How do you keep yourself talking about when you get along with others?

There are dedicated books on this method of socializing. It's psychological, including behavioral psychology or something. But personally, I think that if you want to have endless topics with others, you must first have a lot of things in your stomach, otherwise it will be difficult for the conversation to continue if you don't know what topics others say.

It is very helpful to visit the website to see the hot topics recently, read more news newspapers and so on, and accumulate your own experience. With this first step, you can study the meaning of some of the body language of others, and slowly become a social master, step by step.

Well, it depends on the situation.,It depends on what kind of person the other party is.,Anyway, it's certain to joke with people.,If you open a few people who find that the other party doesn't like to joke very much.,Don't open it.,Let's talk about more formal topics.。 In short, being and interacting with others is a kind of science, and it is not easy.

First of all, we must be good at understanding the other party's situation, such as his (her) age, occupation, hobbies, etc., and talk to the topics that the other party cares about;

Secondly, you should be good at observing words and feelings, and when you find that the other party is not very interested in your topic, you should stop in time or change the topic;

Again, be good at drawing inferences, and when the other person brings up a topic, be good at expanding it to other related topics, so that.

The two of them will have a never-ending topic!

In the end, of course, you still have to find people who are like-minded with you, so that there will be endless topics.

If you want to have endless topics to talk about with others, especially with the opposite sex, you must first do the following:

1. Create a good feeling between each other, and if you have a good feeling, you will have the desire to understand each other

2. Understand the other person's mind, when you know what the other party is and what she likes to talk about, you can find out what she likes to talk about

3. Read more books, watch more news, learn more about new and interesting things, only if you have a rich heart and brain, can you have so much inspiration to create one topic after another

4. Contact more people, try to talk to strangers more, this is also a kind of exercise for yourself, and remember to associate with cheerful and talkative people

In fact, I still think that there should be endless topics to talk about, mainly depending on whether you and the person you are chatting with have a good impression of each other, and the most important thing is whether you have the desire to talk to her, and whether you have a good impression of her! If you are really willing to talk to her, or even like her, then there will naturally be endless topics to talk about with her!

Then chat in addition to asking about household matters, this most boring and common chat topic, you can also ask some new and interesting topics on a whim, don't care too much about why the topic turns so fast, the key depends on whether the other party is interested, in fact, talking about each other is the best topic, when you know enough about the other party, and then talk to her about what she likes to chat, her desire to chat is teased, the conversation box is opened, you don't have to work hard, you will naturally have endless topics to talk about

1. Start with basic interpersonal information and find topics. Basic interpersonal information, that is, basic personal information other than personal privacy, including name, hometown, school, major, interests, experience, etc. When talking to others about these topics, don't ask and answer questions and answers, but focus on a certain topic.

For example, when it comes to the topic of hometown, you can learn more about the characteristics, humanities, geographical features and so on.

2. Start with the other person's external behavior and find a topic. The outward behavior here is the appearance and dress, accessories, speech and behavior, etc. For example, you can talk about hairstyles, glasses, clothing, backpacks, mobile phones, computers, etc.

3. Start with your career and find a topic. Generally speaking, when talking about topics related to the other person's career, the other party is generally good at and interested. For example, if the other party is a college student, talk about some campus topics; The other party is a soldier, so let's talk about some military life; The other party is a professional person, so let's talk about some workplace topics......However, it should be noted that if you are not very familiar with the relevant topics, you must position yourself as a well-behaved seeker and listener, rather than boasting.

The key is to see whether the investment is not speculation, as the so-called "words do not speculate for more than half a sentence".

1. Talk about life, ideals, and the future.

Chatting with people, "empty talk" is the most art, and life and ideals are the most basic necessities for success. When chatting with people, you can guide others to talk about their own ideals and the future they want, and when you know other people's ideals, will you be afraid that you will not find a topic? Not only listen, but also speak, talk about your ideals and the future you want, and be sure to take away the vision, with enthusiasm to say, after all, that is what you want to get.

2. Gossip.

Although sometimes it is not very good to discuss gossip, gossip is undoubtedly a way to have endless topics and arouse endless ideas in others. After dinner, people always like to discuss some gossip to fill their blank time, you can talk about the gossip you know that does not reveal other people's secrets, or you can discuss some gossip behind celebrities and news. Also, think about how to respond to other people's questions, after all, gossip people are curious, and curious people will come up with many strange ideas.

When we are talking to our friends and they are not on the same channel, we can choose to listen, and sometimes learning to listen is a sign of respect for others and a sign of our own high quality. When we choose to follow in his footsteps and continue the discussion on his topic, it is a manifestation of a person's wide range of hobbies.

People who choose to listen are by no means a sign of weakness, but an open-mindedness in their hearts, and they are willing to give up their subjective ideas to listen to the ideas of others. When one person is expressing his opinion on something and the other person doesn't want to listen, and from time to time he publishes something that is not on the same channel, some people may be angry and not continue to talk, while others choose to listen.

Why are there different perceptions? Maybe it has something to do with everyone's life experience, family education, and so on. Those who choose to listen will have different gains.

After he chose to listen, he gained the trust of others in that moment. Maybe your point of view has been delayed, but if you choose to listen to someone else's point of view, you may learn something else, and isn't life a process of continuous learning.

After he gains your respect, his trust in you will also increase, and only after he trusts each other will he express his most authentic opinions, and he will listen carefully to your story. Why not do the pros outweigh the disadvantages?

On the other hand, if he interrupts your conversation because his problem is very important, and you terminate the conversation because he is angry, your problem cannot be solved, and it also affects the harmony between friends, which is the most unworthy and irresponsible for your friendship.

Even if you are not on the same topic, but you are not bored but more interested, then you should be able to choose to follow his topic, discuss with each other, and put forward each other's opinions. This is enough to show that the two of you have a common topic, and the whole conversation will go more smoothly, and there will be surprises that you will not reap. In life, it is enough to have a confidant.

Don't let the little things that aren't enough to worry about you lose your most precious things.

From the point of view of this article, we must remember that sometimes learning to listen to others is not a manifestation of weakness, but a manifestation of open-mindedness. Following other people's topics is not necessarily a reflection of following the trend, but a manifestation of our wide range of hobbies, and at the same time will give us unexpected gains. People have different choices when dealing with problems, but they have to make the right choices.

In the process of communicating with such people, perhaps we should play the role of listeners.

Because of the differences in thinking styles, cognitions, etc., people who are not on the same topic are often full of desire to express themselves in their communication. On the basis of not being able to agree with each other's ideas, it has become the norm for each to express their own opinions and be unwilling to accept the other party's point of view.

In such a situation of constantly emphasizing one's own ideas, it is easy for both sides of the communication to contradict each other, and it is possible to grasp a small detail and widen the difference. Eventually, it can turn into a "why don't you understand what I mean?" complaint.

If you really need to communicate with someone who is not in tune with you, it is especially necessary to reduce your desire to express yourself and take on the responsibility of being a listener. After listening to what the other person wants to say, you can empathize with each other in your own mind, and then agree with the other party's feasible ideas, and then express and supplement your own views in a consultative tone, which will make the whole communication process relaxed, pleasant and much more acceptable.

However, it takes courage to keep a low profile in the first place in order to find an effective communication, or whether the other party suddenly lowers its posture in the middle of the process to allow the exchange to continue, so it is not easy.

After expressing one's point of view to the other person, it is best if the other person can understand; Once the other person doesn't understand and insists more on their own ideas, then I don't think it's necessary to continue the conversation: one hurts feelings, and the other is useless to say more.

However, if such an exchange is not necessary, such as just a normal time chat, then I will simply avoid communicating with him; Once the exchange has begun, I will choose to end the exchange as soon as possible along the other side's train of thought.

In life, we will meet all kinds of people, of course, there are weird, there are upright, there are funny, there are deliberately pretending to be crazy and stupid, no matter what kind of person he is in your eyes, as a young person who wants to gain a foothold in society, you need to adapt. Some people may feel uncomfortable or even unable to accept these words, but when you think about those people in society who are all kinds of exquisite, when will they not find a topic because they are at odds with others in some parts of their own place, and they will stop talking?

Therefore, when chatting with these people, if you already feel that you are talking to yourself, he has not listened to it at all, or she has completely misinterpreted your meaning, at this time, what you have to do is to calm down and be a calm listener, the real strong person is willing to listen to the opinions of others, and listen to those words that are different from their own thoughts, so that they can have a better harvest and growth, and no one will regress because they are willing to listen to the words of others. Even if what he says is some vulgar words that are not nutritious, then listen to them, because these let you know what evil is. I can't usually talk like that, or people will look down on me and hate me.

Therefore, when living in society, when encountering these things that are different from your own opinions, or if you talk about it again, and his thoughts and words have already run out of the clouds, his mouth is full of trains, and he can't even catch what he wants to express, at this time, take it easy and be generous, because your friend may just be expressing what he means, his ideas are either worse than you or better than you, you have to listen carefully, don't feel that your friend's statement is too different from what you just said, and you feel that people don't listen well. People are communicating with each other to make progress, maybe your friends are more clever than your ideas, and you are too shallow to hear.

Therefore, to be a sleek person, the first thing to do is to be willing to listen to different voices to strengthen yourself and make yourself stronger!