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After reading your narrative, your boyfriend said that he is an avoidant personality, so the characteristic of the avoidant personality is that he refuses to socialize, because socializing is very difficult for him. He is afraid of embarrassment and criticism, so he will refuse to socialize with others, rarely talk to others, especially participate in some activities, they don't like others to make jokes about them, and they will be very uncomfortable with humor. They are always avoidable and reticent.
Are you sure your boyfriend has these traits?
In your narrative, you don't have any contradictions, and you really want the other party to express their opinions, so as I said above, the other party is afraid of embarrassment in the exchange, especially sensitive to other people's complaints and criticisms, and will avoid them. This is the last thing he wants to see. You can't do anything romantic about the avoidant personality.
It will feel boring when getting along. You will feel tired. He won't accept it unless he's sure you're 100% like him.
In the movie, Hulk hospitality is an avoidant personality. He is always reticent and especially likes to be alone. The beautiful black widow took the initiative to give her a hug, but he refused.
Why? Because he feels like a monster. Black Widow also says that he is a monster, born to be a tool for killing, and also tells him a very private secret, only for Hulk Hulk to continue, I am a monster, I don't deserve love.
It's not that he doesn't understand the amorous feelings, but he is such a personality trait at all, as long as he is not sure that the other party likes him 100%, then he will avoid it.
Then it is usually the other side that takes a more intense offensive approach and swears by the sky and the earth before he accepts it. Socializing with an avoidant personality can be particularly tiring, so you have to be mentally prepared that even if two people walk together, he will not engage in romance. He doesn't like to go to crowded places, and even if you want to take him to dinner with your friends, he is very repulsive.
Are you sure your boyfriend has these traits?
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I think it's better for someone with this temperament not to contact him, because all he can infect you is a bad behavior, because he's too sensitive.
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Now that you know that the other person is an avoidant personality, you should adapt to him not contacting you for several days.
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I feel that the avoidant personality has to be at least 1 month or more, and the length of disconnection is long, if you scare the other person too severely, 3 months to half a year.
Avoidant personality disorder is a type of personality disorder characterized by generalized social inhibition, a sense of incompetence, and extreme sensitivity to negative evaluations. Patients begin to show shyness, loneliness, fear of meeting strangers, fear of unfamiliar surroundings at an early age or in childhood, etc. In adulthood, these problems adversely affect the social and occupational functioning of patients.
Such patients often feel that they lack social skills, lack of attractiveness, and are at a disadvantage in all aspects, so they appear to be overly sensitive and have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem, combined with excessive sensitivity and fear of rejection, makes it difficult for patients to form intimate relationships with others.
Causes of formation. Some theorists believe that biochemical abnormalities, disease-prone genes, learned fears, and upsetting thought processes are responsible for the development of avoidant personality disorder. However, the existence of a direct causal link between these causes and such disorders requires a large number of empirical studies (Barlow, 2001).
Many scholars believe that the stigma that people with this disorder have is due to inner experiences in childhood and parental reprimands. They found that if they were constantly ridiculed by their parents, children would internalize this humiliating experience and develop negative self-intentions that they were unworthy of love and that they would truly be loved by others.
In one study, patients with this disorder recalled the family atmosphere that frustrated them in childhood and did not perceive their parents as loving or proud of themselves than those in the control group (Barlow, 1995).
However, caution should be taken in the interpretation of the results of this study, as this is a retrospective study that relies on the results of the participants' recall reports. Perhaps it is because the patient is very sensitive to how others treat him or her that his or her recollection may be far from the actual situation. However, the results of this study are still relevant for us to learn more about the causes of this obstacle in the future.
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Summary. Avoidant personalities often avoid social interactions for fear of rejection or panic, so it may take a while for them to find you. Specifically, how long it takes for an avoidant personality to disconnect from you varies from person to person and can take days, weeks, or even months.
If you are a relationship person with an avoidant personality, you can try to understand their inner feelings and respect their personal space and time, but you should also care and communicate appropriately to help them gradually regain confidence and courage. If you are a patient with an avoidant personality, it is recommended that you seek professional psychological help to help yourself gradually overcome avoidance through some psychological techniques and methods.
Avoidant personalities often avoid social interactions for fear of rejection or panic, so it may take a while for them to find you. Specifically, how long it takes for an avoidant personality to disconnect from you varies from person to person and can take days, weeks, or even months. If you are a relationship person with an avoidant personality, you can try to understand their inner feelings and respect their personal space and auspiciousness, but you should also care and communicate appropriately to help them gradually regain their confidence and courage.
If you are a patient with an avoidant personality, it is recommended that you seek professional psychological help to help yourself gradually overcome avoidance through some psychological techniques and methods.
So how do I communicate with him, nothing is happening, if you feel that someone is avoiding you, it may be that they have their own problems to deal with, or they want some alone time. In this case, you can stop the active branch chain to contact them first, and Mengzhou Sun will give them some space and time, and wait until the right time to contact. If you really need to reach out to them, try sending a friendly message asking if they have the time and energy to communicate with you.
If they still don't reply, it's best not to be too nervous or pushing, be patient and respectful, and give them enough time to deal with their own affairs.
I just don't know what kind of psychology he is, whether he wants to break up and doesn't want to contact Lu Oak or what's going on, I don't know how to give him a ditch to bypass, he doesn't reply ** can't get through, how long has this been going on?
If your partner doesn't reply** or can't get through, it may be because he has his own problems to deal with, or other things are taking up his time and energy. In this case, you may consider giving him some personal space and time to take care of his own affairs. If you feel that communication is blocked, it is recommended that you write a letter or send him an email to express your feelings and concern, and at the same time express your understanding and support for him, and hope that he can take the time to communicate with you and solve the problem together.
If he still doesn't respond, you can consider talking to a mutual friend or family member to see if you can learn more. Finally, remember not to put yourself under too much stress or anxiety, maintain a calm and rational way of thinking, and deal with your emotional state in order to better face and solve problems.
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Summary. Dear, I feel that the avoidant personality has to be at least 1 month or more, and the length of disconnection is long, if you scare the other party too badly, 3 months to half a year.
Dear, I feel that the avoidant personality has to be at least 1 month or more, and the length of disconnection is long, if you scare the other party too badly, 3 months to half a year.
How to recover the avoidant personality.
Avoidant personality does not reply to messages.
1. Don't put pressure 2, save the distance 3Re-establish intimacy.
3. How to re-establish intimacy.
If the avoidant personality does not reply to messages, give him a sense of security and trust first.
You can properly walk into his life.
The two hadn't seen each other for more than a month.
For example, relates to him, but don't reciprocate.
There is no demand for returns.
That's not what I mean.
Their psychology now is that they are afraid of your concern.
Don't pressure to send messages.
Yes, you send frequent messages for a long time, 1 is to put pressure on them.
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