My boyfriend s father suddenly doesn t approve of our marriage, how can I protect myself?

Updated on society 2024-06-11
17 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    What an adult, there is such a shameless adult in the world. Why didn't you say it before, wait until you're pregnant to pick and choose. I've never seen such parents, people are hurrying to let the little couple get married, happily hugging their grandchildren, why are they like this, I'm angry, and the person who is not responsible, you are pregnant with his flesh and blood, why is it like that.

    If I don't want to beat the child, or give me compensation, won't they have a girl, aren't they afraid that her girl will also be treated like this? I'm so angry, I'm probably a little anxious to speak, I'm angry for you. But then again, if you can earn as much as you can, if you can't, let it go!

    I think you'll have a happy ending, let them regret going.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    The key is your boyfriend, leave the rest alone.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    yes, what did your boyfriend say! Have you discussed it with your boyfriend, the key is that you and your boyfriend! Bless you! ~

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    How can this be? His dad is too much You talk to your boyfriend first and then talk to his mom If his father will make unreasonable demands, please refuse, you have to learn to protect yourself You can't compromise blindly You marry him and not marry his father And if he can't even protect you I don't think you two really need to develop like that Think about yourself is important or love.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I see that your husband's position is not firm, he actually said that there are many good men? It is necessary to talk to his father, in order to protect himself, for the sake of what has been paid, for the sake of your love for him, then you should talk to his father, be soft, and see how it works. Put pressure on your husband again to make him stand firm, you can see that he is not very assertive, so you have to do work for him, and then let him put pressure on his father.

    However, having said that, such a father-in-law, such a husband, if it doesn't work, let's change it, and I won't be angry enough to be with them in the future.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think you should talk to your boyfriend's dad if you really married your boyfriend first!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Look at what your boyfriend means, if he chooses to compromise then even if you are together there will be no good results, if he chooses you, it means that he becomes strong for you, such a person is worthy of love, for him and for your future, you have to pay a lot, of course, as long as you want, don't blame his parents, every parent hopes that their children will be better!

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    What's your boyfriend's opinion? This kind of thing is the most troublesome.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    A little bit of a question that I don't understand, and I don't think your boyfriend understands, you can ask him: Is his dad marrying you? Or is he married to you and let your boyfriend think about it, if he is a man, he should be responsible for everything he does, and if he is a puppet without opinions, he will not say anything.

    You have to be strong. Let's see if your boyfriend can be saved.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Dizzy, generally most women are mothers-in-law who are so careful, I didn't think that a man would be like this.

    In fact, the most important thing is your relationship with your husband and your husband's attitude. After all, it is you who marry your husband and live with your husband in the future, so his attitude towards you, his thoughts and the relationship between you are the most important. If he loves you and wants to be with you, he can always convince his father, after all, there is no deep hatred, but if he is also.

    That's worth thinking again! After all, everyone wants marriage to be a lifelong thing!

    Good luck!

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Marriage is originally a matter of the two of you, of course, it is a good thing for the parents to take care of it, no matter what, you can make your own decisions, do your own things, and grasp your own happiness.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    First of all, I understand that this can be a problem that bothers you.

    If your boyfriend's father has a negative attitude towards your marriage, it can cause you a lot of stress and insecurity.

    Here are some suggestions that may help:

    1.Respect his point of view: Although you may disagree with him, it is very important to respect his point of view. Try to understand his thoughts and concerns, and show your understanding and respect.

    2.Have an open, honest conversation with him: Try to have an open, honest conversation with him to understand his concerns and concerns. This can help you better understand where he stands, while also giving him an idea of what you are thinking and feeling.

    3.Seek support: If you're feeling confused or can't cope with the situation, consider seeking professional support. A counsellor or family trainer can help you better manage the situation and provide practical advice and tips.

    4.Dealing with your boyfriend: It is very important to deal with this situation with your boyfriend. Together, you can ** how to deal with his father and how to deal with the impact of this situation on your relationship.

    Most importantly, remember that this is a relationship between you and your boyfriend, and you need to decide your future together. As important as his father's opinion is, the final decision is up to you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    First of all, you should respect his father's opinion, try to communicate, understand his opinion, and respect his decision. If you have different ideas, you can try the state to see if you can reach a consensus. If his father is adamantly against it, you can respect his decision and pat him on the back, but you also have to be patient and wait slowly in the hope that his attitude will change.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Falling in love is a matter of two people, while marriage is a matter of two families.

    If you have behaved very reasonable and have done nothing wrong, but his parents still say very ugly things to you and do not take you seriously, then his family will not accept you and will not be considered a reasonable family. I don't know how your boyfriend treats you, even if your boyfriend treats you well, his parents can't get around, if you choose to marry your boyfriend, you have to learn to forgive and tolerate his parents in the future, can you do it? If you can't do that, letting go is the best option.

    If the man's parents don't want to see you, it means that they don't agree, that is, they don't approve of you, so they look down on you from the beginning, and they may suffer a lot of grievances when they marry in the past.

    The attitude of the man's parents will affect the relationship between the husband and wife. Imagine, if you have a conflict with your in-laws, your man can stand on your side once or twice, but can you guarantee that he can always be on your side, because you quarrel with your parents every day?

    It's going to be very hard to get married. After getting married, you will also face the stage of getting pregnant, giving birth to children, and taking care of children. If the man's parents do not agree, it is difficult for the woman to be willing to take the initiative to lend a helping hand and help in time when the woman needs help after marriage, and the days after that will be really hard and tiring will be very tiring.

    Of course, if both parties are strong-willed, and the love between you can be proved to your parents, you are genuinely determined to be together and capable of living your own life. Then I believe that the final ending is a happy one. It mainly depends on the attitude of your boyfriend towards you and the influence of his parents' thoughts on him.

    To put it simply, if your boyfriend is the kind of person who is particularly easy to be swayed by his parents, then you can consider breaking up, if he can correctly and objectively change his mind for you in his parents, then you can trust him, whether the two people are together whether they are in love or married, whether the boyfriend chooses to believe in you, help you, support you, and be willing to try for you, this is very important, first of all, why don't your boyfriend's parents treat you? There must be a reason, most of it is because he thinks that you are not worthy of his son, you may be bullied even if you don't break up, even if you get married, a small part of the reason is your boyfriend, your boyfriend's attitude towards you will also affect the attitude of his parents, his parents think that you will not break up with his son, think that his son is very powerful, naturally he is not afraid of you, and slowly this kind of thinking leads to his parents not to see you, most of the reasons are these two points, and it is still necessary to see the truth.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you don't agree, it's better to see the situation clearly before talking about marriage, don't be in a hurry.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Good things are grinding, do work, you can get the blessing of the man's parents. I wish a lover a family member!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Although contemporary society advocates free love, if you want to get married, both men and women must obtain the approval of both parents, because it is difficult to be happy without the blessing of parents. But what do we do when our parents do not agree?

    1. Look at your own mind.

    If he is worthy of your life, you really identify him, then you will stick to him, and the two of you will work together to win the consent of your parents, and after a long time, your parents will always be relieved.

    2. Calm down for a while.

    If your parents have been disapproving of your marriage and you and your partner are also in a relationship, so you can calm down. After all, if you give up your love because of your parents, you will hate them, and then you will try to get married and stop getting along with them, and you will not be happy as a result. Marriage is a happy thing, not a knot in your heart.

    We can put things down for a while and give the other person some time to calm down and think. There is a solution to everything, but it's only a matter of time.

    3. Communicate and get along.

    It is important to communicate with your parents, for example, what kind of misunderstandings they have about your significant other and what kind of requirements they expect from the other person. In this way, the other half can make some changes, or meet some parents' requirements, and the parents will naturally be satisfied. In addition, parents do not agree with your marriage, probably because they do not know your other half well, so if you want your marriage to go smoothly, then it is best to let your other half contact your parents more, so that they can understand each other and like each other in their daily life.

    4. Analyze your marriage rationally.

    If your parents have been disagreeing with the marriage, there must be a reason. As parents, they will surely worry about whether their child's partner will be able to give their child happiness and worry that their child will be wronged. We need to know that our parents are older and more experienced than us, so they have their reasons for their words.

    Therefore, we should analyze our marriage rationally and not be impulsive.

    5. Understand that a marriage that is not approved of by your parents will not be happy.

    If you hurt your parents because of marriage, then no matter how good you have a future, your parents will be very sad, at this time it is not a simple cry, but the biggest damage to the soul, if you want your parents to spend the second half of their lives well, enjoy well, then I think you must not ignore your parents' thoughts, just get married, because it really hurts them, sooner or later you will regret your actions.

    6. Break up. Breaking up is the last option. If your parents don't agree, even if you get married, the other party may not be happy living in such a family, so it's better to break up.

    The breakup may be sad, and there will be a period of sadness, but after the breakup, the chain will get better.

    7. Persistence. For a person who doesn't take it lightly and says let go, persistence is very important. Perhaps in this case, parents still feel sorry for their children in the end.

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