About the silence is gold and the case of transcendence

Language can modify a person's appearance, and you must pay attention to what you say. This is what the ancients said, "Illness enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth". As a modern person, you have to be very careful to avoid getting into trouble by talking non-stop every day.

The words and content used in the speech can give you an idea of the person's personality. The ancients advocated speaking less, so there was a proverb that "silence is golden".

But the candle night talk between good friends can't be said to be long-tongued, and then you can talk casually from all over the world without worrying about causing unhappiness to others.

Aphorisms or proverbs such as "Silence is Golden" are not meant to warn people not to speak, but rather to hope that people will not express their opinions arbitrarily without moderation. The so-called "trouble comes from the mouth" refers to the fact that once a friend has become close, it is easy to say nothing. Everyone's emotions are changing at any time, and when they are in a bad mood, when they are not feeling well, when they are worried, and when they have concerns in their hearts, their behavior is different from usual.

Therefore, even for close friends, it is important to use words correctly and pay attention to etiquette.

Some people seem to be knowledgeable on the surface, and even if they don't know much about things, they gush their opinions. But in fact, he is a half-ass, and those kung fu of the lotus can only bluff people who have just met, and they will get bored after in-depth relationships. This is because what such people put forward is only their own subjective personal opinion, and there are no objective examples and data, and they only talk about the same things.

There are also those who like to confess, often because they don't want to be responsible for what they have said in the past, and the most important thing about the interaction between friends is that it will not be in the past, but in the present or future tense. The rambling confession is only due to the evasion of responsibility or the reckless, reckless, and introspective character. If the other person is a person who is unwilling to be honest about his mistakes and always refuses to face problems with a positive attitude, then it is better not to associate with him.

Another thing to note is the use of vocabulary. For the elderly, people of high status, or people of the same generation, the same status, and those who have no stakes, the words that are initially used cannot be changed, even if they become more intimate in the future: rude and vulgar words should never be used.

If you make the other party feel that you are not sincere in your words, it will be difficult to communicate for a long time. People are emotional creatures, and they can easily be shaken by changes in circumstances or positions, and it is better not to say things that make you regret them.

As the saying goes, silence is golden, and in some extraordinary moments, not being silent is even more golden. When the crows are silent, the skylark soars into the sky, which is particularly thrilling.

Silence is sometimes golden, sometimes it is nothing, I have heard the misfortune come out of my mouth, and silence at the right time can protect oneself.

It's just that if you can't talk, you won't speak! Hee-hee

Silence is a communication strategy that Kim mainly refers to. But to use this strategy well, the premise is that you must be able to speak, you must speak when you should speak, and you must speak well, and when you should not speak, you must not speak, do not say a word, this is the real silence is golden.

This sentence has three meanings:

1. If you don't say it, you say it. In addition to verbal and written language, there is also body language in communication between people, and not speaking, that is, closing the mouth and not opening it, actually sends a signal.

2. Don't talk nonsense that shouldn't be said, you will lose too much talk.

3. Not to mention more powerful. When you need to be wary of others, or when you have a shocking effect, you can say that silence is golden.

There is a kind of person who becomes more and more silent, prefers quietness more and more, becomes more and more unsociable, and yearns for a state of tranquility more and more.

However, silence is not ignorance, but it is precisely because of understanding that I have learned to shut up. As Lu Xun said, when I am silent, I feel full; I will open my mouth and feel empty at the same time.

Silence is the beginning of a person's strength.

I also silently asked myself in my heart: Continue to not want to forge ahead?

It may be right to be gregarious, but the fault is that you will only compromise and you will be too cooperative. Maybe you'll only be gregarious, but you won't cooperate.

The people around me don't dare to talk about their dishes.

After all, people are no worse than you, but I feel that many times we are even just using each other, and sincere friendship is only a minority after all, even if I think it is like this, it is only a handful. But in the end, there is, and it is also pleasant to rush big.

Can silence really stop you from making you stronger?

I think that the reason for becoming stronger is not silence, verbal and communicative silence is by no means the main factor that makes you stronger, and it can even be said to be useless, because people are social animals, and the so-called seclusion can't be done at all, okay, don't you trade in living materials?

The so-called silence is probably less perfunctory cooperation.

You have to have friends, and you can't have brothers. But after all, we are young people of flesh and blood. Even though we are not soldiers who defend our homeland and country, we still have ideals and obligations.

How do you choose between ideals and obligations?

Have you ever thought about your own ideals and obligations?

The greed for pleasure has made me achieve nothing, and I know that it is not too late.