What happened in the past, does it matter? Do you still have to think about the past?

If everything in the past is said to be in the past, it won't matter. It's useless to care about it in the past, and it doesn't make sense to change. The most important thing is how you look at it.

Agree with the upstairs, my girlfriend too, although I know nothing, I love her very much, she hurts her very much, but it is really uncomfortable to think of this, although I know the answer in my heart, but I still want to ask again, I am not afraid of your jokes, in fact, we don't care about the past, you will definitely ask why ask the same question again and again? Because we want to comfort ourselves, want to know a little more, and then say to ourselves: that's the way it is, it's not a big deal.

Maybe many people will say that they don't care, so why ask? I want to say that after all, everyone is a mortal, not a saint, who would not feel uncomfortable when encountering such a thing, especially when he loves you very much, our hearts are really heartbroken and distressed, love is deep, pain is deep, when we are uncomfortable, we want to tell us the truth through you to let ourselves know"I see", which can be regarded as a comfort in my heart.

Upstairs is right, the problem of self-esteem, don't blame us for asking these questions, I dare to say that if he doesn't ask, then I'm afraid his love for you is fake, love is deep before love is perfect, although love can't be perfect, so please forgive my brother, he's not easy, next time he asks again, talk about it, sincerity is the most important.

Bless you all!

To forget is to betray the past, to be completely indifferent to the past, is impossible. It is true that the past is important to a person, but what is more important is not yesterday, but today and tomorrow. Yesterday I looked up at the sky at the foot of the mountain; Today, I'm climbing on the mountainside; Tomorrow, I will stand on the top of the mountain and look down on the people.

If your past is beautiful, then occasionally imagining the past does feel beautiful, thinking about it when you are in a good mood, and thinking about it when you are in a bad mood can also make you happy, but if your past is very sad, I think there is a lot of nostalgia for the past, it will make you sadder every time you think about it, since it is better to look forward when you think about it.

Important, those are memories that we have for a lifetime, and whether these memories are good or bad, we have no way to throw them away.

The past is not important, the important thing is to grasp the present and the future.

Unimportant. Past.

It is used to reflect on one's own future.

We have a lot of things to do in life, and it is impossible to be unimportant in the past.

But we can't let what was before make us unhappy now, can we?

What is unclean? That's what you think, so what about others? If you haven't experienced it.

How to know how others feel you at the time.

It is not fair that a person cannot be given the death penalty lightly.

My point is to remember what should be remembered and forget what should be forgotten.

Depending on your own perception, I don't think the past is important, but the present is what we want.

The events of the past reflect his past, people and things.

If he hadn't changed, he wouldn't be much different from the past.

Just because it's gone doesn't mean it won't happen again.

It depends on the specific situation, and I hope you can choose what to do for yourself.

The past is just a lesson, just understand the reason, don't memorize!

What is past is in the past. There is no need to mention it again.

Because it's in the past.

The past is the past, and if you love her, don't care about that.

I don't really care.

If only he were clean now.

If it's not clean now.

I would tell him sensibly: Beibei.

The sun rises in the East China Sea and sets in the West Mountain, and it is a day of sorrow and a day of joy.

Some things choose to forget, and some things choose to keep.

It doesn't matter anymore; What matters is how to do it tomorrow.

If a person doesn't have a past, do you still want him or her?

I'm also nostalgic, depending on how much I love him

Summary. There is no need to dwell on the past, he is already in the past tense, and it will not have much impact on your future life, what should you do if you blindly dwell on the past, the present and the future, let it go, and then let him become the past tense, and then entangle. The sun rises is a new day, and we can't change and can't change what happened in the past, but we have the ability to deal with the present and what is about to happen, and we still have to go all out to deal with it, so as not to let him become the next past tense that makes us entangled.

There is no need to dwell on the past, he is already in the past tense, and it will not have much impact on your future life, what should you do if you blindly dwell on the past, the present and the future, let it go, and then let him become the past tense, and then entangle. The sun rises is a new day, and we can't change and can't change what happened in the past, but we have the ability to deal with the current and upcoming silver things, and we still have to go all out to deal with it, so as not to let the wheel and bury him become the next past tense that makes us entangled.

Obviously he didn't do anything wrong, why should he be abused.

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There are more fools in this world, do you want to reason with them, if you are bitten by a dog, do you have to go back to bite the dog, the reason why you are like this is that you care too much about not being worthy of people to look at you, as long as you have not done anything wrong, you will justifiably refute it, no big deal, don't try to get forgiveness from fools, but you can't be bullied by fools.

What to pay attention to when dealing with interpersonal interactions.

When interacting with others, don't talk too much, believe in rotten guesses, and there is a heart to guard against people, some people look harmless to people and animals on the surface, but in fact, all kinds of small abacus slippery in their hearts, don't easily communicate with others, who knows if others are waiting to see your jokes.

Also, sometimes it's better to think about what you say, and it's best to be neutral when expressing your opinions, so that you don't leave others to trouble you.

I really think that this sentence should be classified as a serious, and even I can make up the expression of the person who said it! Is this a kind of loving illumination with the halo of the Virgin? Or is it a relief that sees through everything?

Does this mean not to pursue, not to care, not to care, or to forgive?

I think that such comfort is not only meaningless, but tends to encourage an attitude of continuing to make mistakes. Take the article and Ma Yili's matter as an example, if Ma Yili's Weibo post was "The past has passed", are you sure that she will not be scolded to death by netizens all over the Internet? Does this kind of self-deception represent a kind of wronged and forgiving cap?

Therefore, in contrast, Ma Yili's sentence "Although it is easy to fall in love, marriage is not easy, and it is possible to do it and cherish it" is more high-end. The language not only deterred the article but also warned Yao Di, even if you are in love, but the article and I are the real legal couple, and you have to take care of the article, and you will take care of the future marriage road yourself.

Let's talk about the problem of this sentence from three points:

1. Passing is not the same as letting go

In the past, this sentence only means that the wound you used to have healed, but does it mean that there will be no scar? After saying that, there is no trace in my heart? Did you really put this thing down?

In fact, people who often say that the past has not really let go, but just force themselves not to continue to dwell on this matter. Therefore, to say that the past is equivalent to escaping, not confronting.

2. Passing is not the same as forgiving

said that it was over, but it only meant that it would not be investigated or mentioned. But not forgiveness. In the movie "Gone Girl", the husband and wife have gone through so many rights and wrongs, even if they think it is over, can the relationship really go back to the past?

Can you really forgive the other person for hurting you? It was clear that the past was a tacit avoidance of each other, but the incident was not really forgiven.

3. Passing is not the same as forgetting

How we are and what other people's habits are are often the summary of our own or others' experiences in dealing with this person. So even if you think it's over, your inner evaluation of this person has changed. This will cause you to judge him differently than you did before the event.

So the past does not mean that you have forgotten, and this thing that you think is past has changed you realistically and changed your relationship.

Personally, I think it's better to have a thorough exchange of views on this matter than to talk about the past. This is a difficult thing to get over because it has caused damage to some of our things, either emotionally or cognitively. So this is what we need to face and face, instead of using a sentence of the past to fool around.

Because today you said that you have passed, it is equivalent to planting a landmine in your relationship, and when something similar happens to him in the future, then this usually invisible landmine will completely detonate your relationship. Either time makes you helpless and the mines become duds; Either experience makes you sensitive, and landmines blow you to pieces.

1. Usually when saying this sentence, it is often ambiguous that each other has had a "hurdle", and one party proposes or chooses to forgive or forget, in order to reach a reconciliation and "cross this hurdle".

2. It is usually the injured party, or the "creditor", that is qualified to say so, because it is valid and meaningful.

3. Some people say this, or they may be unwilling to mention and discuss it again, as a "shield" for prevarication and perfunctory.

4. Sometimes saying this is also a helpless choice, because time has passed, and it is impossible to pursue and claim again, or it is meaningless.

It's just that if you have encountered unpleasant things, if you mention it, you will lose face, and if you don't want to mention it, you will say that the past is in the past. In fact, unless it's amnesia, the past hasn't passed at all. Let's say you walk down the street and you're beaten up, and then the person runs away, and you don't catch up, you don't get compensation, you don't call back, and you feel very uncomfortable, can you go over, you always think about it once in a while, and you're very angry.

But there is no way to do it.

The past is in the past, there is no point anymore, don't be impulsive for the sake of a momentary mood, everyone has shortcomings and advantages, shortcomings are sometimes your strengths, don't compete with yourself.

Look at what the personal principles are.

If you want to go beyond the principle, you must not tolerate it, and you must cut it in two. But you can't set the principle too harshly, too self-interested double standard, and then you have to say that the society can't get along with you, and life is bumpy or something.

In short, this is a question of how to set the three views and principles.

What is clear in the past has passed; The people of the past have ended, but some people just can't let go, they just can't get out. Writer Yang Daxia experienced that only by letting go of the past can we get the future.

What do you think of this, since it happened, you have to think about how to solve it, and if it is solved, you have to think about the future!

Usually refers to something that is not very lucky, for example, the bad things of the past are like a piece of, do you like to wrap it up and put it in your pocket, and take it out when you have nothing to do to remind yourself how smelly it is? So, you should throw it in the toilet and don't pick it up again, it will make you uncomfortable and it will make the people around you smell bad!

Those who have hurt you and framed you, they are not alone in harming you, but along with you and every family member, relatives and friends behind you. If you want to easily forgive those bad people, you can't be the master, you don't have that qualification, you have to ask them if they agree.

Why did Guo Degang say in an interview: "If you don't know any situation, you must be generous, you have to stay away from him, and he will be affected by thunder." "Many people think that he is narrow-minded and will be revenged.

But do you know the blows and suppression that Guo Degang was subjected to before he became famous? Do you know how much suffering and even humiliation he went through to get to where he is today? Do you know how many betrayals and failures he has experienced in the past?

Hou Yaowen once said that Guo Degang has not been easy all the way, and he is bound to be jealous and hateful. Hou Yaowen's words can only be said by knowing Guo Degang better than Guo Degang's parents.

Article 7 of Mr. Lu Xun's last words, "Those who damage other people's teeth and eyes, but oppose retaliation, and advocate tolerance, should never approach him." This is exactly the same as Guo Degang's words. It's always the case:

For unknown reasons, without knowing it, people who blindly persuade you to be generous and must forgive are either stupid or bad! Those people, they either close their eyes and talk about some empty big truths, they don't have backache when they stand and talk, or they have ulterior motives!

Or Mr. Lu Xun's last words, "I have many enemies, if someone of the new style asks me, what about it?" I thought about it for a while, and decided that I would not forgive any of them if they were resentful.

As we all know, "a man's words are good when he is dying". Mr. Lu Xun knew that he would soon die, but he still said that he would not forgive those former enemies, was he narrow-minded? No, it's because he understands human nature!

Whether he forgives or not, the bad guy or the bad guy, the bad guy won't change their evil nature just because of Lu Xun's dying word of forgiveness!

If you want to forgive someone, then you have to meet these three conditions:

1. Your strength is strong enough to destroy the other party but it does not trigger;

2. The bad guy has completely lost any ability to do any further evil;

3. The residual conscience and humanity in the hearts of bad people cover up the evil side, and they have abandoned evil and turned to good.

Only if you have these three can you be qualified to say, "Forget about the past!" ”