My boyfriend s dad has cancer, and he hasn t paid much attention to me lately?

Your boyfriend may be stressed, because if he has cancer.

Time may be running out. And then your boyfriend is also under a lot of pressure right now, and it's normal to ignore your words or be busy with his own family affairs.

There are many people who say what's wrong with the world now, boyfriend and girlfriend are sick and want to break up, and boyfriend and girlfriend's parents are sick and want to break up?

Seeing these words, it's a mixed bag, try to ask yourself a question: if your daughter is excellent and beautiful, loved by everyone, and flowers bloom, in other words, your daughter can find a daughter with good conditions, at least a car and a house, and no worries about food and clothing. Her boyfriend's condition was not very good, and now there is a terminally ill patient at home, huge mental pressure, and huge medical expenses.

Do you still want your daughter to marry him and go on?

I gave this example to show that when everything is at stake for you, will you still be as noble as you say? Can you really put aside your long-term interests to do something emotional?

Of course, I believe that there are such people, and there are quite a few such people. And the person who can really do it may not be the tone of moral kidnapping, but will really understand. And many people have the problem of moral kidnapping, and when morality kidnaps others, they are upright and high.

Even if you are really a saint yourself, there is no reason for you to stand on the moral high ground and ask others to become saints too.

Speaking from personal experience, my boyfriend's father had passed away from cancer, and when cancer was diagnosed, we were just ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend, not engaged. It's been half a year since my uncle died, and we're not apart. It's a long story, and only you know the ups and downs, and terminal illness will have foreign debts for ordinary families.

Of course I won't choose to leave him, but I'll keep going. But seeing this kind of example again, I am particularly able to understand the party who is struggling with whether to leave or not. I feel that if you choose to leave, it is not the fault of the person who left, but a normal choice.

If you don't choose to leave, it's kind-hearted, empathetic, and that's true love.

In the face of money and interests, kindness is rare, and true love is so luxurious. It's like if a woman who looks ugly, has no education, and doesn't have a good job thinks about finding a rich and handsome woman every day, 99% of people will laugh with disdain and laugh at whimsy by the way? Why?

Because in almost everyone's subconscious, the value of being rich and handsome obviously does not match this woman, and it is impossible. Because beauty, education, work, and family are all part of potential resources or interests. Can you say that you don't look at the value of profit at all?

Having said that, if one of the parents is terminally ill, the value of the family's interests is damaged, and if the only child is saddled with foreign debts, the value of your interests will be further damaged. The two parties, whose potential interests were roughly balanced, are no longer balanced, so they have to find a new balance point, and if they can't find it, they can only disperse. What's incomprehensible about this?

Otherwise, why don't you go find someone who looks ugly? Why are you so superficial, you know how to look at your appearance? If someone says that, do you still think it's right?

You should understand your boyfriend at this point, after all, Dad is sick, and this is more serious, and he is in a bad mood. It's normal, how can you be in the mood to coax you or fall in love, at this time you should accompany him more, enlighten him, and help him do something when you can help him do something.

Hello! It should be that he is busy taking care of his father, and he will not be in a good mood when this kind of thing happens at home, as his girlfriend, you should have more company and comfort. You should take the initiative to help your boyfriend, deal with some things, and dealing with friends is a matter for both parties, not just one person.

I wish you all happiness.

That's because my boyfriend's dad is sick, and he's not in the mood to talk all the time, but cares about his dad's condition. At the same time, you also need to take care of your father often, so there will be less and less time to chat, so you should take the initiative to get to know him at this time and help him as much as possible.

If your boyfriend's father has cancer, then he must be very sad and may be very busy at home, and he will definitely run around in the hospital to take care of his father for his father's illness, so it is understandable that he has ignored you recently.

Your boyfriend must have been very nervous lately, and he doesn't have time to care about you at all, after all, his father has cancer, so you have to care about him, try not to bother him again, and if there is a possibility of help, you can go over to help.

Because his father's illness upset him, at this time he was depressed and didn't want to pay attention to you because of his father, at this time you have to be sensible, you have to learn to care and accompany.

It shows that your boyfriend is in a bad mood and needs more understanding, care and comfort, it is normal for everyone to be in a bad mood when they encounter such a situation, after all, the dearest person is sick!

People are busy with funerals, how can they have time to take care of you... You can ask your family if you need to go to the house to burn some money, if you are going to get married, you should go, if you are only in the love stage, it is better to go out of politeness.

At this time, what your boyfriend needs is to accompany him silently, and you should stop chatting frequently, if you can't give him any substantial help, it is recommended to say some witty things every day to make him happy.

His father's cancer hit him hard, after all, it was his parents, how could he have the heart to think about anything else, you don't think too much, he is not so mature, there is no way to balance the women on both sides very well, give him time, let him grow.

Maybe he hasn't been in a good mood lately, but at this time you should understand him more and give him more care and attention.

At this time, he must be extremely depressed, and there is no way to do it yourself, you should stay by his side and take the initiative to care for him, instead of worrying about whether he ignores you.

If there is such a big thing at your boyfriend's house, it is possible that he is not in a good mood and can't take care of you, so he will ignore you.

In this case, he must be his father, and it is normal to ignore you, so pay more attention to him.

It's good to send more red envelopes to comfort and comfort him, and talk to him about his condition or something.

What happened hit him hard, you can care more about him, comfort him more.

If you like your boyfriend, then you should go to Zhu Rongzhu and take the initiative to find him, and share some of it for him, because you see that his father has cancer, what is his mood, is there a father who has cancer? He has to be led to the doctor, what is he doing? His time must be tighter, and if you want to do this, you have to be the ancestor to take the initiative to find him.

Summary. Hello, my boyfriend's dad has cancer, and I'm not sure if we have a future, but my boyfriend wants me to go back and reassure his dad. In this case, does the boyfriend ask you to go back and reassure his dad that you will get married, so that his dad can rest assured?

I think it's better for two people to say what is okay and what is not.

My boyfriend's dad has cancer, and I'm not sure if we have a future, but my boyfriend wants me to go back and put his dad at ease.

Hello, my boyfriend's dad has cancer, and I'm not sure if we have a future, but my boyfriend wants me to go back and reassure his dad. In this case, does the boyfriend ask you to go back and reassure his dad that you will get married, so that his dad can rest assured? I think it's better for two people to say what is okay and what is not.

Because my boyfriend's dad has cancer, he's dying, and I'm not sure I'll see you get married. But how to put his dad at ease when you go back? It's just that the two of you are about the same to get married in front of his father, right?

So I personally think that you may have a lot of trouble when you go back, such as being sympathized with by your boyfriend, sham marriage with him, or making marriage pledges. If it's a boyfriend, it's okay if he has a good character, but if he doesn't have a good character, maybe he will have to use it in the future.

It is advisable to decide carefully.

Hope mine is helpful to you.

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My boyfriend's family is always urging me to get married, and my boyfriend's father is terminally ill with cancer, and I don't want to, what should I do?

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Communicate more with your boyfriend and tell the hall that his marriage is a major life event and cannot be hastily done. The reason why you don't want to marry your boyfriend is that you don't know enough about it, you are afraid that your boyfriend can't afford to take on the responsibility of marital decoration, and you are not sure whether the other party is worthy of your life. If you still love your boyfriend, communicate with him so that he can eliminate his inner concerns and get married when the time is right.

It depends on what you think.

His father has cancer, so the next ** will definitely cost a lot of money, and his family burden will become very heavy. And this ** will be an endless hole, you don't know when he will fill it, and he simply can't give up his father's **.

Actually, I can understand him very well, his current future is not very good, and you will definitely suffer with him. He will not have time to spend with you because he has to take care of his father and work hard to earn money, he will also have financial pressure because of his father's medical expenses, and he will also worry about his current situation Whether your parents will trust you to him.

In this case, it's up to you.

If you really love him, believe in him, and want to be with him, then make it clear to him that you won't feel dragged down with him, and you want to face this pressure with him. If you are afraid that he will not and is not at ease, you can tell him to leave him by yourself if he can't hold on, so that he will not have a burden. I think he should be acceptable and understandable about this.

If you feel like it's a burden to stay with him, then choose to break up.

However, don't accept his offer to break up with him in order to reassure him, and then wait for him silently. This is the stupidest way, because he doesn't know your mind at all, if there is a girl who is willing to bear the pressure with him at this time, I think he will feel very much, if the two of them are together, then your silent contribution will be nothing.

I still want to suggest that you face the pressure with him, if you really can't hold on to the breakup, you won't regret it, of course, the choice is still up to you, no matter what, I hope you won't regret your choice.

I feel like if something like this really happened to me in real life, I felt like I might be overwhelmed. I can't think rationally, and I don't know what to do.

But if I were to just talk about my thoughts on something like this, I think I would be more sensible.

First of all, if you look at this question, you should be able to think that the family situation of both of you should not be particularly good. At most, it's a well-off family, right? If that's the case, and your relationship is deep.

Then your boyfriend must love you very much, then I think there is a reason and understandable why he would make such a decision.

When your boyfriend asks you to break up because your father has cancer, I think he must be very sad and stressed at this time. His father's physical condition and the financial pressure of the family will make him feel very painful, so I think he is sad when he makes this kind of decision, he doesn't really want to part with you, he is just afraid that he will drag you down, afraid that he will not be able to give you a good life, and he will not be able to take care of you. And this just shows that he really loves you.

So at times like these, you must be sensible and not let the impulse of the moment dictate your decision.

If it were me, as soon as he proposed this idea, I would not immediately say that I would never leave you, nor would I directly agree to leave him. I will tell him that you don't have to worry about me during this time, and don't say anything that you are afraid of delaying me, let's not think about this for now. During this time, you should take care of your uncle wholeheartedly, at least I will always be with you during this time.

When you calm down, we're thinking about our relationship.

Although I don't know if I will choose to leave him in the end, after all, life is realistic, and reality is so cruel, and I also have my responsibility to take care of my parents. So I can't promise that I'll always be with him, but I'll give each other three years. I will wait for him for three years, if after three years he can give me a guarantee, or I can see his determination, see his efforts, it will make me feel safe, then I will not leave him, after all, I also love him.

But if after three years, he is still hesitant for fear of delaying me and not having the confidence to give me happiness, then I will not wait for him, but will choose to leave him and start a new life without him.

Why is this always the case, in fact, as long as you communicate with him. I believe that since he made this request, he really loves you, unlike dragging you down, I am afraid that I will be overwhelmed by my father's cancer in my life and will not be able to give you a good life. Since he said so, then he must have you in his future plans before this, otherwise he wouldn't have said so.

He must want to give you happiness in his heart, but life is sometimes not as good as reality. Many times we can't predict what will happen in the next second of our lives, but no matter what happens, all we have to do is to face him, not to run away from him. Your boyfriend's approach is to choose to avoid him instead of facing him, you like him, he likes you, but he doesn't know what to do when he encounters such a big problem, he chooses to let you choose a better life In fact, it is also very painful in his heart, a man loves not dignity and face.

He feels that he can't give you happiness, he is very uncomfortable, he doesn't know what to do, and it is also painful to give up on you, but what is more painful for him is that he can't give you a better life, and he will burden you to live a hard life with him. Since you love each other so much, then he is very selfish, has he ever thought that even if he lets you go like this, you will not be happy, and since you like him, you will not be happy with others. So you are also sincere, then you should have a good talk with her, you have to tell him what you think in your heart, you also have to give him confidence, you have to encourage him that you will get through this together, so that he does not give up on you, saying that you will not leave him, and if you leave him, the world will no longer be a complete world.