How to become emotionally detached? How to get out of the haze of emotion

We all hope to choose one person to die and never be separated. But many times it backfires, and two people who obviously love each other will drift apart, and finally become the most familiar strangers. Some people say that love is originally a luxury, too beautiful and too easy to lose; Or maybe the shelf life of love may be shorter than the shelf life of a can of pineapple, and before you have time to taste it in a hurry, that person has already left and disappeared into the sea of people.

From falling in love to breaking up, anyone's departure is not for nothing.

How many people, emotional alienation starts from these few things.

Take the other person's good for granted.

I still remember that when we were just together, we carefully cared for each other, she made a love breakfast for you, and you could be happy for a week; He buys you a bouquet of flowers, and you feel like a happy woman. Over time, you become more and more accustomed to the other person's kindness to you, and you may be grateful at first, but after getting used to it, you take it for granted. The most afraid of the relationship only knows how to enjoy the efforts of others but does not know how to be grateful, in this world except for your parents, no one has the obligation to be unconditionally good to you, when you don't know how to cherish each other, you are not far from losing him.

Lack of mutual trust.

Trust is the cornerstone of feelings, I trust you and I can rest assured that you get along with friends of the opposite sex, because I believe in you; Trust is not to check the post, not to go through the phone and wallet. Lack of trust often leads to suspicion, suspicion, and loss. If you truly love someone, give them enough security, and trust them if you want long-term happiness.

Emotional apathy is, to put it bluntly, not in touch with each other, and over time, no matter how deep the relationship is, two people will eventually become strangers. I used to hear people say that I was cold, but in fact, I was enthusiastic in my heart, but I was not good at expressing it, and my emotions were not obvious, for example, sometimes a friend told me a joke, if I couldn't find a laugh, I didn't even raise the corners of my mouth, and slowly others didn't want to play with me. Obviously, what they say about coldness is actually indifference.

I really wanted to get rid of this indifference, but it didn't seem to be as easy as I thought.

It wasn't until I met my passionate college roommate that I managed to get out of this damn emotional apathy. I had 3 roommates in college, and all of them were chattering. Even if I don't have a topic to talk to, they will find a topic to talk to, and at first I thought that in order to make the dormitory better, the head of the room would hold a symposium every week.

When I first entered the dormitory as a freshman, I didn't talk much, and if I hadn't asked them about their homework, I barely spoke. On weekends, when I don't have classes, I can go a day without talking. That's why they discussed together how to bring out my passion.

Every week at the dormitory symposium, we will buy some snacks and fruits, and everyone will sit together and talk about inconsequential things, as long as they are happy.

Slowly, I started to talk more, and I tried to share my happiness with everyone.

Now that I've graduated, I thought I might go back to my old apathy, after all, everyone was separated. However, they would call me often, and I finally understood the importance of friends, and understood that even when we were not together, we should keep in touch often. If you really want to get rid of your apathy, you might as well make some passionate friends like me.

Two people should communicate more together in order to understand each other and have a good relationship. If you don't communicate for a long time, you won't understand the other person's thoughts, and slowly you will have problems with strange emotions. Became emotionally detached.

Take a walk, think about it when you walk alone; And don't listen to those sad **; Find friends to have a meal, drink a little wine, and play billiards for a while; The key is to find a friend to complain about.

Let yourself down for a day and immerse yourself in it.

Then the next day, put yourself from head to toe, it is recommended to cut your hair and change your hairstyle, take a shower, rub mud, grind your feet, cut your nails, do a nail art, do a **Clean up the room, clean and tidy, and rearrange it is the best.

Then I read books, go to work, illustrate, draw, travel (including outdoor hiking and visiting attractions that I haven't been to before), and do all kinds of things that I have never done before and have always wanted to do to enrich my life. Make friends, spend more time with friends and family, and laugh together.

After a while, it will slowly fade, and time will dilute everything.

Power banks are like this. But there are also durable power banks. You look for it on the **, if you can't find it, I'll introduce a power bank to the machine, I forgot the brand.

I'll go back and take a picture of you**You're in**easy to find, my virtual and closed power bank is 20,000 An. My Apple 6 can be fully charged 18 times. If you use it as you go, 30 times is fine.

In fact, falling out of love is not a very scary thing, if you really like someone, then you shouldn't be in such a hurry to fall in love with her, you should make friends with her first, and then slowly integrate into her life, this kind of love is indestructible.

Simply using time will only make you miss or be unwilling to adjust your mentality to a new relationship. It would be the quickest way to do it.

Think about the people who have passed away in **, what is your broken love.

This is also considered a haze.

Face the problem, face yourself, face the reality.

If you can't find someone to say it, and you don't want to say it to anyone else, you want to get a complete one.

Analyze find a blank piece of paper and a pen and write your first question on it.

And then add "why" to it as the second question to be honest yourself.

The Then you will find the answer.

If you feel that there is still a chance to solve the problem, use your brain to find a solution.

There are often many answers to a question, so think about it.

Dispersion, find something to keep yourself busy, so that you don't have time to reminisce and touch the scars. And find someone who feels right and is good to you for a new relationship! You will be hazy and lose everything!

Don't use fate as an excuse for cowardice. No matter what you want to get, you need to work yourself, and the same goes for love. In this world, there are too many loves.

When you have an unforgettable love for someone, please try it, fight for it, and don't think that you can just wait. No one is destined to be yours, don't wait until you miss it to complain about why you don't take the initiative.

Remember the saying: what you don't get is always the best. Once you get it, it's spoiled.

There is a kind of woman who always wears a cold coat and longs to meet someone who can warm herself.