that is, laziness, but I also have an advantage, that is, I can hide, although I can do everything, but I never interfere in other people's affairs. And my friends around me, I don't know that I'm so hilarious, and we get along very well, I will ask people when I don't work, and they will also ask me some questions, in life, at the same time, if there is a broken water pipe at home, the electric is broken, they will ask me for help, if I have time I will go, if there is no way. However, for some friends, if the friend is too good, it is not too good, especially the friend who likes to show off, the best thing for everyone is to ask him less for help, because the friend is too playful, which will make you very stupid. ‍‍

From a personal point of view, I think that at all stages of life, there will be friends who have been in business, seeking common ground while reserving differences, and the rest are really good friends, who are more or less better than themselves in all aspects. When I was a child, if I had such a friend around me, I would be surrounded by many children who wanted to play with him, and there may be jealousy in my young psychology, because I have taken away everyone's attention, maybe there is pride, because I am my friend, maybe there is competition, because I want to be that kind of person. Grow up, there are such friends around you, learning morality is better than yourself, such people are the pride of parents, the achievements of teachers, the role models of classmates, learning good will take excellent people as a yardstick, to progress with him, do not like to learn that such people only know learning, do not mingle with those who love to play, jealousy and do not like to be mixed.

When you become an adult, such a person at work will have your own psychological advantages, and you will be confident in doing anything, if such an excellent person is often showing off her skills, it will bring pressure to the people around you, because she is better than others, and the high-end excellent people are more respectable when they are low-key, this kind of person has their own aura, and they are as stable as Mount Tai, and they do not change their face when they encounter problems, if you have such friends around you is really a happy thing, they will give special reasonable advice and proper methods when encountering problems and difficulties. There are people outside the people, there are heavens outside the sky, there are mountains outside the mountains, a mountain is higher than a mountain, and the waves rise from layers of pine waves. ‍‍

I think it's good, because there is a saying that "like gathers like", and if your friends are very good, you won't be far behind.

Probably I don't want to have an intersection with him, and I am reluctant to lose contact with him, every day and every moment I get along with him at the beginning, it will make me feel inferior, why, he is so tall? Why is he so good-looking? Why is he more successful than me?

Why am I inferior to him in anything? Slowly, there is a denial of the self. However, if I break off contact with him, I will find such a good friend to replace him?

Even if there is a substitute, I will still have low self-esteem and self-denial, but if I never intersect with someone better than myself, I will deceive myself with hypocritical illusions, and I will be good enough. Then, I can only wander at the foot of the peak of life in my life, and then after getting along for a long time, I figured out that instead of self-pity and self-pity every day, it is better to work hard and make myself excellent, maybe the congenital conditions are not as good as him....However, we can try to catch up. He doesn't dislike me badly, so how can I not work hard! ‍‍

If it were me, I would definitely be like him or her, learning the excellent aspects. What you yearn for will be the same, so that you can understand each other and help each other. However, before you were not as good as him, you also had a different sadness in your heart.

Sometimes, like I said, what is your head, so good, if it's my friend, I feel very lucky to have such a good friend. ‍‍