What is it like to have a dad who has suffered repeatedly because he is too stubborn?

This kind of experience should be lively, intense, life full of vitality, think about it from another angle, in fact, this is quite good, life, in fact, is to deal with every problem given by God, and it is precisely because of the existence of these problems that life will not be like a pool of stagnant water, it will be full of vitality everywhere, and life will become more meaningful.

There is a weird and stubborn father in the family who brings endless nagging to his family, it can be said that he has the heart inside and outside the family, but he can't help everyone. So the feeling to everyone is full of complaints, and there are too many things to manage, and the family is annoyed when they see it.

I'm afraid that his temper is not very good, he can say anything when he's happy, he's not happy to be able to throw you a day's face, my mother and we all let him, I'm getting older, and my temper is much better now. When it comes to having a weird temper, I don't seem to have encountered it, but some friends may be more screwed, others say nothing is okay, and only when his head is broken and bleeding does he know that others are for his good. There is also the kind of person who admits death, so he recognizes his own set, and he has to suffer a loss to know that he regrets it.

Dad doesn't know how to be flexible because of stubbornness, and it is commonplace to do things, and it is commonplace to suffer losses, mother's nagging, father's overwhelm, and children's helplessness are all combined, and the family atmosphere has also been affected.

Dad likes to play cards, made a few card friends, often get together to play cards when it's okay, sometimes the interest comes up and likes who wins the dinner, almost every time is the dad pays, even if someone else wins, and finally said that he didn't bring money, and finally the dad pays, mom quarreled with him several times because of this, dad always disagreed, thinking that this is also for people, and can help in the future, and then grandpa was hospitalized because of high blood pressure, and the family business capital turnover can not be opened, looking for those card friends to make money, no one takes money, It's all for a variety of reasons.

My father may have been a stubborn man, at least that's what my mom said, but I wasn't, so I just listened to what he said. My parents never quarreled in front of me, but sometimes they did get into a little awkwardness. It's actually funny to me from the position of a third party, both of us feel justified and think the other is stubborn.

But this kind of thing is about the background, and the contradictory truths in different backgrounds can also be correct.

To say stubborn I really haven't seen anyone more stubborn than me, a few years ago with a southern businessman partnership business, and then the business failed, the partner pretended to be pitiful, said that there was no penny in hand, find me to borrow 20,000 yuan, at the beginning my mother disagreed, after all, the business is not done, there is no contact, people are also ready to go back to the south, where to find someone, my dad does not believe it, has to give, said that after all, I have known each other for so long, as a result, people took the money and left after the ** number was changed.

My dad is a very stubborn person, he has a few friends, my mom persuaded several times to say don't come and go, at first glance is not a serious business person, my dad just doesn't believe it, last year also lent them tens of thousands of dollars, said it was a business, but the result was less than a week before people ran away, I hope this time I can have a long memory.

When I first started to participate in the work, it was because of an uncle's cousin who introduced me, and then a friend found a good unit, my father disagreed, saying that there was a relationship here, and he would definitely help take care of it in the future, but he did it for three years, and this cousin did not give a big introduction to the meaning of the leader.

It's never our dad who needs to change, it's ourselves.

A while ago, I also worried about this problem, but the more I thought about it, the more I couldn't calm down, because there was no solution, and I talked to my father calmly, but I couldn't make sense of anything. Find problems, solve problems, and change to another if one path doesn't work. If you can't change your father, you can change yourself.

After thinking about it, my mood calmed down a lot, and I was no longer anxious about it.

There is a natural generation gap between my father and us, and it is an insurmountable gap. He raised me, naturally from childhood to adulthood, he listened to him in everything, but when he grew up, got married, and had his own ideas, he often had differences with his father's ideas, and gradually, this gap evolved into his uneasiness, he began to make unreasonable trouble, put forward all kinds of requirements, and asked to listen to him, soft not good, he began to come hard, even sprinkled. But in the end, I just want to find the feeling of being respected and valued, and even the feeling of being the head of the family.

In the face of such a stubborn and even sometimes sloppy father, if he finds it too difficult to change him, then change himself, and if he can't go down a road, he will take a detour to bypass it, and he can always reach the other side of the light.

The old father is like a child, the older he is, the more willful he is, then let him be willful, he used to tolerate my willfulness, now it's my turn to tolerate him, what bad thoughts does he have, what he thinks about is still for the good of his children, just a little temper.

It is you who need to change, not your father, if his stubbornness does not violate any bottom line or law, then spoil him, just like when he was a child, he will tolerate you unconditionally. Nowadays, many young people will complain that their parents are stubborn and not easy to get along with, as if it is always their parents who make mistakes. Don't you have a problem yourself, in the face of a dark and sinister society, we can all face it calmly, how did we become so impatient and tolerant when we got to our biological parents?

Let's talk about my father, who is a stubborn and old-fashioned old man, obviously has a stomach problem, he doesn't let him eat the leftovers that were cold overnight, he has to eat, and scolds me for not knowing how to cherish and wasting food. At this time, even if I reasoned peacefully, my father would think that I was disobedient and raised a bar with him. That can only be done in another way, eat more the night before and try not to have any leftovers, or the next day I have leftovers, on the grounds that "yesterday's leftovers are all my favorite food, so you can't grab them from me".

There were also a few times when I deliberately made noises in the middle of the night for my father to hear, and then said that I was hungry and secretly threw out the leftovers. The older people get, the more they look like children, and it is easy to be stubborn, and what we can do is to use roundabout tactics and not have any head-on conflicts with them, so that the contradictions will intensify.

In fact, if you think about it from another perspective, sometimes we think of stubbornness, and the old man has a reason that he can't say. Eating leftovers is because they cherish food, and they are reluctant to spend money if they don't go to the hospital for a physical examination. Even those elderly people who have to go out for a walk during the epidemic, they are not ignorant, but they are too lonely at home, their children always play with their mobile phones, and they have no one to accompany them, if their children can care more about their parents and interact more, most of the differences can be effectively resolved.

Therefore, as a child, you must be able to keep up with the speed of aging of your parents, and you must work hard to accommodate and understand them, rather than letting your parents work hard to cooperate with you. Complain less, no matter how difficult the father is, can he be more hateful than the boss of Zhou Papi? Don't ignore him, stay away from him, he will be sad and you will regret it in the future.

Dad is becoming more and more stubborn and difficult to get along with, and you should understand this as such. A person's personality is difficult to change, so since you can't change your father's approach, it's better to change yourself, so it will be easier to get along.

Whenever Dad is stubborn about a problem, you should listen carefully, even if it's not the right problem, you should try to listen, and then when Dad is happy, you can give appropriate advice, then this situation will get twice the result with half the effort. Maybe it will change Dad's mind and approach. In fact, this is filial piety.

My father is the same, it doesn't make sense. You don't need to say more, if you talk too much, it will be more boring. Give him examples from time to time, and you might listen to them. Or at the party, lead the topic out, and everyone talks about it together, and he shouldn't be so disgusted.

An old man, who lives to this age, his values should have been set. Don't expect to change him, do your duty, and be filial in life. However, don't put aside your own values and unconditionally obey the old man just because the other person is old.

Don't let the child be affected by the elderly, otherwise, the child's life will be ruined. Finally, try to be filial in life, if necessary, you can say some white lies, and don't be foolish.

You can't change others, because others are not under your control, because others belong to your circle of attention, what you can change is only yourself, because you can choose your own behavior, because your behavior belongs to your circle of influence. The only thing we can do in the face of factors beyond our control is to accept them with a happy heart, because the results of not accepting them can only make others miserable, and we can only make ourselves miserable.

Such parents break their children's hearts and make their children feel lost or hopeless about a beautiful vision. They themselves have not learned the common sense that they need to understand others when they get along with others, and they themselves must lack the ability to understand and give up changing their minds. can be coaxed with kindness and let the matter pass.

The life of parents is not the result of the choices made by their children for them, and it is the parents themselves who are responsible for the results. The children do their best to give them the opportunity to get better, and let the parents do the rest. If parents are tough on their children and cause obstacles, children learn to protect themselves and learn to deal with foolishness.

I think it's normal for your father to become more and more stubborn, because a lot of times when their children grow up, they will be busy with their careers and have no time to spend with their parents, and their parents, if they don't have some career or nothing to do, will feel very lonely.

In fact, you should imagine that your father actually has a certain generation gap with you, so it is possible that when you get along or communicate, the two of you may have different ideas, and you will feel that your father is more stubborn, because his idea is more old-fashioned and older.

I think you should just give him enough is to forbear, because for parents, they taught you to study when they were young, or accompanied you slowly, and when they grew up, they also gave you enough patience is nothing more than that, your father can't catch up with you, and you will feel that he is very stubborn.

Give him enough forbearance, and then give him enough companionship and mutual understanding.

Mutual understanding and respect, as long as it doesn't touch the bottom line principle, it's bearable, my parents and I are like this, I'm a special case in our family, I can't integrate into the family, what should be done or will do, when the concept is different, look at whose business, their own business will insist on their own, their own business will go with them, they will be happy, they will also go with me, knowing that I think differently they will not insist, although at the beginning in the process of getting along is not very good and often quarreled, Because I have hardly lived in the family for a long time, I used to go home basically once a week or a few weeks, sleep one night and leave, live in school, and they were not at home when I was at home, so it was really difficult to get along at first, and it was good to get along slowly.