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Everyone will have such thoughts, especially acquaintances who do not take the initiative to talk to me when they meet, I will indeed think that the other party looks down on them, because taking the initiative to say hello represents respect for others, and if they do not say hello, it means that the other party does not respect themselves.

Introverted, self-compassionate, not good at words, more withdrawn, participate in more social activities, contact with society, gradually broaden their horizons, optimistic, so that they can be energetic and happy every day.

It's not exactly like that, at least not from my heart, it's just that after a long time, I forgot your face, and I can't remember it for a while. It's you who are too careful.

Some acquaintances may meet because they are shy, but my introversion leads to not taking the initiative to greet others, not because I look down on you.

They don't take the initiative, you take the initiative to talk and greet them, so what can you do, we are enthusiastic and have nothing, this is a bad state of mind.

It should be a bit inferior, but it may not be anything.

Sensitive psychology, low self-confidence.

There's a kind of person who seems to like the other person but never talks to him.

There is a kind of person who doesn't like the other person on the surface and never talks to him. When we meet this kind of person. First of all, we have to try to understand him, because he is not good at expressing himself, and he will take all the things on his mind to heart!

Even if he likes you very much, but he will express it with his practical actions, he will not say sweet words, this kind of man is very worthy of our women's love, because he is not hypocritical, he will express his love for the person in his heart with his actual actions.

There are three symptoms of cowardice in speech.

1. Cowardice in the face of other people's unique opinions.

2. The phenomenon of cowardice in front of the superiority of others.

3. Cowardice in the face of other people's psychological advantages.

Resolution. 1. Psychological adjustment from a physiological point of view.

Physiology and psychology interact with each other. Psychological changes can cause corresponding physiological changes; In the same way, physiological regulation can also have an impact on the psyche. When speaking timidity, it is often involuntary and difficult to control, and through some physiological adjustment measures, good results can often be achieved, such as through deep breathing, rubbing hands, stretching limbs, walking, washing, etc., can eliminate and relieve the psychology of cowardice and tension.

2. Psychological relaxation with psychological suggestion.

Psychological problems are most directly and effectively corrected by psychological methods. The phenomenon of psychological cowardice is caused by psychological exaggeration, and psychological feelings must be brought back into place. To achieve this requirement, it is necessary to use psychological suggestion to make an objective and correct understanding of the other party, and to make an accurate and fair assessment of oneself, so that you can stay sober and build confidence.

For example, when someone speaks and shows an advantage that we cannot attain, we can imply that this is his advantage, and I also have an advantage, which he cannot match.

3. Strengthen the understanding of each other and improve self-confidence.

The cowardice of speaking is, in essence, caused by overestimating the other person. Overestimating each other, pessimistically evaluating the relationship between the two parties, thus despising oneself and producing a sense of distance and worship, at this time it is natural to be humble and cowardly. We must strengthen our understanding of the other party, do not overestimate the other party, let alone deify it, but return it to its original colors and regard him as an ordinary person.

At the same time, the interlocutors are all equals, and when they speak, they also take democracy as their purpose, and do not artificially separate the relationship between the two sides. Correctly understand yourself, put yourself in the right position, and improve self-confidence.

4. Overcome the desire to express and pay attention to the effect of expression.

Sometimes we speak cowardly, not because we underestimate ourselves, but because of a strong desire to express. At the beginning of speaking, I was bent on making a splash and overpowering others: when I found that others were eloquent and had excellent insights, I felt a sense of loss and frustration psychologically, and my emotions were shocked and plummeted.

In this regard, it is necessary to cultivate a simple and natural speaking style, and express your meaning satisfactorily, and do not expect too much. With such a stable mentality, there is no way to talk about cowardice. There was a teacher who attended a teaching and research meeting in the province, and he spoke freely and calmly.

How can a fledgling young man be so skilled? The key is that he has a stable and normal mentality, and does not have high expectations.

5. Enhance the sense of responsibility and eliminate the emotion of retreat.

In the face of others' outstanding performance, what should we do if there is a cowardice? Retreating and ending hastily will inevitably be embarrassing, and it will also bring a vicious circle to future speech.

At this time, it is necessary to strengthen the sense of responsibility for speaking, take it as the duty to express one's own opinions, persist and never retreat, and the cowardice will be overcome.

People often just breathe down, and their tongues will become sharper, and the phenomenon of cowardice will be automatically overcome.

This is related to the personality and life environment and experience, and it is possible that there are fewer strangers in daily contact and there is not much communication. First of all, you need to adjust yourself mentally, and it is important to build confidence. Whether you live or work, you can't avoid socializing with strangers and making new friends all the time.

Social phobia. This is a matter of personal habits. You have to take your time and get in touch with it.

When you get used to the atmosphere. Naturally, I get used to it. That's how people come by.

If you are not used to something, you will have all kinds of reactions. Remind yourself that your friends are all strangers. That's it.

This is called stage fright, it's okay to wait for you to contact more people, it's your immaturity.

When you see someone you don't know, you are nervous, it means that your social skills are still too poor, you are not confident enough in yourself, and your eloquence may also be a little problematic, you need to have more contact with all kinds of people in society, usually exercise your eloquence, have confidence in yourself, and don't be afraid of all kinds of psychological burdens.

In fact, it's normal, the personality should be a little introverted, a little strange and fearful, many people will be like this, take your time, you don't need to know how familiar you are with others, at least in the face of people you don't know, it's almost the same to say hello, don't be nervous, take your time

In front of someone who doesn't want to talk to him, if you want to chat, it's very embarrassing, and you can only have an awkward conversation. In this case, I will be very unhappy, what should I do at this time? I think the best way to do this is to play with your phone.

It is very rude for someone you say that someone you know is right in front of you and you are playing on your phone. But if you don't want to talk to her at all, if you don't talk more than half a sentence, is it polite to chat!

At this time, you can take out your mobile phone, look at the information you want to see, chat with the people you can chat, and each other has their own world because of the mobile phone, no need to disturb, no need to talk, the current scene is far more harmonious than awkward chat. What do you think?

But if you feel that it is rude to play with your mobile phone, you can also use your mobile phone to naturally leave the space with the other person.

A colleague has encountered such a situation, he doesn't like to be with each other, and sent us a text message in private, saying that after a few minutes, call me ** to save me from trouble.

After a while, after we had a ****, he started performing, oh okay, I got it. Can't I handle this problem without me? Oops, what a hassle, I'll go. Wait, I'll go over now!

My colleague is so good at acting, and he got out in an instant. Such a routine is suitable for blind dates, boring parties, 、......When the scene is used, there is no harm, and it will not be rude, so it is just withdrawn from the environment where you don't want to talk to each other.

It's not hard not to speak.

Just open your mouth and give the other party something to eat, such as chewing gum or something, are you still afraid of "not being able to block" the other party's mouth?

If the other party doesn't eat, it doesn't matter, you can eat, after you eat, you have been in a state of chewing, it is not easy to speak, if the other party is informed and interesting, it will naturally not communicate with you.

If I want to talk to you, you just have to signal that there is something in your mouth, and it's hard to open your mouth.

And chewing gum is something that most people are prepared for, which can freshen their breath and exercise their chewing muscles at the same time. Relatively easy to find.

There are other foods like lollipops, always, if you don't want to speak, just give him a reason not to speak, and that's it.

However, the most direct way is to show your emotions: I know you, but I don't want to talk to you.

If you don't communicate with each other, you'll be fine.

It seems polite, but the attitude of rejecting people from thousands of miles away can separate people at once.

There are always some people who don't know how to get to know each other, but they don't want to have much contact with them, but they can't avoid meeting them by chance. So if you accidentally encounter you, don't say a word, turn around and leave, and be sure to leave before the other party reacts and sees you. This may seem a bit cowardly, but it is also a way to do it.

There is a similar method as this, which is to pretend not to see the other party turn in the opposite direction and walk in front of the other party, generally this kind of not very familiar, but the person you know will not be enthusiastic enough to take the initiative to greet him when you have no eye contact with him, and if you don't say hello, you don't need to talk, so you can also avoid talking to him by doing so. Be cold, don't be afraid to offend people, others will be a little self-aware in front of your cold attitude. The most important thing is this, show your attitude, let go of yourself, be brave and be yourself, and write "I don't want to talk to you" on your face.

After all, the feeling of tearing your face is still very bad, each of us will always have one or two people who know people who don't want to talk, the attitude of being in the world is very important, and the current experience is just a part of growing up. Usually mature people will smile when facing such people, because they know that this is only temporary, everyone has their own things to do, and the older they get, the less time they have to meet or chat. So they endure for a while, and no one can always appear in front of you.

So when you face such a thing, it's normal to be disgusted, and it's normal not to want to speak, but you still need to speak in the world.

Of course, if you can't bear to talk to him, just say that you don't want to talk to him, and I believe that people who are interested will keep their distance from you, so that you don't have to deal with it. It can also save you a lot of troubles in the future, of course, everything has pros and cons, so it depends on how you deal with it. It's normal for people to have such emotions between people, everyone's thoughts are different, and it is impossible to be absolutely satisfied, so try to choose to accept it.

If I were you, I would choose to say a few polite greetings to him, and then I wouldn't say anything else, because I think that a few polite greetings can be regarded as a proper demeanor and a good quality, and then since I don't want to talk to you, why should I force myself to talk to you, so I think at this time I will do it according to my own heart, and I won't say too much to you, because I just need to be polite to me and be decent. And then what I do after that is my own business.

In fact, I think it's actually like this when you get along with people, although it is possible that you will be very tired, and you don't want to talk to someone, but on some occasions you still have to do it, because I think this is also a more tiring point in interpersonal relationships, for your own better interpersonal relationships or to talk to him a little bit, but don't force yourself too much, don't want to just don't want me to say a few words, Don't say too much and make others feel a psychological state of you, so I think it's better to keep a certain distance at this time.