Why are second married couples cautious?

The second marriage is all people who have lost their hearts, they are all people who have almost lost half their lives, and their mental and physical bodies have basically been destroyed! Treat love is basically down! Finding someone similar to marry again is just to live a good life and live a good life!

It's okay to be able to treat yourself sincerely, and you don't have too many requirements and extravagant expectations for each other! In their inner world, it is enough to understand each other and be able to live well.

Second-married couples often hide their hearts to see what the other party has done for themselves, and then decide which step they have done, so second-married couples will always be separated from each other and cannot be honest with each other.

It was once difficult to turn the sea into water". Second-married couples have the experience of having a first marriage, and many couples have a makeshift mentality when they get married for the second time, and of course they don't want to divorce easily, and they can't afford to toss! So they accompanied each other carefully, kept guard, and lived "in the future".

Hide from each other, neither want to offend each other, but also don't want to please each other, the relationship between the two sides relies on each other, gives themselves a face, and both have the idea of leaving at any time.

They are all combined after a relatively short period of time, and the emotional foundation is not thick. There are many material considerations that focus on the other side and ignore the communication of emotions and feelings.

The composition of each other's family members is more complex than that of a single marriage. In particular, if both parties have children, there are many issues involved in the economy, mutual integration, and emotional cultivation. "It is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs". These things may seem like small things, but it's not easy to deal with them.

I am a woman of second marriage, for me, the second marriage is indeed a bit awkward, sometimes, I think of my ex, I always feel that I and my ex are the real husband and wife, the current in front of me is like a friend, the two of us in addition to the usual meals, basically there is little communication, maybe it is the reason of time, I feel that I have not yet adapted to it.

The main reason is that they are not close enough to each other, each has its own thoughts, and each has its own ideas.

It is difficult for second-married couples to have real feelings, and there is generally a practice of each managing their own family, and each has a failed marriage and does not want to touch each other's sore spots.

I started my second marriage last year, and my current wife, I don't have much feelings, the reason why I am cautious is because I have been hurt by my ex, so in our life, I don't believe too much in him, there is already a shadow in my heart, in daily life, no matter what the problem is, I basically solve it by myself, without any dependence.

Because I mind more, keep a distance from each other, and I don't know as much as the original partner, so I'm more careful about doing things and have a sense of distance.

I also got married for the second time, starting on New Year's Day in 2016, he was careful in everything, I handled anything by myself, never relied on him, he had a daughter, with him, since he never thought of having a child with me, he was in poor condition when I met him, and now we have about 150,000 deposits, but he is very critical of me, and he will never give my parents any contact, let alone buy things, give some money, that is not there, and almost all of them are subsidized by me when they live together, And his money in addition to raising his children, but also to support his mother, and even a bunch of poor relatives, but also to play mahjong, a group of fox friends and dog friends to eat and drink, so distressed second marriage life, I want to divorce now, but I am afraid of divorce, what should I do.

Young couples, old companions, and second-married couples mostly make do with life, and for both parties with children, it is even more difficult to have a heart and get by.

Nonsense, is it still like the swaggering before, do you still want to get married three times?

A time bomb, on the verge of exploding.

Halfway husband and wife are thieves, and there is nothing good to end for.

No. In a second-married couple, it is difficult for two people to be honest with each other, which will exacerbate many conflicts and affect the relationship.

The reason for being cautious is that you are afraid of losing, so you must be cautious in everything you do and everything you say.

First of all, because the emotional foundation of the husband and wife of the second marriage is not solid, they are not as good as the relationship between the original husband and wife. Therefore, in order to preserve their marriage, they have to choose to live carefully.

In addition, second-married couples have come from failed marriages, and they understand the difficulties of marriage better. When they are united into a family again, they will also cherish it, for fear of entering into the fate of divorce again, which also forces them to be careful about the new marriage.

For second-married couples, the following aspects should be done to ensure that the new marriage is long-lasting and the family is harmonious.

First, we must trust each other. Trust is even more important for second-married couples, and both husband and wife should be honest with each other, not to hide anything, and not to be suspicious of each other. It is best to cut off contact with your ex-wife and ex-husband, even if you need to contact each other because of the children, and ask for the other person's consent or go with the other person to deal with it.

Second, it is necessary to manage finances in a unified manner. Second-married couples should achieve financial unity, centralize the money of two people together to manage and spend, and must not spend their own money. Two people should consult each other and ask for each other's opinions, especially the alimony paid to the ex-wife or ex-husband's children.

We must decide after discussion and so on, and we must not make our own decisions alone.

Third, we must have a common child. Children are one of the important factors in maintaining family marriage, and having common children has a common goal, and life is meaningful when there is a goal. Families that do not have children together are likely to cause the husband and wife to hide their own hearts and affect the harmony of the family.

Only by doing the above three points will the marriage of the second marriage be stronger, and it will not be cautious.

After the second marriage, people will always feel the lack of their marriage, because this is not as much as the previous first marriage, and will always feel a lot of problems in it, because after experiencing a marriage, the husband and wife will definitely feel the cruelty and cherishing of the marriage, so after the second marriage, they hope to cherish each other, do not want to divorce again, and there are other problems to pay attention to.

For the husband and wife themselves, both people have experienced this kind of setback, so it is not easy, so they will feel that they should manage their marriage well, otherwise there will be the situation before, and after all, two people have had some problems before they divorced, so they will also have some vigilance against each other, and hope that they will not do this kind of thing for the same reason, so what everyone can think of is that they can better face the preciousness brought by marriage, and they will be very concerned and careful in handling everything. So that the marriage can go on forever.

For the children of two people, the husband and wife will also give different feelings, no matter which party's child, they need to be cherished, so it will make people feel very precious, and there will be a lot of problems in it, so everyone will always feel more difficult about this, because when contacting each other's children, they may be rejected by the other party, and their children also need to be tolerated, so they will feel that the second marriage is not easy, so they will be more careful to live life, Otherwise, you will be ridiculed by others for not having a normal married life.

From the specific social concept, the problem of being ridiculed always needs to be faced, so I will make my marriage more serious to maintain, in order to gain a good foothold in society.

Because they are all second marriages, after all, they are all divorced people, and now they have a happy family to avoid repeating the mistakes of the previous marriage, so they are all living carefully, for fear that their own mistakes, or the other party's mistakes, will lead to the failure of this marriage.

People always cherish it after missing it, anyway, they are living a particularly happy and happy life, but people are not satisfied, they want to get better, in their hearts, there is no best, only better, but it is this kind of psychology that causes them to miss their best days.

Now that they are married for the second time, they will learn the lesson of the last time, and they will no longer become so greedy, but want to live a good life sincerely, and make their lives more prosperous and happier, because they have this mentality, so they live their lives carefully. <>

It is through this reflection that a social reality comes out, people are in the midst of happiness and do not know how sweet their life is, but they just want to do it and get more happiness, and this is how they do it, and their happy life will be gone.

There is really no regret medicine in the world to take, so when you are unhappy, or when you feel that you are very unhappy, think about what you would do if you didn't have this kind of life, whether you would miss such days, and if you really miss it, then live honestly.

Don't let the future you hate the current you, and don't always complain in the days to come, why didn't you cherish it at the beginning, so for the future you, the current you must also work hard and cherish the current life.