Treat others very politely, but the popularity is very poor, is it the wrong circle or your own prob

In real life, there will always be some people who have better popularity, but there will also be many people who have poor popularityAs for why this situation occurs, I think it has something to do with everyone's own emotional intelligence, character, attitude towards people, etcWhether it is good or bad popularity, it will not be determined by one factor. <>

Just like what you are experiencing now, you are obviously very polite to the people around you, but there are not many people who are willing to associate with you, and at this time you will wonder why this is happening, whether it is because of the bad circle you are in or really because you have a problem. Personally, I think that since you feel that you are polite to others, it means that the problem is not here, after all, it is not only the aspect of being rude to people that causes a person's bad popularity。I'm going to talk about what to do in this situation.

Reflect on how you are when dealing with people. In real life, there are really people who are very good but have bad popularity, but the reasons for their poor personnel are different for different people. Some may be excluded because of poor appearance conditions, some are because their emotional intelligence is not high, although they are very good, they are more straightforward when they speak, and it is easy to offend people, of course, there are other possibilities that will also lead to people who are very good and have no friends.

So I personally think that you can reflect on your state when dealing with people now, and think about whether you are prone to saying those offensive words or you don't think much about the feelings of others, and whether you are too flattering to others, these are all factors that may lead to your poor popularity. <>

In fact, you don't really care about what other people think. I know that whether on campus or in the workplace, everyone wants to be more popular so that they don't seem lonely. But sometimes I think that if you are okay with yourself, but if you don't like others, then I can't help it, you don't need to change yourself in order to deliberately cater to others, other people's opinions are not so important in many cases, you just need to be yourself, when you are good enough, even if they don't like you on the surface, you have to pretend to like you.

To a large extent, it may be a matter of circles, and if you change circles, you will find yourself doing well.

Many things need to be looked at from both positive and negative aspects, so that we can do better in interpersonal relationships.

For example, I like to eat apples, so I give you the apples I like to eat, but I don't notice that you have always liked to eat bananas. I thought I was giving my favorite, but I didn't understand the other person's needs.

Of course, I don't know the specific situation, I just choose one side to analyze, maybe the reality is not the case. No matter what, I am willing to praise you and give you encouragement, and now there are not many people in society who are willing to pay for sincere interpersonal communication, but I firmly believe that as long as you persevere, you will always be rewarded. Keep up the good work!

If you can't find any problems in yourself, it must be someone else's problem, there is a problem in your circle, and no matter how you change, you will not be recognized by others.

1。You have to learn to smile at people, when you smile at a stranger, he will unnaturally develop a little affection for you.

2。Avoid lying, because no one likes liars, including ourselves.

3。We must learn to treat everyone sincerely, only by sincere dedication, it is possible to get returns, everything is mutual.

4。You have to learn to take the initiative and greet everyone who comes warmly, I don't believe that if you greet him, he will ignore you and walk away.

5。Learn to let go, and don't stalk anyone, or go too far. The friendship between the gentlemen of the socks bridge is as light as water, and too frequent exchanges will affect others, which will make people feel that you are very annoying, and in the end you can only be alienated.

But don't stay too far away from others, don't be around, make a ** every once in a while, contact your feelings, and send a text message during the holidays to make people think that you are still thinking about others.

6。In the end, there are more stupid people, and this is not the reason for not having friends.

Hehe, don't be so depressed, it's not that your popularity is very bad, it's just that you're not so mature, read some aspiring books properly, you will have a harvest, believe me, your temper should be changed appropriately, it should be possible.

In fact, there are some things that you still have to feel by yourself.

I think the most important thing for a person is to have personality and self.

This is more important than anything else, there is a saying called "go your own way, let others follow you".

Read more books, famous books, classics.

From this, you can understand some truths and increase knowledge.

Because everybody loves learned people.

Now, if you can't do the above points, study hard.

I have a classmate, she is very impersonal, but very easy-going, I like to get along with her (because of the close home, slowly acquaintance), she has few friends, but her grades are very good, so that others will not hate her. I remember his cousin saying: If you don't have good grades, you will become a nuisance.

In fact, she is very kind and willing to accommodate others.

But she lacks grandeur, self-confidence.

Think of yourself as a leader, a success.

Let a confident smile come to your face...

Then improve your charm more.