Let s talk about how to avoid becoming a barricade?

When I see some remarks on Zhihu and feel angry and funny, I have to think about whether I will rely too much on my own experience and knowledge and forcibly interpret a lot of things that I am not capable of interpreting? Seeing that you are not virtuous and thinking about yourself, this can be regarded as a little benefit of Shangzhihu.

The performance of the bar spirit is that every time you say a word, he will do a few words against you, and if you want to avoid becoming a bar spirit, you have to understand others.

A lot of bars can affect the mood, so let it be calm.

Don't be like those old fools.

Happy! It's because I don't see the trick.

What he says, how he refutes, in short, he has his own reason.

That is, if you say one thing, he will always be able to pick on you, and you should maintain a love for life.

I think the performance of the bar spirit is that they can especially have some other ideas, and to avoid becoming a bar spirit, they can only be with more capable people.

I think the performance of steel bars is always against others, he can't say anything about others, and the way to avoid cleanliness is not to express your thoughts easily.

In fact, Gongjing means that he has to raise the bar with others about anything, and he feels that such a person is very hateful.

No matter what others do, no matter what others say, I always like to raise the bar with others, and try not to say what I think in the future, and I can't help it.

The performance of the bar spirit is that when someone else says a word, he always has to refute it first and find out his superiority. In life, we need to recognize ourselves.

The words of the city are to talk to whomever he wants, he will take a walk, that is, he will not follow others, I think the words are to avoid becoming a newspaper, that is, you must have emotional intelligence.

1. The bar essence refers to those self-righteous people, who love everything, others say that he will definitely try his best to say the west, don't scatter people to say that he will definitely say bad, always love to raise the bar with others, love to argue, and always be able to talk to death. Sometimes he doesn't mean it, he just gets used to holding opposite views to others, and always wants to defeat others, although in the end it doesn't do him any good, that is, he harms others and is not good for himself.

2. For example, if you say that stinks and you can't eat it, he has to find some messy things to prove that is edible, and he has to prove that you are wrong before he can feel at ease.

3. This is the bar essence, and people see it as annoying as the bar essence.

Papi sauce Mother's Day Saiwa, but was scolded by Kai Hanshen on the hot search, the reason is that he worked hard to bring the baby, and the child followed her husband's surname, which was said by some people.

into a "donkey".

There is a type of person in the world, no matter what kind of opinion you express, he will give you a negative and blow to you, this kind of person is commonly known as a bar.

What should you do in the face of the bar spirit?

First, never refute. It's definitely the stupidest thing to refute the bar, take a deep breath and calm your emotions. Old Zen.

Second, first identify with his question. Listen to him, pay attention to him, treat him with respect and support.

Third, respond. Wait for the other person to close their mouths and open their ears to express their opinions.

Others are like mirrors, you say he is a bad person, he is a bad person. You say he's a good guy, he's a good guy.

"Gongjing" is really a magical existence in the modern Internet vocabulary.

I feel that "bar essence" is to talk nonsense with my eyes open, and I still have a conscience to raise the bar with others. When you say that one thing is right, the "bar spirit" admits that it is right, and he also wants to talk to you that this thing is wrong. "Bar spirit" can really make people angry.

Treating the "bar essence", everyone's methods are: 1, take the road of "bar essence", so that the "bar essence" has no way out, that is, to go back; 2, the bar can't be avoided, that is, to avoid it.

However, these methods only apply to "strange bar spirits" and "ordinary friend bar spirits", some "bar spirits" who rarely meet.

For leaders and colleagues, such boss-level "bar spirits", you can't be mad and can't escape, what should you do?

At this time, I really understood the truth that "silence is golden". When I first learned the "power of silence" and "silence is golden", I only knew the surface, but now I know the meaning of it after experiencing it myself.

For these "bar spirits" who look up and do not look down, we must learn to "endure" and learn to "be silent". "Gong Jing" means that the verbal attack is strong, and our "silence" will make their attacks have no sense of accomplishment, and the attack power will be weakened.

In our lives, there are some people who will always give you a sense of powerlessness that "shows talent meets soldiers".

You tell him about your efforts, and he tells you about your origin; You Yuanliang tells him about strength, and he talks to you about luck.

You talk to him about feelings, and he gives you reason; You tell him the facts, and he tells you examples.

This is what we commonly call the bar essence.

Argue with the bar, nine times out of ten, you lose.

It's not that you can't argue.

Rather, when two people have different cognitive levels, the information communicated is not on the same channel.

Human cognition is like a huge sinkhole, arranged in the shape of a funnel.

The cognitive class sees less and less, often feels social injustice, is emotionally extreme, angry, and stubborn.

The more you go up, the more you see, the more you feel the beauty of the world, the more positive energy you absorb, and you know how to empathize and be compatible with each other.

Buddhism has a cloud: "Go to self-grasping, remove prejudice, all things are accessible in the heart, immeasurable and boundless." ”

Really good people will never be stubborn and refuse to receive information from the outside world.

People must have their own self and constantly evolve.

Having an ego is an affirmation of the self, while evolution is the negation of the self.

If a person is permanently blocked from the outside world, he will not be able to form new cognitions.

Without new understanding, we cannot deny ourselves, and the evolution of life will stop.

Therefore, the first step in cognitive upgrading is to open your ears, open your mind, and open your eyes to see the world.

When you put aside your own opinions and no longer focus on your own experience, then the knowledge of your predecessors and the experiences of those around you will be a channel for you to obtain valuable information.

In the future, be more tolerant, less raise the bar, receive in advance, and then introspect, and form your own pluralistic thinking cognition.