If parents are against being in love, why are parents against being in love

We've been talking for about 2 months now and we feel like each other get along. But her parents had seen her before, and the impression was not very good. The main reason for the opposition is that I think she is older than me, has no formal job, has poor family conditions, and looks average.

I don't think anything is too important, the main thing is that I want to have a formal job and make them feel like the right person. We can work together and I will go to college for another 1 year and work. But she can't think of what she will do in the future, it doesn't matter, she doesn't have money, she doesn't have a diploma.

What kind of work can be done, and how to work hard. I want to try my best to get the consent of my parents, but I really don't know what to do. Maybe it was because I didn't have enough contact time and I didn't give her enough trust.

Or maybe I'm a kid now, and she's afraid I'm having fun. In short, she completely thought of preparing for the breakup, and I couldn't say it. I wanted to work hard, and she wanted to, but she didn't know what to do ......

What to do?

What age is it, and the order of the parents is still returned. If you feel that you love her, cherish her and try to convince your parents by being with her. I believe that Jincheng is open.

Then wait until you're older, aren't your parents afraid that you're going to affect your studies, or to convince your parents?

You should tell your parents what you think and communicate with them if you really like it.

Then you encourage him more, if he is originally negative-willed, it will be difficult.

If you are a man, you should support your wife.

They hope that their children can choose carefully and find the person who is truly worthy of trust.

Therefore, when they find that something is wrong, they will raise objections, but they will often be refuted by the child, and even to the point of breaking off the relationship.

According to incomplete statistics, 80% of children will insist on uniting with the person of their choice despite the opposition of their parents. Follow-up observations show that at least 70% of marriages that are not blessed by their parents are unhappy, and 75% regret not listening to their parents.

In fact, parents, as people who have come from the past, are not without the ability to discern. They have a lot of experience in life, they have read countless people, and they know what kind of people their children are suitable for. They thought it was inappropriate, and naturally they went through layers of analysis.

But children often don't want to listen to their parents' explanations, or run directly to live with their lovers, or directly throw "I'm going to marry him, you can't care" to shut their parents' mouths. Many parents are chilled by this, but they generally can't screw their children's decisions, and let them go to the abyss but can't do anything.

Parents don't actually stop their children's lifelong events for no reason, they must have their own considerations. They don't necessarily just don't allow the two parties to get married, they may just see the dawn of happiness from the two of them. Therefore, if your parents oppose your marriage, please consider it carefully, on the one hand, to reassure your parents, and on the other hand, to see if the other party really has such and such problems.

There can be a variety of reasons why parents are against being in love, some of which could be:

Protect your child: Parents may think they know what's best for their child and want to protect their child from harm.

Worry about their child's future: Parents may worry that their child's presence with certain people will affect their child's future, such as career development, financial situation, etc.

Own biases: Parents may have their own biases, such as prejudices against a particular ethnicity, religion, social class, etc., which may affect their perception of their children's love.

Children are too young: Parents may think that children are too young to be in a relationship.

Thinking that the child is immature: Parents may think that the child is not yet mature psychologically, emotionally, and is not suitable for love.

Worry that children will neglect studies and other important things: Parents may worry that being in a relationship will cause their children to neglect studies and other important things.

Fear of harm to your child.

Use these two methods to avoid parental opposition to the relationship.

If a relationship is not understood and recognized by the people around you for a long time, the relationship itself may not be healthy and should not continue to develop. There are several reasons for this:

1.Lack of external support. Relationships need the support of friends and family, otherwise it will be difficult to maintain them for a long time. If everyone around you is against the relationship, there will be a lot of pressure between the lovers and the emotions will be affected.

2.There are significant drawbacks. If the Chun faction infiltrates the people around it and opposes it, it is often because there are certain problems in the relationship or the object itself, such as incompatible personalities, too different family backgrounds, etc., which will bury hidden dangers for future development.

3.Influencing other people. If a relationship has a negative impact on friends or family around you, such as affecting other people's relationships or lives, this is one of the reasons why the relationship is unsustainable. In order not to let feelings become a tool to hurt others, perhaps it would be more rational to terminate.

4.It is conducive to self-growth. Sometimes we cling to a relationship out of emotional dependence or fear of loss, rather than true love.

Ending this relationship will help us get rid of emotional dependence and grow into an independent person. This is also a potential reason for the opposition of those around you.

5.There are large obstacles to subsequent development. Even if they are reluctantly together, follow-up such as getting married and having children will face great resistance, which is extremely hard. If there is a lack of external support in the first place, the prospects of the relationship are not optimistic in the first place, which is also a reason to let go.

As the saying goes, don't listen to the old man, suffer in front of you, although love is free, but I will find my parents to counsel when I fall in love, after all, my parents have experienced a lot of things, and they are more likely to look at people, so let your parents help you see what the object is like, check for yourself, and it is beneficial and harmless.

Personally, you can listen to your parents' opinions, because the vast majority of parents in the world want their children to live well, so you should listen to their views and refer to them.

Many people think that listening to their parents means that they have to do what they say. Please, you are already an adult, and your parents can listen to their opinions and choose for yourself. Love and marriage are related to the happiness of your own life, think carefully and make your own choice.

In love, you can listen to your parents' opinions and consider what to do for yourself.

In fact, most of our parents' opinions come from their life experiences, and our thoughts are just that we feel happy to be with him at the moment, and we think too much about the future and too simple. The opinion of your parents is definitely a factor that cannot be ignored, but the most important thing is to listen to your own heart, because it is not your parents who can accompany you until you grow old, but your other and you.

In real life, most girls will not listen to their parents' opinions, and even if their parents strongly oppose them, they will only turn into an underground relationship and no longer open to their parents. But such a relationship is often difficult to get to the end, and it usually takes several years to finally break up. So, what's wrong in between?

Is it really the parents' judgment that is right? Not really. The core question is:

The pressure from your parents makes you neglect to observe each other, and instead focus on confronting your parents, trying to prove that your choice is correct. And the more you want to prove it, the less you will go to Mu Sun to look at the other party's shortcomings, you will not look at the other party objectively, you will look at him with a filter, and you can't listen to others' negation of him. You will feel that when others deny him, they are denying yourself.

When you can't look at the other person objectively, you will ignore all the shortcomings of the other person. The pressure from your parents makes you not get along normally, unable to contact each other, get to know each other, and run in with each other. The end result is two things.

One is that your parents no longer object, and you start to have normal contact, at this time, you see his shortcomings, and feel that the other party is not as good as you saw before, so you are very disappointed, and start to argue and quarrel again and again, and finally break up. The other is that your parents continue to oppose it, you have to carry the pressure of your parents all the time, you can't fall in love normally, and eventually you will feel tired because of too much pressure, and you will continue to consume each other until you separate.

Therefore, you can refer to your parents' opinions when you fall in love. But in this process, Kai must see his partner's shortcomings, quickly run in with him, get along normally, and find out whether you are suitable in time.

Don't let the pressure from your parents blind you.

If one person is against it, you can try to hold on a little longer, but if most of the people around you have this attitude, you should think about whether it really isn't worth it

Some problems may not be discovered by themselves, but the people around them will see it more clearly. Especially if the parents are not optimistic about the relationship, it must be carefully considered.

The continuation of unfavored love should be divided into two situations:

The first point: the love that is not favored is caused by objective conditions, and the objective conditions of this old rubber are difficult to change, such as the disagreement of the three views of the two parties, character problems, the mismatch of laughing and boring personality characteristics, and the disparity in appearance of the two parties.

The second point is that the reasons for not being favored can be overcome, or can be changed through hard work, such as long-distance relationships, and the economic energy of both parties.

The force difference is obvious, etc., in this case, you can still consider continuing this relationship, in short, and the body situation and body analysis, you can continue to work hard to improve.

Continue, do not continue if it is difficult to improve after hard work.

It is a joy to be blessed by your parents when you fall in love, but there is no need to worry about it if you are not blessed by your parents.

Because there is the possibility of happiness and unhappiness in both situations, the key is also in yourself, in whether you have the clearest judgment and confidence in the future. 1. Think clearly, why are your parents opposed to you being together?

1.Behind the opposition of parents is often the "desire for control".

Parents are accustomed to controlling their children's lives, from academic school selection to love and marriage, they must have a say in everything, and they think that this "good for you" is responsible for their children, minimizing their trial and error costs and increasing the possibility of success.

Don't you know that parents are satisfied with their own desire for control and security, and not all decisions apply to their children. After all, the situation of the two generations is different, and their so-called political correctness is likely to become backward and wrong for children.

2.Based on what they know about you, your parents don't think that this love will make you happy.

Parents always think they know you, and although you have grown up, you are still a child in their eyes, so many times they will instill in you the experience of people who have come before.

At this time, it will appear, the major you choose and they feel that the employment is not good, the university you are admitted to they feel is too far away from home, and the person you are looking for they feel that they can't give you a happy ......

So, is it right for parents to do this? If you really rely on them and ask them for advice on everything, then it's okay that their decision is yours.

But if not, then think carefully about whether your needs match those of your parents.

Second, the attitude of parents is not the key, the key is yourself.

Some people struggle with their parents' attitudes, either trying to convince them to support you or being tough and confronting their parents.

Actually, you don't have to, what your parents think is their business, everyone has different positions, no one can force anyone to change, the key to the problem is yourself.

First, it depends on what kind of person you are, whether you choose to be with the other person on the spur of the moment, or whether you have already made a deliberate decision.

The second is to see if you can bear your choice, even if the result is not as you want, there is no regret.

The third is to see if you are not economically and spiritually dependent on your original family, and you have truly separated from your parents' topics. To put it simply, you are responsible for your life and choices, and their emotions and feelings are also digested by themselves.

3. What should you do in the face of parental opposition?

1.Refer to the opinions of your parents and think clearly about the pros and cons.

Your parents' opinions may not all be right, but they may not all be wrong, so don't blindly deny or blindly listen, you should have your own judgment.

For example, if the other party is a mother-in-law, lazy, and irresponsible person, then the parents' objection will have their reasons, and living with such a person must be more troublesome than happy.

But if your parents simply don't like each other, or consider issues such as long-distance and economic conditions, you have to weigh in all aspects, whether you will adapt to being with him, the difficulties you may face in the future, whether you are prepared for this, and whether you can bear the knot of failure in the future.

If your parents don't agree with your feelings, even if you are reluctant to be together, your parents will not have contact with you after marriage, and a marriage without the blessing of your parents will not be happy, and your parents will oppose you to be together for a reason, after all, your parents are from the past. The feelings of parental disagreement can still continue, first of all, we have to find the reason for the disagreement of parents, if it is because of poor economic conditions, you have to work hard, if it is because of your bad habits, you have to work hard to correct, if you want to be with each other, you have to work hard to improve yourself.