Why am I so kind, but not popular?

Truth be told, your self-righteous kindness isn't necessarily true kindness. What's more, even really kind people don't necessarily have high emotional intelligence!

It is not enough to be a good person if you want to be popular, you must also have a high emotional intelligence. Good interpersonal relationships.

It is based on good emotions. People are always willing to be friends with the people they like, and emotional intelligence can reflect a person's ability to deal with emotions and emotions.

If someone is a good person, but has a hot temper and doesn't respect others enough, how can they be popular? People who are popular are people who can respect others and treat them equally. Good interpersonal relationships are based on mutual respect and support.

You think you're good, but maybe in the eyes of others, your kindness is just self-righteous kindness, a kindness based on standing on the moral high ground and emotionally kidnapping others.

The kind of people around us who always say: I'm all for your good, why can't you understand me, don't have too many! Such people may feel that they are kind, but why do others turn away from them?

In short, good popularity is not enough to be sleek. It's not about creating an illusion to make others like. A person who is truly popular is a person who treats others sincerely. They are willing to help others and do things reliably, so they can form good interpersonal relationships.

Why is it so kind, but not popular? Being popular does not mean being sleek, nor does it mean creating an illusion to make others like it. Good popularity is a kind of realm, and life is easier to go smoothly.

A person who is truly popular is a person who treats others sincerely. They always attract a lot of attention and approach to them and always create a win-win situation. From the people around me who are well-connected, I found that they all have these three characteristics.

1. Be cautious and strict in solitude. If you want to be popular, you have to nurture yourself. What kind of person you are determines who you can associate with.

So, when you are alone, you have to be strict with yourself and work hard to hone your character. Use sports, calligraphy, and other methods to enhance their spiritual world. The temperament in a person's bones cannot be concealed, and his positive energy will inevitably attract the attention of others.

The clouds are from the dragon, the wind is from the tiger, corresponding with the same voice, and seeking the same breath. Focus on self-cultivation and lay a solid foundation for your popularity.

Second, be good at forming a team and treat others with leniency. Tolerance and humility are always the best ways to communicate with others. Magnanimity is not blindly tolerating the mistakes of others, but being able to push oneself and others in one's own thoughts and feelings.

Learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, learn to be tolerant and communicate with others. Good luck always comes uninvited. There are four facts: don't eat people, don't talk about people's losses, don't talk about people's wrongs, and don't push people's thoughts.

Third, observe subtle changes and be true to your words. Good at perceiving changes in people's thoughts. Communicate with people sincerely and neutrally.

If you act recklessly, you will always be misunderstood. Many controversies are caused by small things, and if you are not careful, you will not be able to control it like a snowball effect.

Starting from small things, popularity is accumulated little by little, and I am most afraid that it will never start, and the mentality of breaking the pot will only make people more lonely. It will also be easier to help others when they need you the most and make a good impression. Fulfilling your promises well will make it easier for you to be recognized by others.

Because kindness doesn't mean others will approve of you. Good character and emotional intelligence are not only kind, but also have the ability to communicate and cooperate with others.

There is a ruler in speech. Don't underestimate this "talking", this is also an art, a science, there are many people who are not bad-hearted, but because they speak too "straight", or too "energetic", so no one wants to contact them, or because of this, many people are "hurt". If you want to have a good relationship and have more friends, you must be able to speak well.

When you speak, you should first consider the feelings of others, do not say things that hurt people's self-esteem too much, do not say things that hurt people's hearts, and do not expose the shortcomings of others. Some things you say yourself will be fine, but you have to think about what it causes in the hearts of others.

When there is a disagreement with others, or when there is a conflict, you should also try to have something to say well, speak slowly, and don't say anything to relieve anger.

For our part, we are all willing to make friends with people who speak softly and have scales, and no one wants to make friends with people who are difficult to accept when they speak, and vice versa.

It may be that you speak too directly, or say something that others don't like to hear. There are many times when people don't want to be friends with you because you say something unpleasant. It may also be because other people's personalities don't get along with you, so they don't get to know you too much and make friends with you.

Kindness is good, and excessive kindness can also be bad.

Kindness is your nature, and popularity is interpersonal communication. Life is fast-paced and competitive these days. While maintaining a kind heart, try to make yourself excellent, so that you will gradually have like-minded popularity. Come on!

People are good and are bullied, some kind people will generally be bullied by others but suffering losses are blessings, although life is not going well now, but one day will get a good reward.

Although some people don't have bad intentions, because they can't speak, they are easy to offend some people, resulting in their lack of good popularity and can't find good friends.

The current popularity does not mean that you can make a lot of friends if you have a good personality, but that you can eat all the wind in black and white to have the so-called good popularity, because he has the ability to solve difficulties for others, so he will naturally find him.

It's useless to say it yourself, wait for others to say that you are kind, and your popularity will be good.

I've seen a saying before that when you're very enthusiastic about others and almost responsive, if you don't have the need to be helped at all and keep outgoing your help, then there will be problems in interpersonal relationships. But if you also seek help from others when you help them, then relationships will be good. The underlying reason should be related to psychology.

Maybe you don't get along with people in the right way, and you can't communicate well, so even if you are kind, your popularity is not necessarily good.

Kindness can make us spark grudges and good popularity at most, but we need ability as support. In other words: kindness is character, and good popularity is ability.

Kindness and good popularity are not the same, kindness is the foundation of good popularity, pay attention to the way you interact with people.

Could it be because of introverted personality problems and reluctance to socialize?

Maybe there is a problem in the relationship with others, find the problem, and prescribe the right medicine.

Don't be too nice to others, as they will hurt you even more.

You will say that, and the reason for proving you is here.

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, regardless of daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life and things, and flexibly adjust their mentality. The way of thinking and the skills of dealing with people, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

If a person wants to be a kind person, he does it from the heart, and he does good deeds without a sense of guilt and does not ask for anything in return. For anyone to treat with a kind heart, to be clear in the heart, to treat others with kindness, to be kind, to do things with kindness, from the heart, instinct, it's okay. As for what happens to the people who are treated?

That's his problem, that's his cause and effect, good and evil, it has nothing to do with me, I only do my goodness.

When kind people are not treated well, it is everyone's opinion, and the problem depends on what kind people do themselves? What did he think in his heart? Because of his good deeds, because of his good deeds, everyone will be upset for him, and everyone will be angry for not being treated well.

That's enough, this is the reward for him to be kind to others, to treat people well, and then to be a good person? How else to be a good person? I think that as a person with a good heart and good virtue, I don't think so, should I always be a kind person?

Because his heart has formed a habit that his heart will give him the right answer, without the need to take evidence, and the reward for being kind to others has been clearly given to him.

Be a kind-hearted person, treat others with a kind heart, his good fortune will always surround him, and the good fortune he brings to others is far greater and more long-term than his kindness, because of his good deeds, he is a person with sunshine in his heart, he will shine on everyone around him, his light alludes to everyone, and people will unconsciously surround him. Because this light gives warmth, comfort, and love.

When the kindness of my companions is not treated well, it means that our hearts have been hurt. Although kindness is the principle of being a man, Lao Zhao If our kindness turns into harm to ourselves, then there is no need, so kindness should look at people, not all people, are worthy of our kindness.

If kindness is given to the same person who doesn't treat us well, that's our own problem. Of course, the basic principle of our life is to be kind. Hope our goodness is treated well.

Kindness and good popularity cannot be directly equated, just like why a person who works hard is not rich! Kindness is a kind of character and the basis for gaining good popularity, but kindness does not guarantee that you will have good popularity!

In order to better analyze the problem, let's first understand the three characteristics of understanding good popularity:

1.Lots of friends.

2.When something happens, people are happy to lend a hand to help.

3.Credibility.

Behind each feature is a different message!

Friends] means.

1.Outgoing personality and good at communicating.

2.Friendly, approachable and easy to get along with.

3.Sociable and likes to make friends.

When something happens, people are happy to lend a hand to help.

1.Usually behave appropriately.

2.He is righteous and likes to help others.

3.As a capable person himself, others take the initiative to help you, in addition to the recognition of you, but also for the future when there are difficulties, you can get your help!

Credibility] 1Never cling to the powerful, never bullying the weak; Not to mention that for one's own selfishness, it will harm others and benefit oneself!

2.Help not help relatives, but notarize; When there is a conflict between friends, we always spare no effort to mediate, and peace is precious!

If you want to have a good popularity, it is not enough to be kind, you must have the characteristics of gathering popularity, to put it bluntly, not only must you have a good character, you must be outgoing and sociable, and you must also have the ability! We can't deny that the current society must have strength in the process of interacting with others, otherwise others will not be willing to take care of you!

Kindness is a virtue, harmony with others, and open-mindedness. But now, kindness is no longer a dominant label, but has become a bargaining chip used by many people to bully and deceive. "People are good and are bullied, and horses are good and are ridden" are all given to the wrong object because of kindness.

In society, more and more kindness does not get the result of "good is rewarded", resulting in more and more people learning to be indifferent.

Your kindness needs to be a little sharp, otherwise you are weak and incompetent.

Someone said: "May your kindness be a little sharp, kindness is very precious, but if kindness does not grow teeth, it is weakness." ”

Kind people often have the following characteristics: they think about the good in everything and see everyone as a good person; If you take your own things and you don't fight back; When someone bullies themselves, they also keep their heads down and consider themselves unlucky; Life opportunities came, but because I thought too much about others, I missed the opportunity; When you make money, your heart is not ruthless enough, so it is more difficult to make money.

In fact, when a person is sharp, others will look up to you. My classmate Liu Wen opened a delicatessen, and business has been good. Later, a new deli opened next door to him, and it was clear that it was "working against him".

As the saying goes, "Peers are enemies." Liu Wen often had small frictions with the shop next door, but Liu Wen endured it every time.

For example, when Liu Wen was engaged in activities, the store next door deliberately lowered **; When Liu Wen was doing publicity, the store next door was looking for people everywhere to do negative publicity; The store next door also deliberately found someone to put industrial raw materials into Liu Wen's store at night, and then reported it.

Later, Liu Wen couldn't bear it anymore, installed pinhole monitors around the store, recorded the "illegal acts" of the store next door, and then filed a lawsuit, and finally the store next door compensated him more than 100,000 yuan. Since then, the store next door has moved away, and Liu Wen's business has slowly improved.