If you get married, your daughter s father will use it to move her grave?

Updated on society 2024-06-21
22 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    If you have an older brother or younger brother, you can discuss with them about moving the grave, if the elder brother or younger brother thinks you should go back, you can only go back, if they say you don't need to go back, you don't have to go back. If you are the only daughter in the family, you should go back when your father moves the grave, unless you are abroad and cannot return to your home country due to the epidemic.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    The father of the married daughter can go to the grave when he moves, the father moves the grave is a very important thing, the children are complete, and they can work together to be satisfied, and the most important thing is that they can do a filial piety, and the old man will be satisfied under the nine springs.

    When the grave is broken and the burial is rebuilt, the daughter cannot be aside**, she has to dodge, and she can kowtow to incense after the burial.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    The father of the married daughter is going back to move the grave, which is also a major event for the father, and it will be disrespectful and unfilial if he does not go back. In some places, the grave relocation will be very solemn, and the children must be present, and in other places, women are not allowed to enter the ground.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Even if it is a married daughter, if the father moves the grave, it is better to go, that is your father, how can you, as a daughter, not go back? Unless it's a long way away, your brother and brother don't think you need to go back.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    You can go back, it doesn't matter, it mainly depends on the daughter's time, if it is more convenient, it is best to go back, after all, it is your father who moves the grave.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    In the past (before the founding of the country), there was no need to go back. Now it is said that men and women are equal, and they can go back (of course, if they are out of town, they can communicate with their brothers, but they can not go back), "because of regional differences, or because of inherited property, etc., it is better to communicate with the elders".

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    will not let her daughter move the grave, or the ideological influence of male superiority and inferiority! It is unlucky to have a woman present at the grave! It's okay to wait at home, but you can't go to the grave!

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You just have to think about it, the father has an inheritance to inherit, and the daughter who is married needs to go back? It's time to know if you need it.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    In this era, daughters are the same as sons.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Yes, it is best on the 16th day of the first month, if you don't have time, you can wait until the Qingming Festival to go back to the house to worship the deceased father, which is also the only memorial service for my father!

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It should be said that there is no problem, this is the pursuit of filial piety ethics. However, in some villages in southwestern and south-central Lu, married daughters are not allowed to go to the grave, thinking that the married daughter is someone else's family, if there is a son in the family, the people of the mother's family do not want the daughter to go back to her mother's house to go to the grave, for fear that others will say that there is no one in the mother's house, and only the family of the mother's family without a son, the girl can go back to her mother's house to go to the grave. Some people feel that after their daughters get married, they can't sweep their mother's ancestral grave, otherwise they will take their mother's feng shui away.

    This concept is the common belief that "daughters are not heirlooms". The ancestral tombstones can only be engraved with the names of sons and daughters-in-law, and the names of girls are generally not engraved on the tombstones of their ancestors. In some places, this custom continues to this day.

    So it's best not to be superstitious and burn paper money or something, which is not only a waste of money, but also pollutes the environment. Buying real flowers is the best.

    In the past, the older generation of people paid attention to a lot, if your parents or grandparents did not leave anything behind, there was no particularity, remember, daughters, daughters-in-law, as long as the woman goes to the grave, if the menstruation is in the body, do not touch the paper money that needs to be burned, just stand aside and accompany it.

    Look at your rules, our daughters who marry here can only give to their parents, if their parents are still alive, then they can't.

    We have more sugar here, and finally we can dress up our daughter beautifully. Other matchmakers who are ready to ask both parties are OK.

    Generally speaking, it's okay, otherwise the whole generation is all daughters, and the ancestral grave of the mother's family doesn't matter.

    This is possible

    As long as you want to go、

    You can go there

    It is recommended that it is best to go to the grave of the family often, if there is no son, it is okay,,, it should be the business of the children and grandchildren. It's okay to have no sons, daughters or grandchildren.

    The custom here is that if an old man dies in the family, the next generation must get married within 49 days, and after 49 days, they have to wait for three years. However, the customs are different in each place, so you should ask the elderly.

    Unmarried girls are considered to be full of yin energy, and the yin energy of the grave will be offended, which is unlucky.

    Men are considered to be yang, and children are relatively thin and easy to be hurt, so all kinds of folklore are actually aimed at these theories.

    Of course, the physical condition of women and children is indeed not as good as that of men in the prime of life, and many feng shui superstitions are actually evolved according to the actual situation, not necessarily ignorant statements, but only for the sake of popularizing people with low education level, they can only use mysterious sayings.

    The first filial piety and the other are not in opposition, because the grandfather's moving grave is a good thing to move, and the daughter's marriage is a good thing.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Of course, you can go back to your parents' home, we Shandong is the second or third day of the Lunar New Year.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    The granddaughter can go back to her parents' house to sweep her grandfather's grave, and there are no taboos.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It is better not to marry a daughter, and it is better not to give a granddaughter a grave to her old man.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    There is this custom in my hometown, which seems to say that it is a great disrespect to the ancestors for unmarried girls to go to the grave, which is all left over from the feudal ideology of patriarchy.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Filial piety is the first", filial piety is not divided between men and women, it is the parents who give birth to themselves, and the tomb sweeping for the parents on the Qingming Festival is a kind of virtue for the children, and they are grateful to their parents. Burning a stick of incense for your parents is a sign of your own sorrow and a manifestation of filial piety.

    The folk generally believe that there are two disadvantages of marrying a daughter to go to her parents' house on the Qingming Festival: on the one hand, marrying a daughter to go back to her parents' house to go to the grave will hold hands with the good feng shui of her mother's ancestral grave, causing the people of her mother's family to be unlucky; On the other hand, if a married daughter goes back to her parents' house to go to the grave, it will make outsiders feel that her mother's family has "no successor", no one is willing to go to the grave of her ancestors to worship her ancestors, and the people of her mother's family will be gossiped about by others. In fact, most of these are influenced by traditional patriarchal thinking, believing that daughters are not their own family, "the water spilled by married daughters".

    Influenced by the old concept of "male superiority and inferiority of women", her daughter cannot go back to her parents' home during the Qingming Festival, nor can she worship her ancestors at her parents' house.

    With the development of society, people are more and more open-minded, and now most families are still only children, so now this concept has become less and less, the daughter who marries on the Qingming Festival can also go back to her parents' house to worship her ancestors, many areas have taken their husbands back to their parents' homes to sweep the tomb, as long as the parents and elders do not have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, then naturally daughters can go to the grave regardless of whether they are married or not.

    What are the taboos for my daughter to go back to her parents' house?

    1. You can't sweep the floor in your mother's house, and you can't sleep in the same bed with your husband.

    2. Not being able to live in my mother's house for a long time will affect my brother's financial luck.

    3. You can't eat dinner at your mother's house, you have to go back to your mother-in-law's house before lighting the lamp at night, otherwise you will eat at your poor mother's house.

    4. You can't be confined at your mother's house, or go back to your parents' house before confinement, otherwise you will be unlucky.

    5. Gifts for honoring parents should come in pairs, not odd numbers.

    What holidays are not allowed to go back to your parents' home?

    1. Spring Festival, the first day of the new year, the married girl must spend the New Year at her mother-in-law's house, and on the second day of the Lunar New Year, the person from her mother's house can call to return to her mother's house.

    2. The Lantern Festival on the fifteenth day of the first month, the Lantern Festival is a reunion festival, but you can't go back to your parents' home, and the folk have the saying that "when you see your mother's lamp, you will be poor for a lifetime", so you must spend the New Year at your mother-in-law's house.

    3. On the second day of February of the lunar calendar, the day when the dragon raises its head, it cannot go back to its parents' home.

    4. Qingming Festival, you can't go back to your parents' house on this day, and women can't go to the tomb, whether it's at your mother-in-law's house or at your mother's house, women can't go to the cemetery.

    5. On the 15th day of July, all ghosts are out, and you can't go back to your parents' house on this day. Because according to custom, the daughter of July 15 goes back to her parents' house to worship her parents, and if both parents are complete, she should not go home, and she should not return on July 14, but will return again on July 16.

    6. The Mid-Autumn Festival on August 15, of course, the reunion festival can only be spent at the mother-in-law's house.

    7, Laba Festival, the folk saying "Laba does not eat her mother's rice, the ancestors can not afford it", there is also a saying that Laba will be unlucky to return to her mother's house on this day, and her mother-in-law will die on her stomach after a hundred years.

    8. Sacrificial stove day, also known as small year, because women do not sacrifice to the stove, so there is also a custom that it is not suitable to return to her parents' house on the day of sacrificing the stove.

    Different stages of life, the fortune is completely different, understand the fortune in advance, so as to avoid the evil and turn the danger into a disaster.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Of course, the daughters of the family can say goodbye to their fathers, this is what your respective daughters do, so there is still a need to find someone to ask in it, this is known to the whole of China, this is the least Director Xiao, so there is no chance, this is a very normal child, a kind of missing for parents, of course, the basic is the best.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    1.Ancestor worship is a virtue and filial piety. Juniors can choose the time to do it.

    2.The customs will vary from place to place, so in order to avoid tongues, ask about the local customs before proceeding.

    3.Even if you have customs, you can go with him if your brother doesn't mind.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    There is no such thing in the current society, if you want to go as you want, it is okay, and there is no contradiction between your father and you, if there is no contradiction between you and your brother, you are willing to go to the sacrifice, you are willing to decide.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    The customs are different in various places, we don't have this kind of saying here, as children, it is appropriate to pay tribute to the elderly, why not allow the married daughter to go to the grave, I am really helping you look forward to it,

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I don't think there's anything to say about it, in our place. Whether it is married or unmarried, it is possible to go to the grave.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    If the married daughter returns to her parents' house to go to the grave, it will have a bad impact on the fortune and reputation of her mother's family. A daughter will go back to her parents' house to go to the grave and will hold hands with the good feng shui of her mother's ancestral grave; Second, the daughter goes back to her parents' house to go to the grave, which will make outsiders feel that her mother's family has "no successor", so in general, the daughter's grave has the greatest impact on her mother's family.

    It is not good for a daughter to go to the grave.

    What are the taboos for daughters to go to the grave?

    In the countryside, everyone attaches great importance to the Qingming Festival, every household searches the rock household to go to the grave to worship the ancestors, and some ancestral tombs have to spend ** to rebuild, but the married girl will not go back to her parents' house to go to the grave. It was many years later that I learned why. In fact, it depends on the customs of each place, and some places believe that daughters can also go to the grave, after all, daughters are also one of the descendants; Some places think that it is inappropriate for a daughter to go to the grave, and a woman is not "her own family" in the minds of feudal people, so her daughter cannot go to the grave.

    There are several theories about whether a daughter can go to the grave:

    1. The daughter is too young to go to the grave.

    No matter what the custom is, it is not appropriate for a daughter to go to the grave if she is too young. Generally speaking, if a child is under the age of six, it is not appropriate for him or her to attend the grave ceremony. Because the child is too young and has low yang energy, and the cemetery is a place with very heavy yin energy, it is extremely easy for children to see some unclean things, and it is extremely easy to cause some negative substances to entangle around the child (children with low yang energy are easy to provoke evil things), so that the child is often sick and so on, so the daughter is too young to go to the grave, which needs to be noted.

    In addition, the elderly love children very much, and when they take children to worship their ancestors, the ancestors are particularly "loved" for children, and people are easy to cause the ancestors to be reluctant to let the children go, and they are so reluctant to "let go", which is not conducive to children.

    It is not good for a daughter to go to the grave.

    2. Can an unmarried daughter go to the grave?

    In some places, unmarried daughters are allowed to go to the grave, for example, in many Guangdong areas, unmarried daughters can go to the grave to worship their ancestors. It's just that the feudal ideology in some areas is more serious, and they think that whether a daughter marries or not does not affect the essence of her being a "foreign daughter", so even if the daughter is not married, she cannot worship in her ancestral grave.

    3. Married daughters are not allowed to go to the grave.

    The married daughter Shiyu should not return to her mother's house to go to the grave, she can only worship the ancestral grave of her husband's family at her husband's house, and cannot return to her mother's house to worship the ancestral grave of her mother's family, because in people's traditional concepts, the daughter is already her husband's family when she marries, and her mother's family is only her mother's family no matter how close she is, and her name and household registration have also been inherited to her husband's family, so the married daughter is a member of her husband's family, and she cannot go to her mother's house to worship her ancestors.

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