How should a married man deal with his mother and wife?

The mother is a person who has come over, she knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is intimate, cold, contradictory, and even fighting is the key to family harmony, for the sake of her son's happy marriage and family harmony, so the mother initially wanted to have an intimate relationship with her daughter-in-law. But nowadays, many daughters-in-law are only daughters, pampered before marriage, self-willed to eat alone, open their mouths when they eat at home, and stretch out their hands when they are clothed. There is little common sense to deal with the world, and after marriage, they still do their own thing, coupled with words and deeds that do not respect their in-laws, it is inevitable that conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not occur in the past.

At this moment, if the son turns a blind eye or blames his mother, there will be no peace in the family. Once a man gets married, he should treat the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a big problem in the family. The elderly have nothing else to ask for their children, including daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, as long as they respect them.

It's so hard. It's better not to live together. Then go home to see your mother during the New Year's holidays, so that when you go home, you have to buy something and tell your mother that your wife picked it out. Mommy will love your wife. It's the same with my wife.

You don't want to think that when you get old, your mother will serve you! Or your wife will serve you!

The best thing to do: avoid the two of them being together for a long time.

There is only one mother, how many years has your mother raised you??? Your mom and your wife who are older??? There are things called three hundred taels of silver here, don't hide it.

I think people are so old and sensible, so let's talk about it, it should be a problem.

Disguise each other, mediate from it.

Hide it if you can, don't say no to each other, just say each other's benefits, for example: today your mother said how you are doing and so on.

Of course, I helped my mother, and in addition, I was educating my wife in private, hahahaha.

Giving small gifts in the name of the other person.

Pretending to be deaf and dumb, pretending to be crazy and stupid. Experience!

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a problem for the ages, as the saying goes, a slap does not make a sound, and the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be said to be caused by three peopleBefore answering this question, let's first find the cause of the "conflict", and then let's take the right medicine.

1, the mother-in-law is reluctant to let her son be possessed by her daughter-in-law.

There are not a few such mothers-in-law in life, since the son was a child, he listened to himself, and when he suddenly got married, he listened to other women, and he felt uncomfortable, feeling that his daughter-in-law was robbing his son with him.

2, the mother-in-law did not treat her daughter-in-law as her own.

After all, the daughter-in-law came to her own house later, and many mothers-in-law will have the concept that the son is their own and the daughter-in-law is someone else's. In this way, after a long time, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will inevitably arise.

3. The mother-in-law is always involved in the life of the husband and wife.

Some mothers-in-law are very strong, and their sons have to intervene in everything, always pointing fingers at their daughters-in-law, and taking care of everything, such a family will never be harmonious.

4. The husband does not act.

Many times, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, the husband will have a headache, caught in the middle, helping no one, and often choosing to escape and hide far away.

The above are the most common reasons for the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so let's talk about who you should help as a man, in fact, no matter who you help, it is not the best answer, smart men should do this:

1. Help your wife get rid of her mother's possessiveness.

The mother's possessiveness is nothing more than the fear of losing her son, worrying that the son will marry his daughter-in-law and forget his mother, so as a son, he can usually pay more attention to his mother, and occasionally buy some gifts for his mother, the best way is to buy a good gift, and give it to his mother by the hand of his daughter-in-law, so that his mother will look at his daughter-in-law differently.

2. Help your wife integrate into her family.

When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, the worst man is to avoid himself, and the smart man will stand up and tell the mother that the wife is his own, a part of the family, and he also loves his wife, so that the mother will look at the face of her son, and she will not be too difficult for her daughter-in-law.

3. Tell Mom that you as a couple need your own space for two.

It's not impossible to live with your parents, but you need to be told by the elderly in advance, and the husband and wife need a quiet environment and their own space, so that the mother doesn't get involved in everything. I think it's understandable that all mothers want their sons to be well.

When a married man faces a conflict between his mother and his daughter-in-law, no matter which one he helps, he makes the other party sad and disappointed.

If there is a conflict because of one thing, then find a way to carry the matter on yourself or solve it, if the two of them are incompatible because of their personalities, it is better to live separately as much as possible.

Personally, I think that "helping people don't help relatives", if you are facing such a "double-sided tape" problem, you will help the more reasonable party, and will not favor one side, after all, the family also needs to be reasonable and fair.

I think we need to help both sides, we can't say that we can't focus on only one side, and we can't go to anyone, and this kind of problem must be solved well.

The point is whose fault it is, if the daughter-in-law is wrong, you just say that the mother is angry, I will talk to her, and then the tone is gentle and say to the daughter-in-law. If it's your mother's fault, don't scold your daughter-in-law, experience it yourself.

Smart men will not help anyone, but will regulate each other on both sides. Whoever is justified is on whose side to reason with the other party, so that the other party can understand the other party's suffering.