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Contact, find a contact, don't cross the line, this is a very important part of dealing with interpersonal relationships, and the same is true for dealing with family relationships. The contact between you and your mother-in-law is your husband, ask him to negotiate with his parents, after all, they are parents and sons, they know each other, know how to communicate, and can anticipate what can be achieved. As a daughter-in-law, don't cross the line, if you do too much, people don't think it's good for you, but think that your son has the ability.
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Let your husband support you more in housework, and your son should also be a little man and help his mother protect his sister. The two of you earn a lot, and it will definitely get better and better. Mother-in-law and father-in-law are not important, they can toss as much as they like, you just stay away.
In the future, the four of you will live together, and when your son and daughter grow up, you will be happy.
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Out of sight, out of mind. If you live together, don't take them too seriously and don't let them disturb you. Think about what you have, the life you picked up in the ghost gate, a healthy and lively pair of children, a husband who understands and supports you, and a mother who can help.
The days will get better and better, and you will find your own state, and you will be far more capable than you are now.
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The response is very simple, in a word, pretend to be stupid. In fact, I can do any housework, not only can do it but also very good, this comes from my mother when I was a child to cultivate my habit of doing housework, my mother said that you learn to do housework is not to serve others, but you will leave home to study and work in the future, you must learn to take care of yourself. So I can pick up dumplings, hand washing, cooking, brushing, mopping, and scrubbing.
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The daughter-in-law is not slacking off or paying attention to her mother-in-law and father-in-law, and it is best to do her duty as a daughter-in-law and stay away. To have their own independent economy, do not rely on their in-laws, their children must be raised by themselves, the subject is a strong woman, must also love to worry about family affairs, for the mess of the in-laws' family let them toss, the in-laws have sons and grandchildren, how to support the in-laws is his son and grandson to decide.
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In fact, when your mother-in-law says this kind of thing, think about why she said such a thing? What is the reason, and then solve it, don't just blame the mother-in-law, you have to empathize with everything, if you get married, you will no longer be the little princess of the family, and you will be a mother in the future, and you will have to take responsibility. Don't have that pointless conflict.
Although it is said that marriage is lived by herself and her husband, her mother-in-law is a very important existence in the family. If you don't get along well with her, the family will smell of gunpowder.
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Give some money every month, go back from time to time to see, farm the land, let your husband help plant from time to time, the old man knows what he knows, he can live for a thousand old people a month, they will rest by themselves when they can't do it, there is no shortage of people in this society, and there is no shortage of gossip people, no matter what you do, there are gossiping people.
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If it were me, I would say directly, no wonder the 2 daughters-in-law don't get along well with you, think about what to do when you get old, anyway, I don't want you anymore!
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My mother-in-law didn't dare to say that, I didn't rely on his son for food and clothing.
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Hello dear, many elders like to teach others every day, they think that self-luck is the elders themselves have experienced a lot of things, and their own views on things are correct, and these young people will not do things, and the elders also like to use their own experience to teach others to do things, but these experiences can no longer be used.
Elders like to preach because they have a sense of age superiority.
Elders like to preach to others, and they feel that what they say is right. Elders rely on their age and seniority, so they can casually preach and criticize others, because even if he says it, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So he slowly developed such a bad habit, and he himself felt that it was very good, but in the eyes of others, he had no choice but to endure it, and he couldn't disrespect his elders, just listen to it himself, and he wouldn't take it seriously.
Very to the elders think that they have experienced a lot of things, so some of the ways they say about some things are also correct, and they have to let those young people do things according to their own words, but young people have their own methods and plans, so they often contradict each other because of the disagreement of views, and in the end it is often the end of the young man who contradicts the elder who gives him experience, and often complains that the young man is disobedient, so the young man is very rare.
Some of the lessons given by the elders are not so useful now.
Many elders just like to give all kinds of advice to young people who are stupid, saying that they should get married at twenty, and if they don't get married, no one will want them, the sooner they get married, the better, if others don't listen to what they say, they will get angry and lose their temper, and finally they will quarrel, many of the elders' experience is outdated, and it is not suitable for the current society at all, so we must listen to the opinions of the elders appropriately.
The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still speak these experiences, as juniors, they only need to listen to it, and there is no need to take it seriously. I hope my help to you, and I wish you a happy life.
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I would say that moms don't want babies, moms love babies the most. Don't listen to grandma's nonsense.
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Don't say this to the baby, it will have an impact on the baby's psychology, you should teach the child correctly.
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Young children's mental development is immature, and the phrase "mom doesn't want you anymore" will affect the child's mood and even cause the child's psychological disorder, so once you hear your mother-in-law say this to your child, you must say "Mom loves you the most anyway" in front of the child and say to the mother-in-law, "Don't say such irresponsible words to the child in the future".
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I would ask my mother-in-law why I wouldn't have my own baby, and I would make my mother-in-law feel ashamed through such language.
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If I had told her that I couldn't educate my child like this, it would make her feel insecure. When the mother-in-law said such things, some were unintentional, and some were selfish, and they didn't want the child to be too close to the mother.
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I think there are a few ways to use it:
1. Ignore her.
Since your mother-in-law doesn't contribute money or effort, then it's good to do everything by yourself, as for what your mother-in-law says, how to say, then let him go, anyway, you can't see out of your eyes and don't bother to imitate fighting, why do you listen to so much, she said her, you should do it, just do yours, if she thinks it's boring to talk about herself, then it's easy to say, and she won't talk about it in the future.
2. Change the subject.
Since your mother-in-law doesn't contribute money or effort, then you find her weakness, and once she tells you this, you change the topic, anyway, it's either money or effort, see what she does? If she refuses you directly, it's good, since she doesn't do it, shut up, if she does, it's very prepared, you have someone to help you share it! Wouldn't that be nice?
The relationship between me and my mother-in-law is relatively harmonious, but I also hate my mother-in-law's chatter, my mother-in-law is a little good, let me do what I do, just don't pay for it, but my husband and I are working, although not so rich, but not so much money to spend, life is okay, occasionally give my mother-in-law some pocket money, so we have lived together for a long time.
In fact, men need their own space more than women, they have a strong sense of self-esteem, some men don't want their beloved women to worry about themselves, they want to carry their own, which is understandable. In fact, their psychological pressure is sometimes greater than that of us women, of course, in the eyes of two people who love each other, they should be honest and shared, but this is just a woman's opinion, a man may be drunk and will lean on your back to you to confide in his inner sorrow, but in ordinary times he will smile at you, say to you It's okay, okay, don't think too much, etc., I think if you love your boyfriend, you should care about him from the details and don't interrogate him, oh, ask too much, he may be annoyed, Maybe one day at some point, he will find that there is a you who has been silently supporting him by his side.
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