Why is it that others are not willing to help when it is obviously a matter of effort?

The 4 words of the effort of the hand cannot be the reason for moral kidnapping, others are willing to help you is a gesture, others are not willing to help you,You can't just attack people because they don't have morality, and helping others is a virtue, but it's never a mandatory obligation. <>

There are some scenes in life that it can't be called a gesture, you think it's a very simple thing for others, but it's not a simple thing for others to have more times, for example, a few days ago I saw an advertisement on the Internet, a mobile phone store, the door is marked with 5 pieces of mobile phone garbage, 5 pieces of songs, and 5 pieces of adjusting the mobile phone system. Many people may think that this thing is just a gesture to collect money, isn't it too inhumane, but if you are a mobile phone store owner, you often meet a group of peopleHe doesn't buy anything, he comes to you every day to get something and you get a mobile phone, but never buys anything, you will feel very annoyed, and it will also affect your normal business. <>

Don't think from your own point of view, it's a gesture, if the content of the need for help is a matter of the other party's thinking, then the other party is willing to help you, but if you really need the other party's help for a long time, then it can't be called a gesture, for example, you ask for directions, for the local he is very familiar with the surroundings, he quickly knows where you are goingJust tell you how you go in which direction, but if you want someone to be your guide and take you to that place, that person may not have this space. <>

Don't always put the words "effort" on your lips, feel that everyone should help you, no one has an absolute obligation to help anyone, everyone has their own things to do, people are willing to help you, then you should thank others, people are not willing to help you, then you will change peopleWe believe that those who are willing to help others are true, and most of them say they have the ability to do so.

In your opinion, it's a gesture.

In other people's drives, this kind of effort is too much.

They are also feeling very tired.

There are too many things, and I don't want to help.

It is better for people to rely on others than on themselves. Not to be with them in general, he did everything possible and worked hard to make himself better in all aspects. Someday they will come to you on their own initiative.

Their relatives are not even willing to help themselves, they should treat them as they want, and if they are like this, they will definitely ignore them. Sometimes you may cut ties with them and don't associate with them.

If it is your relative, he is not even willing to help you, it means that he has no kinship for you at all, then you should not treat them as relatives, just treat them as strangers, it is better to ask for others than yourself, just work hard yourself.

First of all, we must understand the reason why relatives don't help, if there is indeed a hidden situation, then it's another matter, if you really don't want to help you, I advise you to stay away from this kind of relative, and don't have anything to do with him in the future.

There is no way that it is so realistic now, it is better to rely on yourself than to rely on heaven and earth.

Ignore me today, and let him not climb tomorrow.

There is no legal obligation between relatives, and if you are willing to help you, you should have a grateful heart, and if you don't want to help you, don't complain.

You can do to others as you do to others, because you are not doing well now, so your relatives are not willing to help you, you have to fight for yourself, and live a good life so that no one looks down on you.

If you don't help, you won't help, and if you don't help him in the future, you will. He's right, and he's not going to ask you for help. A lot of people have such thoughts and do the same.

Since it's a relative, don't worry about it. Then you should repay the grievances with virtue and make them feel ashamed of themselves.

Whether it helps you or not, it depends on yourself, the poor in the downtown no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.

This is society, if you mix well, everyone wants to have a relationship with you, and if you are bad, everyone will stay away from you, and your wife and children will look down on you. Don't blame others for being ruthless, just blame yourself for not being good enough, rather than pretending to be full of resentment, it is better to be self-reliant.

Don't know, in the future, you can't make deep friends!

Don't always put the words "effort" on your lips, feel that everyone should help you, no one has an absolute obligation to help anyone, everyone has their own things to do, people are willing to help you, then you should thank others, people are not willing to help you, then you will change peopleWe believe that those who are willing to help others are true, and most of them say they have the ability to do so.

Because some people are very lazy, they don't want to go because they don't want to go, so they don't want to help.

Because others don't want to get themselves in trouble, they just want to live their lives. So they don't want to help, and there are really a lot of them.

In fact, many people feel that more is better than less, so they would rather be a bystander than help, so it is recommended that everyone do not count on others for anything, but also through their own efforts.

In fact, the main reason why others are reluctant to help is that they are afraid of getting into trouble, and sometimes they are afraid that they will not be able to help, and others will think that you are not helpful.

I think it's mainly because others feel that they are not related to you, so why should they help you, they are also more cold-blooded.

It is not difficult for people to do some good deeds, it is difficult to do good deeds in a lifetime, but it is difficult to do good deeds all the time. But why are some people reluctant to help with the good things they do? The main reason is the lack of morality of the people being helped and the lack of spiritual comfort for those who do good deeds. <>

When the elderly fall and fall and are injured, and others pass by, the old man can be helped up with a lift of his hand and sent to the hospital for ...... seriouslyThe conscientious elderly and their families are grateful, giving money and gifts to express their grace for life. Such a good thing done by a gesture can help, be willing to do, and be worth doing. However, some of the elderly are obviously injured by their own falls, and you help the old man up and send him to the hospital, and the hospital notifies the family that the family needs to pay money, so that the old man can **, so some family members take the opportunity to have evil thoughts and conscience, blackmail people who do good deeds, and the family insists that you fell and injured the old man, or will you send the old man to the hospital?

Noisy and quarrelsome, people who do good deeds have hard to argue, dumb people eat coptis, they can't speak out if they have bitterness, they get burned and suffer lawsuits. Such a good thing done with a gesture cannot be done, cannot be done, cannot be afforded, cannot be hurt, is wronged, is shocked, and is saddened......Cases like this are in the newspapers all the time. Over time, a good thing is formed, and people don't want to help.

It's a good job, and it's happening all the time. When you take the bus and see someone who needs help to give up your seat, you take the initiative to give up your seat, and some of them say thank you, thank you. Yes, you took the initiative to give up your seat, and you didn't even say thank you, which is a situation that almost everyone has encountered.

It stands to reason that there is no law to give up my seat, and it is not illegal to give up my seat, so why should I give up my seat? As a result, there is a moral problem, those who have morality take the initiative to give up their seats, and those who have morality get seats will praise and thank them repeatedly. Whoever has no morality to get a seat is nothing.

When you meet someone who lacks morality and needs help from others, if you measure it by moral standards, you will not help. But how do you know that someone in need is morally deficient before you help others? So there was a matter of help, and no one wanted to help.

Therefore, all levels should strengthen the moral propaganda of citizens, schools should strengthen the moral education of students, and parents should train their children to be moral people from an early age.

Because people will have a mentality in their hearts that they have nothing to do with themselves and hang high. If it is not about one's own vital interests, it is difficult for people to empathize. There is no need to impose personnel, after all, it is a sentiment for others to help you, and it is not an obligation not to help you.

Because they don't want to help. It is everyone's freedom to help or not to help others, some people are helpful, and some people are not nosy.

There are things that others are reluctant to help because they are not so zealous, and perhaps they have more scruples for fear of harming themselves.

I think it's because they don't have the mentality to help others, and they can't put themselves in other people's shoes.

Some things are a gesture for others, but it is a duty to help you, and it is your duty not to help you. Others don't want to help you, you can't force others, others are willing to help you, and you should be more grateful.

Because they are selfish. As long as it doesn't help them, they won't want to do it.

In fact, I think this problem seems to be a common problem in society now, and many people are reluctant to do more to help a person, because they are afraid of being troublesome or more accurate, they are afraid of taking responsibility, which should not be considered selfish, but can only be said to be human nature. Seeing this topic, I can't help but think of what the elderly should be supported or some other social issues. To see the big from the small is to see some more profound philosophical questions in some of the efforts of life.

People who are not willing to help are not selfish, but those who are willing to help are certainly selfless.

As the name suggests, as the name suggests, as long as you take a small step in a small matter, you can do someone a big favor. If it is for acquaintances, many people are willing to help, but if it is for strangers, many people may hesitate and think about it, so they lose the opportunity to help others in the process of consideration. Not everyone will be like you helped an old man, and that old man will come back and complain about you, most people will be grateful to the person who helped.

In this case, it depends on the differences between individuals. Some people are just warm-hearted, and they are willing to help you no matter what you do, but some people are used to standing by or treating them indifferently, and they don't think too much about what they don't care about.

As can be seen from the foregoing, those who are not willing to help are not selfish, but just not selfless. Unwilling to put yourself in the middle of it, unwilling to take risks and try things that are not beneficial to you. In fact, I think we should think about it from another angle, you don't need to be selfless, you just need to lend a hand when others need help, and you happen to be able to help others effortlessly, maybe one day in the future you will receive the same help, which is beneficial.

I have never heard of a sentence, it is duty not to help, and it is love to help. Not everyone can do it, and conversely, even if it is not a gesture, it is not the responsibility of others.

So you don't have the right to say that anyone is selfish, everyone is selfish, you haven't been helped by others, just say that others are selfish, but you don't know that you yourself are also very selfish, it's just that you don't want to see yourself correctly.

I used to be a good person, I felt that it was just my own effort, anyway, I didn't ask for anything, just when I did my own business, I helped others to do it, on the one hand, the feelings are in place, and on the other hand, it is really simple.

A few days ago, I helped my classmates do something, and I helped the teacher do things, but the result was not only unflattering, but also said that it was a dog's leg, I choked her a few words, and I felt that I couldn't do it, and I didn't want to help her. You feel that she is a tiger and at the same time has a lot of pain in her heart, not because she is really a dog's leg, nor because it hurts her self-esteem.

I just feel that this world really has everyone and values, and you have to accept all the criticism and dissatisfaction, as well as the dog biting Lu Dongbin. <>

Don't think that you are kind, so you wantonly help others, your efforts will not make others grateful, but think that you are cheap and easy to speak. Therefore, there are some things that should not be done by you, don't do it recklessly, and try your best to do what you should do.

Don't be a person who is not in a hurry for the emperor and the eunuch, to put it mildly, it is redundant, without your efforts, others will complete this work. It's like if you're a leader, you can't rush up and help others, you have to wait until others ask you to do it, that's a different nature.

This is not a low-level value and worldview, sometimes this world, this society is so realistic.

It's kind of selfish.

In fact, sometimes, you can help others, that is, you are helping yourself, and then leave a way back for yourself.

Sometimes it's a small task for you, but it can be very difficult for some really difficult people, who have to put in a lot of effort and can't even do it.

So if, if you raise your hand, his arm can help someone else's things, you must help others. <>

I heard my mother tell a story that was a true story that happened to him.

At that time, in the 80s, he had a classmate, the father of this classmate, on the way into the city, saw an old man faint, and sent him to the hospital without saying a word.

Who knew that this old man was the son of the leader of our municipal party committee at that time, and when his son who was the leader knew the news, he was very grateful.

The old man was also very grateful and became good friends with his classmate's father.

At that time, my mother's classmate, graduated from high school and became a teacher in a small school, and when the old man knew, he let his son, this classmate of his mother, be transferred to the ** agency, and his mother's classmate also has two brushes, and now he is the director of a certain bureau.

If it weren't for his father who saved the old man, then he would never have become a director in his life, and he might still be a teacher in that small school, in fact, this story tells us that when you can help others, try to help others, and while helping others, you may be helping yourself.

No matter what time people are, they must have good thoughts in their hearts and be kind to others, so that they can always be. As long as everyone gives a little love and lends a helping hand, then the world will become a very beautiful place.