The past is so painful for me

When someone asks you, you can laugh it off, and I think the average person will understand you.

If you live in the past, you will lose faith in the future. You should rediscover your happiness and believe that your happiness will come.

You should open your heart again, live more confident and chic, once people are optimistic about life, then it will be easier to get along with others, there will be more and more friends, and you may meet people who belong to you.

People like to be with a person who can make them happy, if you always give others the impression of being painful and pessimistic, then others will be afraid to get close to you, and people who live in pain will also look sad and have no energy, and they will slowly age faster.

I hope you learn to be strong, learn to be optimistic, learn to be giving, and learn to let go.

Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, every family has a difficult scripture, people live is to experience a variety of people or things or things ......The various happiness and unhappiness brought by it make people become sentimental! The important thing to be unhappy is the "mentality", people with a good mentality can live a long life if they are terminally ill; On the contrary: people with a bad mentality often achieve nothing; If you don't think about the past, will you still feel pain?

Time can dilute all ......

Free and easy: You will be miserable because you are very concerned about the past, and you can't get over the hurdle in your heart, and open your heart.

Accept your past, it won't be very painful, be honest, be honest with yourself, and be honest with others.

Hate, I don't know what to do, I laugh and laugh. It looks like you're supposed to be a sister, and I'm just like you, and I'm not going well emotionally. But the past is the past, and only you know how sad it is to talk about it, and no matter how much others understand you, they will not empathize.

What's more, many people come to see jokes as talking points. So, the past is the past, don't mention it again. We still have a new life, will we meet new people, take a new path, and will the pain of the past be brought on a new road?

Don't always tell others about your past, it's like unraveling your scars to others, others will see the excitement, and the pain will be yourself.

Forget the past and start a new life.

Let's go on a trip and meet new people

Because we are all sentient beings, although things have passed, it does not mean that we will forget completely.

In most cases, I don't think it's necessary for us to deliberately recall what we are sad about, and at the same time, there is no need to deliberately forget. The main reason why Yu Bohail said this is because everyone has their own emotional experiences, some of which make us feel very happy, and some of which make us very sad. It is precisely because of these complex experiences that our lives become more abundant.

1. No one can easily go to sad things.

To some extent, everyone can't easily forget the sad things silver stool. When these things happen, even though we feel that things are over, we still feel very sad when we think about them. In a way, everyone retains a proper memory of what happened before them, and this memory will stay with us for the rest of our lives.

Second, some people are also more emotionally sensitive.

For relatively introverted people, because introverts are not good at words, and they are also not good at expressing their true feelings, this leads to many introverts not dredge their emotional channels. In such a situation, if the introvert will remember the things that he is sad about, the introvert will be more likely to perceive his sadness, and his emotions will also be affected to a certain extent. <>

Third, I think we need to face up to our previous experiences.

As I said at the beginning, everyone has their own emotional experiences, some of which make us laugh and some of which are painful for us. There is no need to deliberately forget these experiences, and there is no need to blame or grieve because of them. In a way, everyone's life is not easy, and when we look back on a sad experience, we may feel uneasy.

However, life always goes on, and we need to actively choose the direction forward. <>

I think maybe Zheng Split is because the shadow left on you by Pai Xiang's incident is too big, so this kind of pain will always be with you, and I think that with the disappearance of time, this pain will slowly fade.

Because you can't let go easily, the harm caused to you by those things will be remembered by you.

Because the impact of this incident on oneself is very great, the damage suffered will not be healed all at once.

Hello! Are you a lady, and don't know what things you've been in the past that have made you feel sad? How old are you?

Judging from your description, you seem to be insecure inside, and perhaps something has happened around you in the last few days that makes you feel bad and affects your mood.

It is recommended that if possible, you can leave this environment for a few days, or ask a few good friends to go out for a walk together, everyone chats together, chats about happy things, maybe you will be in a better mood.

Have fun!

This is because you have experienced a heart-wrenching sadness that leads to a sense of insecurity, this is human nature, in fact, most people are still kind, there are not so many complicated things, you should not have come out yet, time is a good thing, slowly, it will get better. I hope you usually do more things that you like and don't focus on it, it will be better.

Don't think too much about the past, it's useless to think about it, why don't you think about how to change, how to live well, once my husband and I also went through such a period of time, almost divorced, and now we all choose to forget that dark time, even if it is occasionally mentioned, we will avoid the topic, the pain of the past is really sad, so living well now is the most important thing.

The third sentence said by my friend is about the "golden mean": Desperate Saburo is worthy of recognition, but you must master the heat, because there is a basic reality that most people are not willing to watch you improve. No matter what you do, in the end, you will not escape the fate of seniority, ticking and drawing circles.

The more you want to improve, the more difficult it is to progress, the more you want to do things, the more you can't do things, the reason is self-evident, we don't need to blame anyone, the key is to learn the ability to improvise. Don't be particularly nice to anyone at work, don't be particularly bad to anyone, don't treat anyone badly, don't cause public outrage, and become the object of public unpleasantness. "Things gather in kind, people in groups" any unit, any group, interpersonal relationship structure is inseparable from the "three-three system", specific to the individual is one-third of the people to you in general, one-third of the people are not "cold" to you, one-third of the people are good to you.

This is in the same way that we often say, "one-third of the people are doing, one-third of the people are watching, and one-third of the people are mischievous." Therefore, it must be different from person to person, and the good must be maintained, the neutral must be pursued, and the hostile must be tolerated. Never be taken advantage of by a few.

The fourth sentence: "It is more important to believe in yourself than to rely on others".

The fourth sentence said by my friend was to cheer me up: "To be a person, you must have thoughts, have a sense of social responsibility, and believe that it is more important than relying on others." Different people must do things differently, and bosses will generally see it.

As long as you do your best, you will not be buried, unless you have doubts about your own abilities. The key is to have a correct mentality, do more for the society when you have the opportunity, remember to 'work for yourself' when you don't have the opportunity, accumulate more tangible and intangible capital, and do more things for yourself is not too much, no matter what the circumstances of life give, timely efforts will not be wrong. "Yes, no matter how hard you try, it's better to do things quietly.

In particular, doing more things that reflect our own value will benefit us for life.

Think more about the happy things, divert your attention or find someone to accompany you, otherwise you will break down after a long time. It's all gone, forget it! The most important thing is the present, the future.

There are many unhappy things in people's lives, but if you linger on these unhappy things, you will lose more, so everything wants to be opened, as long as the person is still there, it is not a big deal, and waking up every morning is a new beginning!

Everyone has the past, has a painful experience, more failures and lessons, people, eat a trench and grow a wisdom, in order to grow, don't dwell on the past, don't sigh the unsatisfactory life, stride forward, the Avenue of Stars is on the road ......

It's in the past, don't think too much about unhappy things, the days will be long, just let yourself live happily.

Let go of the mood! Relax!

If life is a vast and boundless sea, then desire is like a tide that rises and falls at any time, and if you want the sea to be calm, you need fewer waves. The calm sea is picturesque, while the rough sea is angry and not so beautiful. Only when there is a degree of peace in life can we enjoy the beauty of life.

Life in the world cannot be without desire, just like the sea cannot be without high tide, this is a natural law. If people in the world have no desires, they will not be interested in anything, they will lack enthusiasm, lack of commitment, and lack of pursuit, what a pale picture of life it will be. The crux of the matter is how people can grasp the scale of their desires.

When the tide rises and the tide falls, it is advisable not to let the desire overflow.

There is nothing wrong with the pursuit of wealth and the possession of money. So, how rich is it to be rich, and how much money is enough? There is probably no fixed standard for this. A calm life is to grasp the "horizontal" and "vertical" lines of desire.

The so-called "horizontal" line is to draw a horizontal line starting from one's own wealth, and it can be seen that there are many people who are above the horizontal line and below the horizontal line. I am not enough than the top, and I am more than the bottom, which is already a better position. Because life is the sea, the waves are high and the waves are low, just as people's wealth can never be on the same level.

The so-called "vertical" line is to draw an upward line starting from the low point of one's previous life, and as this line rises, it can very clearly indicate the degree of gradual improvement of one's living standard, and one should be gratified, fulfilled and satisfied with this.

This question is a bit heart-wrenching, and it reminds me of the heartache I had back then.

That year, I was eleven years old, my parents were dual-income workers, and our family was a good family in the hutong. Growing up in a relatively privileged environment, my main task every day is to run crazy with my friends in addition to school, and I have a very happy time.

In order for us to have pork to eat during the Chinese New Year, my father fed two pigs in the yard at that time. In the spring, the two little pigs moved in, eating and huddling together every day, and the father cared for the pigs.

In June, I don't know what difficulties my father encountered in his work, he often lost his temper with the pigs, and one day the two pigs were disobedient, he picked up the whip and beat the pigs, and his hand touched the pigsty, and immediately the blood was drenched, and the whole piece of meat was turned up.

After another period of time, the injury had just healed, my father's headache was committed again, I had just finished my exam during the summer vacation, and I returned home with the certificate, but there was no one, and the neighbor told me that my father was seriously ill and went to the hospital, and my mother and they all went, so we stayed at home and waited for them to come back. I took my younger brother to cook, do my homework, and sleep at home, and the next day, at noon, I heard my mother's cry from afar, and my uncle pulled my father back, and my father was lying on the cart and had left us forever.

When there was no father in this yard, when I cried secretly alone countless times, when I went everywhere to find my father, I experienced life and death for the first time, and knew the cruelty of life. From then on, I stopped going out and playing crazy, I forced myself to grow up, forced myself to share the housework for my mother.

This incident changed my personality and was a pain in my mind forever. I miss you, Father, and whenever I get a result, I regret that he can't share it with me; When I finally realized that the world was difficult and life was not easy, I missed my father even more.

Father, I love you forever!

When I was in junior high school, I did very well in the class, but I made a mistake in the Chinese answer sheet during the high school entrance examination. The bad mentality affected the subjects in the future, resulting in not being admitted to the high school where I wanted to go. And then I was told by someone that I was only suitable for going to that kind of low-level high school.

When I went to volunteer, I avoided my teachers and classmates, which was the saddest thing. When I first went to high school, I met junior high school classmates who didn't dare to tell him that I was studying in **, and I felt very humble, and it was also the most painful thing for me, but I came out later.

Weakness has always been painful.

The most painful thing for me was that I had brain surgery due to trauma eight years ago, and I happened to graduate from college, and I was very envious and helpless when I saw my classmates start working and some of them started families after graduation. The operation resumed and I started working, but the operation cost the family a lot of money, I blame myself, sometimes because of a little thing I will think that the family is because I spent a lot of money on the operation, once said to my mother, why do you want to give me surgery, it is better to let me die, this sentence is the most regrettable and the most painful thing to do, no matter how hard and difficult, must not hurt the heart of the family, because they are the people who love us the most.