What does it feel like for someone closest to you to pass away?

My favorite husband who has been married for 30 years has passed away, we have been together for 30 years, although there is noise in life, but in addition to my parents, he is the person I love the most, we got married and had a son, a family of three has been immersed in happiness, there is a husband and wife war, there is the love of parents and sons, we have been together happily for 30 years, suddenly 56 years old he did a day's housework in the world, finished the last dinner, washed the rice bowl, read the weather forecast after the last news, stood up and went to the toilet, But he fell silently in the toilet, despite the emergency rescue, but he left silently, his death hit me very hard, I was in pain, even walking to buy groceries felt that I saw him in the crowd, sad tears always couldn't stop flowing, such a mood has been maintained for more than a year, slowly figured it out, he is gone, my son and I still have to live, my son has to start a family, so cheer up, regulate our lives, think of this painful thing, although it has been 5 years, my son has also become a family, I have completed the things that my husband planned when he was reborn, and I want to be happy and find my own life in the following life, people are born and die, and it is necessary to remember him, but I will not live in pain forever. ‍‍

Experiencing the death of a loved one is really a very big blow, and the moment I hear about the death of a loved one, I am about to collapse in my heart, and it is very uncomfortable.

In my second year of junior high school, my father died unexpectedly, and I was sent out of school by the teacher from the evening self-study, this situation was never imagined anyway, when I arrived at the scene, I didn't see my father clearly, and I was in a state where I didn't know what to do at all, I only knew that I saw my mother crying, and my grandmother was also crying, I thought I should cry too, at that time I didn't feel anything, even sadness was not an autonomous emotion, and when it came to the wake, I didn't cry, because I found that whenever I cried, the elders would be uncomfortable, So I found all kinds of reasons to keep the spirit alone, delayed until everyone went to sleep, I counted the time in front of the candle flame, until the dead of night, ran to the field and finally could vent their emotions unscrupulously, crying out when it was so happy, no longer colic, up to now, it has been 7 years, I can talk to anyone generously about my father's death without changing my face, only I know, my heart is forever missing a piece, I have not experienced it and can not understand that kind of regret.

The departure of relatives means that they can never see each other again, all the good and bad, all gone with the wind, remember, only the good of relatives, a long, long time, can not get used to the fact that the person who gets along day and night is gone, for a long, long time, remember, the heart is still painful, so cherish the good time with the elderly parents.

Those we think are closest to us may be our parents, our lovers, our children, or other people we love. But no matter which person we love, there will be a day when we will grow old, when we face their death, our first feeling is that we must not dare to accept but force ourselves to accept such a fact, accompanied by pain and discomfort. That kind of mood may not be able to be experienced by yourself.

I still remember when I was in college, my family was rural, and it was really not easy to be admitted to a university in the countryside, and my grandfather's wish was to have a college student in the family, I was admitted, and my grandfather was very happy, at that time the old man was 82 years old, physically incapacitated, cerebral thrombosis, at that time, I held a banquet at home, and my grandfather was not present, but when I went to him, the old man pulled my reception and said to me, you are the first college student in our Jin family. I was really happy to hear this, the old man had suffered all his life, and finally paid off, but, in my first year of college, my grandfather was gone, gone forever. At 1:45 a.m., my sister called me **, crying and saying that grandpa was gone, I really didn't believe it at the time, I was sleeping, confused, but the second time my sister said that grandpa was gone, I was really blind, and my heart was really clenched in general pain, but I was so helpless, we were more than 400 kilometers apart, it was really painful, very confused.

The death of the dearest person is very painful, the pain cannot be described in words, and I will cry and wake up in my dreams.

From 14 years to this year, in just a few years, I have experienced the departure of three close relatives, the pain is really indescribable, watching them leave, but there is nothing to be done, heart-rending shouts, but the relatives can no longer hear, the whole soul is not kept, tears are like springs, the greatest pain in the world is nothing more than this. Thoughts linger like air, haunting my heart.

Thinking that there will never be such a person who loves him in the future, there is a feeling of losing the whole world.

People enjoy the time of gathering and loving, parents, partners and children will be the most beloved people, the most loved people we bring joy is irreplaceable, some people say, God is always fair, how much happiness He gave you, how much pain will be left when you take it away, the person you love the most, must give us the greatest happiness, and when you lose them, it is time for the pain to begin.

I was 16 years old when my mom died. When he passed away, I was six days away from the high school entrance examination. I was completely overwhelmed, I didn't know what to do, home was still not my home, I was still not me.

Because I'm very tough, I haven't come out of this for a long time. But life has to go on, and the dead don't want you to be like this, live so that the people who care about you won't be sad.

The feeling of distress, crying until there are no tears. In short, it is impossible to describe it with a sadness.

It was very uncomfortable for me, and I also remembered the past.

The older you get, the greater the sadness. It's a scar that I rarely uncover, and after all these years, I still can't forget that day.

If the closest person passes away, this feeling is very painful or unhappy, and then don't think about it too much, okay? If you are around, cherish it, if you are not around, you should miss it, this person always has a time to part, so this feeling is generally more uncomfortable or painful.

If the closest person passes away, this feeling is very painful or unhappy, and then don't think about it too much, okay? If you are around, cherish it, if you are not around, you should miss it, this person always has a time to part, so this feeling is generally more uncomfortable or painful.

In the face of the death of your dearest, sadness is certain, don't reject, face your emotions calmly, hug the sad self in your heart, sadness will always exist, either move forward with the wishes of the deceased and turn it into inner motivation, or don't let yourself be immersed in this one thing all the time, think about whether there is something to do under your hands, whether there is anything you need to complete in the future, accidents and tomorrow I don't know who will come first, cherish your life.

How to deal with the death of the dearest person?

In the face of the death of your dearest, sadness is certain, don't reject, face your emotions calmly, hug the sad self in your heart, sadness will always exist, either move forward with the wishes of the deceased and turn it into inner motivation, or don't let yourself be immersed in this one thing all the time, think about whether there is something to do under your hands, whether there is anything you need to complete in the future, accidents and tomorrow I don't know who will come first, cherish your life.

Second, it is necessary to adapt to the environment in which a loved one has passed away. Loved ones have a unique place in your heart and family, and they will never be replaced, but the bereaved family members will eventually have to adjust to life without them. When we know that some things are irreparable, don't give yourself too much psychological burden, adapt to the new environment as soon as possible, and come out of grief.

Learn to vent your inner pain in moderation. When it's uncomfortable, just cry out, even if you cry secretly in the dark, crying with swollen eyes and hoarse throat, it's better than if you are depressed psychologically. When the pain in your heart is released, you will be much calmer.

When we are sad, we cry and cry, we will shed a lot of tears, this kind of sadness and tears, is the most effective, as long as the sadness can flow naturally in our body, this healing will quickly comfort you.

If you live well, it is equivalent to the continuation of the life of a deceased loved one. When a loved one passed away, his spirit, his voice and smile still reside in your heart and in your memory. You also have the blood of your loved ones in your veins, and as long as you continue to live well, it means that his life is still going on, isn't it?

Almost everyone will suffer the blow of losing a loved one, and the great pain that comes with it, no matter how much we control, how we suppress, how much we deny, it will not go away. From a psychological point of view, the only way to suffer is to face and accept reality. Loved ones will pass away, but love will not be lost, as long as you have loved, the people who love you will love you no matter what time and space you go to.

As long as your loved one lives for a long time, you do your best to love him, then his death is determined by heaven, this is the law of nature, the leaves must have yellow falls, the fallen leaves must return to the roots, the fallen leaves return to the roots into the soil, and only when they enter the soil can there be new life. What is the greatest wish of a deceased loved one? Your happiness is his greatest wish.

You should feel life in remembrance and pass on responsibility in gratitude. The deceased has ascended to the fairy world, the living mourn changes, and your own happiness is the best commemoration of the deceased relatives.

For a moment, it will be enlightened. Feeling overwhelmed.

Basically, I don't feel any sadness, I just feel uncomfortable, I feel very depressed, I feel very uncomfortable and unhappy.

Even when I see my relatives who have been motionless, I don't feel that there are too many abnormalities and differences.

At this time, it is basically the same as the numbness at the beginning of the fracture. I don't know the pain yet, and it won't break my heart and lungs.

But in the dead of night, or when dinner passes, then this time is very different. Almost immediately, the feeling of extreme depression and depression will emerge ......

First of all, I don't believe it's true, and I think it's almost incredible. Secondly, it will feel unacceptable, feel that it is simply the end of the world, and life will feel completely collapsed.

Suddenly I felt heartache and it was difficult to breathe. So uncomfortable, so uncomfortable, so sad to feel so sad. There will even be a feeling of dying ......

I couldn't eat at all, and I couldn't sleep at all. It can be said that the whole person's consciousness and spirit completely collapsed in an instant, and he didn't know what to do, what to say, where to settle down, and how to resolve this contradiction and discomfort, and it can be said that life almost collapsed to the extreme.

I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I had no one to talk to, and I was extremely uncomfortable anyway. And often only one person can carry it, and can have to face it alone.

At this stage, some people are long, some people are shorter, some people are lighter, and some people are heavier ......

Some people can gradually lighten up with life and time, gradually wear out, and gradually come out. And some people are like fermenting old tea, more and more thoughts, more and more obsession, more and more inextricable.

Thus for a long time I was deeply trapped in it, restless, and in a trance. As a result, people who suffer from all kinds of depression, even serious diseases, also have them.

The whole person often seems to have lost his soul, no mood, no interest, and his temper, personality, behavior, attitude, and thoughts have completely changed, as if he has suddenly changed a person. Some even feel like they are possessed by the devil or death......

If you can get out, you can come out. Of course, there are quite a few people who have almost no way out, at least for ......a long time

And if people come out, although they still feel uncomfortable, sometimes they still feel uncomfortable and cry. But it will be much better, not so persistently and intensely uncomfortable, so uncomfortable and very ......

Sometimes every time I miss my relatives during the festive season, or see something like this, or see something in a film or television drama, or hear a song, then this kind of instant emotional outpouring will appear, and there will be a feeling of discomfort. This is also normal.

So, basically, there will be these stages. The first is numb and ignorant, the second is painful, the third slowly fades back into life, and the fourth touches the scene.

The dead are gone, and the living still have to live well. We are all passers-by in life, but sooner or later......

You will recall the time you spent with him in the past, like a movie in your mind over and over again, you will regret why you didn't come to see him more, you will regret why you didn't listen to him well at that time, and some familiar flavors and things will remind you of him in the later period. Therefore, when people are alive, they should cherish it and not wait until they die to confess themselves.