Why can a person bear the death of a parent but not a child?

This is mainly because life, old age, sickness and death are normal ecological conditions. And at this time, we can accept the death of some seniors who are older than us. Because we know that when a person reaches a certain age, he will indeed leave us, so we have been mentally prepared for this kind of psychology for a long time, so we can accept it.

But if you find that someone younger than you has suddenly left you, you can't accept it, because in the subconscious of our minds, we can't imagine the other person leaving, because we will feel that he is younger than me, and he should not leave this world until I leave, and he will not leave early. It is precisely because of this subconscious thinking that many people can bear the departure of their parents but cannot bear the departure of their children.

There is also the fact that we all know that father's love and mother's love are the two greatest feelings in the world, this kind of relationship does not have any return, and it also belongs to the free sacrifice of oneself, no matter what the children do, father's love and mother's love will not disappear. It is precisely because of this thinking that we cannot afford to leave our children now.

Parents are only part of the emotions in life for their children. Children will have to deal with many emotions in their lives. Although the emotions of parents are the most important, the end of life is an issue that cannot be chosen in life.

Another point is that the love of parents for their children is that they begin to give from birth. And the children's memories at that time were not very clear, and the impression was not very deep.

The pain of the loss of a parent can be diluted by other trivial things in life.

For parents, children are the hope and sustenance of their lives. All love and hope were given from birth. The healthy growth of children is their prayer, when a certain person suddenly loses the whole person, there is no hope, there is no purpose to live, and there is no spiritual motivation.

Cherish the moment, do it and cherish it.

is the so-called saddest thing in the world when a white-haired person sends a black-haired person. The reason why your parents have passed away is acceptable, but your children are not acceptable, is because your love has weight, and you don't know anyone in this world? Only the love of parents for their children is the most selfless and <>

The greatest so. Although parents are also the dearest and most beloved people, there are always old people who are still young and young. The pain of parting is unbearable for everyone, so it is more painful for such a thing to happen. May this happen again or as little as possible.

Because the pain of a white-haired person sending a black-haired person is greater than the pain of a black-haired person sending a white-haired person, the children are raised by themselves, and for the parents, the children are their hearts, and they naturally cannot accept the situation that the children die first.

Because the parents are old, it is normal for them to be born, old, sick and die, and the children are still relatively young, and a piece of meat has fallen from their bodies, so many people can't bear it.

Because children are their own flesh and blood, as if they fell from their own bodies.

The power of love. It is a well-known conclusion that people will die when they are old, and it is a well-known tragedy that people die when they are young.

We can accept the loss of our parents, but we cannot bear the loss of our children. It is because I was mentally prepared early that my parents would definitely leave us in advance, and we had never been mentally prepared that our children would leave us in advance. Especially after adulthood, marriage allows us to get out of the original family, and the focus of our attachment to our parents has shifted to our lovers and children, coupled with psychological preparation, and there are lovers and children around us, so the pain of losing our parents will not reach an unacceptable level.

The child left before the parents, almost unexpectedly, and no one can withstand an instantaneous accident. If the child dies slowly after being in a hospital bed for a long time, it is much better for parents to be psychologically prepared. ‍‍

Compared with elderly parents, facing the death of their children is more difficult for ordinary people to bear, because their children are still young and young, they have not experienced more wonderful life, and they have not even had time to start a family, get married, have children, and realize their dreams, so they left this world in a hurry, how can it not be painful and melancholy?

The death of parents is mostly a natural situation, people are old, their body organs fail, and they are unable to return to heaven. There will come a time when people, as children, their hearts have already been prepared. If you really go, you can face it calmly.

The death of children mostly happens suddenly, and there is no preparation in my heart, a person who was still alive yesterday is separated by yin and yang today, how can people be relieved? The old man has gone through a lifetime, everything that should have been experienced has been experienced, and what should have been tasted has been tasted, during which there are hardships and sweetness, and there are no regrets in this life. The children are gone, the years of flowers, have not yet tasted the taste of love, and a great future is still waiting for him, but his life came to an abrupt end, withered and withered, so how can people not be heartbroken. ‍‍

Hard work, getting up early and working greedily, all the meaning is to raise children, as a result, after working hard to raise a child for so many years, I still want to wait for him to grow up, get married, have a baby, and enjoy happiness, but he said to leave, how can he bear it!

In the face of the death of your parents, you should suffer less, because this is expected, people always have to die of old age, and it is impossible for your parents to accompany you for life. In the face of the sudden death of a child, people are not psychologically prepared, and this kind of pain is coupled with a certain amount of pity, and it will be heart-rending pain for a long time.

This is as bleak as a white-haired person sending a black-haired person. When you are old, you will be born normally, get rid of the sea of suffering, and cultivate to achieve positive results. And the young child, who continues the incense, hope and future, is just like a little young seedling, just like a young seedling, just like that, it is unwilling.

Originally, a large part of the parents' lives were for their children, but now their hopes are shattered, and they don't even have the courage to live. The loss of a father at a young age and a widow at a middle-aged age are not as painful as the loss of a son in old age.

Generally speaking, the death of a child is generally an accident, and the parents may have happily communicated with him the day before**, and the next day they received an accident such as a car accident from the child, and left quietly, even too late to say goodbye, which makes people sigh at the impermanence of life. Most of the old people die because of illness, and we have slowly accepted this fact and have been fully psychologically prepared in the long-term process. ‍‍

There is an old Chinese saying that losing a child in old age is the greatest sorrow in a person's life. In fact, this kind of sorrow contains the desolate factor of having no one to rely on in the future, no place to provide for the elderly, and no one to send him to his old age.

The love implanted in the heart disappears: giving birth to a child, from being in swaddling clothes, to being able to walk, to jumping, to school, and to be sensible. Every day, I see a lively baby, happily calling his parents, love and affection, just little by little accumulated in my heart.

But all of a sudden, he said no, and it was gone. The heart is hollowed out.

In the past, my parents raised me, and I lived under the protection of my parents, and I couldn't feel the hardships of this kind of hard work! And after becoming a parent, I realized how difficult and not easy it is to raise a child! People are always like this, because they have paid a lot, and they know that it is not easy to raise life, so they will cherish it extraordinarily. ‍‍