Is it necessary to take revenge on someone who has hurt me and trampled on my self esteem?

The man cut him off. Or laugh at his sexual impotence in public.

I'll talk about it later. Or find a few friends to lj her.

There is a passage in the Buddhist scriptures that I really appreciate, and I will send it to you to see.

Live in a world of gratitude.

Be grateful to the person who hurt you because he has honed your mind.

Be grateful to the one who deceived you, for he has increased your knowledge.

Be grateful to the one who whipped you because he cleared your karma.

Be grateful to those who have forsaken you, for they have taught you to be self-reliant.

Be grateful to the person who stumbled over you because he strengthened your abilities.

Be grateful to the one who rebuked you, for he fostered your concentration.

Although the accumulation of virtue does not see, the heart has its own God.

Be grateful to all those who have made you determined to achieve.

When is the time for retribution?

Be generous and don't take it to heart, so that your own life will be a little happier.

Love your enemies and be good to everyone

So even if you take revenge on him, what about it, can you get happiness from it? If you don't go, you won't be unwilling.

Not necessarily. Haven't heard of it? Either die in silence or explode in silence.

Teaching students according to their aptitude is the right thing to do. People are not the same and can use the same solution? Different people must have different spurs in order to have a wonderful life. In the end, the trampling of self-esteem may not be hurt, or it may be collapsed.

In any case, trampling on it again is an injury. Some people are advised to pay attention to the feelings of others. Including everyone else, admonish more!

Also, appearances are just superficial things. Morality, talent, ability, health ......More importantly! You'll have to pay more attention to the latter ones.

In addition, I usually broaden my horizons and be open-minded. Their words, in fact, are not too intentional, not too insulting, and you should not be too careful.

Finally, women's height doesn't seem to matter much compared to men, so don't take it too seriously.

It is not right that this heart will not be hurt again when it sees him fall to the ground.

If he is checked, then his self-confidence will be willing to hurt, and he will have some psychological resistance, and even in the end, he will have the opposite effect.

My dear friend, do you know how many setbacks and injuries Jack Ma suffered before he succeeded? Even though you are a woman, it is more difficult for men to tolerate ridicule than women, but what about others?

Therefore, at any time, do not abandon your dignity and backbone as a human being, do not be like the ignorant, we should dance in the ridicule of others, just for our own piece of the sky. Until one day when you live the life you want to be, happy and happy, and those who used to laugh at you will only laugh at others, then you will have a sense of detachment from the mountains.

Ignore him, don't have a glass heart, and strengthening yourself is the key.

Be strong. No matter what others say and do! Stick to your own path. It's good to stick to living your own life.

No matter how much damage the other party has caused you, you should not choose to retaliate against the other party, you must believe that good people have good rewards, and evil people will always be punished accordingly, those who have hurt you are people with a very dark psychology, their negative energy has no place to vent, and they will always be jealous of people who are better than him.

Others are better off than him, he will try his best to calculate you, become the target of his harm, maybe the other party's injury has caused you a lot of life impact, and even caused a lot of damage to your psychology, no matter what, we have to choose to be a good person, not compared with the bad person. As the saying goes, if a dog bites you, will you choose to bite back?

People always have to look forward, with the passage of time, the "wounds" that you have been hurt will slowly heal, and after many years you are thinking back on this matter, you will see it very lightly, and it is no longer a shadow that you can never forget in your heart.

Others have hurt us because of the malice in their hearts, but we must still maintain our kind hearts and face this society with positive energy, you will find that people with a broad heart will always get good luck, and only people who are full of sunshine in their hearts will infect the people around them when they go to the **.

And those who have hurt you, they will regret it after many years, their character will be excluded from society, and those who are vicious in their hearts will not be treated sincerely by their friends.

If you are good to others, the other party will naturally be good to you, and if you are not good to them, you will not get a good friendship, the feelings between people are through sincere communication, and the sincerity of giving will always be rewarded, remember, no matter when and where, we must be a good person.

Those who only know how to hurt others will pay their price one day, and God will always pay you back if others owe you.

Speaking of which, I remembered an incident that happened around me when I came home on October 1, two friends of my brother, one of them is Fa Xiao, the kind with which he has a good relationship, these two friends of his, went out to play on a motorcycle, and then there was a car accident outside, my brother's Fa Xiao seemed to die on the spot, and the other friend was in the emergency room and was rescued. I felt very cold in my heart after listening to it at the time, they were all younger than me, and one of them was still playing with my younger brother since childhood, so a sudden accident separated the yin and yang, and I couldn't accept it all of a sudden.

The friend who rescued him, he must be facing this kind of pressure, is there his fault in this, there is something to say and there is no, it depends on what others think. But in my opinion, there is no one right or wrong in this, those who have left will not come back, and those who are lucky enough to stay should be cherished. At this time, don't worry about who is right and who is wrong, and who harms whom.

The one who remains should be allowed to come out of this shadow, give him some strength and hope, and live well for the one who is gone, if he has been immersed in sorrow, another friend will not be well in heaven.

So sometimes people's hatred is too heavy, why don't they choose forgiveness and always choose resentment? Hatred and hurt will not solve the problem, it will only keep you in the memory of this painful moment, and you can only meet a better life by forgiveness.

Since it's in the past, don't pursue it anymore. Whether he is intentional or unintentional, the damage has been done, it is already an irreparable end, at this time to retaliate against the person who hurt you, in fact, it is uncomfortable on both sides, although you will be relieved in this way, but after the anger, there is still no way to change the ending, although you let the person who hurt you be punished, but it is useless. Instead of torturing each other like this, it is better to let go of the past and live again.

Don't live in the past, people have to look forward, the wheel of history has always been rolling forward, there is no such thing as reversing, even if you catch the previous things and hold on, it can only be like that, you can't change it, so why torture yourself with the painful things of the past? There is still a long way to go, so why not let go of the past, sort out your mood, and face the future life with a different attitude?

For example, a friend of mine broke up, her boyfriend said it because he was looking for a mistress, and at the beginning, my friend also shouted to take revenge on her ex-boyfriend, because her ex-boyfriend betrayed her, in fact, we can also see that she takes this relationship very seriously, and we feel sorry for her, but at the same time we are happy for her, because she can see this fact as soon as possible and get out of it as soon as possible. Later in a meeting, I asked her if you took revenge on your ex-boyfriend? He said no, that was just an angry talk, no matter what, it used to be a revenge for someone who loved it, let it pass in the past, and it should be a lesson!

So let the past pass, don't let yourself live in the painful past, and enjoy the life of the present.

Shouldn't. When a person hurts you, what you can do is to ignore him and live your life more refined and beautiful, which is the most powerful response to him. You won't solve the fundamental problem if you take revenge on him, you'll only make yourself the same as him.

After being hurt by someone, it will indeed be very sad and painful, and even make yourself want to find various ways to take revenge on the other party. But when we calm down, what about taking revenge on the person who hurt you? The other party may hurt you in turn, when will this retribution end?

Or after you succeed in revenge, then your heart is really happy? It was just a breath of relief at that time, and there was no substantial change in life.

The best way to fight back to a person who hurts you is to live your own life better, make your mood more beautiful every day, only when you are really strong, whether it is financial, or the inner world, if you can be independent, you can fight back strongly.

In fact, more often, when someone hurts you, the first thing we think of should not be how to retaliate against the other party, but to make ourselves stronger, so that we can protect ourselves and not let ourselves be hurt.

The reason why I can be hurt by others can only show that I am not strong enough, and I only think about how to retaliate against the other party, but I don't want to strengthen myself, which is the saddest. It will only hurt you again in the future.

I admire a friend of mine, she is the kind of person with high emotional intelligence, she was also deeply hurt by her boyfriend, she really hated it at that time, and she wanted to take revenge on him. But then she calmed herself down and decided to make herself stronger.

Later, she devoted herself to work every day, bought a house by her own ability, and had her own savings. When these were all satisfied, she began to make her life more and more refined. Slowly, she realized that only when she became better could she have enough ability to keep herself from being harmed, and she was even glad that she hadn't made a wrong decision in the first place.

If you mean kneeling and licking in a sexual relationship, give up, fade away from her world, let her go, and let yourself go.

From July '16 to March '19, I liked her very much and did almost everything I could. Not suitable, well, let me rest, it's too tiring.

Self-esteem, self-love and self-improvement, don't think about returning it if you are hurt, you have to be self-reliant, and you have to thank the other party for giving you encouragement.

When your self-esteem is trampled on, all you have to do is strengthen yourself and make a difference.