How to lay a good foundation for love in junior high school so that girls can t do without you

Study hard, work hard, become a person of the year in school, and then be admitted to a key high school, maintain a good image in junior high school, and then be admitted to a prestigious school and become a celebrity in school. While doing this, care and be considerate to her, and you will go to the peak of your life.

I'm also a junior high school student, and I'm a senior sister in the second year of junior high school. A few of my male classmates have described them to you.

1.Try to wear black clothes as much as possible, don't wear sweatpants or anything, be close to the body, don't be baggy.

2.When walking, the pants have pockets, put the hands in the pockets, and the legs should not be too separated or too close when walking.

3.Hair! Hair! Hair! You must fit your own face shape, otherwise you look at other boys' cuts, and you want to cut them yourself, and after you cut them, you find that your face shape is not worthy of how sad it is.

4.The handsome god has nothing to do with being tall, short, fat and thin.,It's best not to be short.。。 There is a handsome and fat paper in the next class

5.Don't explode too many swear words. Appropriate.

Then you will play with the girls, but they may scold you or hit you a few times, as long as it is not excessive, don't get angry. If it's excessive, you can lose your temper appropriately and can't hit someone! The girl is not your opponent and the old class will come to you...

Done (.)

First of all, parents need to calmly analyze the reasons and circumstances of their daughter's early love. If the daughter is simply in love with someone of the opposite sex, and the other party does not have a bad influence on the daughter, then parents can take the following measures:1

Guardianship and guidance: Parents should monitor and guide their daughter's whereabouts and friends, avoid their daughters from being affected as much as possible, and at the same time convey the correct view of love and values to their daughters. 2.

Communication and listening: Parents need to communicate and listen to their daughters, understand their daughters' thoughts and needs, help their daughters solve problems and confusions, and also pass on the correct knowledge and concepts of sex education to their daughters. 3.

Respect and support: Parents should respect their daughter's feelings and choices, give them the necessary support and encouragement, and give them the confidence and courage to face the challenges and difficulties in life. If the daughter's early love is more serious, for example, the other party exerts a bad influence on the daughter, or the daughter's academic and physical and mental health is greatly affected, then the parents need to take more active measures, such as limiting the scope of their daughter's interactions, seeking help from professional counselors or education experts, etc.

In general, parents should take appropriate measures to guide their daughter's healthy growth with a rational and caring attitude, while also respecting their daughter's personality and choices.

Let me briefly talk about my daughter's example:

My child received a reminder from the teacher when he was in the first year of junior high school**, telling me with great certainty that my child was in early love, but I believed in the child. On weekends, I deliberately gave up housework, chatted and watched TV with my children, especially watching idol dramas together, discussing the advantages and disadvantages of idols together. And in the future, I often ask some questions that I don't understand, such as English and pop**.

Let my child feel that I trust her. Later, I casually talked about the phenomenon of early love at school, and then said very easily, daughter, you are quite beautiful, there must be boys pursuing you, hehe. The daughter said shyly, yes, boys still have to choose four beauties for girls.

Then we will talk about handsome boys, and my daughter also talked cutely about which girl chases the boy's funny thing, and also told me that I like the excellent boy, I also talked about my junior high school, and guided the child to say, if he is very good, there will definitely be many girls like it, then he will have a higher vision, you are only better, in the study to catch up with him, so that other girls can not compare to you, in the future to go to a better university, you may meet ......someone better than him

This is just my own heart for my daughter's education, and now my daughter is in the third year of junior high school, and her grades are better than those in the first year of junior high school.

1.The HIV infection rate in Asians is 99% and the fatality rate is 99%.

2.In case of accidents, people will look down on them.

3.Any love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooligan! ——***。

Girls in junior high school will yearn for a love, which is unstoppable, no matter how good they study and how obedient they are, children will also fall in love, in fact, I think as long as you protect yourself and don't delay your studies, it's nothing.

First of all, you should directly tell your child that this is not right, but your attitude must not be blunt, otherwise it will cause your child to be disgusted; The second is to show empathy, understand your child's current thoughts, and then tell her what to do! Be sure to persuade for the purpose, don't force to make decisions!

To tell you the truth, it's useless, junior high school is precisely adolescence, rebellious period, the more you talk about it, the more it will get worse, there is no good way to do it, and don't use coercive means, it will backfire.

Why should we look at other people's eyes when we are alive? Just be yourself. It's good to be happy.

Tell her that love isn't as good as she thinks! It will be different after a long time!

Take her around the outside more often, understand the world, and educate her about love on the side, and ask her: Will you still love a man who has nothing in ten years?

It's as simple as finding a real-life example of failure around her.

Hehe, good idea upstairs.

As the child grows up, his perception of the outside world is becoming more and more obvious, and the changes in his own feelings are actually obvious. Just like in junior high school, many children may start to fall in love and be exposed to love. At this time, parents should give them correct guidance on this phenomenon and avoid accidents.

For children, they are perceived in love, but in fact, it will be more obvious in junior high school, when they are in contact with the opposite sex. The perception of love is also becoming more and more obvious, so it is actually very normal for junior high school students to fall in love. At this time, some parents will be very worried about their love, or that their relationship will affect their children's academic performance.

Therefore, parents should actually give them a correct guide to this phenomenon to avoid affecting learning or other things from happening, but we should not teach them in an overly radical way.

In fact, at this time, he should be given sex education, which is actually very lacking in China, because they will think that this kind of thing cannot be put on the table. Some schools will have hygiene classes, but this kind of curriculum can easily be taken up by other teachers, but it is very necessary for parents to give them sex education. The first is to make them aware of their own body structure, understand the difference between boys and girls, and what they can and cannot do.

This kind of thing is not obtained through his own experience, so this kind of thing needs parents to educate their children, tell them this relevant knowledge or content, and do not think that sex education is unnecessary. It is very important for junior high school students to lead them to the right path in love, but at the same time, at this time, it can make them realize that there are differences between men and women, and there are things that cannot be done.

Many parents will be very angry when they know that their children are in love, and then educate their children in a high-profile way of preaching and tell them some big truths, but at this time the children are in a rebellious period and have their own independent ideas. Their thoughts may not be known to their parents, so at this time, parents should not tell them in a didactic manner, but should explain and guide them in a friend's way. Knowing what he thinks about this and then communicating it is the most effective way to make the relationship between the two parties more promote.

Tell your child that now his main task is to study, and if love affects learning, it is certainly not advisable.

Personally, I think that junior high school students are when children are in adolescence, and it is when children are ignorant or budding about feelings, as parents, we should pay attention to the psychology and physiology of children, and then help children to look at youth love, so how to guide junior high school students in love?

1. Don't deny this relationship yet.

Because most junior high school students are more childish, they generally listen to their parents, and if they have a better relationship with their parents, then they may tell their parents about their thoughts about falling in love.

Because junior high school students are psychologically fragile when they are in love, parents know that if their children are in love, they must not treat junior high school students in a rough way, otherwise such an attitude of parents will make junior high school students uncomfortable and even fall into shadows.

2. The correct attitude of parents.

In fact, my children began to fall in love when they were in junior high school, and as a parent, I may not find it strange at all. After all, I am also a person from the past, so once parents encounter this kind of problem, the only way is to put their child in love, so that he can understand what it means to be lost.

The only thing parents can do is to communicate well with their children. At this time, you can not object, but it is not acceptable, the main thing is that the child needs to be able to focus on learning.

3. Let children establish a correct view of love.

Although love itself is certainly harmless, a healthy love will benefit people for a lifetime. But it is harmful for teenagers to start falling in love too early when they are physically and mentally immature and lack education and guidance.

Although those middle school students who are in a state of early love may think that they are very loyal, serious, and serious about love, and they are not just playing around, they are still young and do not know anything about what true love is and the social responsibilities and obligations that love entails.

4. Manage the parent-child relationship well.

Adolescent children grow up, are very assertive, and feel very dragged by themselves, but in fact, they still need the love and sense of belonging of their parents very much. As long as there is no lack of love in their hearts, it is easy for them to return to the family when they have conflicts with their early love.

If parents accuse their children or even alienate their children because they are in love in junior high school, they will only continue to look for so-called warmth outside.

In short, let children learn self-discipline.

Parents should adopt a relaxed attitude and let their children naturally choose whether to follow their feelings or not to enter a state of love, and establish themselves in the choice.

Children who are in early love, they usually understand that they should not be in early love, but they are afraid of being discovered, and they usually turn from light to dark. At this time, parents need to pay attention to their children's classmates, try to minimize all kinds of lying and avoid situations in children, and prevent complications.

2. Carry out a heart-to-heart exchange with advance preparations:

When junior high school students fall in love, many parents will carry out all kinds of blame and limiting actions, in fact, it is very easy to lose more than you lose. As a parent, when a child has a precocious love situation, you should do your own ideological work first, first set an example for your parents, and then guide your child. If a girl has a young love, it is best to talk to the mother and the child about it once.

The goal doesn't have to be too significant, but it can't be the overall goal.

3. Guidance concept: Parents can usually take their children to touch some high-end professionals and participate in some high-level theme activities, open up their children's inner world, let them understand that the world is so big, there are so many outstanding talents, compared with the current middle school "boy", what level will "he" be in the future? This is not destroying this "boy", but just letting the child see what "he" is likely to appear in the future, not being in love, and also making the child clear how to choose now.

Either we should not urge "him" to develop and forge ahead, or we should not wisely choose to abandon those who do not pursue hard work"him"。

Tell them that strictly speaking, they are not in love, because there is no future, their minds are immature, and they will not rush to get married, just hurt.