How to deal with my father s high expectations and my disparity in strength?

Don't lock his expectations on his brows, crush the days of spring flowers and autumn moons...

It is very common for Chinese parents to demand their children with high education and high jobs. Your father forced you to do this and that, in addition to your own good, is it also possible because of vanity?

No matter what your father asks of you, the ultimate root is to want you to be happy, and when all your pleasures are wiped out, you become unhappy. For your father, do what you want to do and live happily. It is recommended to take a look at Bi Shumin's "Bombard the Magic Bed in Your Heart".

What is a big deal? If you are not highly educated, you must live a brilliant success in the eyes of others, and you have set yourself too high! It's too tiring to be alive.

For hobbies,Must be good to fight for.,My freshman year,Signed up for a jazz class.,My mom knew about it and said that I didn't study well in college and knew how to play blindly.。。。 It's painful not to be understood, but it's okay if you don't understand me, I'm just having fun dancing by myself...

I suggest you have a good communication with your father. A person who has high expectations of you will be like this. You can say that your father can be a talent and a replica that he can want to cultivate.

Because your father is not highly educated, he will have high expectations of you. There is nothing wrong with Jackie Chan. As you owe it to your father, you should work hard to repay your father.

First of all, it is important to acknowledge that the parents' intentions are good.

Parents always blindly impose their unfulfilled wishes on the next generation.

When he was young, due to external reasons or his own factors, he missed a lot of things, he regretted it, but the years were unforgiving! For example, his low education makes it impossible to do many things, for example, he feels that he should not be just a driver in his life. You are his precious daughter, and he doesn't want you to regret it like him when you're older, so he chooses forcible discipline.

Actually, he forgot that you are a daughter, and sometimes a girl is better at doing a job than marrying!

In the eyes of your parents, no matter how old you are, as long as you are not married and have children, in their eyes, you are a hairy child!

When you have children, what will you do, you will no longer be too constrained by your children, because you are coerced by your father.

Don't care too much about your father's opinion, make your own plans, and live each day happily and happily, but don't forget that he is the person who loves you the most in the world!

Honestly, you can't do it, that's all.

Kid, I don't know how old you are? I sympathize with you. But thousands of parents are just like yours. Regard children's grades as more important than anything else, and think that children with good grades will have a good future and money.

This is not necessarily the case. Many children who haven't read much have become successful.

It's one thing to have your parents' expectations, live your life however you want, don't bother trying to meet their expectations. Because you're yourself, you're not their puppet, they just want you to help them do what they didn't do.

I know you are very filial, but don't distort your character for the sake of filial piety. People, the most important thing is to be happy. You have to think about this, if you can't figure it out, you have to do what your parents ask, then your happiness will be gone, and there will be no point in your life, because you use yourself as a tool and a machine.

Is this different from The Walking Dead?

Although you are a child, you already have your own thoughts and character, and you should live according to your own wishes, try not to hurt your parents, and not to wronged yourself.

Suppose you have wronged yourself and are bent on satisfying others,。。 Although it can be like this, if it goes on like this for a long time, you will be more depressed, and this long-term depression will affect you for a lifetime.

Auntie, I was, influenced by my father, and I looked like I couldn't give up when I was a teenager, and I suffered every day. My father always scolded me, saying that I was terrible and that I had a very low self-esteem. I have suffered a lot in society.

I gave birth at the age of 35 and suffered from severe depression. I had to see a psychiatrist every month and take medication every day. Now half a human life remains.

There is no happiness, only sadness. I have a backlog of anger and hatred for my father for more than 20 years, and I don't know when it will be resolved.

1..It's not about academic performance first to repay your parents.

2..Do your best and you're good to go.

2.What is returned to parents is that they have correct values, have a loving heart, be responsible for themselves, and be filial.

！！！Me too!!! I feel the same way, we are going to have a parent-teacher conference, and I really don't have the face to let my dad come!!

Well, also, it's really bad for your body to hold back for a long time! For your parents! No matter how hard it is, it's hard and tired!

Enrich your life. With this, you can talk to others, with your parents, trusted friends, and of course, with me! Hey.

It will be much better to communicate with your family members often and learn to communicate with them.

I know I'm not perfect, but I'm working hard and trying to be good. I really did it, I was a good kid in the eyes of adults, a good student in the eyes of teachers. I scored 99 points in the last exam, and I was very happy, but my father frowned and found out the mistake when he saw it, and reprimanded me for how I could get such a simple question wrong.

I was disappointed, I was the top scorer in my class and I did my best just to make them happy. Am I wrong?

All the while, I did what they said, but they didn't see my efforts at all. My dad was a teacher, and I knew I wasn't as good as the students he said I had. Why do I try to get a score that others envy, but I take it for granted in their eyes?

What do they want from me? Am I not doing enough? I was tired, and there was no reward for the hard work I put in, not even a look of affirmation.

Parents all over the world have high expectations for their children, but it's just a matter of obvious and not, and you will feel like this at your current age. Your parents are very happy when you get a high score, but they don't dare to praise you because they are afraid that you will regress because of your pride. This is human nature, because parents will praise their children in front of outsiders, but they are all critics in front of their children.

Your efforts certainly make sense. In fact, you still want to open a little, and it is normal for your parents to have expectations of you. If they don't expect anything from you, they can only say they've disappointed in you.

There are expectations for you because you have hope, and your parents have put their life's work on you, and it is inevitable that you will be a little strict.

You don't have any rebellious mentality, because you are now in adolescence and have already begun to have your own thoughts, and it is normal to be sad and disappointed. But you have to adjust well and remember that your parents are the people who love you the most in the world.

You can have a good talk with your dad in a peaceful atmosphere, after all, dad is also a teacher and is easier to communicate. You can tell your dad that you feel a lot of pressure right now, and that you're feeling depressed at times, so that dad can understand what you're thinking. I think he will slowly change his ways, and you have to continue to work hard, and the pressure of learning is really high, but you have to persevere and resolve it.

As you get older, you'll get it a little bit.

Don't worry too much, everyone's abilities and life experience plans are different, parents in this life, in the previous life, did not know what it was, according to their own abilities and interests, there are no regrets.

The rest of the day is yours alone, and other people's opinions don't matter.

Indifference, realm, letting go, peace, these are all reaching a goal, 0 expectations.

On the contrary, the more you want, the more you can't get it, and the more you don't want it, you don't want anything, and the whole world is yours.

Inside and outside.