What should adults do to children, and should adults let children?

You should be more concerned, love your child, and don't beat and scold your child at every turn.

Look at this topic, you should be this adult.

We all have kids and think about what we used to love and hate. Although individual opinions vary depending on the era, the general hobbies and other things can be used as a reference.

My personal idea is to treat it differently on different occasions. For example, when going to someone's house, politeness is the first thing, and let him know what to do when he wants to play, he must know to explain it to the adult first, and ask for permission before going. And to do this, of course, you can only use it, and you must not do it.

Someone comes to the house as a guest, this is another thing, although it is a small host, but also to have a down-to-earth and generous performance. It takes a lot of patience from an adult to teach them.

When dealing with children's friends, we should also get along with them from the perspective of friends, which will have a much better effect. But not all occasions are OK, and sometimes you have to be in the position of a father.

1.Be seductive.

2.Exemplary role.

3.Gentle and tranquil.

4.Yan does not lose his authority.

5.Silent in anger.

6.Love but not pamper.

You should tell me how old your child is and how long it has been like this, so that we can analyze it for you.

Because children, of different ages and genders, should be educated from different perspectives.

But there is one thing to note, children should not be too spoiled.

Use your childhood heart and a sense of the times to realize that if you treat him, it is the best way for you to get along with him.

You should be patient, loving, and caring for your child. The most important thing is to let the children not be negatively affected by adults, so that the children can correctly understand the principles of life, which is also what we parents should do to our children.

Confront. Give me your bounty points.

I don't think that's the case, as a parent, don't educate your children like this, the big and the small are their own children, he is just a child, big, small, see who is wrong, just say whom, can't let because of the small, this will cause psychological problems to the big, will always think that the parents don't love themselves, only love their sister and brother, and when I grow up, I have a shadow in my heart, and I feel that my parents don't love me.

It depends on the age group, if the big one is a child, and the small one is a toddler, then the big one should give way to the small one, because the small one does not have the ability to speak, and it is impossible to convince the big one. If the small ones have a certain ability to think, act, and express, the big ones don't have to let the small ones go. Imagine a person of a certain age, after entering the society, who will let people unprincipled?

The big ones are more sensible, and some small things can make the small ones, but on the issue of principle, the big ones still have to be principled to tell the small ones, which is not right, so they will not let it. In general, the big ones give way to the small ones. However, it needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.

If the younger one deliberately makes a mistake and imposes the mistake on the older child, the adult should not be partial, and do not ignore the teaching because he is small. You have to educate him. Let the older children also take a look, and educate whoever makes a mistake.

There is even a punishment. It is the most just thing to do.

There is no need to do that, first of all, adults can't over-pamper the baby, and let him know that his things are his own, if you let him too much, it will be difficult to be liked by children when he goes to school in the future, and it is difficult for such children to integrate into the collective.

Look at the situation, endure the situation, endure for a while, open the sea and the sky, take a step back, and fight when you should fight.

I don't think the big ones should let the small ones go, but the principles, otherwise the older ones will always make the little ones feel uncomfortable, and the little ones may also be developed into arrogant and rude habits.

If there are two children in the home, should the big one give way to the small one, I think this is the scoring situation. Before the age of two, I would teach the older children to let the younger ones go, and as the little ones got bigger and bigger, and after they could slowly understand the words, I would ask right or wrong first, and if it was a toy, I would let you play with it first, and if it was a fight, I would punish the person who did it first.

Of course, there are many families in Huiling who advocate letting the small ones, so what are the pros and cons of these two methods? First of all, the young and the young are orderly, the big ones let the small ones, and the children cultivated in this situation know how to love their younger brothers and sisters, and they will be more open-minded, and they will be highly evaluated by the crowd.

But "big let small", ignoring that big children are actually children, he will think "why?" Obviously I got it first", it is easy to make the big children feel aggrieved, and the small children will enjoy the preferential treatment because of the advantage of age, and at the same time develop a brutal and willful personality, it may also be because of the habit of completely strict rules, resulting in no emotional intelligence, in fact, many things in life are not only about principles, but also have a certain amount of courtesy.

Regardless of age, the principle is spoken, first come, first served, and children will also develop the habit of following the rules, not demanding the preferential treatment of age, and daring to take responsibility. However, in adulthood, there is a lack of sophistication and is not easy to be flexible.

Therefore, in daily education, when parents encounter similar situations, they must teach their children to appreciate and share while emphasizing courtesy and rules to their older children. Let the younger children thank the older brothers and sisters for their courtesy, and try to let the two children play together, so that the younger ones can learn to share with the older children. In addition, some interaction can also be added to it, such as parents as referees, and rock-paper-scissors are used to decide who plays first and for how long, so that children can develop both rules and emotional intelligence, so as to enjoy the happiness brought by interpersonal communication.

In the same way, some parents teach their children that "you are the host, you have to let the guests" is the same reason, and both parents should teach their children to thank and share. However, on this occasion, the host should emphasize to his children: it is the host's responsibility to let the guests enjoy themselves, and it is also the host's demeanor.

In the process of educating children, it is necessary for children to understand the concept of right and wrong from an early age, and more importantly, to learn to respect! We must understand family affection, but not blindly unprincipled concessions!

The big one doesn't have to be the small one.

When dealing with disputes between big and small, many families always like to bring out the concept of "respecting the old and loving the young". Indiscriminately letting the big children let the little ones is simply a way for adults to save trouble in the process of education, who doesn't have a reason why they can't let things go, just blindly saying that they must let the big let the small This is very incorrect, the concept of education.

What are the dangers of the forced "big let the small" to children?

1. The reason why parents force the big to let the small one is often "the big child should know more about touching the matter, and it is normal for the little child to be ignorant, so the big one should accommodate the small one, and there is even no right or wrong". The logic behind this reasoning is that the strong must give way to the weak.

This is incorrect.

2. Break the child's heart and destroy the relationship between you.

The older children forced by their parents will think that their parents don't love me and think badly about me, and once such a psychology is formed, the children will also think that there will be adults to support themselves, and they will be more unscrupulous and unreasonable, and because no one cares for them, the older children will also hate the children even more, forming a disgust and disgust.

3. It is difficult for children to develop an independent personality, and they are not good at socializing when they grow up.

For older children, if they go against their inner wishes for a long time, they will feel that their sense of existence is low, and it is easy to form a pleasing person's smile. Younger children will think: I am reasonable when I am young, I am reasonable when I am weak, everyone has to let me, and in the end it is easy to become a "giant baby" that everyone hates in society.

How do you establish a concept of sharing?

One: Don't force, guide! Children don't know why they want to share, they don't understand the meaning of sharing, and in their eyes, you can't let them take out their own things.

Therefore, it is not okay to blindly coerce, for children, the most important thing is to guide them and value the ownership of children.

2. Teach children the importance of sharing.

Tell your child that sharing is a way to get friends, that you can play with your toys, and that his toys can play with you, which is a mutual relationship.

3. Help children reinforce sharing behaviors.

It's time to start praising and encouraging your child's sharing behavior, and always rate your child's behavior to encourage and encourage your child to carry it forward.

Eventually, your child will begin to understand that sharing is not a bad thing, but something that can make you happy. In this way, children will gradually become more willing to share, and will gain more happiness and friendship in the process of sharing, and children will become better and better.

1. Lead by example, starting with yourself, if you want your child to be polite, you must be polite. For the baby, he just wants to be like mom and dad in everything. If you're about to open the fridge and your husband happens to be standing in front of it, don't forget to say "please let me go" to the traveler.

If a 2-year-old baby hears polite language at home, he will also get into the habit of using it.

Start with the most basic polite words "Please" and "thank you" are usually the first polite words that parents teach their babies to learn. You can wait for your child to just learn to speak, and start teaching him to say "please" and "thank you". Although it will take a long time for your baby to say these words in person, once he starts talking, you can say these words mechanically, stopping and asking him to repeat your words.

Eating at the table with your baby Learning to sit quietly for more than 5 minutes at a time is a great achievement for your baby, so try not to put your child in a state of intolerable holding.

The big ones should give way to the small ones.

This sentence is not true, the big must let the small one is a manifestation of eccentricity. The way parents educate their children affects their children's lives, teaching children what is equality, respect, self-love and self-improvement can make children have good quality, but only educate children that the big ones must let the small ones, not the right and wrong of one thing, the children have not done anything wrong and let the small ones, the parents' eccentric approach will hurt the child's self-esteem, so that the child feels that the parents do not care about themselves, and the child will not be close to the parents in the long run.

Parents teach their children to be patient, to treat others with themselves, and not to always stand on the side that I am your parent, so children have to listen to their own perspective in everything. Although the child is young, it is not that he does not understand anything, and parents reason with their children, set an example and educate their children with an equal attitude, which will make them more able to accept and absorb the education of their parents.

Some parents just want their children to be well-behaved and obedient, and do not pay attention to their children's inner thoughts, and ask the big ones to let the small ones lose their self-confidence and become taciturn, so parents should continue to learn how to get along with their children, rather than ordering their children.

Respecting the elderly and caring for the young is a traditional virtue that should be inherited and promoted.

This kind of "big let the small" should be based on the principle of fairness and reasonableness, otherwise it will not only hurt the good hearts of the "big" people, but also mislead the "small", take many detours, and even go astray.

Parents should not act in a simple way like "the big must give way to the small", but should help their children find the balance of the relationship. On the way to accompany your children to grow up, create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere with your children.

The child loves to watch TV, does not like to study, because he feels that learning is far less interesting than watching TV, parents can find the joy of learning with the child through various forms. For example, you can let your child be the teacher, and you will be the student, so that the child feels that it is necessary to "teach you" well. Or you can have a competition with your child, make a safflower table, and whoever wins will print saffron.

If your child does not read aloud, you can invite other children to come home and read with your child.

First of all, adults should be consistent with their words and deeds, and they should be as good as they are, and they should be vigorous and resolute, and use their words and deeds to influence children, so as to teach better children.

I believe that many people with children at home have said such a sentence "you are old, you want to let some younger brothers and sisters", this kind of educational concept will appear in many families, if it is a relative's child to come to the house as a guest, then let their children be a little humble It's good, but some families with a second child also use this kind of education concept There is a big problem, the eldest child must let the child? Is it true that the big ones give way to the small ones?

Don't use, when two children have a dispute, parents must deal with it correctly, according to the real cause of the matter analysis, although respecting the old and loving the young is China's excellent tradition, but when encountering specific things, it can not be one-size-fits-all, if it is indeed Erbao is arrogant and unreasonable, then as parents also need to support Dabao and teach Erbao, only in this way can we ensure the mental health of the two children.

Blindly use age to say things, let the big let the small, this practice is definitely not right, now many parents in order to make themselves easier, always use this way of education to ask the big to let the small, but this practice will bring a lot of problems, first of all, Dabao will have psychological problems because of the unfair treatment for a long time, and secondly, Erbao will also become arrogant and unreasonable because he has been connived, which is also very bad for the future development of children.