Especially afraid of making your father angry, a little inferior since childhood?

There is a problem with your father's education, a good education should be to see the strengths and shining points of his child, the reason why he treats you like this is because the education he received is also like this, and his parents also say the same about him, so he was educated to be like this. Children who are treated like this by their parents will have low self-esteem, I have also been treated like this by my mother, I have low self-esteem for a long time, and then I went to college and slowly became independent, only to know that not all parents of children treat their children like this, they just don't love, but they receive such an education and are treated like this, so they will only treat you like this.

May everyone be treated gently, you can try to be independent when you are older, when you are independent, you will find that he regrets it, he finds that he has not loved you well, you are not by their side, he will have an empty heart and will focus on being good to you.

You are afraid of hot parents getting angry, this is normal, it means that you are a good child. You're more sensible. There is no such thing as rebellion, but inferiority.

There is no need at all, your parents are strict with you, then just hope that you can be better and can make them happy and have a face. You just have to work hard, and you'll know it when you grow up. Just take it easy and make yourself better.

He compares you with others most parents will, my mother is also a child can not understand, but they also want their son to become a dragon, and the father is not good at words, you and your father can provoke the topic when you are alone together, and you can give yourself a quiet ten seconds when you encounter a problem that is easy to cause you discomfort, and then make or change the topic. He can ignore it when he talks about you and walk away silently, after all, this kind of thinking can only be changed by your progress. When he instructs you to do something, he can't talk to him when he has time, but he thinks that if you have nothing to do at home, you can really help your parents do some housework, run errands and so on.

Use communication to make him understand you and understand him.

In this case, you can try to communicate with him a lot, because the more contact, you will find that it is really not that scary

There's definitely something wrong with your father. Can't you always compare yourself to others like this, if others also compare other people's fathers to him? Since he is very fierce and you dare not communicate with him, then only you can see it yourself, don't take it to heart.

I can understand this, because I am too. When I was a child, my father spoke very loudly and strictly, so I was afraid of him. When I grew up, I found that my father and everyone were like this.

So I slowly talked to him about small things, and slowly found that my father was not so afraid. Low self-esteem is to be brave enough to exercise the way of getting along with others and talk more.

You are a smart and sensible child, and you have the temperament and character of your parents, so you are afraid of angering your parents about everything, and children should not have an inferiority complex in front of their parents.

You can try to communicate with him, and if he is a reasonable father, he will advise you.

I had good grades when I was a kid and my mom still didn't like me for a reason, because I fell victim to the mother-in-law relationship. I cried since I was a child, and I used to hope to change this relationship, but later I found that it was impossible, even if the reason for not liking a person can be solved, but the shadow of dislike will remain in my heart. Now that I give up caring about what they think of me, I can do what I ask myself to take care of.

I understand that it doesn't mean that parents have to like their children, parents are also human beings, and to be able to raise them is to fulfill their responsibilities).

Whether a person has problems or not depends on him and on you.

But your father probably has a hard time changing it on his own.

You can only change how much you value other people's evaluations, and if you change, others will change.

It's also important to be independent.

Only by not relying on others can we have our own voice.

Me too, trying to find words without words and strengthen feelings.

scolded him back, originally because he had a problem, said that others have a problem, is it okay for him to say that others have problems? Why should you listen to him right or wrong?

1. It's a pity that when children are angry with their parents, they will always feel deep guilt.

The main reason is that our concept of right and wrong first comes from our parents, so people will feel that their parents and authority are right when they are young, so we invisibly agree with our parents' views and attitudes on many things

For example, it is not good to express negativity at home.

If our parents are right, then we are wrong.

As a result, most of the negativity towards parents is deeply suppressed, which makes many people have an ambiguous and painful feeling about family relationships when they grow up

My relationship with my parents seems to be good, but why do I always feel that something is wrong?

Why can't I always help but be angry with them?

2. This is normal psychology, a Freud study has found that teenagers are like a computer when facing their parents"Steam engine", subconsciously do not want to make their parents angry at the same time, when their parents are angry, they will temporarily hold their uncomfortable, angry and other bad emotions in their minds, so as not to lose their parents' love for themselves, when these bad emotions accumulate to a certain extent"Steam engine"**, with unpredictable consequences. Don't worry about this question, as a child, this idea is normal, usually if there is a problem, remember to communicate with your parents more, except for yourself, no one loves you more than they are in this world. Have a great day!!

It should be a kind of filial piety in my heart, hoping that my parents can live every day happily, and I can't be afraid that my parents will be angry because I make my parents angry.

Because parents are angry, unhappy, and easy to bring emotions to their children, it is normal for you to feel uncomfortable, relax your mind and live every day.

Introduction: Some children are very depressed when they are young, and they are afraid to have a temper, then these children may become very introverted when they grow up. There are even some children who will become more and more inferior when they grow up, which may also have some impact on the child's psychology at this time.

Therefore, it is also a good thing for small children to have a proper tantrum. <>

Some parents are very strict in educating their children, and they will reprimand their children if they talk back. Over time, children may become more and more depressed, and they will not dare to speak out even if they have a temper in their hearts. If these children grow up, they may also become particularly introverted.

Because they don't dare to say what is in their hearts, or even to talk to other people. They feel that what they are saying is wrong, and that talking to others may also make others unhappy. As a result, these children will become more and more introverted, and will even enjoy spending time alone with them.

When you are working, you will find that there are some people around you who are very confident, no matter what kind of situation they face, they are very calm. But there are also some people who have low self-esteem, and the reason why these people have such a situation is because they are affected by their own personality. These children may not dare to lose their temper at a young age, and the living environment is very depressing.

When they grow up, their personalities will become more and more inferior, and they will become more and more afraid to get along with people from the outside world. They are worried that others will not like him, and at the same time they are worried that others will look down on him. <>

When educating their children, many parents want their children to be particularly obedient and sensible. There are also some parents who want their children's academic performance to be very good when educating them. Some children are also prone to some temper tantrums in normal times, and parents will be more angry at this time, and they feel that the child is disobedient.

In fact, when children have a small temper, parents should first understand the reason for their anger, and then choose appropriate ways to comfort them. At the same time, it will also allow their inner dissatisfaction to be vented, which is conducive to their growth.

When you grow up, you are likely to be financially independent.

Such children are usually suppressed for a long time. Everyone needs an independent self. Everyone should be their own master. Anyone needs emotional catharsis.

When they grow up, they are likely to become very cowardly, more introverted, and do not like to communicate with others, and then it will also lead to children who are particularly timid, dare not speak out, dare not express their opinions, and lack of assertiveness.

When you grow up, you will become very willful, you will become very inferior, you will become very depressed, and you will not dare to express your emotions to your family.

When you grow up, you will become very cowardly and inferior, easy to be bullied by others, you will be very timid, and you will not have any assertiveness in doing things.

Summary. Emotions must be stable, don't be an irritable father, the psychological state is a rainy day for a while, this kind of character is especially bad. It will give the child a sense of crisis, and it is not clear when you can lose your temper.

Don't take back your depressed state of mind, especially at work, and solve it on the outside. As an adult, it's important to control your mental state, and of course it's important to be professional in this field. Most of the conflicts can be solved with effective communication, and family cold violence cannot solve the difficulties.

My father has a short temper and has developed a timid, irritable and inferior character.

Emotions must be stable, don't be an irritable father, the psychological state is a rainy day for a while, this kind of character is especially bad. It will give the child a sense of crisis, and it is not clear when you can lose your temper. Don't take back your depressed state of mind, especially at work, and solve it on the outside.

As an adult, it's important to control your mental state, and of course it's important to be professional in this field. Most of the conflicts can be solved with effective communication, and family cold violence cannot solve the difficulties.

Hello last sentence, the explanation means that some of Dad's previous irritable personality has caused trauma to your young mind, resulting in your current personality being more timid.

There are congenital and acquired fathers, which cause your character to be timid, of course, this does not mean that it must not be corrected, but he needs some professional ability, also needs some time, and also requires your personal efforts.

Can you be specific?

Because psychologically speaking, it is a kind of psychological counseling and ** for a person, it requires a process and time, and according to different situations, the length of time is not the same, some people take a few months, and some people take several years.

Do you mean that now I have to correct my personality and have to find a psychiatrist.

In fact, I think you are doing a good job yourself, you are trying to understand yourself, and you are also helping yourself to correct, if in the process, you encounter something that makes you uncomfortable, you can talk to a counselor or a listener to relieve that emotion.

This will help you to make yourself better and better.

Of course, you can also help yourself to read more psychological books, because even if they are counselors and counselors, they have become a qualified counselor or psychologist through long-term study and unremitting efforts.

Of course, you can also help yourself by reading more books on psychology, because even counselors and psychologists have become qualified counselors or psychologists through long-term study and unremitting efforts.

Can you recommend me a few books that suit me?

You can start by looking at the psychology of language, and, the power of positive emotions.

You look at these two at the beginning, because you are also a character formed under the verbal violence of your father for a long time, which is just suitable for your current situation, read these two books first.