I always feel that others are happier than me, and I am very confused and helpless

The psychology of comparison is something that everyone has. People feel unhappy because of comparison. There are two ways, one is not only to look at the shortcomings when comparing, but also to look at your own strengths, to understand yourself, and learn to be confident.

Tell myself that I have something inferior to others, but I also have strengths that others don't. No one is perfect, as long as you work hard, you can have everything you want. The other is not to compare.

Actually, the comparison doesn't make much sense. What you have is still yours, and comparing what you don't have with others will only make you sad. Really, I am unique in the world, why should I compare myself with others.

If you have what you want, then just keep moving forward towards your goal, although others have it, it is not necessarily what you want. Do you understand? You have to learn to adjust yourself, give yourself a positive, confident and hard-working psychological hint, happiness always comes from a strong heart.

Everyone says that just graduating is the time when everyone has nothing, and what to choose and what direction to choose at this time is very important. Everyone has their own troubles, it's not that you see them happy on the surface, it's just that they don't show it. Hope it helps you and I wish you happiness.

Then our situation is similar, I have just graduated, my job is unstable, most of my friends are married, and I am the only one who is still single. Sometimes I feel the urge to cry when I think about it.

However, I consoled myself that there would be my own, but it was only a matter of time. Therefore, you should not be pessimistic, after all, we are all still young, and we must know that we must pay a lot behind success, first bitter and then sweet, so that life will last for a long time! Don't lose your smile, keep smiling every day, and you will get closer and closer to success!

Do you have something you're interested in?

If so, find a way to turn your interest into your specialty.

And then I feel that I can't do anything, just enrich myself, and there is no such thing in this world that you can do everything as soon as you are born.

Most of the people who will think like you are not very hard-working, and if you want to get out of this state, then don't be too lazy.

When you have a goal and you can achieve it through your own ability, you will feel a sense of accomplishment, and you will become happier and happier over time.

I think it's good that you're happy. You are sad about your own weaknesses, and you envy the strengths of others! You said it yourself, there is not much gap, why bother? It's good to be happy in your own life

Mentality determines everything, there are troubles, depending on how to deal with them; However, this is related to my own personality, and it is not easy to do.

Now I suddenly feel very lost, I know I can't complain about anything, I can't choose where I was born without asking you a few questions first: If you want to be with her, have you ever thought that now you are very happy, her.

I also love this, look at the point, there are more people than you are unhappy, you are not the worst person, or keep yourself busy and full, you won't have so much free time to think about these things that you don't have.

Everyone plays a different role in society, how can you say that you are dispensable, everyone likes you.

It's all the same, there are joys and easts, and some are bitter and hide privately, all of them are pretty much the same.

That's because you always like to find things worse than others in your own heart, but in fact, you yourself are doing well, but you don't see it.

Because what you see is someone else's good.

Adjust your mindset well, you have to think like this. Do you want everyone to be poor or rich?

Your mentality is a common disease of human nature, but we cannot restrain and adjust this human weakness, which will make us psychologically mutate and go on another path in the process of self-growth.

Mentality, I think you don't want to be like this, everyone's personality life is different.

Normal because it's a natural phenomenon.

I'll give you advice, can you see it?

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

It's a matter of your personal mentality! Perhaps, you are too happy! Instead, the feeling of happiness is lost!

Man, no matter what he is; There is no time to be satisfied! Everyone has a greedy heart! If you want others to value you, you have to learn to value others!

Cherish what you have now! You are happy, happy, and happy!

It's not always noticed, and it feels good to put your mind at peace.

This idea of yours is an obvious problem of inferiority complex. There is a knowledge that no one has a strength, as long as you observe carefully, it is not difficult to find, to be happy, do not always compare your own shortcomings with the strengths of others, so that you will not be happy, as long as you know your shortcomings, make corresponding adjustments, so that you can change yourself, let go a little, be optimistic, then you don't have this idea.

In fact, you also have your own strengths, and if you face up to your shortcomings, you can have room to make up for them. When I see your problem, I feel that you are kind. I think what you have to learn is to be strong and to find out your strengths.

Everyone in the world is different, and you are bound to have something special about you.

It shows that you are self-motivated, it is useless to be self-motivated alone, but also to have the ability to set a goal by yourself, and put the focus of attention on your own goals.

Comfort yourself first that your strengths are compared to the weaknesses of others.

There is no comparison between this 、、、 at all, all the troubles are not as good as others is just your own opinion, everyone has their own place to be proud of.

Without the blue of the blue sky, we can have the elegance of white clouds.

Without the magnificence of the sea, we can have the leisurely flow of the stream.

Without the fragrance of the grassland, we can have the verdant grass of the grass.

I am calm, so my heart is beautiful! My heart is beautiful, so my life is beautiful.

Calmly, it is a kind of optimism after frustration! Calmness is a kind of self-adjustment when you are depressed.

Calmly, in fact, it is a self-confidence in the ordinary! It's a joy to be calm! It's a kind of chic!

There are no bystanders in life, everyone has a place of their own, and everyone can find a wonderful thing that belongs to them.

Compared with the previous you. Only then will you know that you will change day by day. It's getting better and better every day. Happiness is compared, but not compared with others, it is compared with oneself.

You won't think that way when you see everything about other people, and have you ever thought about surpassing others?"

Don't always compare yourself to others, know that you are also unique in the world.

Don't be so pessimistic, maybe you think that people who are not good are envious?

We have relatives, enemies, and people with average relationships, and jealousy is mainly generated against people with average relationships and enemies. If an enemy or a person with ordinary relations gets some benefits and has some merits and good roots, and we don't rejoice in our hearts, and we even go to fight with him, that's jealousy. How can jealousy be cured?

First, from a causal point of view, it's not him who snatches your interests. "I should have gotten this benefit, but he got it by some means. When we think like this, it means that our continuum is not yet mature.

Because at this time, we don't really understand the cause and effect that the Buddha talked about, or we don't have a deep belief in the cause and effect that the Buddha talked about. He has received such merits and benefits because his own karma has arrived, his own blessings have arrived, and it has nothing to do with you. And you don't get it because your karma and good fortune are not ripe, so you can't get it.

If we understand and believe in cause and effect, reincarnation, we will not have such thoughts. If you have this kind of thought, you won't have peace in your mind, you will have troubles, and your own continuum will be tainted in the moment. If you continue to fight and fight with him, you will continue to have a bad relationship with him and sow evil causes, and you will suffer again in the future.

If you really understood and believed in the Buddha's theory of cause and effect, you wouldn't do that. Second, we are practicing Mahayana Buddhism, and we have to be compassionate. What is compassion?

Compassion is the desire to give happiness to all sentient beings, to remove the suffering of all sentient beings. If you have such compassion and compassion, and the other person receives merit and benefits, there should be only joy in your heart, and there should be no jealousy.

This is the weakness of human nature, people are proud, like to compare with others, hoping to compare with others, this kind of psychology is very common, but it is also very hurtful to others and themselves. Personally, I think you have to change your cognition, first, no one in the world is perfect, people have strengths and weaknesses, people are more angry than people; The second is to correctly and objectively understand oneself, and to know what one's strengths are and what are its weaknesses. If you don't know your personality, you can take the Enneagram Personality Test.

Seeing yourself in the middle way should help you get things right. FYI.

You should approach everything with one mindset.

This is a normal reaction for most people, there is no need to worry, it means that you are very self-motivated, but you have to grasp the measure, you don't necessarily need to compare with others in everything, that will be very hard and unrealistic.

If you are jealous,,, you should be generous.