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I don't like this, my own existential vanity is found in children, and the love of showing off usually puts more pressure on children to be better, so that they have a chance to show off again.
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I think Chinese parents love to show off their children because they think their children are very good.
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Nowadays, Chinese parents do like to show off their children, because they personally feel that their children carry a part of themselves.
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Chinese parents like to post their children's ** in the circle of friends, because they feel that their family is very good and that their children are cute and happy.
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I don't have a childChinese parents love to show off their children's behavior, which is actually not conducive to their children's growth and will make them a little confused about right and wrong.
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I think this is a very common phenomenon, which means that my children are very good and likable.
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Before showing off, ask yourself, are you showing off your child's strengths, or are you using your child's strengths to cover up your weaknesses?
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I think it's because a lot of us want to satisfy our vanity now, so it's going to be very bad.
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Chinese parents love to show off, children, this is a very wrong behavior, which will encourage the child's show-off psychology.
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Chinese parents are more like to show off, and they always think that their children are the best, and the best are jealous of other people's children.
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I think that Chinese parents love to show off their children, this kind of behavior has been inherited since ancient times, but this kind of behavior is particularly bad.
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Because Chinese parents are influenced by tradition, they are more modest and do not like to boast about their children.
Someone asked me, do your parents like to praise you? From small to large,I don't think my parents praised me, very rarelyParents will always praise other people's children, how good other people's children are, how sensible other people's children, must learn from other people's children, parents are always like this, it will also bring pressure to children, children will also feel that they can't do anything, parents are reluctant to praise themselves, in the past, parents are really unwilling to praise their own children, always like to praise other people's children, in fact, this is also a big reason.
We all know that Chinese families are influenced by tradition, from ancient times to the present, we are very modest, and never praise their children in front of outsiders, nor praise their children in front of their children, in fact, parents are also very proud in their hearts, especially children are very good, but parents never say in front of others, so as not to be proud.
Most Chinese parents are more modest, and very low-key, do not like to praise their children, because parents want their children to be modest, do not want to let children exaggerate excessively, do not want to magnify the advantages of children, just want to let their children live a plain life, parents think that the child's excellence is not to boast, but to rely on their own to make.
Praising your own children is not as good as others praising your children, because parents will feel that their children are better, if others say that your children are excellent, wouldn't it be happier, some parents do not praise their children in front of others, because they don't want others to talk about their children.
However, often praise the child, will also bring self-confidence to the child, let the child be full of confidence to do anything, parents in life, must praise the child more, do not hit the child, let the child's self-confidence slowly build, now people's thinking is gradually much better, will often praise the child, give the child some self-confidence, the child is particularly happy to be praised, will bring benefits to the child's life.
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My parents don't like to praise me, and then I also think that Chinese education is very good, for me, I think that Chinese education that parents do not like to praise their children's behavior is also a better behavior, not to praise children at will, can effectively prevent children from being proud in the face of things, but they are not saying that they do not praise children, when they need to be praised, parents will give certain affirmation and praise.
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Because of China's introverted culture, almost ninety percent of parents are very strict with their children, and my parents are the same, they don't like to praise me at all, I think it is not conducive to their children's self-confidence, and they feel that they are not satisfied with what they do.
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Dislike. My parents don't praise me, and even when I do something very good, they still criticize me, which makes me not confident at all.
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My parents rarely praise themselves, but they don't skimp on compliments when they do something that satisfies them.
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My parents don't like to praise me, but the better thing is that they don't deliberately belittle me, so I think it's okay, it's more subtle, but they will praise their grandchildren a lot.
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I didn't like it, and I didn't praise it since I was a child, and I used to wonder if my parents didn't like me, but then I realized that it was their way.
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Chinese parents do not praise their children, but belittle them, blame them, and trigger their children's comparative thinking through belittling and accusations, so as to improve some of their own bad habits. For a long time, other people's children have been regarded as the object of comparison with their own children. How good other people's children are, how bad their own children are, this is a regular problem in the Chinese parents' home.
In fact, in the hearts of parents, it is not that children are bad, but that they want to achieve the purpose of educating children in this way, on the contrary, their children will always be unique in the hearts of parents, and will always be the loveliest and best.
Devaluing one's own children is just a way to educate, not a real demeaning blow. Children are the flesh and blood in the hearts of their parents, reluctant to suffer a little injury, reluctant to suffer a little grievance, reluctant to be happy parents, and reluctant to beat and scold children, but for the growth of children, this comparative education method is what the majority of parents are willing to like. But this kind of demeaning education is not really to belittle one's own children, but to promote the growth of one's own children through comparison.
Children are always unique in the hearts of their parents, and they are reluctant to be hurt or wronged. In recent years, parents have paid more and more attention to their children's education and attention, and they provide very superior conditions for their children materially, even if they are a little tired, they do not want their children to lose at the starting line, so parents' love for their children is a kind of heartfelt, and even to some extent there is a certain amount of doting ingredients. Parents want their children to grow up healthy and happy, so they are reluctant to fight and belittle them, just one way.
It is very common for other people's children to always be the best in the eyes of Chinese parents. In fact, this is not to say that other people's children are better than their own children, but parents educate their children in this way, so that children can recognize their own problems and improve them.
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The main reason is related to the way education is done in China. The education method is more introverted and subtle. Therefore, Chinese parents are reluctant to praise their children. But this will make the child have low self-esteem. Therefore, parents should praise their children appropriately.
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Because of historical reasons, many Chinese parents will feel that filial piety comes from under the stick, and if they praise their children more, it may be that the children can't recognize themselves, so there will be such a family education method.
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This is because the traditional views of Chinese are relatively secretive, and sometimes they do not express their feelings or love, and generally through practical actions.
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Because traditional Chinese education tells people to be humble and avoid pride, parents will also choose to be humble, unwilling to praise their children, afraid of their children's pride, and want their children to achieve better development.
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I think that Chinese parents don't like to praise their children is a long-standing incorrect concept of education, many Chinese parents think that children should be humble, if they praise their children excessively, it will lead to children being proud and complacent, so this is already a long-term bad habit of education.
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In fact, Chinese parents are more subtle in their children's expressions, take my parents as an example, I won a two-year scholarship and they just said "continue to work hard", but in fact, they are secretly very proud and happy.
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I think it's because Chinese have been taught to be humble since childhood, so many of us parents will humbly say that their children are average when others praise their children. But I think the child still needs to be praised appropriately, so as to enhance the child's self-confidence and make him a confident person.
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Because Chinese parents love face very much, they can't say a lot of praise for their children, and they also feel that praising their children will make them proud.
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In fact, for all children, they want to be recognized by their parents, and they hope to be praised and appreciated by their parents. It is important to know that the recognition of parents is the greatest motivation for children. But most parents tend not to talk about their children's approval, but instead look stern.
Parents may not feel that there is anything wrong with their children's way of educating their children in this way, but this will invisibly bring some harm to their children. <>
You must know that children don't want much, it doesn't mean that they have to give them a reward from their parents, many times they just want a compliment, but parents are often stingy in this matter, and some parents never even praise their children. Growing up in such an environment can really affect children's mental health.
Of course, not all parents are like this, there are many parents who can really stand in the perspective of their children, they can know what their children want, and they will often talk about compliments. Praise the child from time to time, it will greatly enhance the child's self-confidence, growing up in such an environment, that kind of self-confidence is engraved in the bones, it is really different from the kind of child who has been scolded since childhood. Next, I will talk about why Chinese parents are reluctant to praise their children.
1. Fear of children's pride. The reason why many parents are reluctant to praise their children is not that they feel that their children are not good enough, but that they are afraid that their children will have that kind of pride after being praised more times. So they don't often praise them, because the child is afraid that the child will be proud.
Second, I think it is better for children to be strict. Of course, there are some parents who feel that strict education of their children is better for their children's growth. And in their subconscious, they will feel that everyone will have such an attitude towards him after the child enters the society, after all, society is cruel, so let him exercise in advance.
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Because they think that by praising their children, they will make their children vain.
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Chinese-style parents are generally low-key.
They also generally teach children to be humble. They usually point out the child's shortcomings in a timely manner when they achieve something. They generally believe that encouraging children is more likely to cause them to rebel.
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This is related to the traditional Chinese education concept, filial piety under the stick is the most classic Chinese education concept, because they care too much about their children, Chinese parents like to let their children grow up according to their own ideas.
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Because Chinese parents always look at their children with a critical eye and always feel that their children can't do anything well, they don't know how to praise their children because they have too many arranged situations.
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The main reason is that China has always talked about humility, and the Chinese are particularly subtle, so it is normal for Chinese parents to be reluctant to praise their children.
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It is because Chinese parents are very unexpressive, they are very reserved, so they don't like to praise their children.
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Because in the hearts of many parents, if they praise their children, they will become very arrogant, and they also have a lot of embarrassment.
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Because this is a traditional Chinese culture, parents always feel that if they praise their children, they will make them proud, and there is no greater motivation to continue to work hard.
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Because Chinese parents are more introverted and don't express their thoughts, they hide their love in their hearts.
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This is because many Chinese parents want to educate their children in a harsh way, and many parents are afraid that complimenting their children will make them complacent.
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Chinese parents are afraid of their children's pride, so they generally do not praise their children casually. I think it's a pampering phenomenon.
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This is because Chinese are generally more restrained when expressing emotions, and they will not express their love, so they generally express their love in a subtle way.
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AbstractParents have incorrect perceptions of their children and want to gain the approval of others. Parents are very proud of their children's small achievements, everyone has the heart of comparison, and parents hope that their children are better than other children. Therefore, as long as their children have something special to show off, they will show off in front of other parents.
Parents like to show off what kind of psychology their children have.
Hello, I have seen your question and am sorting out the answer, please wait for a while Parents have incorrect understanding of their children and want to get the approval of others. Parents are very proud of their children's small achievements, everyone has the heart of comparison, and parents hope that their children are better than other children. Therefore, as long as their children have something special to show off, they will show off in front of other parents.
It is natural to hope that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix, but it is really necessary to be moderate, and to show off to others how good their children are (especially learning), in a certain respect, it is a manifestation of parents' inferiority complex for their own ability, but they are vain. Because he can't do it himself, he is mediocre everywhere, so he can only brag about his children, and satisfy his vanity by bragging about his children.
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If there is no good education for children from an early age, there will be a shadow in the child's heart, especially in the growth stage of the process from childhood to adulthood, the child will become particularly independent, not like to talk, introverted, and it may be that when he grows up, he will develop into two extremes, either very good or very bad in the future.