Why are there things that others are reluctant to help out with?

In the face of this problem, we really need each of us to reflect on it. Why, what is causing this situation?

First of all, find the reason from ourselves, now we are becoming more and more indifferent. I don't know why, but there is a sentence that I remember particularly deeply.

Netizens are the most enthusiastic, and passers-by are the most indifferent. Whether netizens don't go on the street, or passers-by don't go online. The Internet has brought us closer, but unfortunately this closeness is only superficial, but what about us in reality.

We saw the elderly who fell on the road and did not dare to help, and when we saw those in need, we chose to turn a blind eye. Are we really so busy, so anxious? No, it's our mindset that has changed.

We are becoming more and more indifferent, we don't want to take care of it, we don't want to give them a small help that we can.

Maybe it's because we have touched too much porcelain these years, and we're cold and scared. But we have to understand that after all, there are really only a few people who touch porcelain, and most people really need help, and we need us to stop our hurried steps and give them even a greeting or a hug. It's so cold that the world is getting cold.

If one day you need the care of others, do you also want others to realize this? When we are in trouble, we long for the generosity of others to help us, so how can we leave when others need help?

Let go of your extra vigilance, let go of your indifference, and say to the poor old man, the weak girl, the lost child, are you okay? Need my help? Then what you gain is not only the gratitude of others, but also your own inner recognition and the value of your life.

Others don't want to help. There are other people's reasons. People must live to be self-reliant and self-reliant.

Don't rely on others. It's a love affair for others to help you. Although others are a gesture.

The ancients. The grace of dripping. When the springs reciprocate.

It's duty not to help others. That's as it should be. There is nothing to discuss.

There is nothing to complain about either.

Seeing righteousness and courage, drawing a knife to help each other when the road is uneven, or everyone sweeping the snow in front of the door and caring about the frost on the tiles of others, standing by and watching, what others do is someone else's business, and everyone has a different personality. Others help is a favor, with morality to elevate a little is a virtue, but not an obligation is not a responsibility, I believe that as long as you are a good person, the people around you will not be bad to **, the so-called things to gather people in groups!

The person being helped will find it easy to help. It's not easy for the person who helps to actually help. Not helping is not exactly afraid of trouble, in fact, helping itself is really not easy to help. This situation is especially troublesome among relatives.

In fact, it is not so easy to help people. If you don't know the cost of firewood, rice, oil and salt, you don't know the difficulties of helping people if you don't help. Helping will often help out of suspicion and resentment.

is the people around you, if everyone is always a little unreasonable to you, or even a little resistant, then you should think about your own situation, whether you have done anything wrong, whether there is something wrong with it, or whether you have offended anyone and so on.

This can't be said nonsense, after all, everyone is very busy, if someone is willing to help you, then you should be grateful, but if people don't help you, then it's nothing, people are not obliged to consider your feelings.

For example, borrowing money, it's easy to borrow it, but what about the back? If you want to hurt your feelings, don't hurt your money. Some of them also have various disputes because of money, and there are even **.

Another example is to lend a house to a relative. As the saying goes, it's easier to please God than to send God? If you want to send people out again, it's good to meet reasonable people, but the difficulty of meeting unreasonable people can be imagined.

For example, letting the children of relatives study at home has caused conflicts in their own families.

It is natural that others do not help you, and you should be grateful that others help you. No one has to help you.

Those who shouldn't be helped don't help; Don't help what you shouldn't help; Don't do anything that doesn't help. If you think it's troublesome, it's good to help, but it's not interesting to be complained about when you help.

It is not difficult for people to do some good deeds, it is difficult to do good deeds in a lifetime, but it is difficult to do good deeds all the time. But why are some people reluctant to help with the good things they do? The main reason is the lack of morality of the people being helped and the lack of spiritual comfort for those who do good deeds. <>

When the elderly fall and fall and are injured, and others pass by, the old man can be helped up with a lift of his hand and sent to the hospital for ...... seriouslyThe conscientious elderly and their families are grateful, giving money and gifts to express their grace for life. Such a good thing done by a gesture can help, be willing to do, and be worth doing. However, some of the elderly are obviously injured by their own falls, and you help the old man up and send him to the hospital, and the hospital notifies the family that the family needs to pay money, so that the old man can **, so some family members take the opportunity to have evil thoughts and conscience, blackmail people who do good deeds, and the family insists that you fell and injured the old man, or will you send the old man to the hospital?

Noisy and quarrelsome, people who do good deeds have hard to argue, dumb people eat coptis, they can't speak out if they have bitterness, they get burned and suffer lawsuits. Such a good thing done with a gesture cannot be done, cannot be done, cannot be afforded, cannot be hurt, is wronged, is shocked, and is saddened......Cases like this are in the newspapers all the time. Over time, a good thing is formed, and people don't want to help.

It's a good job, and it's happening all the time. When you take the bus and see someone who needs help to give up your seat, you take the initiative to give up your seat, and some of them say thank you, thank you. Yes, you took the initiative to give up your seat, and you didn't even say thank you, which is a situation that almost everyone has encountered.

It stands to reason that there is no law to give up my seat, and it is not illegal to give up my seat, so why should I give up my seat? As a result, there is a moral problem, those who have morality take the initiative to give up their seats, and those who have morality get seats will praise and thank them repeatedly. Whoever has no morality to get a seat is nothing.

When you meet someone who lacks morality and needs help from others, if you measure it by moral standards, you will not help. But how do you know that someone in need is morally deficient before you help others? So there was a matter of help, and no one wanted to help.

Therefore, all levels should strengthen the moral propaganda of citizens, schools should strengthen the moral education of students, and parents should train their children to be moral people from an early age.

Because people will have a mentality in their hearts that they have nothing to do with themselves and hang high. If it is not about one's own vital interests, it is difficult for people to empathize. There is no need to impose personnel, after all, it is a sentiment for others to help you, and it is not an obligation not to help you.

Because they don't want to help. It is everyone's freedom to help or not to help others, some people are helpful, and some people are not nosy.

There are things that others are reluctant to help because they are not so zealous, and perhaps they have more scruples for fear of harming themselves.

I think it's because they don't have the mentality to help others, and they can't put themselves in other people's shoes.

Some things are a gesture for others, but it is a duty to help you, and it is your duty not to help you. Others don't want to help you, you can't force others, others are willing to help you, and you should be more grateful.

Because they are selfish. As long as it doesn't help them, they won't want to do it.

Because I'm afraid of getting into trouble. In the beginning, it can really be said that everyone will do something that everyone will do, and when we help others, we have a sense of pride in our hearts, and others will say thank you to us. But today's society is really sinister, when you use it, when you do it, others will think you are nosy, and you may even be beaten into the ranks of bad people.

Therefore, more and more people are now reluctant to do such a simple thing.

Do you remember a single case? Lao Lai touches porcelain? It was because this man did a gesture that he helped the old lady, but he was blackmailed by the old lady and lost a huge amount of family property.

With tears in his eyes, he held the court's leaflet, and said to the interviewer that in the future, or to advise everyone here, don't do similar things again. The human heart is sinister, and this society has gone sour. From this incident, we are told that we must not do things that are easy to do.

Since the beginning of this relationship, more and more people have touched porcelain, either touching porcelain on the car, or pretending to fall and deliberately touching porcelain. It is because of the existence of these more and more porcelain touches that people are unwilling to do it now.

I've had this experience myself, and I still can't forget it. I still remember taking the train at the beginning, because I had just been admitted to university, and I was very excited. I'm a warm-hearted person myself, and I like to help others.

I myself like to have a certain amount of lead. Therefore, I was the first person to get on the train, and when I put all the luggage away, from behind or after a while, an old lady came, and this lady was carrying very heavy luggage, and I was kind enough to see that she was too tired and wanted to help her share it.

I told her, Auntie, I'll help you carry it, but I didn't expect this woman, or this old lady, to shout, how do you want to take it? You're going to rob me of something? I don't look for you, what does it have to do with you?

I was really in my heart at the time, I'll go to your uncle, Lao Tzu help you, and you still say that about me? Are you kind enough to be a donkey's liver and lungs, are you a dog biting Lu Dongbin, when she shouted, I was not very old, my face turned red when I brushed it, and there was a brother sitting next to me, so he told me, forget it, don't pay attention to her, what are you doing with people like her, this kind of person is not worth helping, she is not worth making us sympathize with her, this kind of person deserves to be poor for a lifetime.

And then when this old lady wants to put her luggage by herself, she can't put it on, and she doesn't need help from others. When the conductor came and wanted to help her move her luggage, she scolded the conductor. You say that such a thing is not committed, how can we do it?

Everyone says that you can't have the heart to harm others, and you can't have the heart to prevent people. But if you have to take precautions, isn't it a bit excessive? Should you be happy to take the kindness of others, not kindness, as the capital that you trample on yourself, and climb up on the shoulders of others?

A lot of times, people think that more is better than less, so there are a lot of things that could have been done with a single effort, but only to become uncared for.

In fact, you can't blame everyone, in fact, there are still many good people who are kind. However, because many times now, good people have nothing to repay, and they will be bitten back, causing everyone to dare not help.

For example, the previous incident of helping the elderly, the first thing that attracted attention at that time should have been in Nanjing. Originally, he was kind to help the elderly, but the old man bit back, saying that he had hit himself. As a result, the court ruled that if you don't hit her, why should you help her, and you lost hundreds of thousands, which made many people feel cold.

Originally, it was a good and well-intentioned way to help some people in need and do their part. Of course, it is also to bring more positive energy to the society, so that everyone can live in a harmonious society. However, due to the successive occurrence of things like the above, people's hearts are no longer as simple as before, and they no longer dare to help easily.

It is precisely for one reason or another that the hearts of the people are even more indifferent now. It can't be said to be indifferent, it can only be said that when you encounter such a thing, try to keep yourself away from right and wrong. In order to avoid that when I got it, I didn't help anything, and I was cheated by others.

I often hear the saying "Helping is benevolence, not helping is duty", and many times this is the case, because many people don't appreciate it at all! You may not have a word of thanks for helping him, and I don't know how to be grateful. For example, in the closed community of my community, there are often people who do not bring a card, or ride out of the community, every time I swipe the card to open the door, wait for the people behind to let them in, when many people say thank you, I have a sense of accomplishment and am willing to continue to do it, but when you do it many times and no one says thank you, are you still willing to do it?

So this is also related to the general environment, in the past few years, there has been news that doing good deeds to help the elderly has been falsely accused, in this case, justice cannot be served, no one is encouraged to do good deeds, then people's hearts are dead, no one can really be like Lei Feng, he just lives in propaganda.