Should I accept the failure of a long distance relationship? 10

Don't be disappointed, everything is not so smooth, if you love her and she loves you, then persevere, by the way, communicate with her more, communicate more with their family, handle the relationship well, I believe it will be happy.

Don't be so negative and pessimistic, there is nothing that can't be solved, you still have to make your own decisions, and others can only give you advice. If you really love him, don't care so much, maybe their family doesn't pay so much attention to the form, what they want is to be able to live a solid life, the main distance is far away, both parents will definitely be worried, I am also similar to you, I myself am from Gansu, he is from Yunnan, so, I have a deep understanding.

Discuss it with him, be careful not to be fierce, that will not solve the problem. And I think his family is very hard, understand more, don't be so anxious, walk step by step, sometimes marriage is also fate. Hope you can be happy!

This netizen should not be in a hurry, and don't lose confidence in life, because your own life has not yet begun, how can you say that your heart is dead? I wonder if you're an only child? But if you marry in the past, the other party's family does not put your status very high, it is easy to be bullied, if you love him, he loves you very much, after all, you have been so many years, I don't want you to break up, according to my suggestion, you marry first, but I hope that the two of you will work hard in another city, and the man's family will also do it simply, and leave some money for you to buy a house by yourself in the future, not far from home, so that you will have a lot less contradictions in your own life, judging from your description, In fact, the man's family is not active at all, or because of the economic conditions of the man's family, then I will say it here, because my family is also poor, understand the man, so the best way is to marry him, simpler, bride price or something, talk to both parents Let's talk about investing in buying a house in the future, I believe that both parents will agree.

As for his younger brother's schooling, it should be his parents' business, don't worry about it, I hope my words can help you, and you can also add me Add me when you add me to explain the reason for adding, thank you.

In fact, a 5-year relationship can be regarded as a long-term love You and he should be used to each other After all, everyone has spent 5 years of youth in this love

But after all, love is a matter of two people, you are right, there is no need for you to take the initiative in everything This way, their family seems to prefer you to send it to the door How to say it, in my opinion, it is now the 21st century, if he really loves you, in fact, he should come to your side, after all, a girl marries so far away, she will miss home, but I don't know what your concept is, if you think it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter

But I think he should think more for you, after all, you are a girl, and you don't ask for much, when your mommy opposes you, you still insist on not giving up because of love, which proves that you already love him very much, and you have given him enough

Or perhaps, because you do pay too much, he gradually gets used to your kind of giving, and feels that you should do what you do

Of course, the cause of this incident has developed like this, in fact, it is not about long-distance relationships, it is mainly a problem between the two of you In fact, when you are in love, there is always one party who will give more, and now it is you who pays

But, after all, I'm a spectator and can't dictate your future

I can only give some advice, first of all, marriage is a lifelong event, sometimes choosing a husband is not the one who is in love, you have to choose to love yourself so that you will be happy in the future, otherwise you will have a very hard life, this is certain

Secondly, your mommy has set a time frame, but he didn't take the initiative to call I think that their family thinks that you are married to him, so it will be like this, which is not right You are not unwanted, there is no need to do it as if you are sent to the door and others have to think about it

Love, marriage, is both important and beautiful for a woman, if once you feel heartache and unhappiness, then this marriage needs to be considered Do you know what I mean?

I think, at that time, if you don't give him **, he doesn't give you **, maybe everything is already doomed No one said that you have to pay

You should look better at the future, although I know that 5 years of love is a long time for you, but you have to believe that the next one will be better Don't just see the past, the past is just a test on the road of your life, and more importantly, the future That past, you can bury it in the deepest corner of your heart, occasionally recall, but don't go deeper, because you can never think of a result

You're going to get better, and you should think, you give like this, he loses you, it's his loss, understand?

So, come on, look to the future Don't talk about the death of your heart so easily, you have to put your mind on other aspects, such as study, career or do what you want to do, first learn to forget, and then make yourself better So that you will get a lot of good things Come on I hope what I said will help you If you have any questions, you can ask me directly

Miss Zhang, 35 years old, has been married for 10 years.

I got married at the age of 25, and I have been living here for ten years, and I can count the number of times I have returned to my parents' house. I was married from Guangxi to Yunnan, a cross-provincial marriage.

My husband and I met when we were working, and my husband was very handsome at that time, and I fell in love with it at a glance, but later I learned that my husband's family conditions were not very good. However, I was pregnant unmarried again, and under the atmosphere at that time, unmarried pregnancies were still more discriminated against, which was quite embarrassing. If I am pregnant, I have to get married, otherwise I will be talked about, so I married into my husband's family.

I have been here for ten years, I have given birth to three children, and the eldest is already in elementary school. Over the years, he has relied on farming and doing some manual work to survive, and his husband has been working outside all year round to support the family's income and expenditure.

Do I regret it, you ask? Of course it will, every time I see a girl from the same village, who is married close, and carries it home with a large bag, how can I not be envious? But I just thought about it, I had a child and a family, I didn't dare to think so much, and I accepted my fate.

Liao Ya, 30 years old, recently married, married for three years.

I don't know whether it is a distant marriage or a close marriage, how to define and distinguish it? My husband and I are in different urban areas of the same province, and it takes 3 to 4 hours to drive, which is not too far and not too close.

Although it is the same province, there are still some differences in terms of food and language, and I can't adapt to it when I first get married, and I can't get used to it. I like to eat lighter, less salt, my in-laws like to eat salty, even the soup is salty, but people can't change and accommodate for me alone, and I was very distressed at first. Fortunately, my husband felt sorry for me, communicated with his mother several times, and also said that eating too salty is not good for the body, and my mother-in-law gradually put a little less salt after listening to it, and I got used to this taste after a long time.

My husband not only took care of me in terms of food, but also told his mother and other sisters not to bully me or speak ill of me behind my back. At this point, I am very grateful to my husband, it is really important to marry the right person, not in the distance, but in whether he has you in his heart.

Now long-distance relationships have become very common, those who go to college are looking for less than 10% of the local objects, and the higher the diploma, the higher the group began to mix outside the province, and the long-distance relationship is not much happy from the previous data, mainly because the previous people felt that they liked to be together, and later found that the regions are different, and the living customs are different, and the parents of both sides will also oppose it because they are far away, and many are not suitable! There are many problems that long-distance relationships need to bear and consider, and if they can be overcome, then the problem is not big, otherwise, it will be very tiring.

I can't accept it, and I'm going to touch her with love.

The hardest thing about a long-distance relationship is waiting and time, and people can't see the end at a glance, which is very hard.

I don't have a fear of marriage because my wife loves me very much.

My wife and I didn't know each other on a blind date, but we were very affectionate. I don't like girls who are more proactive and direct, because girls may be less accustomed to being proactive and direct. My wife is what I actively pursued.

I will take the initiative to express love in intimate relationships, and it is very important to take the initiative to express love. It is also to my wife, I often take the initiative to express love. I liked someone for more than 10 years at the most, and eventually she became my wife and we were together.

I love the company of my family. I don't mind my partner's past and just want him to have a better present and future. My experience has made me cherish my current love even more.

This makes me feel that the company of my family is also very important. As a man, he was able to support his family and get home from work with a hot meal.

The wife is gentle and virtuous, the children are motivated and sensible, do something they like in their spare time, play games and see**. If you have money, of course, you can also travel, which is a man's happiness. As a woman, it is a woman's happiness to have a stable job of her own, so that she has the confidence not to reach out for money, her husband is considerate to her family, her children are filial, her family is harmonious, she is young and beautiful; Every type of person has their own sense of happiness, and I think this kind of happiness is not the same, just like Mr. Lu Xun said

The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy. Nowadays, people like to stand on the moral high ground to evaluate others. However, it is impossible for human individuals to empathize with these four words emotionally, because this sentence itself will be interpreted in the following way when understood in the current society:

1. Most of the time we don't care about the feelings of strangers at all, because this society makes everyone feel tired, and even if we want to care, it may be misunderstood as caring with other colors; 2. When we care about others, we don't actually understand the development of things, but we just try to understand from our own perspective, so we are undoubtedly creating a fake intimate relationship and trying to pull in the relationship with each other in this way; 3. If you connect everything with yourself, the weight you feel in your heart is indescribable.

According to the survey, more than 7 percent of college students accept long-distance relationships.

No, I don't accept long-distance relationships. College students accept long-distance relationships only because they are young, and life has not yet done anything to these cuties in it.

My parents were in a long-distance relationship, which was called separation at the time.

My father, a military veteran, was assigned to work nearly 100 miles away from his home, and at that time transportation was extremely underdeveloped, and the distance of 180 miles required a bicycle for three hours to reach.

My father could only come home once a week. So everything in the family, including taking care of the elderly, raising children, feeding pigs and chickens, farming and building houses, is all done by the mother alone.

We have seen the suffering and tiredness with our own eyes, and we feel the loneliness and sadness of no one to help. Suffering is secondary, and what makes us most unbearable is being angry. In those days, we belonged to the last class farmers with no labor in the production team, and all the good things in the village did not come to us.

The grain is the lowest part mixed with sand, and the horse meat is the most unpalatable.

My mother often quarreled with her neighbors, and was angry and cried by the whole family. The earth of the roads we built ourselves was dug up by others; The fish in our pond were fished away by others; The grass on the side of the road in our house was cut by others.

There is only one reason, the man in charge of our family is in the field, which is almost the same as none.

When my mother gave birth to my sister, my eldest sister and I took care of her.

And what about when you gave birth to us? Mom said that it was basically a state of no one to take care of it.

Later, the production team contracted the production to the household. Our family has divided more than 10 acres of land, all of which were done by my mother and my sisters.

Dad comes home every week, always keeps a guest state, stays politely for a day, and happily does a little favor and leaves.

The education of the three of us sisters was all completed by my mother in a devastated state of exhaustion. Father, in our family, is always absent.

Therefore, we sisters have never considered long-distance relationships. The slightest sprout is quickly extinguished, without considering the difference or the separation of the two places. Never consider!

It is not acceptable to marry far away. There have been many people who have confirmed that there is no benefit to marrying away, many people have paid the price for their distant marriage, and many people regret it because there is no good result in the end.

1. Marrying far away can be said to be equivalent to raising a daughter for nothing, thousands of miles apart, and you can't fulfill your filial piety when your parents are old, sick and die.

In order to pursue his so-called happiness and joy, for a promise of love to his husband, he abandoned his parents and left his hometown. Especially some only daughters, your parents worked hard to raise you, but you don't care whether your parents marry away from home and leave. How can you bear it, such a daughter has no conscience.

2. Marrying far away is tantamount to putting oneself in an isolated environment.

Not only is life unaccustomed, but also language inconvenience, some rural elderly people do not speak Mandarin, you come to this place alone, it is inconvenient to communicate with them for a long time. Except for your husband, you don't have the most reliable, credible and amiable person, in case your husband treats you badly, or there is domestic violence or something, you just cry and have no way out, and no one can help you.

3. Although some people say that the traffic now extends in all directions, and the plane and high-speed rail will go to the whole country in a few hours, but all this is supported by money, if you marry far away and are extremely poor and have no money in your hands, what do you take to take the plane and high-speed rail. Don't blame me for not reminding you, marrying far away is a big gamble, you can't go back to your mother's house, and you can't get into your in-laws' family. You think it's just a high-speed rail ticket or a plane ticket, but in fact, nine out of ten girls who marry far away regret it, and they are afraid of thinking of their relatives every festive season.

Fourth, there is no one to help you when you are wronged.

The relationship with your husband before marriage is naturally excellent, otherwise you would not have left your hometown to marry him. However, bumps and bumps after marriage are inevitable, and if your in-laws favor your son at this time, you will feel very aggrieved. And at this time, there is no one to talk to, so it can be said that there is no relatives.

In short, marrying far away is more harmful than good, one is irresponsible to oneself, and the other is to be separated from one's parents, which is a kind of harm to parents in both reasonable and reasonable terms.