Why do we always live in the expectations of others?

Why do we always live in the expectations of others? Because most people gain the courage to be hated, they cannot gain the freedom to control themselves.

When we were young, we expected to be good students in the mouths of teachers and parents, with excellent grades; When we grow up, we look forward to becoming high-quality young people in the eyes of others, with high-paying jobs; Later, we look forward to being the best companion and having a car and a house.

But these seemingly beautiful life trajectories are really what we look forward to, or we take the initiative to cater to. Why do we always want to be praised by others? Do you always want to be someone else's best child?

There is no doubt that being praised proves one's worth, being seen, being recognized, and receiving a sense of affirmation will give rise to a short-lived good feeling, and people will act accordingly in order to enjoy the moment of praise or attention again. Increasingly, these behaviors and thoughts will constrain you, and over time, you will go from "doing the right thing to be praised" to "doing something to meet other people's expectations", even if not what you want to do, the drive to meet other people's expectations will force you to go against your heart and actively cater to others. When you want to resist or make changes again, you are powerless, and you are even afraid of disappointing others and have been numbing yourself.

Why do we always live in the expectations of others? In life, some people envy you, and some people hate you; Some people admire you, and some people look down on you; Some people praise you, some people belittle you, in fact, it doesn't matter if all of this happens, they are all outsiders, it doesn't matter if they like you or not, whether they can afford you or not. This is life, always full of contradictions, bearing the eyes of others, and everything you do will not satisfy everyone, don't lose your nature in order to please anyone, because everyone has principles and has their own opinions, and the person who understands you best in this world, except for your parents, is yourself.

What others think, that's someone else's business. Life can be complicated and simple, but it depends on what kind of mentality we have, because no matter what you do, there will always be someone to point you across; No matter what you say, there will always be someone to pick and choose, so there's no need to care too much about what others say about you, all you need is to be the best version of yourself and go with the flow. If you always care about what others say, don't dare to do what you like, don't dare to pursue the life you want, and are afraid of drowning in other people's doubts about right and wrong, you will never be yourself.

Life in the world, being questioned by others, being talked about by others, are all normal things, who is not talked about, who is not said behind people's back, you live in the eyes of others, you will be lost in other people's world. No matter how good a person is, he has to meet someone who knows the goods; No matter how much you give, you have to meet grateful people; No matter how deep you love, you have to meet someone who is worthy, you don't have to live in someone else's mouth, someone else's mouth, your own way; Don't live in the eyes of others, in the eyes of others, and in your own world.

If you don't care about other people's evaluations, you don't fear being hated, and you don't take the pursuit of other people's approval as the driving force for your actions, then you can live a free life.

What others expect is always someone else's issue, not yours. Which one will make you live more comfortably, "a life that is liked by everyone" or "a life that is hated but very free" compared to other people's expectations? The former seems to be happy, but only his feelings are at the bottom.

When you gain the courage to be hated, you also gain the freedom to take control of your own life.

Because the expectations of others, and even the expectations of parents, are to a certain extent satisfying their own desires. Cutting off other people's expectations may make your relationship unbalanced for a while, but in the long run, it is a big step in taking responsibility for your own life.

When we let go of our inner baggage and stop making the pursuit of other people's approval a priority, freedom will come back to us. This does not mean that we can do whatever we want, but that we can find a comfortable place in the vast world, and our hearts become more expansive, free, and pure. Maybe it's hard to do this, because people live in the world, and they will always affect their own judgment because of other people's evaluations, all we have to do is realize that you can never make everyone like you, and expect to live your own people in the expectations of others, it is better to live in your own hands, put your own needs first, and no one knows yourself better than yourself.

Other people's expectations are conditional, and only by sticking to the original intention can we gain freedom in life.

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, regardless of daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life and things, and flexibly adjust their mentality. The way of thinking and the skills of dealing with people, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

Since it is you and I who have expectations from others, I believe that this must be the hope of our beloved relatives or good friends for our better life, this should be an encouragement to us, and we should comfort it! Only through our unremitting efforts to achieve the ideal life and work as soon as possible, so as to be worthy of the ardent expectations of our relatives and friends! Think about it, is that true?

For people who have expectations for themselves, they are usually people who value themselves very much, such as their parents or their relatives and friends. I have expectations for myself because I trust myself and have a good relationship with myself, and I hope that I will become better and better, work harder and harder, and be able to make a difference in the future. But there is no need to feel pressure, live in the expectations of others, you just need to put in the effort, everything is for your own future.

Follow your will and go with the flow.

Hint. Suggestion can be simply divided into: suggestion by others and suggestion by autosuggestion; intentional and unintentional implications; Direct and indirect implications.

Suggestion has three functions: influence, acceptance, and action. That is to say, the suggester has to have a certain influence on the suggested, and then is hinted to accept the hint given to him by the suggester, and after being hinted to accept the hint, he will react to the hinted message, and this reaction is action.

For example, if a parent says to a child, "Child, you can complete this question independently, and the child really completes the solution to the question independently."

Because parents have a lot of influence in the hearts of their children, the child accepts the parents' hints to him, and then self-suggests himself, and finally achieves the results expected by the parents through his own efforts.

Many people must think: in the past, their parents expected themselves to become scientists and painters, and they also accepted their parents' expectations, why did they not become the scientists and painters that their parents expected in the end?

Because, the conditions of the expectation effect are not only implicit, but also have two other reasons, namely: attention and support.

Valued and supported.

For example, a person who is particularly authoritative and influential in a certain field publicly indicates that Xiao Zhang is a very good person and is particularly talented in this field.

Other people related to this field will pay special attention to Xiao Zhang and support him after receiving authoritative and influential hints, so that Xiao Zhang will become a genius in this field with the support of the outside world and his own efforts.

Only when the three of hints, attention, and support are satisfied, can the suggester's expectations of the suggested-person be realized.

Living in the expectations of others, one foot has already stepped into hell.

Some people live in the expectations of their parents, try their best to get good results in exams, choose majors according to their parents' opinions when they go to college, and graduate from the unit that their parents expect, just to get a smile from their families.

Some people live in the expectations of their friends, and have been trying to maintain a positive life, and the pain in their hearts is rarely told to others, and in the end they either succeed or disappear silently.

Some people live in the expectations of their bosses, and strive to be the first to go to work, work overtime until the last, and stick to 996 until their bodies can't hold it anymore.

Some people live in the expectation of society, and if they can do something with 60 points, they must complete it to 90 points, because they can't accept a self who only shows 60 points.

Living in the expectations of others, one foot has already stepped into hell.

Are you living in anticipation or burden.

If an expectation becomes a burden on energy, it ceases to be an expectation.

Most people are tired and can't live without the primitive condition of living in other people's expectations. This expectation will lead to a constant overdraft of energy and discomfort in order to meet rising expectations.

Look for the expectations you have and ask yourself if they are reasonable. Are you happy? Expectations that make you lose hope are not worth sustaining, stay away from unreasonable expectations, and be a person with free energy.

Because others pin their hopes on a certain person, hoping that this person can achieve his ideals, no one else sees us as very smart, very stable in doing things, thinks that we can achieve our goals, and expects from the bottom of our hearts that we can succeed.

There are many people around us who always live in the expectations of others, and they have one thing in common, that is, they have lived in an environment that lacks recognition, respect or positive affirmation for a long time. Especially in childhood.

Expectation is hope, to put it bluntly, it is the hope you give yourself, I personally think that sometimes no expectation is the best, why give yourself so much expectation? There is no disappointment without expectations, and life is simpler, so look forward to it less!

Expectation equals waste! However, everyone will not think that your love is a waste, but that you are a fool, a fool with perseverance and intelligence, so a fool will have a foolish fortune, and everyone is willing to be such a fool.

Without expectations, there is no hope at all, isn't it?

Everyone is looking forward to which miracle will happen.

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In the Youth School, I like the character of Lin Miaomiao the most! Because I really like her character, dare to love and hate, speak up, and stick a knife in the ribs for friends, who else would not like such a girl?!

I've always wanted to be a girl like Hayashi Myoko Oak! And I really remember Lin Miaomiao's way of treating others and tearing up office colleagues! Some people may think that she is impulsive and reckless, but she is just a girl who has just graduated from college!

And when I encountered such a thing just after work, I don't think any young person would swallow this breath! After all, I didn't do anything wrong, so I lost my job for no reason, and who could stand it!

In fact, I really hope that self-discipline can live like Lin Miaomiao, follow my heart, black is black, white is white. It's simple, it's pure, but it seems like it takes courage to do it yet....I really hope that each of us can always insist on being ourselves in the future, remember our original intention, and live as the person we want to become!

From the moment we are born, the people around us are full of anticipation.

Parents look forward to their children can be different from ordinary people smart and clever, since childhood, they often hear them often mention how good the children of a certain family are, and how well-behaved and sensible, the good children in their mouths are "other people's children", so we have to work very hard to learn, to become "other people's children", but we are not happy, so that later when we hear "other people's children" will feel disgusted.

From the moment we feel disgusted, we begin to resist becoming the kind of person they expect from them.

When we join the job after graduation, there are still people who expect us to become the same people as others, and even take out examples to compare them with when we were children: the daughter of the Wang family works close to home and is well treated, and how the son of the Zhang family is, once again resisting this kind of information.

Because everyone is different and has their own ideas, we can't live like what others want to be.

Whether it is someone else's child when we were a child or someone else's child after work, we don't have to pay attention to it, we just need to follow our own ideas, stick to it, and then live our own life.

No matter how good a person is, some people will say that life cannot be perfect, so you don't have to care what others say, and living your own life is the best.