The tangled in pain 10, the tangled in pain

It's that people will have the same problem as you sooner or later!! "Who am I? ”。It is recommended to take a look at books on psychology: "New World - The Awakening of Spirituality" is recommended, and there are books by Osho!!

It's a serious problem, but you've already been born, and you're in China and not abroad, so there's nothing to worry about. In addition, God must love you very much, so he will give you to your current parents, they must be the best for you!!

It's really too much to think about, there is no need to ask, are you a materialist or an idealist?

Hmmm......Actually, I can't tell you here, but I suggest you read a book called "Sophie's World", I don't know if you have read it, but you should feel better after reading this book

In fact, there is really nothing to worry about these things, when we come to this world the day we already have a new identity, no matter where we come from, where we are going in the end, we should all live in the present, too much to think about some unrealistic problems will only make yourself into a puzzle, rather than thinking too much is better than not thinking, living well now is more important than anything else!

If you have nothing to do, read more books, watch TV if you are bored, don't think about what you don't have, live well, live happily is the truth.

Actually, everyone has thought about this question, but just think about it, don't dig too deep, you'd better do something else without thinking about it, you can't get any answer if you think about it, and you can't change your life, right? If you think about it for a while, you might as well watch anime for a while, and it's too boring to think about these questions. Make your time more interesting, and when you think back to these days one day, you will not think of blank boring questions but real memories, right?

After reading it, I really think that you are very confused, this is providence, or you should find something to do.

I've thought about this too, but people are amazing creatures, this kind of thing. I don't explain it.,This can't be arranged.,I still think my parents draw comics.,You only have one.,It can't be anyone else.,You're you.,I'm me.,We have different ideas.,There are different things.,It's only for us.。 Verbose = =

Actually,,, there's no need to think too much.

In fact, by paying more attention to your daily life and devoting yourself more to work and study, you can avoid your cranky thoughts. To be honest, thinking too much all the time can only mean that you are too idle, work hard.

Isn't it tiring to think about this, I used to think about it, but then I didn't want to think about it anymore, because it would only be a waste of time, and it would be better to do everything well and make my life happy and fulfilling.

Don't give up** and don't leave the bed to someone else... Keep it up ...

Why, because there is only you, me, and he is in place of us human beings in the world, and if you are not human, you will not be between you, me, and him, and I want you to be satisfied.

Uh,** I've seen too much. The thinking is quite dialectical. People are inherently a contradiction, don't think too much, just go with the flow and live in the moment.

It is advisable to find a psychiatrist, otherwise you will go crazy.

Uncle's card number, gold card and mobile client borrow, the customer's health lied as soon as possible, and the marriage registration card was sold at the time.

You think too much, calm down, calm down, don't dwell on things that shouldn't be.

Flowers are not flowers, fog is not fog, people are not people, things are not things, everything is produced by the fruit.

You are you, all you think is assumptions, it can only be fantasy, and you have to face reality.

Calm is actually thinking too much about yourself.

Nothing, just don't think about it.

What I'm trying to say is does the question that suddenly comes to your mind right now make sense?

If we delve too much and think too much, we will torture ourselves with other people's high fortune books, and the final outcome will only make us troubled and worried.

There will always be people who hate you in life, and there are always people you don't like, since the three views are different and can't go together, you don't have to force and stay away silently, you don't have to turn your face to make everyone unhappy, embarrass each other and even make enemies for yourself. As the so-called three different views do not have to be friends, different levels do not have to argue, life and work have always won in the pattern, but lost in the calculation, the human heart is not big, the more the plan is less happy, the heart is relaxed and the troubles are less. People have limited time and energy in this life, and if they spend all their time and energy on hating others, it can be said that the gains outweigh the losses and heavy losses.

There are no same interests and hobbies, a common life circle, communication will inevitably be difficult, it is not difficult to find in life, and people who do not agree with the three views to say more than half a sentence, are a waste of lips and tongue, he can not understand what you do, and even will sneer at what you do, talking to such a person, will only bring negative emotional impact to yourself, and it will also cause unhappiness. Fang knows that people are not tired of getting along with each other, comfort is the best way to get along, people can cherish each other, can not communicate with each other, die, hate a person, remember not to tear the face, so that each other embarrassed also seems to be small and low EQ.

If you are too harsh and sensitive and too concerned about small things, you will blindly magnify the small contradictions and disputes with people, and finally get inextricable. The things you were thinking about back then, and the people you were not used to, in fact, if you look back many years later, they are not worth mentioning at all, and you will even feel that your behavior at that time was ridiculous and naïve. Besides, magnifying the little things, just to find trouble for yourself, after entanglement and entanglement, the mentality is broken, many people are the choice between a thought, there is no decisive right or wrong, too serious and too calculating when the right is wrong, and the heart is wide and looks down on the wrong.

One cannot remain immersed in a painful state of mind. This is seriously destroying your physical and mental health! You have to get out of the painful and tangled emotions quickly! You can:

1.Quickly confide in your nearest and dearest. Ask them for help. These people can be your elders, teachers, good friends, etc. With their help, your painful mood will improve a lot!

2.Free yourself. You should understand that when you encounter a problem, pain alone will never solve the problem. Only by carefully identifying the root cause of your pain. And then make it stop happening at the root, which is the best strategy!

3.After you understand the above truth. You don't necessarily immediately address the cause of your pain, because that's secondary!

It can rely on its own ingenuity to solve it slowly! The first thing you need to do is to take the initiative to consciously divert your attention, and you can go to some recreational fitness activities. Chat with friends.

Or take part in more meaningful social activities! Find new fun from the event!

I believe that through your own efforts, you will completely say goodbye to the painful and tangled emotions! When the time comes, you will feel that a person should take the initiative to control his painful emotions. It would be foolish to let painful emotions surround you forever!

Eating some chocolate can make you happy, trust me.

First of all, you need to get to know your husband through your daily behavior with your husband, including other aspects.

Understand what kind of person he is in essence. If he is a very attentive person at heart, I believe that you should be aware of it when you fall in love with him, rather than only finding out now.

So I think that the emergence of such a problem is essentially a reflection of the disharmony between your families. Look carefully for the problems that your family has with each other and how they get along with each other. Has such a problem been fundamentally solved?

I think that even if your husband has a cover and burns flowers outside, it is most likely because the contradictions within the family cannot be transformed, which causes him to be cold to the family.

Think about it, find out the problems in the family, and solve them. Find your own problems and try to correct them. Find a time to talk to your husband and show your love, but don't get involved too much about the woman, as it will only lead to more conflicts.

If you have any questions, please come back to me, I hope my words will inspire you.

Making yourself strong is the premise.

It is better to help yourself than to help. Before you become stronger, you should pretend to be confused.

I guess you better don't hit ** yet, things shouldn't be at that point yet. Let go of the doubts in your heart first, be more considerate to your husband, and let him know that only you are the one who really understands and considerates him, and you are the person he can't live without. I'm sure he will also experience it himself, that is, there is really a problem with the demolition of the high, and I think he will eventually return to you.

If he doesn't say it, don't say it, maybe he has realized that he has neglected you and is about to return to you, if you say it at this time, you can only push him out again. If he really loves you, I don't think he wants you to know. If one day he realizes that you know about it and doesn't say it and is so considerate to him, he will be grateful to you, and he will love you more and treat you better.

I wish you happiness!