Mom is not good to the elderly, what should I do?

There are too many things like this, and it's rare that you can be so filial. He's a good boy.

But filial piety should also be rational, and honoring grandma does not mean that you can not honor your mother. According to traditional Chinese saying, grandma is a generation farther than mother. No matter how wrong your mother is, she is still your mother, and she is the one who brought you into this world.

The child is the mother's intimate jacket. So you must be filial, otherwise she will be sad. Also, it's not wise for you to divorce your dad and mom.

The most important thing for a family is harmony and reunion, the so-called "family and everything is prosperous". Have you thought about your dad again, what will he do after the divorce? Men need women.

A family without a housewife is not called a home. So be sure not to be stupid.

Talk about what you can do. Your mom doesn't treat grandma well, but you can be nice to her. For example, you can talk to your grandmother behind your mother's back and give something to your grandmother.

Even if your mother finds out and gets scolded at most, it's nothing. Then you said that your mother said that your grandmother's words were ugly. You can calmly persuade your mother not to say anything.

If your mother doesn't listen, you pretend you didn't hear the unpleasant words. Then comfort grandma not to be sad, not to go to heart. Grandma must be very happy to have such a good grandson (daughter) as you.

The old man should be able to forgive his daughter-in-law for being bad to him.

Maybe you're too young to stand it. But what can be done? Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and it is impossible not to have troubles.

There is also a saying that it is difficult for the prime minister to cut off family affairs. Running a family well is not an easy task. You'll understand later.

I sincerely hope that these words will be of some help to you.

Talk to your mom and see where the specific problem is. Is your mother in menopause?

Specific problems are analyzed on a case-by-case basis. So you're going to have to tell the story, what if it's your grandma's fault? People make mistakes sometimes.

You also have to enlighten your mother, and people should compare their hearts to their hearts.

What your mother says about your grandmother, you can say about your mother.

Have you ever heard the story of the small wooden bowl?

There was a husband and wife, the grandfather was deaf and could not see clearly, and once the bowl for eating was broken, and the couple gave the grandfather a wooden bowl and let him eat. One day, the daughter-in-law saw her child cutting a bowl out of wood, so she asked her son curiously what he was doing. The son raised his face and said that he was making wooden bowls.

looked at his mother's puzzled eyes, and then said, you are afraid that grandpa will break the bowl, use a wooden bowl for him, and when you are all old, I will also use the wooden bowl sharpened in my hand for you! The mother was speechless.

This story should be the best inspiration for you.

You should stand on a fair standpoint and persuade your mother to honor the old man and be your example.

Do your duty well, and don't worry about a generation.

Then you say; If you are not good to grandma, I will not be good to you when I grow up and my daughter-in-law.

Say to her that you are old, and we will do the same to you.

Do you want me to go this way when you open the way for your daughter?

When your grandparents are away, communicate with your mother, move with affection, know with reason, such as: people will be old, parents are children's teachers, you treat grandparents like this, I will treat you like this in the future, but don't be too tough, maybe it will be fine.

, Well, maybe your mother doesn't want to take care of your grandmother's life, after all, it's an old man, and when you're old, your mother may be annoyed. But you can't blame your mother, and you can't say the same thing I did to you when I grew up. Mom will be very sad, after all, she is also very hard, to understand her, you can also talk to her well, you should care more about grandparents in life, come on!

Have a serious talk with your mother and ask her: What do you want to do with her in the future?

It's time to communicate with your mother.

You just tell her, "You are not good to grandma, and I will not support you when I grow up." Parents are role models for their children, and she has done so, and you have no obligation to care about your mother when she dies of illness in the future. Nowadays, women who give birth to children are raised by the elderly, and some women have never taken a child for a day, and when the old man is old and the child is older, he will dump the old man as garbage, and he is not afraid of retribution.

Mom bad this consciousness how do you have}? It's not good for grandparents, and you start from **? The root of this comes from the words and actions of adults in front of you.

Tell her that she will grow old in the future, and her daughter-in-law will treat her in the same way.

Talk to her! The current situation of grandparents is that she will be treated in the future!

You can say to your mother, "Don't stop me from studying, and when your hair grows, I'll apply what I've learned."

Mom is estimated to have reached the age of menopause, plus to take care of two old people, it is inevitable that it will be overwhelmed, menopausal women themselves will also love irritability, love to lose their temper, have time to see if you can help your mother do what she can, talk to her about your thoughts, I believe she will definitely consider it.

In fact, every child will encounter such a problem, the father says what the mother says, the mother does not listen, but if you say it as a child, it should work, of course, you should also pay attention to the depth of the speech.

1. The lowest level of filial piety is raising. The elderly don't have to worry about their livelihoods.

Second, the second level of filial piety is to do things according to the rules, and it should be done at first glance.

3. The third level of filial piety is to listen to the elderly. I like to listen to everything.

3. The fourth level of filial piety is to have a good face from the inside out. It's hard to color!

4. The fifth level of filial piety is to understand the mind of the old man and realize it.

Fifth, the highest level of filial piety is not to let the elderly worry, let the elderly be proud of you!

What level have you reached? Think about it! You'll understand what to do!

You can change it slowly, think about how much time the old man has, and if you don't want to be filial to you, you can't be filial if you want to be filial, everyone has an old time, you think about the child who treats you like this in the future, are you also sad, you have to talk about your heart.

Try to think about whether you will be sad if you are old in the future. If you feel that you are wrong, it means that you are a good person, but you are easily angry and impatient. You just have to think that there is no reason for you without her, and you will know how to do it.

You can see that you are very loving, but people will lose patience at times......Don't mind, when you realize that you have a bad attitude, please say sorry to the elderly! I'm sure she'll be very touched by ......Only God's love endures forever!

If you know that you are not doing the right thing and still do it, it can only show that your self-discipline is too poor, you have no principles in life and work, and your character is a little poor. Grandma didn't eat you, didn't drink you, and didn't live in your room, why did you reprimand grandma? You are not only sorry for grandma, but also sorry for your mother, why should you reprimand other people's parents?

You are not eligible. It's just that your mother goes out for two days and asks you to help take care of her mother, and you don't have the patience? Now that you know how to reflect, it means that it is not too bad.

If you are not willing to take care of your grandmother, you must make it clear to your mother, and your mother will arrange for others, and you can't do things to reprimand the elderly and let your blessings be damaged.

Respecting the old and loving the young is a virtue of the Chinese nation, and we must carry forward the good habit of caring for the elderly at all times.

Since you can ask for a solution, it means that you are a kind child.

Think more from the perspective of grandma, tell yourself that she is sick and can't hear clearly, be more considerate, it is not easy for people to get old, and then be patient with grandma, take the initiative to accompany her and chat with her, so that grandma can feel the warmth of home, and the elderly need the care and companionship of the younger generation.

It's over with an apology, and the family has no overnight feuds.

As a junior, take the initiative to accompany a smile, say a few words about your mistakes, and apologize.

It is normal for the elderly to have hearing loss, be more patient, and give priority to filial piety, otherwise your children will treat you like this when you are old.

This needs to be solved by improving one's own quality. Honoring the elderly is our culture and virtue, and it is slowly understood and improved.

The Chinese nation is a country of etiquette, with a tradition of filial piety, and a bad attitude towards the elderly, so it must be subject to the moral rules of the people around it.

I have a daughter 22 years old, he is a new one, two years old had a car accident, when his father died, he left me to accompany him for two years in the hospital, now he has a family, ignore me, these 20 years, has been directly pointing to my financial support for his life, you are a day, my praise he just came over, now his life is better, ignore me, ignore me, do not take care of life, do not give him a day to copy for me for three months**.

It really shouldn't be, know the problem so do it with the right attitude. Don't wait until later to regret it.

First, take the initiative to care, respect, and be considerate of your parents in many ways.

Second, it should make the elderly happy mentally, in words, and in deeds.

Clause. 3. Learn more about the inner world of the elderly, and pay attention to the physical condition of the elderly at all times.

Fourth, we must not let our elderly feel lonely and left out.

Fourth, take the initiative to chat with the elderly, communicate more, take care of more, and be meticulous.

Fifth, we should always pay attention to the mental, physical and spiritual changes of the elderly.

Sixth, help the elderly to do housework more and reduce the burden of housework for the elderly. Dirty work and heavy work cannot be done by the elderly.

Sixth, take the elderly to check their bodies frequently to avoid major diseases.

Seventh, accompany the elderly to travel more, so that the elderly can be happy and feel the care and love of their children.

Seventh, often contact the elderly to keep abreast of their parents' physical condition and all the problems at home.

Eighth, often go home to accompany the elderly, so as to avoid the loneliness and loneliness of the elderly.

Ninth, communicate more, contact more, care more, and accompany more.

Is there such a parent in the world? My answer is, yes. My mother liked boys, and she favored my brother when she was young, and I knew it at a very young age, but I was cowardly by nature and never dared to say it, let alone ask.

When I was a child, I lived in my grandmother's house, and I went home once a week, and my mother never hugged me or hugged me (I didn't understand that I would remember it when I grew up) I thought it was normal at the time, and my father was very good to me, and liked to tickle me, and my mother always thought that the sound of my laughter made her noisy and reprimanded my father. Then I went to high school and came home. My mother always lectured me for various reasons and counted me down.

I went to my grandmother to complain, and my grandmother taught me to be patient, saying that it would be good to grow up and earn money in the future. Later, I went to work to earn money, and sure enough, my attitude towards me changed as my grandmother said, and I really lived a comfortable life in those years. The good times didn't last long, I went to work and had a boyfriend, because his family conditions were not very good, and he didn't have a formal job, my parents didn't agree, and ignored me, I was isolated at home, and that time was really difficult.

In the end, I scared them that if they didn't agree again, they wouldn't look for it again for the rest of their lives. It worked. But my attitude towards me was still lukewarm, and I felt so uncomfortable at the time, although I didn't live on the streets, I felt homeless.

So I got married early and left this bleak and helpless home as soon as possible. Before that, my family introduced me to several rich marriage partners, and I refused, although they were all rich or expensive, but I suffered a trauma in my childhood, which made me afraid of the word money. When I was in the third grade, the school organized a movie, and my brother gave me the 6 cents he usually saved to buy popsicles, and I was so obedient that I spent it all, and it was my classmate who told my mother, and my mother gave me two big mouths, which was the first time I was beaten, and I will never forget.

So they tried to get me to find a rich man, and I was very resistant. My dad said that as soon as he got married, he would spend 200,000 yuan to buy a house, and even if he got divorced, he could get 100,000 yuan. This sentence stung me deeply at the time, is this my father who I trust, rely on, and like since I was a child, I completely collapsed when I heard this sentence.

They were more ruthless than the other.

Hello, parents are right to love themselves in addition to loving you. If your parents are very busy, it is understandable that they can't accompany you, if they are not busy and don't accompany you, then take it as an opportunity to give you exercise, because parents can only accompany their children for a while, and you have to rely on yourself in the rest of your life, and you can learn to take care of yourself for your future life. When people reach a certain age, of course, they should be kind to themselves, because they are also in good health.

As for not repairing your mobile phone, if you are a student, the mobile phone is not suitable for children, and if you don't repair it, it will not affect your learning. If you work, then make your own money and fix it. Don't think about relying on your parents for everything, because no matter how big a tree is, there are times when it can't be relied on, and relying on yourself is the long-term solution.

Don't envy those families who love their children too much, too much superficial love will only make children lose a lot of opportunities for self-reliance and self-learning, which will bring trouble to their future growth and life. So please treat your parents with the right attitude. As long as you have the ability to do something, try to do it yourself!

This way you will quickly adapt to life and society. Personal advice, thank you!

I'm an only child, and others will think that I must be loved, but I didn't get into a good school, but it's useless to say that I can't go to the family, let me go home and work, and since then, my life has been every month, from a monthly salary of 300 to more than 2000 a month, and the family conditions are actually not very bad, and it is more than enough to give me some money to run my own small shop or something, but I never care about me, I just let me work, and then I got married, and I was not a person with good conditions, and I gave birth to a daughter, thinking that I could live my own small life, although I had no money But it's also a joy in the bitterness My husband has foreign debts and no house Both of them are working for individuals My father doesn't care how difficult it is for us to get out of a ** call has to go He wants to travel and I have to ask for leave The boss is unwilling to fire me directly I have to find a new job Go to my mother's house for a long time to buy things Empty hands are either blinded or scolded Until now, I haven't saved up my daughter's kindergarten fees Just ordinary people like us It's not like you can struggle to become a big sum of money at once The child also has to be managed The parents also have to be treated high As long as you think a little bit about selfishness, you will be charged with all kinds of moral degradation, and sometimes it is better to die than to think about it, and it is really boring to live.