What is Obsession? Does a person know that he has an obsession?

Obsession, everyone has a lot, it is easy to know, reflect on yourself, you know. For example:

was scolded by others, and held grudges all his life;

People who like spicy food want to eat chili peppers at every meal, and people who like to eat sour food should be vinegared ...... every mealPeople who like to drink alcohol will not be able to quit ...... for the rest of their lives

People think that money is a good thing, and they pursue money every day, which is also one of the biggest obsessions......

Obsession is our obsessive thoughts, if a person is stubborn, a tendon, love to drill the tip of the horns, that is the obsession is very heavy.

Unshakable thoughts that arise from attachment. It can be described as having the idea of excessive pursuit because of the extreme attachment to something.

The obsessions of the world are all within the scope of the five aggregates. Different karmic habits manifest themselves in different ways. It can be said that everyone has obsessions, but the aspects of performance are different.

Some are attached to the body, and some are attached to the heart. Some obsessions are heavy, and some are light. Human beings are relatively advanced intelligent beings, and most people know their own obsessions, even if they are confused and unable to control themselves at that time, they will wake up later.

People who are obsessed with heavy attachments or who lack wisdom may be completely immersed in attachments and unable to extricate themselves.

Attachment refers to the mistakes, obsession and greed for external things, so in fact, there is an explanation for the concept of going straight is that you like things, also known as attachment, because attachment and love lead to suffering, so that people can not be freed from a lot of attachment Well, he can't see through everything in this world, and he can't let go of many things.

He is called Attachment Xun, that is, the armor that is attached to himself, I actually exist in this physical body now, he is only temporary, but everything cannot exist forever, it is for the void.

If you can't see through it, you can't let it go, it's persistence. Selfishness is obsession, and Attachment Buddhism tells us that we should not be attached to anything other than being able to cling to a Buddha and seek rebirth in the Western Elysium. ）

Get rid of our selfishness and paranoia. How to make the law? Thinking about the Dharma and sentient beings, don't think about yourself, and develop such a habit.

But the Mahayana Bodhisattva is ingenious, it is difficult to decide, and he has a way to decide, and this method is to think about sentient beings and the Dharma in his heart, and he doesn't think about himself, and over time he forgets about me. This method is indeed wonderful, and it is much more clever than Hinayana method.

Obsession doesn't have to be loveBecause love needs to be giving, love is the sublimation of two people's feelings together. To have love for a person means that he will give a lot for that person and will do a lot for that person.

Obsession is just a way to like someone, not a manifestation of loving someone. Because it's just a thought.

Obsession with a person is to express that you are very persistent and miss someone very much. I don't know if there is an element of love in this kind of longing, of course, everyone's words will have this kind of thought for a person, and it may be someone she likes very much.

The boy's sincerity with you is the performance of the object.

2. I will put myself in your shoes.

A man who truly loves you will never be too harsh on you, let alone be aggressive towards you. On the contrary, he will put himself in your shoes, will be considerate of you everywhere, and give you infinite tenderness and affection.

It's just up to you, if you like a woman but she doesn't like you. If you go to him and he doesn't see you, no matter how obsessed you are, you won't even think about it, and love will be scattered with the wind.

Attached to the truest feeling in your heart, why not recognize that it is love?

No, it's been obsessed for a long time, it's a habit.

Summary. Hello, the possible reason is: this person he represents a meaning, if it is an intimate relationship, you have to him, it may mean that you are very focused on intimacy, afraid of the breakdown of intimacy.

Even if you break up, you still remember him, maybe you don't remember this person, but remember this person, he represents all the memories you gave in a relationship. It is possible that this person has a quality in him that makes you like him very much, and you don't feel it in other people and don't know it. Are you talking about the obsession of love, the obsession of hate, or other obsession?

Hello, the possible reason is: this person makes trouble Li Bi He represents a meaning, if it is an intimate relationship, you have to him or not, it may mean that you pay great attention to intimacy and are afraid of the breakage of intimacy. Even if you break up, you still remember him, maybe you don't remember this person, but remember this person, he represents all the memories you gave in a relationship.

It is possible that this person has a quality in him that makes you like him very much, and you don't feel it in other people and don't know it. Are you talking about the obsession of love, or the obsession of disturbing the town, the obsession of hate, or other obsession? If you have more details, I can help you better analyze it.

This person is my ex-girlfriend and it has been more than nine months since we broke up, but I haven't forgotten her until now.

So does she have a boyfriend now? If you have a boyfriend, she has her own life, and you have to look forward to the waiter and get in touch with other old people. If she doesn't have a boyfriend, then you can't let her go, you can consider the possibility of being with her again and try to get her back.

What we should do is to be serious but not attached, let go but not give up, and be casual but not casual.

"Serious but not attached, let go but not give up" refers to down-to-earth accumulation and improvement, and positive efforts. At the same time, I don't always think about whether the future can be realized, I have suffered too much in the past, I have lost too much, and others will laugh at me if I can't achieve it. The "let go" that some people misunderstand is a compromise that is desperate and unwilling to work harder, and it is a kind of helplessness.

The reason why it is important to let go of obsessions is that many thoughts are just illusions, like the moon reflected in a well, and it is in vain to try to salvage them. If we understand the impermanence of the world, we should understand that nothing is guaranteed to happen, and that the things we cling to are often just thoughts or appearances in our own imagination. Just like men and women in unrequited love, they only fall in love with each other in their imagination.

In my opinion, forgetting or substituting for obsession is of little use, because what the consciousness is desperately trying to suppress will definitely be stored in the subconscious, and will explode in life in the future, or in another posture disguised to explode. You must know that most of the emotions that are too turbulent are not related to the things in the here and now, because they bring out the past experiences that have not been dealt with. So forgetting and repression are not the best way to deal with obsessions.

I think the best way to do that is to think and accept. Thinking needs to be constantly digging, why am I obsessed with this? What can the realization of the obsession bring me, and what is the impact of the failure of the obsession on me?

It would be great if you could find the environment in which the obsession arises. Try to let the mind stay in this environment for a while, to say a mourning and goodbye to it. Obsession often involves someone or something, but to draw a clear sense of boundary, you are you, and the other is the other.

When we dig deep into our hearts, we can find that behind all obsessions, there is almost a hidden self, a self that wants to be seen, wants to be understood, hopes to be recognized, and wants to be appreciated.

If you don't get these. We are disappointed, lonely, angry and sad.

So what we have to learn is to see ourselves, to understand ourselves, to appreciate ourselves. We no longer blindly hope for something from others. We ourselves have the power to reconcile with ourselves.

Like is heartbeat, obsession is not to let go, obsession is not necessarily like.

If you like it for a long time, there will be obsessions, and if you don't adjust your personal adjustment, you will hurt others and yourself, and you may end up with only obsessions, which will kill the feeling of liking.

I like this feeling, it's hard to say, because I personally don't think it means much to like it. When I liked someone at the beginning, I was excited, plopping, my eyes always followed, and my heart always remembered, but I was too ignorant at the beginning, and I liked it for a long time before I was woken up by others.

As for the existence of such a thing, the reason why you do not compromise with yourself is that you may have obsession if you like it or not.

Personally, I hate people who have obsessions in love, and they are annoyed to death by people who are obsessed, and they like to have respect, pity, care, joy and other positive things that can't be seen here, and every day is harassment, which can really be said to hurt others and hurt themselves.

It doesn't matter if you like someone to be happy, thinking that this person will be happy, that this person doesn't belong to you, it's in its own meaning. Having an obsession is often painful, and it mostly exists in situations where you can't ask for it.

Likes are time-limited. You can't like people, things, or things for the rest of your life. When you like a person or something, it is not that you ignore their shortcomings, but subconsciously choose to be inclusive.

The feeling that everything is joyful and happy will spill over into everything you are experiencing in your current position.

And obsession is reflected in many ways, when your likes and admiration can't get what you think, you will have obsession. It's just that some people are not obsessed deeply, and they dissipate after the trivial things in life or the generation of another favorite. The other kind of people are very obsessed, like it very sloppily, but are persistent.

Some people uphold obsession and finally get happiness, some people die tragically because of obsession, and some people are not as good as death and obsession to grow old together.

But is obsession negative?

Obsession - > obsession refers to insisting on something and not being able to detach itself. When you are attached, there will be resentment, and only by letting go of attachment will you be at ease. Philosophically it is defined in such a way that a person is too focused on something or something, and for a long time he is immersed in a certain emotion, and this complex becomes tangible and binds it.

Now it is also used to express long-term persistence in a certain pursuit, and it is not easy to give up.

People who don't like obsessions are because they have experienced such emotions directly or indirectly, intentionally or unintentionally. Take things in love for example, when there is a person with an obsession who pursues you, and you don't like it, it is naturally annoying. In fact, personally, this "child" with obsessions dislikes his own obsessions even more, because this obsession is an integral part of a person's innate personality.

They are tormented by their own obsessions and spurred on to come to you, but they suffer from the lack of clever methods and excellent resources.