What are the principles that prohibit customary law?

This idea is expressed in the question of retroactivity and the principle of lightness.

Don't lecture your child in public.

The most direct impact of teaching children in public is actually hurting children's self-esteem and hitting children's self-confidence. Most parents who are convinced to educate their children in public are divided into two types: one is to love face, and education is for others to see. As some children grow up, they become more and more assertive, and their dependence on parents will gradually decrease, and parents will think that they have no authority, so when children become disobedient or make mistakes, parents want to maintain their own authoritative image, so they will educate their children in public.

The second is that parents are very anxious, impatient, and eager to change the mistakes made by their children in the shortest possible time, most of these parents are perfectionist people, and there is almost zero tolerance for children's mistakes, and they want their children to correct their mistakes as soon as possible, so it will lead to parents starting education regardless of the occasion. This way of education is actually very wrong, but also very unscientific education method, this way will affect the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, children's self-esteem and self-confidence, the initial ** is the recognition of parents and people around them, when criticized children will have a sense of frustration and self-denial. At the same time, as children's self-esteem is not respected, their sense of shame will also decline, they will think that it is better to break the jar, so as to deny themselves completely, and even cause psychological shadows, they will think that they are insignificant to the world, and they will also look at the whole life with a pessimistic eye, if this state is not adjusted, there may be more serious consequences.

Don't "turn over old accounts" when it comes to education

Some parents like to go over old accounts when educating their children. In fact, this kind of education method of turning over old accounts is nothing more than to remind children that the mistakes they made before cannot be made again. However, the results often backfire.

This will make the child become more and more disobedient. Don't even listen to what parents say at all. In the end, the relationship between parents and children will become awkward.

In fact, "talking about things and filial piety" is the wisest way to educate. Because the child has already borne the punishment for the child's previous mistakes, if every time he makes a mistake, the previous problem must be added to the punishment for several crimes, the result of this is that the parents have no patience to guide the child, and the child is not willing to continue to listen to the repeated teachings of the parents, it can be said that this practice is harmful to others and themselves. This is a very simple solution to this problem.

One is to talk about things, and the other is to talk about things. The third is to have a clear purpose, and the fourth is to guide. As long as you do these things, you will get twice the result with half the effort in educating your children.