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I also pay more attention to one point, and I also want to become eloquent. Let me give you a few suggestions, one: use a magnifying glass to observe the things around you.
See what others will say. Two: Do more.
The personal experience is more deeply touched, three: read more books, expand the scope of knowledge, this is very important, you have to say that there is something to say. Four:
Watch more classic movies and memorize a little more classic lines. When the time comes, you can blurt out, five: read more books on eloquence, six:
Practice, play tricks with others. If someone else has nothing to say, they can't say anything about you. This is also a symbol of wisdom!
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In fact, everyone will be nervous when they meet strangers. It's like being scared in the dark, and although you don't know what you're afraid of, you're just afraid.
First of all, tell yourself in your heart, I'm not nervous, I'm not nervous, I can't escape, bite the bullet, don't be too ugly.
Second, if allowed, observe the target to see what his speaking style is, how he likes to say it, and what he might say will make him react.
Finally, try to find a topic that is acceptable to both of you (one that can keep the conversation going). In fact, although strangers are indifferent, they are still relatively friendly, and generally do not make people unable to get off the stage.
The above method does not apply to the main street.
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Contact a small number of people first, and find out what is the problem of your fear of socializing, and at the same time give yourself psychological hints, tell yourself not to be afraid, there is nothing to be afraid of, they will not eat people, what are you afraid of. I think it's going to be fine. 497163594
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Fully prepare yourself--- read more books and newspapers, accumulate knowledge Meet at least one stranger every day, and summarize the experience of communicating successes and failures when you come back Learn to be interested in others, that is, in the process of contacting each person, your focus is not how to communicate with him, but how to discover his strengths, so that you have something to say Remember to never just let others find something to talk to you.
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The most important thing is to treat people with sincerity.
You also have to break the autism, in fact, this is just a threshold, you will find that it is actually very simple, it will also bring you happiness, and it is necessary to have different ways of contact with different people, and it is best to have a common language.
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Be honest with others. Be creditworthy. Try to find common topics with the people around you.
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It's hard to say! In fact, the simplest thing is, just see more! When you get used to it!
After that, you will behave naturally, after all, you are used to it, and you will turn a blind eye when you are used to it! I still remember that I had a friend before, he was also very afraid of life, he didn't know how to communicate with people, he didn't know what to do when he stood there, he had a meal together, he was silent there, and he didn't say anything, but after a while, we took him more, and he didn't dislike him, and he slowly changed! At first, I just started to say a word or two, and gradually I was able to talk to us!
Let's chat! Now he doesn't have any problems when he sees people, he laughs when he sees people, and he can talk to anyone!
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I am afraid of meeting people, and I feel nervous and unnatural.
This belongs to mild autism, communication disorder.
Be confident, hypnotize yourself, hypnotize yourself is the best.
Read more books, read more than 10,000 volumes, and write like a god.
When knowledge is enriched, there are no obstacles and no embarrassment when communicating with others.
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Hello, I've been in this situation with you.
Before I went to college, I basically stayed at home during the holidays, and I didn't want to go out, or even meet people. Although I knew in my heart that this was not good, I was reluctant to change him.
Later, I went to study in a different place, and I came into contact with more people and things, and I participated in school group activities, and I suddenly grew a lot. Therefore, if you want to get rid of this bad habit, it is better to overcome your fear of introversion and treat others as you should treat them generously. Don't rush, take your time.
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First of all, you have to have confidence in yourself, you have to believe that you are the best, whether it is work, life or study, communicating with people is something that everyone must do, no one will care who you are, no one will care what you do, say what you want to say, do what you want to do, please, naturally, just go with the flow, on a certain level, all people are equal, don't be afraid, there are still many gentle people in the world.
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For this question, I think this is to take the first step on your own. Otherwise, if you are scared all the time, then it will be even worse. That is to become autistic.
First overcome your inferiority complex, and then get down to business. Everyone has their own characteristics, and you don't have to deliberately extrovert yourself.
Introversion also has his advantages, being cautious and not giving birth to right and wrong. The key is to do the work well, at least to get the evaluation of the leader: this person is down-to-earth and reassuring.
When things are done, natural self-confidence will increase. The problem of relationships is natural, if you have something to say, you will talk about it, and if you don't have something to say, you will not talk about it. But listen more and don't stay away from the group.
Participate in more activities and find people with similar interests to reach out to you in a small area first.
Confident Ways to Communicate with Others:
The first question of self-confidence: First of all, it is necessary to analyze what are the reasons for one's lack of self-confidence, and people's lack of self-confidence is due to economic conditions, appearance conditions, abilities, and one's own perception that they are not good. Then you need to find out what the reasons for your lack of self-confidence are, and then make targeted efforts to enhance your self-confidence.
There is a more practical self-confidence training method: first, you should be sure when you speak, and the voice should be loud enough for others to hear what you are saying; Second, don't be perfectionist in anything; the third is to seize any opportunity, even a small one, to show yourself; Fourth, do your best to do something that makes you feel that your ability is not bad; Fifth, learn to forgive and be grateful, so as not to complain; Sixth, keep smiling at all times, no matter how the outside world changes. I hope to stick to the above six points every day.
The second is about the skills of speaking and the accumulation of experience: in addition to daring to speak, it is also necessary to pay attention to being able to speak. One is to praise each other more; the second is to treat each other equally in interactions; the third is to look at each other with a sense of empathy in the interaction; the fourth is to do what they like and talk about topics with the other party's interests; Fifth, read more books on speaking language skills to increase your knowledge in order to have more topics with more people; Sixth, it is best to serve as a student cadre, even if it is the head of a dormitory, when managing a few people in the dormitory, he can also give himself more opportunities to exercise and speak.
The first step in solving the problem of lack of self-confidence in communication is to "light a fire" for yourself.
First of all, you have to think about it: what are the disadvantages of not being confident in communication? What are the benefits of communication confidence?
You can think that if you are not confident in communication, you will not have the confidence to report your work, and your boss will think that you are incompetent, which will affect your promotion.
You can think that if you are confident in communication, the girl you like may be willing to listen to you and agree to your request.
10,000 people have 10,000 motivations in their hearts.
Some people gain motivation by tapping into their ambitions, some people find motivation by pursuing their dreams, some people gain motivation through the encouragement of their loved ones, and some people gain motivation through love incentives.
In short, you need to think through and through how important it is to be confident in your communication. So, here are some of the methods.
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I don't think there are two reasons why you don't dare to speak up, one is that you are an introvert in the first place. Second, lack of self-confidence. If it is the former, the best way is to start talking to your family, force yourself to talk to them more, and ensure that you have the initiative to speak
If it's the latter, it's a matter of cultivating self-confidence, taking the initiative to talk to people (first people you are familiar with, then people you don't know) is the best and fastest way, maybe you will feel embarrassed or even have the urge to run away, but endure it, you must persevere, look at the other person's lips or eyes when you speak (but don't look at each other for a long time, and you can't look at each other's eyes) Don't care about the other person's opinion, tell yourself that this is an exercise, you must do it, and you can't escape (to keep autosuggesting). (Of course, reading aloud in front of the public is also a way to hone, but it requires amazing endurance and self-control, it depends on your tolerance and level, but don't force yourself to use this method) I believe that a month of hard work will make you find that you have improved a lot.
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1. Change your image. If people with low self-esteem want to improve their confidence, they must change their speech and demeanor, change their previous habits of speaking in a low voice, not daring to speak, and walking with their heads bowed, so that they can dress more fashionably, practice speaking more, speak loudly, and walk with their heads raised.
2. Adjust self-understanding. People with low self-esteem always misunderstand themselves, or always think that they are like this in the eyes of others, and have no confidence in themselves under the low evaluation of others.
3. Say what you want to say when talking to people, don't be afraid of what others will do to you, don't be so exaggerated, think about why others talk and you don't feel strange, why you talk to others will feel strange, if you say that no one cares about you, you can make a small joke with others appropriately to attract people's attention.
Speak more on the topics you are good at, say more about your own opinions, etc., others may think you are very good, will come to you for advice, I believe that if someone comes to you to ask you questions, think you are quite good, at that time you will definitely increase your self-confidence.
4. If you have time, go out to exercise often, go out for a walk, don't be bored at home all day, the more boring you are, the more introverted. Go to exercise more, sweat, strengthen your body, when you are strong to be confident, when you forget about other things, when you are fully in the exercise, you will feel very happy, a positive emotion that cannot be said, and talk to him when you meet a friend.
5. Open your voice when you speak, usually as long as we pay attention, we will find that people with low self-esteem have a low voice. If you want to get rid of the tension and inferiority complex on the scene, you might as well try to take a deep breath, adjust your thoughts, speak with an open voice, and have an aura.
6. Do what you love to do, when you are doing something you like to do, you will be full of confidence, but if it is a strange thing, you will be at a loss. So, find confidence in what you love to do.
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First of all, it is necessary to say less, the four words "silence is golden" are definitely a wise saying. I know that everyone envies people who can talk in public, and I like the feeling of being listened to and respected in the process of speaking. These are very normal phenomena, because people have an innate desire to communicate and talk to others.
However, when you are not at a certain level or do not know much about the person you are talking to. Talking as little as possible may be a good communication strategy. In fact, many people who say the wrong thing are some clever people who want to show off themselves by talking, but they are smart and mistaken by being smart.
To give you an example from my own experience: my assistant once received ** from my important client, and I was working on some work at hand, and waved his hand to indicate that it was inconvenient for me to answer his **. The young man was very clever and instantly understood what I meant.
Say to **"Hello Mr. XX, our leader is not in the unit. When he comes back, I'll ask him to get you back**.
I think in my heart that this young man is quite clever and can do things. Unexpectedly, he added a sentence later: "He's been very busy lately, maybe he can't reply to you immediately after I call him."
At that time, I could hear the other person's roar through the earpiece. "He's busy? I'm not busy?
If you can't go back, don't go back. I can't afford you," the customer was in a hurry. After the fact, it took a lot of effort for us to re-maintain the customer.
In fact, you said that this young man handled it very appropriately in the front, but because of the latter half of the sentence, he offended an important person. And many people have offended people because of this half of the sentence, saying the wrong thing. So, talk as little as possible.
Then, it's just a matter of thinking more. Whether it's in daily work or getting along with friends, it's the same, you must "think twice before you talk". Some friends may say, are you too tired to live like this?
I'm just a simple person, I can say whatever comes to mind, and I don't have as many twists and turns as you. I'm straight, and I'm not afraid to offend people. This may be some misunderstanding of the word "straight", which should refer to sincerity and integrity, rather than speaking without going through the brain.
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