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How much a child in the family will also increase more happiness, and now the national policy is also free of charge for a second child. There are more and more middle-class people, and they all choose to add an extra second treasure to their family. The reason for adding two treasures is different for each family, and some families may be because the elders of the previous generation want to have a little grandson, or a little granddaughter.

It may also be that he is worried that the eldest of his family has no companion when he grows up, and the two can just be a companion. Although the two treasures are good, not all families are suitable to have two treasures. Many families will have some hesitation on the issue of two treasures, which is also inseparable from the huge investment of time, energy and money required to raise a child.

Some families may have the level to give birth to a second treasure, but here young mothers do not recommend families with the following four types of fathers to have two treasures.

1.Dads have a tendency to have domestic violence.

Erbao, who was born in such a family, will become a little cowardly in his own temper. One more child will create more problems. Such a grumpy dad will only shout when he encounters difficulties, or take action immediately.

After giving birth to Erbao, it will definitely aggravate the differences in the family. Not only is it more of a damage for the mother, but it will also form an unhealthy psychology for the two students in the family. There may be mothers of some children who may feel that having an extra child will increase the sense of responsibility of the child's father.

In response to the evil behavior of the father, such a change in the sense of responsibility is basically difficult to happen to him. Even if such a person does happen, it will be a very small percentage. Mom, don't put your chips in this place.

2.Not a very diligent dad.

Nowadays, the vast majority of couples are assisted by their parents after they get married, so even if they have children, they don't feel a lot of pressure. In addition to daily expenses, most of the parents' pensions will subsidize their children, but now the young couple does not have much pressure on life and above. This is also based on the fact that there is only one child, and if you give birth to a second child, the pressure of work will manifest itself.

At this time, if Dad is not a very self-motivated person, and even when he comes home every day, he is not willing to share even the basic housework for Mom. Therefore, it is strongly recommended that Erbao should not be taken. After having two treasures, even if it is grandma, grandpa and grandpa can help share it, but there is no way to help the little couple in an all-round way.

At this time, it is up to Bao Ma and Dad to bear it, and Dad is unwilling to perform this obligation, so that Bao Ma can suffer a lot more alone.

3.I have to take care of my mother-in-law's children and fathers in everything.

What are the ones you are afraid of meeting after marriage, that must be the Bao Ma Man, which is a boy who is more weird than the Straw Chicken Man. Such a man must first take into account his mother's advice in everything he does, and then come to consult with his wife. There is nothing wrong with filial piety, but everything is based on the premise of such a deformity, and what kind of position does he put his wife in.

If this kind of father takes the second treasure, it will definitely enhance the conflict between the mother and the mother-in-law.

Less motivated dads Nowadays, most couples are helped by their parents after they get married, so even if they have children, they don't feel like a big burden.

A husband who is not motivated, a patriarchal husband, a husband who does not know how to share housework for the other half, and such a husband in the family cannot have a second child, otherwise it is easy to cause family conflicts and frequent quarrels.

A very selfish husband, a husband who belongs to a mom boy, a husband who has no ability to take care of himself. Unmotivated husbands, these husbands don't marry each other. Because such a person simply cannot listen to you.

There is a tendency to domestic violence in the family, not very motivated, this kind of husband should pay attention, even if you have money, you can't have a second child, and the family conflict is too acute.

For some couples, the relationship is obviously not good, but they will also consider having a second child, in fact, whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not has nothing to do with having a second child at all. For most women who consider having a second child, they generally think that they can have two children in the family and be each other's companions, but they do not think that there will be a big difference between them and their husbands. Most couples are prone to conflicts when they are faced with the issue of raising a child at home, which will directly affect the relationship between husband and wife.

When considering having a second child, it is generally thought that even if the husband and wife are divorced, they can choose one person when distributing the custody of the child. <>

In fact, families with bad feelings between husband and wife do not have any concerns at all when considering having children. Especially for women after having children, because they think that ** does not have any benefits to their bodies, they will choose to insist on giving birth to children. Some women also think of promoting the relationship between husband and wife by having a second child, but they will find that after having a second child, the relationship between husband and wife is still difficult to return to their previous life, and they will still face all kinds of quarrels all day long.

For both husband and wife, no matter which one of them, should be aware that since there are already two children in the family, they have already become parents of two children. You should live well for your children, and don't always quarrel over trivial things, which is not conducive to the development of the relationship between two people. It will also prompt children to lose the care of their parents earlier, and any child will want to get the wholehearted love of their parents.

If couples are always arguing over small things, it will also directly affect the children. <>

As a husband and wife, you should be aware that when considering whether to have a second child, you must first think about this issue. If the relationship between the husband and wife is not good, do not have a second child, after all, after giving birth, if there is no one to support, it will be difficult for the child to enjoy enough father's and mother's love. Don't choose to have a second child because of the discord between husband and wife, it is also unfair to the child.

The main reasons are as follows, the first is that having an extra child can increase the bond between husband and wife, which is conducive to the enhancement of the relationship between husband and wife, and the second is that in the process of nurturing children, it can bring more buffer space to couples to make up for the emotional cracks of both parties; The third is that the arrival of a newborn baby will bring many problems in life, which can cover up the contradictions between husband and wife.

I think the main reason is that they think that there is something wrong with their relationship, and it is possible that they need to have a second child to maintain their relationship, because both parents are forced to choose to have a second child, but after having a second child, it will indeed make them focus more on their family.

These families may just seem to have a bad relationship, otherwise they will not choose to have a second child, it should be that sometimes the relationship is not good, sometimes the relationship is good.

Nowadays, there are many families where both husband and wife go out to work, although the salary is high, but the pressure is also high, and the work takes up almost all the time, and there is no time to take care of the children. It is generally left to the care of the elderly at home. However, the old man is already old and in poor health, and he has to spend energy to take care of the children, which is very difficult.

If there is another child, the old man will not be able to bear it. You can hire a nanny, but after all, it's not a family, and if you meet an irresponsible nanny, wouldn't it hurt the child, and it's useless to regret it when the time comes. Therefore, many families with good conditions only choose to have one child, that is, considering that they are busy with work and have no time to take care of children, and they don't want to increase the burden on the elderly at home, so they will not have a second child.

In addition, there is another reason: I don't want to be so stressed and want to live my own life. Modern people's concepts are not as old as in the past, and they only live for their children all their lives, and they are willing to dedicate their lives to their children.

Nowadays, people pay more attention to their own quality of life, of course, children still have to be raised, but in addition, they also need to have their own life and their own pursuits. Besides, I still have money, so why not enjoy life? One more child is an extra pressure, and it is definitely not as easy as having only one child.

They have the money and the ability to raise an extra child, but they don't want to lose their lives because of it.

Sometimes, as you said, the poorer the family, the more willing to have more children, and the richer the family, the more reluctant to have more children, this is because they spend their time and energy on doing business to make money, if they have more children, they will not have so much time to do business and make money.

Whether or not to have a second child is related to many factors, some are because there is no way, some are not wanted at all, and it has little to do with whether they have money or not.

Since the economic conditions of the family are not good, then don't have a second child. Because you have to be responsible for a child when you give birth to him, you have to do your best to give him a good ideal life. You have to give him the best education and give him everything he needs.

And when you don't have the ability to give it to him, when you're not ready, then you still don't want to regenerate. And your husband wants to, and in that case, I think you should talk to him well.

First of all, the two of you already have a child, and this child will cost you both a lot of manpower and material resources, since you two can't even take care of this child, why do you want to have another one? If you have another child, both of those two children will not have a good life, and it will be very painful. You have to make this clear to him, tell him about the seriousness of the matter, tell him about the consequences of the matter.

There is also a series of problems about having a second child, you have to tell him how much it will cost to have a second child, including confinement, buying necessities for the child, and supporting the child in the future, which are all a lot of expenses. So where should this expense come from, with the current financial ability of the two of you, you will definitely not be able to afford it, then you can't go to your parents after giving birth to a second child, then you will become a gnawing old family.

In the end, if he is still resolute in giving birth, then you don't have to talk to him, as long as you don't want to give birth, no one can force you. There are many measures you can take to prevent the arrival of this child, you must be firm in your own thoughts, you have to think about your first child, you can't let both children be miserable and unhappy. Trust that over time, your husband will understand your concerns.

I think you should make it clear to your husband that if you have a second child, the economic pressure you will face, the quality of life of the whole family will be reduced, and the education and training funds for one child will be reduced.

Having a second child requires the consent of both people, not his unilateral decision, you can have a good talk with him, tell him the economic situation of the family, since the economic conditions are not good, then having another one is not good for both children.

I think that whether or not to have a second child in life should be decided after the family has discussed it together, so whether or not to have a second child should be considered from all aspects, as long as the conditions allow, you can consider having a second child.

Talk to your husband, coordinate with your family, and think about yourself. What are the requirements for the family's economy to have a second child, don't wait for the birth and have no money to support.

Personally, I think you should make it clear to your husband, as the saying goes: no more good, one top ten, don't blindly ask for quantity, and don't pay attention to quality. Besides, if the family situation is not good, if you want to give birth, you need to think carefully!

If your first child is a girl, your husband may force you to have a second child not only because of your own wishes, but also because of your in-laws. It is recommended that you have a good chat with your husband first, explore his specific considerations and difficulties, and then decide what to do for yourself.

Explain clearly that having a second child will cause a burden on the family economy, and even reduce the cultivation of the first child, and should pay attention to the quality of children's education, rather than pursuing the number of children, and should be more realistic to themselves.

The issue of having a second child needs to be decided jointly after discussion between two people, and the husband has no right to force you, and the family situation is not good, if you want to give birth, you need to consider carefully!

First of all, understand why the husband wants to have a second child, if there is no proper and reasonable reason, if you don't want to give birth, you can say what you think, and it is not good for the child to give birth if you don't want to give birth.

I don't understand your husband's current situation of "family economy is not good", how can he think that "it will be fine after raising a second child"?

In other words, although your husband knows that your family economy is not good, but he thinks that as long as you have a second child, your family economy will be better again?

Raising children requires costs, and under the conditions of a poor family economy, wouldn't it be even worse if the group didn't have a second child?

Whether it is necessary to have a second child, if the policy conditions permit, first depends on the couple's cognition of the concept of fertility and their willingness to have children.

As a family, giving birth to a child is naturally a major event, and before conceiving a second child, you should seriously consider the family situation and face the current situation, including the family's economic collapse, work status, husband and wife's body, and parenting environment.

Hope mine can help you.